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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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Hi I'm Em, 17, F, incoming college sophomore.
So I'm thinking about having an 18th birthday party (my birthday is 7 months away but even things like these have to be planned really early). I might be transferring to a different college rather than where I'm studying now next school year so if that happens, I'd want to have a party so that way I get to see my friends from my old school (as well as my high school friends).
But even though I don't transfer, I'm still considering having a party.
So...any ideas?
I'm already stuck if I'm going to be having a big traditional party or just spend it in a bar or whatever. It's like I want to have a program, at the same time I don't.
So, I'd really appreciate any great tips or ideas you can share with me (like themes or activities or how big it should be, etc.) to make my 18th birthday really special.
Thank you in advance!!
You're 17 and in college.... wtf??
Anyways, try having a toga party. I did that and it was a lot of fun. People just take bunches of bed sheets and wrap themseleves up in it like togas and dance with loud music. Since you wanted it to be more like a program, maybe get a DJ and rent a space to have the party. Make invitations and maybe even have a caterer to serve food. Go togas!!!
What do you do if you are really lonely and want a best friend and are moving?
Ok so I answered a question earlier thats something similar like this one. So read this question and answer.
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=594337
Just a recap of what I said to that person- You don't need a best friend to be happy. I went through all 4 years of high school without a clique/group to belong in, barely no friends. I had 1 best friend but we separated due to a big fight. I realized that i don't need a best friend to be happy. Stop looking for someone and just let it happen naturally. If it was mean't to be, then it was mean't to be. I also found out that if you just stop looking, and be yourself, you'll surprise yourself with how many friends you can make.
Just be yourself and let the friends come to you. Be outgoing, social, friendly, HAPPY. Who cares if you don't have a best friend. My senior year in high school I didn't have a girl best friend, but I survived. The world won't end. You'll be okay. you just have got to relax.
I'm a 16 year old girl and my best friend is also the same. A month ago we got into a very big fight. It was mostly my fault, I lied to her about a few little things and made a big fit over the fact that she had told someone else I lied. I only lied because I saw her hanging out with a different type of crowd and I was afraid if I wasn't the same as them I was going to end up losing her. I've been through alot in my life and I've had alot of people leave n screw me over.. I just didn't want that to happen with her. She's very important to me and I was only scared. I keep trying to explain this too her lately but she dosnt want to talk to me or even give me a chance. I know this means she only cares because this is what's she does when she's afraid of getting hurt, she pushes people away. Well now I know her boyfriend is cheating on her and I dont know if I should just karma take its place since she's being so mean to me and not letting me talk.. or if I should b "nice" like I always am to people, and tell her? All my friends are saying let her get hurt like she's hurting you by pushing her away.. but I guess im kinda hoping if I do the right thing and tell she'll see im not trying to hurt her. I just don't know if I should let our relationship go or not, we're real close like sisters..
You sound almost exactly like me haha. I've been in similar situations.. I've had a lot of friends in my past (i'm 18) and a lot of them have screwed me over and our friendships have ended because of stupid things. Up until my junior year in high school (last year) I didn't have a best friend. I felt so alone because I didn't have a girl friend like a sister. I usually went shopping with my mom. I didn't have sleepovers or anything like that. But then I met a friend Olivia. It was crazy how similar we were... we became best friends and did everything together. I honestly thought I would never find a best friend. But then towards the end of junior year and the start of senior year, things got difficult. We both had boyfriends and it seemed like we were always competing against each other. Who had the better boyfriend, who had prettier clothes, who had more money, who had more friends etc. I don't know why this happened, and I dont know how it got that way.. But soon enough she got fed up with me and we got in a big fight. She decided never to speak to me again. I was so upset because like I said earlier, many of my friends have left me in the previous years, and I just wanted someone to stay my friend for a long time.
During all of that happened, I had a boyfriend. We are still dating and have been for almost 10 months. He stood up for me and made me feel better. When Olivia and I separated as friends, he made me realize that I don't need a "girl friend" to be happy. I don't need a "best friend" in order to be happy. It took me a while to realize it, but he was right. The only reason I wanted to be friends with Olivia was just for the sake of having a best friend.. I realized that's not okay, and I just should live my own life, let things happen naturally, and be happy. After a while, I also realized that my boyfriend is actually my best friend :) We can do anything together.
