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Help me! I am really scared because I am getting a tooth pulled for the first time and I have no IDEA what to expect! :(

Can anyone tell me what this is like and what to expect when getting a tooth pulled?

Thank you!

I had two teeth pulled in the past & the doctor gave
me medication anesthesia to put me under so i wasn't awake when my teeth were being pulled then afterwards i went home and was in pain but then took something to help ease the pain i had stitches in my mouth that dissolved by themselves i remember
i was bleeding but it evenually stopped(:

The things you will probably experience are pain
afterwards & maybe you'll bleed...good luck!

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In the last few years it has become apparent that my mother has signs of depression. I'm in college now, I don't live at home, but it still affects me. Nobody in the family seems to want to admit it. My mother has no real friends and no real hobbies and I was the last kid to leave. When I talk to her on the phone she always seems sad that I will not be coming home for the summer, etc. Things like that. It hurts me that I can't be there for her but it also depresses me when I have to worry about maybe making matters worse by doing things I want to do with my life. It's a tough spot to be in when it's your mother who is depressed and it has been really hard on me. I don't know how to deal with it.

Tell your mother that you've become concerned that
she's depressed and say that it's affecting you & isn't allowing you to focus on college suggest to her that she see's a doctor they could give her anti depressants if they feel it's needed or tell her to go see a therapist your mother keeping her thoughts to herself isn't healthy it's better to get
everything she's feeling out in the open or say that
she could try and do more things that way she'll have some hobbies and she could meet new people that
way she'll have friends(:

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How do you get your rating up? It seems like no one rates people anymore!

You get your ratings up by answering questions and
other columnists rate your answer either 1 through 5
1 being the worst & 5 being the best it's your feed back the more questions you answer the more you'll get rated most likely(:

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My wife left me 4 months ago now I feel like I have nothing to live for. While she is able to move on all I do is cry and wish she would come back. We have a son together and I can't even get it together for him. She told me to move on but I don"t want a life with out her. I can't go 5 mins with out thinking about her and I start crying even at work. Sometimes I just want to die because I feel like my life is over

You've got to be strong for your son even though it's tough your life isn't over you've got your son it would be sad if he lost a parent seeing as
he already lost one there isn't much you can do some things aren't meant to be and in your situation you and your wife weren't you can't focus on the past you've got to focus on the future and what's ahead everything happens for a reason you can't change the fact that your wife left you your only option is to try your best to move on there's nothing you can do by wanting to kill yourself you'll be hurting the one's that love you including your son it isn't worth it you need to move on seeing as you thinking about it is affecting your work you can't do your job properly & it's controlling your life you've got to find strength and be strong for your son he needs a father figure seeing as he doesn't have a mother(:

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I'm sixteen and female when I was thirteen I had two surgeries on my stomach it was tough but I got over it now at the end of januaray I was put in and had three more surgeries on my stomach it's been hard for me to get through it usually impretty independent but it's been really hard I just wanna be normal again which isn't happening cuZ I'm not allowed to go to school or work I'm pretty much not allowed out of my house I just wanna be normal like everyone else is but I can't get it back to that and it's starting to really get to me and I used to cut and I'm starting to get those urges again I just don't know what to do. Please help me.
- sleepiesheep

You've got to realize that all the surgeries you have had are meant to help you and fix whatever is
wrong with you...you are normal people have surgeries if they are needed i had a surgery myself in the past but you can't focus on the past you've got to focus on the future you'll be able to go to school and work once you fully recover and feel better cutting yourself isn't going to make the situation better just worst by cutting yourself
your obviously hurting yourself & others that love you try and think positively not negatively maybe that will make the situation go smoother(:

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18/m

Alright, well for the past 4 months I have been completly.. (I don't think words can describe it? I don't want to say love, But I don't know) with this girl, but being me, I never said anything. Although, I'm fairly sure she knew. Well, last night I was talking to her, and she said that she wished she had dated me, Pathetically, my answer was "Thanks" I mean seriously wtf is that. Well, this couldn't have been better timing, because now she is moving 500 miles away, Tomorrow. Now, my question? well.. I don't know what I should do? Any ideas? This just sucks. I feel as though there is nothing I can do, which is killing me.

