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Hello
My issue is regarding an activity I have been involved a relationship with my boss. He is a very kind man who treats all his employees well and has a good relationship with most people. But every week, or two, he asked me to get physical with him.
I have been doing this for about 4 years now. It used to really bother me, but now I just let it happen because I don't want to lose the job. His family is very close to mine and he is personal friends with my father. And it happened yesterday with him again. Now after all this time of keeping it inside, It is starting to bother me. I took a business ethics class and they talked about this issue and how the people involved in it should report it and that it is abuse. But I feel bad because I am not "abused"...or am I and I dont know it?
I don't know what to do about it. My friends do not know, and I don't or can't tell them. But my sister knows about it, she is the only one who knows. I don't have a romantic relationship with him, it is just professional.
I am trying to see what is really wrong with this relationship. Recently I have been becoming more and more religious and rethinking my life. I am also a full time student and want to finish well with out any problems. The money at work is great, and I get a great deal of bonus as well. It really helps my family and pays for my education!!
My parents are not doing well with their health or money, and this job, although part time, with the bonuses pays like a full time job that helps me with family's as well. They are VERY religious and cannot ever know about this.
I need to chat with someone about this.
Is it bad if I consent? Is it bad if i enjoy it, (well sometimes) Am I an evil person? I am confused and need someone to help me think this VERY personal thing through.
Please respond to jihan.ali@europe.com
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No you aren't a evil person your boss asking you to get physical with him is very wrong you need to report it to someone physical could possiblity turn into something more serious there's a time and a place for everything and there's no need for that type of behavior especially when a person's at work it makes it even more worst that he's your boss and not just some stranger he shouldn't be acting that way towards you if it is truely bothering you that's a sign that you need to tell someone if you've got another supervisor someone who is higher then your boss tell them it needs to be reported i don't think it's abuse but then again i could be wrong since he didn't touch you in inappropriate places or did anything sexual with you him being associated with you is a risk seeing as what he said to you could possiblity get around to your parents so your best option is try and avoid him as best you can even though he's your boss you don't want to risk
your parents finding out and the situation getting more worst then it already is(:
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