My point is- It sounds like you were lying to your friend, just for the sake of having a friend. That was my problem too, and that is not okay. I mentioned that my boyfriend is my best friend. Well to be honest, it just kind of happened by itself. We didn't force the relationship or friendship, it just happened. So take my advice, next time you have a friendship, don't lie or be something you're not, just in order to have a friend. Trust me, you will make MANY more friends (friends who are loyal to you and are TRUE friends) if you just act the way you are. Be yourself and instead of going to look for friends, let them come to you. Try joining some different activities and make friends that way. Oh and if your friend was hanging with a different crowd, and you had to lie in order to "fit in", that is also not okay. If you don't fit in with the crowd, then just go find another one. I know high school sucks because of all the cliques and groups, but that's just the way it is.. My high school experience will be over in 12 days (i'm graduating!!!) and I never once belonged in a group. I didn't have a clique to fit in, but you know what? i survived. And so can you. It will be alright if you can't find a best friend, or a clique. College will come soon and I've already been in campus for a few days and trust me everything is different there. There aren't as many cliques (because nobody cares about them anymore) and everyone is friendly and outgoing. So honestly, go through your last few years in highschool, don't worry about finding a best friend, or groups. Just let it happen naturally. If it was mean't to be, then it was mean't to be. And most importantly- Smile and Have fun with your life :)
And to answer your question- I think it would be wise to tell her the truth. She deserves to know the truth about her boyfriend cheating. You've told enough lies, the one thing you can do right now is tell the truth.. Yes I know you want to let her get hurt and make her feel pain, but honestly... what kind of person would you be if you did that? You may not have her as a friend, but at least be proud of who you are. Have some dignity and do the right thing. If she is pushing you away, fine. Let her. She won't learn anything from this if she does that.. it only makes her less of a person, instead of being mature and actually communicating about it with you. Tell her the truth to her face, then walk away and see if she follows you. If she is a true friend, she will follow you and realize you're not trying to hurt her. If not, well thats high school for you. Big deal. Like my boyfriend said to me- You don't need a best friend in order to be happy in your life.
good luck and inbox me if you need more help :)
Okayyy. so heres the thing. i know this guy likes me and he asked me out like 2X. 1st time his friends asked me for him and i paniced and said no like an idiot. cause i like him :/ than the 2nd time he asked me in person. i guess he didnt believe his friends. and right when i was about to say yes. i paniced again and said no. and walked off. now im getting really sick and tired of this!!! HELP ME!!! how do i go up to him and tell him that im actually interested. i dont want him to think im not. oh please o please HELP MEEE!!!
speak from your heart.
You must relax. I'm guessing you're pretty young, considering talking to a boy is difficult for you, and you're panicking about it. Just relax. He's just a boy. He won't bite haha. Breathe in deeply through your nose and out through your mouth. Slow deep breathes. Close your eyes before hand and just focus on your breathing. Relax your mind. Don't worry.
Go up to him and instead of thinking about what to say, think about something humorous like a clown behind him with a bucket of water over his head. Be happy. If you're nervous and scared, your facial emotions and body language will show, and he might get intimidated or scared too. If you show that you're happy and relaxed, he will feel happy and relaxed too. Maybe before you talk to him, just start laughing and smiling. That will help get you in a good mood.
Then just speak from your heart. Don't plan out what to say- thats so fake haha. Just be like "hey, you know how you asked me out? well I am really interested" and then smile., Be flirty!!!
wear something cute that day, curl your hair or do something cute with it. Touch him and just be flirty with him. SMILE a lot!! that will show that you have confidence in yourself. And guys think confidence is sexy.
be yourself too :) don't try to be something you're not. You'll be okay haha. Like i said- its just a boy. he wont bite your head off or anything. worst thing that could happen is that he says No and doesn't like you. big deal. if he does say that- just shake it off casually and say "ok we can just hang out another time then" and walk away with pride, because you talked to him.
Hi all, I just wanted to know somthing about my weight... I'm 13 5'3 and 126 lbs. I think I'm overweight. Yes, I do have a bf and he picks me up all the time, but I'm just barely off the ground.... like mabeye an inch?? Anyway I have huge thighs, both of my sisters are smaller than me and they call me thunder thighs. My gut isn't that big, and my boobs are a size B. But I that pink skin around my nipple is really big and covers the whole tip of my boob. So when he does pick me up I can see the look on his face that he is sorta struggling. Ok, there is more like a few questions about everything in here so bare with me. Every day at lunch he sits with this one whore who flirts with him all the time. She once kissed him on the cheek and said she was smelling his cologne. She keeps telling me that she will never flirt with him because she knows we are dating but she is a whore!! I keep telling him I'm ok with it but I'm not.. I love him and we kiss all the time. So today she kissed him on the lips and he kissed back. They say that they always pretend to be sister and brother but i am sooo mad at her!! What can I do to make her stop and not seem overprotective?? P.s. everyone always says he treats my like shit and I think so to. everytime he sit with her they always tell him to sit by me cuz we are dating bu he ignores them so what can i do? Sorry it was soo long... please help with all my questions!! Thanks!!!
ok so you went from being fat.. to issues with your boyfriend. lol.