P.S This entire scenario is so out of character for me. Usually, I'd have asked her out straight away. She is just.. Different. (You know, that different which is just unexplainable?)

I don't think there's much you can do truthfully since she's moving long distance relationships usually don't work everything happens for a reason you've got to realize that there was nothing you could of done to stop her from moving it was going to happen either way you can't beat yourself up over it seeing as it wasn't your fault in a sense you were caught off guard her telling you she was moving was unexpected she told you at the last minute yes your hurting because things didn't work out and some things aren't meant to be and in your situation that's the case it wasn't meant to be between you two the good thing is that there's plenty of other girls out there your best option is to move on you could try telling her how you feel just to give yourself piece of mind and you'll know that at least you tried your best(:

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I'm fourteen. My boyfriend is sixteen. We've been dating for about three and a half months.

He has mono...

Mono can last like five months or longer... Am I really supposed to not kiss my boyfriend for five months???? :( please help.

Don't kiss your boyfriend i researched the illness
and it said that the virus can be spread through kissing and the nickname is the kissing disease so
i wouldn't suggest you kissing your boyfriend seeing as you could possiblity catch what he has and it isn't a fun experience to be sick then
you'll end up missing school and all the work during
class you'll be able to kiss him again once he's not sick anymore(:

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17/F
Boyfriend is 17 also
We've been going out for 3 months

Ok, now that the introduction is over, let's move right along into the question!

Well, my boyfriend is an amazing guy and we get along beautifully. I could honestly see spending the rest of my life with a guy like him. However, he's SUPER shy. He never talks to anyone. He's just very quiet and focused. Sometimes I even have a hard time getting him to talk. When I do get him to talk, we usually talk about how much we love each other. Now, don't get me wrong, it's wonderful and he makes me feel like the luckiest girl in the world. I was just wondering... Is this normal? Like, do couples in healthy relationships basically only talk about how much they love each other? I mean, we do tlak about other things... Loving each other is just the most common topic.
Thank you so much!

Yes for the most part it's normal for couples to talk about how much they care and love one another but you should try and get him to talk about something other then that make him open up and be less shy if you talk about others things maybe the
conversation will shift from it's usually topic after a while the same topic will start to become boring try casually bringing up the fact that the both of you do talk about that certain topic alot and that you'd like to talk about other things and
see what he says it's worth a shot(:

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Hello
My issue is regarding an activity I have been involved a relationship with my boss. He is a very kind man who treats all his employees well and has a good relationship with most people. But every week, or two, he asked me to get physical with him.
I have been doing this for about 4 years now. It used to really bother me, but now I just let it happen because I don't want to lose the job. His family is very close to mine and he is personal friends with my father. And it happened yesterday with him again. Now after all this time of keeping it inside, It is starting to bother me. I took a business ethics class and they talked about this issue and how the people involved in it should report it and that it is abuse. But I feel bad because I am not "abused"...or am I and I dont know it?
I don't know what to do about it. My friends do not know, and I don't or can't tell them. But my sister knows about it, she is the only one who knows. I don't have a romantic relationship with him, it is just professional.
I am trying to see what is really wrong with this relationship. Recently I have been becoming more and more religious and rethinking my life. I am also a full time student and want to finish well with out any problems. The money at work is great, and I get a great deal of bonus as well. It really helps my family and pays for my education!!
My parents are not doing well with their health or money, and this job, although part time, with the bonuses pays like a full time job that helps me with family's as well. They are VERY religious and cannot ever know about this.

I need to chat with someone about this.
Is it bad if I consent? Is it bad if i enjoy it, (well sometimes) Am I an evil person? I am confused and need someone to help me think this VERY personal thing through.

