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Takeing a break is it worth it
Me and my girlfriend of 6 months decided we need some time apart to find ourselves. Its kinda like a break but we dont know if we are actully going to get back toegether. We are takeing time apart because we have started to take each other for granted and we have become people we are not. However we love each other as much as we know. The day was going fine the after we hooked up we sat around and both got crabby, then it all came out. The twist is we are both seniors in high school and we are going to dfferent collges far apart. Is it worth getting back toegether? How do i get her back if even its just as a friend?
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Well, if you guys really like eachother then maybe it wouldn't hurt to try to get back together. But, if you have any doubts about this girl whatsoever, you need to just let it go because it's not even worth it. Ask yourself- is this break really hurting me? Can I live without her?
Do you even care that you are taking a break?
Is it hurting you?
Answer these questions, and then tell me how you feel after you have figure that out.
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Usually long distance relationships don't turn out well & the couples end up breaking up it's better to
see someone face to face and in person rather then to text message them or talk to them on the phone i don't think it's worth it for the two of you to get
back together things weren't meant to be for the both of you everything happens for a reason and the
break meant something that it wasn't meant to be it
will be tough to date if the two of you are in college you'll be focused on your homework friends &
whatever other activities tell her that even though you are on a break you'd like to remain friends and
that you don't want to loose her completely in the end the main thing that truely counts is that your happy..so do whatever you think is right in order to make yourself happy(:
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you have to be honest with yourself and think about the fact that when you go to college.. there are going to be ALOT of girls.. alot of SINGLE girls.. if you were to get back into a relationship with her, would you be able to contain yourself and not stray or cheat. and would you be able to trust her at HER college with all of those single boys ? its something you have to think about it.. and im not saying it cant be done, it CAN be done, you can be faithful and trust her [vice versa] but you have to REALLY be honest with yourself right now. would you have the will power to say no ?
if your answer to that question is no.. then it wouldnt be worth getting back together and youd save her, yourself, and the relationship alot of pain.
if your answer to that question is yes, then alright. it IS worth getting back together with her and you should tell her how you feel.
if your answer to that question is maybe.. then i dont think it would be worth getting back together because if you want this relationship to last and be a long one, youre going to have to be completely sure with NO doubts that this is what you want and youre willing to do whatever it takes to stay that way.
with that said, you can still have her as a friend. dont end on a bad note if thats what you wish to do [just be friends] i mean, if your friends, theres always the chance that you both could get back in the relationship together in the future. you just have to be nice about it and sweet.. it has to come from your heart. tell her that you really like her and that the 6 months you spent with her were amazing, but you wouldnt want to jeopardize what you have because you care about her and you think that since college is coming and all, that it would best to be friends right now. and that you want to be her friend more than anything. and that youre sorry and shes a great person and you didnt want it to come to this but that she means alot to you.
she might be hurt at first, but i promise if you give her time she'll get over it and talk to you :] its just how girls work. but just be kind and patient with her. if she doesnt want to talk, wait a couple days and then try talking to her again. if you are persistent and show that she really means alot to you and you still want to talk to her, then it'll all work out in your favor. trust me.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.
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