Please respond to jihan.ali@europe.com

No you aren't a evil person your boss asking you to get physical with him is very wrong you need to report it to someone physical could possiblity turn into something more serious there's a time and a place for everything and there's no need for that type of behavior especially when a person's at work it makes it even more worst that he's your boss and not just some stranger he shouldn't be acting that way towards you if it is truely bothering you that's a sign that you need to tell someone if you've got another supervisor someone who is higher then your boss tell them it needs to be reported i don't think it's abuse but then again i could be wrong since he didn't touch you in inappropriate places or did anything sexual with you him being associated with you is a risk seeing as what he said to you could possiblity get around to your parents so your best option is try and avoid him as best you can even though he's your boss you don't want to risk
your parents finding out and the situation getting more worst then it already is(:

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Okay first off let me say that I've never asked advice from a advice column before but I feel that the circumstances are right for it. Female age: 20. So I just started this new job about a month ago and love where I'm working. I have a 1 year old boyfriend that is totally head over heels in love with me and has wanted to marry me since three months into the relationship. I love him but we kept having problems and therefore kept having an off again on again relationship. Anyways, I moved away from California to New Jersey after the last breakup that we had but recently got back together with him. At my new job there is this guy at work who I really like and could possibly later on be more than just a friend. Right now he is really interested in me but doesn't want a relationship right now do to female issues and I really can't afford another relationship while I have this one going on right now. So we recently decided to date see what each other is like and do the whole friends with benefits thing. I want that but don't know if I should with my boyfriend back in California thinking that Im the innocent girlfriend he once knew. My co-worker and I flirt almost everyday and he has been recently trying to get to the touchy-flirting stage at work. There is so much chemistry between us that I never have had with my boyfriend and I'm in a difficult situation here. It is true that I haven't been around my boyfriend in over 3 months to have sex with him so yes I am sexually deprived and want to jump on the new guy but do I really want to do that and possibly risk hurting my boyfriend. I told myself I would never cheat but now I see where they're thought process is right now. Please tell me what I should do. Friends with benefits with the co-worker or stay loyal to my on and off again boyfriend who I don't know whats going to happen with our relationship. Do I do it or don't I? The answer is.....

I think you should remain faithful to your boyfriend
and shouldn't do the friends with benefits thing with the other boy if you truely don't want to hurt your boyfriend then don't it's not fair to him you got into the relationship with him for a reason and
he expects you to be loyal & faithful to him there's
always room for improvement if things aren't going well in the relationship then fix whatever is wrong
until things are right again don't just give up maybe the two of you can go to counseling and that
could get your relationship on the right track to becoming good again(:

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Me and my girlfriend of 6 months decided we need some time apart to find ourselves. Its kinda like a break but we dont know if we are actully going to get back toegether. We are takeing time apart because we have started to take each other for granted and we have become people we are not. However we love each other as much as we know. The day was going fine the after we hooked up we sat around and both got crabby, then it all came out. The twist is we are both seniors in high school and we are going to dfferent collges far apart. Is it worth getting back toegether? How do i get her back if even its just as a friend?

Usually long distance relationships don't turn out well & the couples end up breaking up it's better to
see someone face to face and in person rather then to text message them or talk to them on the phone i don't think it's worth it for the two of you to get
back together things weren't meant to be for the both of you everything happens for a reason and the
break meant something that it wasn't meant to be it
will be tough to date if the two of you are in college you'll be focused on your homework friends &
whatever other activities tell her that even though you are on a break you'd like to remain friends and
that you don't want to loose her completely in the end the main thing that truely counts is that your happy..so do whatever you think is right in order to make yourself happy(:

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this boy in school that i like and have done for a while now i really wont to say something in school to him i only mean something like hi in the hall way. but the thing is my friends all ways use to embaris me infront of him by shouting things at him about me and everytime i get the perfect opatunity to say something i cant help but think of all the embarising things that happeded. how can i get the corige to say hi to him? help plaese

Believe in yourself and be confident without confidence you won't get very far ignore what
your friends say and go for it don't allow them to stop you from doing what you want..start the conversation by saying hi & ask him how he is
and how has his day been then go from there once you
do figure out what you want to say practice it
a few times before you do speak that way you'll know
exactly what you want to say & it will be easier it might sound stupid but it may work(:

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I've had constant headaches for years now. I'm a very high-stress person and the littlest thing can stress me out. I'm in college and during class I always get headaches, I used to in my high school classes as well. I also feel tension in my neck most of the time and have minor scoliosis. That could be part of it I'm not sure. My mom has really bad back issues and has headaches a lot too. I told my doctor and she said it's probably from stress, they never took X-rays or an MRI. My cousin also got really bad migraines and her MRI and X-rays were clear, no tumor. Do you think stress is the reason I get headaches a lot? Also recently, my wisdom teeth are growing in, and my temples sometimes hurt idk why. Any ideas?

It could be that stress is causing your headaches
but then again i'm not a doctor also maybe the lights in the classroom that could be a possiblity
that your eyes are sensitive to light also your wisdom teeth too if your curious your best option would be to probably to visit your doctor they'll be able to help you & give you a better explaination and more knowledgeable answer to why your having headaches they could probably give you
some medication as well(:

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Hello im 18/f and im a freshmen in college. I am going to school to become an lpn nurse. I was super excited when this winter semester and i told myself how i was going to study and get excellent grades. Now almost half way thru the semester im slacking big time. Failing all of my tests not caring anymore. Like i have a test on monday and i told myself im going to study but i know im not going to. I just dont care to i guess you could say. I've always been an average student getting like Bs and Cs. I have no ambition to do anything with my life anymore really. To me its like well if i fail these classes i failed sucks for me. Just dont really care and i want to get that care back. Is there anyway i can do this? Any tips on how to become a better student. I really do want to become a nurse i just dont want to do any work to become one. I know that you cant do that! Anything would be helpful!

-Thanks I rate!

You've got to be confident and believe in yourself
that you'll succeed otherwise you'll feel crappy in
order to achieve your goals you've got to be willing
to work hard if you want to become a nurse so badly then you'll do whatever it takes to make that happen
and you won't let anything stand in your way think positively and not negatively college isn't easy but
if you become motivated and start doing your work you will make it easier for yourself you'll be less stressed out just think if you do what's required of
you then you'll be another step closer towards reaching your goal of becoming a nurse(:

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16/ f
okay , sorry if this is reallllly long & confusing.
so me & this girl named Ally became really good friends last summer.
But, when we started to hang out a lot in the beginning, her current bestfriend (Sally) like just got ignored by Ally.
But once me and Ally became really good friends,
then Sally and me started to become pretty close too.
then, soooo much drama occured like SO much.
Ally is the one who caused probably 90% of all the drama. She'd tell me one thing about Sally, and tell Sally something about me. She constantly tried to get me and Sally to hate each other. Sooner or later, it worked. We both fell for Allys lies, ally is such a good liar its hard to tell when she is or isnt.
But one day, Sally and I got tired of Ally's crap and decided we didnt want ANYTHING to do with her .
we simply : befriended her ?

but , instead of accepting that fact :
she made it into a lot bigger deal then it should've been. she tried getting people at school mad at us , which didnt work. because at that time everyone disliked ally alot , because she lies & makes up shit all the time .
its ridiculous.

but monthes passed ,
and i finally forgave her
( i cannnot hold a grudge to save my life )
so , then Sally decided to might as well forgive her to.
then now, all the same crap that happened at the beginning, is replaying.

its insane .
i jusst dont know what to do ?

i dont want to not be friends with either of them because it'd be pointless and cause even more drama.

gah , dont you just loooove high school ?

I would move on and live your life if you chose to
not be friends with her then leave it at that just be friends with Sally you don't want to cause more drama then get caught up in it again..it's Ally fault for loosing you both as friends so it's her loss there's more important things to be worrying about then drama if you were to be friends with her
then the same thing would happen again so it's better if you aren't friends that way you'll be drama free & you'll be able to focus on what's really important in your life being friends with Ally isn't worth it seeing as she tried turning everyone aganist you(:

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I just feel so alone. I feel lonely, depressed, empty, lost. I feel like I'm worthless. I feel like I have nothing to live for and that I'm not special to anybody. Even with my friends, I just feel so empty. It hurts so badly. I find myself staring into space with tears in my eyes and typing things like "i'm so alone" or "it hurts" into Google. I lost interest in things I usually love to do, like play videogames and draw and read. I'm blaming myself for things that I know aren't my fault. I have trouble sleeping. I wake up each day with nothing to look forward to. It's like I'm walking on a treadmill. I'm tired and exasperated. I feel like there's a demon clawing and scraping away every bit of dignity and peace I have. I want to scream. Could this be depression? If so, what are my options to get rid of it? It hurts a lot. :(

It sounds like the symptoms of depression also sleep deprivation but i'm not a doctor so i can't
give you a exact explaination of what's happening to
you your best option is to see a therapist it's better to get everything your feeling out in the open it's not healthy to keep it bottled up and to not say anything once you do start telling your problems you'll feel better afterwards almost as if
the things your experiencing were lifted off your shoulders...go visit your doctor they'll be able to
tell you exactly what your experiencing & will be able to give you a better explaination and more knowledgeable answer(:

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You know how you can have two picture right on top of each other on myspace? Well how exactly do you put two pictures on top of each other on myspace?!?! I see it everywhere but I can't figure it out!

You'd probably have to upload the pictures to a site like tinypic.com seperately then get the code for websites from there then paste the code in a section of your myspace then you'd have to get another code that would center the pictures(:



You'd put the code in between that...so it
would center the pictures

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Okay, sooo i'm in 9th grade and i've been really shy at school since kindergarden, I don't know why but whenever i'm around big groups of people I just get really nervous and shy. I'm not like this at home or whenever i'm hanging out with people outside of school it's only at school where I get like this. everyday I get asked why i'm so quiet, and i'm tired of people asking me that everyday. I wanna be myself at school, but my self esteem is soo low it's like impossible for me. I'm so worried about what people think about me also. What are some ways I can break out of my shell and be more outgoing? I want to prove to people, that i'm not all that quiet..

Oh and also today while at lunch this really really cute guy threw a peice of bread at me and asked why I was so depressed? I guess I looked depressed at lunch? is this a sign of him flirting with me or is he just being mean? because I took it personally and wanted to cry after that! (i'm really emotional) haha.

I want to fit in at school, I want to be noticed,
highschool's tough so any advice is good advice to me! I just need help :(

It's normal to feel shy around strangers and people you don't know but you can't let your nerves get the
best of you otherwise you'll continue to be shy you've got to believe in yourself and be confident
without confidence you won't get very far just keep
in my mind whenever you feel shy that not all people
out there are bad and are out to get you there's some who are good you've just got to give others a
chance i don't think the boy was being mean he could
of been observing you and noticed you looked that way...i was the same way in school i wasn't very talkative i was shy & was alone most of the time but
it changed as i got older(:

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I have really weak gums. They bleed easily when I eat things like pizza crust and stuff that has edges. If you have weak gums is there something you can do to make it go away? are there special foods that i could eat that would make it never happen?

wat should i do? 14f

Eat foods that are soft like wheat bread,banana's,yogurt,jello,pudding,apple sauce,creamy peanut butter,jelly,pancakes,mashed potatos,corn those are just some suggestions you could research it on the internet or ask your family and friends for more suggestions(:

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I went to the bathroom and I pooped blood! Why is this happening? Am I going to die?

Your best option is to visit a doctor or go to the hospital no you aren't going to die it isn't life threatening but you do need to seek medical attention i'm not a doctor & don't have a medical license & i don't think any columnist does so i can't give you a exact reason why it's happening there could be many reasons if you want a
more knowledgeable explaination then visit a doctor(:

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