As for being fat- don't use that word. Shame on you. That word can really hurt people, same as retarded. I would have to see you in order to say if you are overweight or not. But honestly, I think you're just overreacting.. You're 126 pounds and 5'3".. I'm 5' 7" and 135 pounds. So i think you're okay. You're only 13 too... so you probably still have some baby fat on you. Its okay. Accept who you are. If you cant, then work hard to get rid of it. Eat healthy, make sure you get enough exercise. Join a sport. Embrace your features and don't let anyone put you down. I have a mole on my upper lip. When I was about your age I thought it was disgusting and thought I was super ugly. I even considered surgery to get it removed. People made fun of me and said nobody will ever kiss me because of it. But guess what? a year later, a guy kissed me. I proved all of them wrong. I realized that its just a silly mole. Who honestly cares??? People have more important things to freak out about, than my mole. I could care less. If people wanted to make fun of me because of my mole, well then that just proves they have no lives. They feel better about themselves when they put other people (like me) down. And you know what? those people get no where in life. They turn out to be failures in life because instead of worrying about themselves, they make fun of other people. So instead of listening to the rude comments, I laughed at their faces and embraced my mole. I kept telling myself that it was a beauty mark, which is unique. I felt special because not many people have moles on their upper lip. Soon enough, I was walking with my shoulders back, chest out, nose up, with pride. I love myself :) i'm not going to let some sissy little kid make me feel bad about myself and change who I am. That is insane. If someone came up to you and said- I dont like your face. Would you go and cut your face and completely change it??? NO. Because this is who you are. If they dont like your face, they can turn the other way and walk away. But theres no way you should change yourself just to please other people. If they dont like you, tell them to f*** off and find someone they DO like. instead of being immature little kids complaining.
as for your boyfriend issue... you're still young and you're still understanding the concept of a boyfriend. Here's a huge tip that will help you in life- If your boyfriend is treating you unfairly, DUMP HIM. Trust me this will be so much help for you in the future. I've had friends with boyfriends who treated them so badly, but they kept on staying together because she said "oh he might change"... nope. He kept on treating her badly. He apologized once in a while and put on an innocent "i love you" face... but then behind her back would treat her horribly. YOU DO NOT DESERVE THAT. Honey, take my advice and leave him. I'm 18 and have way more experience than you. I know lots of people who didnt dump him, but regret it. They said they wished they had dumped him because they were always so unhappy. They felt like their whole childhood was horrible, because they were unhappy. They said they wish they could go back in time and change it and dump him so they could be happier without him.
If he goes around kissing this girl right in front of you... thats not okay. STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. In front of him AND her, bitch them out and say "you know what? i'm done with you and done with this crap. You 2 can makeout and have a good life together, because i dont want to be a part of it. goodbye" and then walk away with pride. I would rather do something risky but walk away with pride and courage, than to sit there and do nothing and feel like a coward. Stand up for yourself. you dont deserve it.
good luck and inbox me if you have more questions :)
so, im working at a camp this summer and i want a good impression on the guys, because ive always been tht girl who every guy is friend and only friend they never look twice, so this summer i want it to be more??? have any ideas
try making a statement.
wear different types of clothes you normally dont wear- like a cute dress.
get a makeover done. makeovers can be more than just makeup. Get your hair done, like a hair cut or some pretty highlights to stand out. Maybe lose a few extra pounds if you are overweight. Buy some new makeup (maybe try something new like blue eyeliner or green eyeshadow to make your eyes pop). buy some pretty jewlery to stand out.
Next, you need to have an outgoing, friendly, yet flirty attitude. My guess is that you weren't flirty enough earlier because you said you were only 'just a friend'. So try to be extra flirty. Giggle a lot, touch guys like on their arms or hug them a lot. Smilee!!! guys love girls who are always happy and smile a lot. Always have a story or something to tell. Never be that boring girl who says "uhh i don't know what to say". Always keep the conversation going, even if you have to pull out a random stupid joke. Keep the energy high (so don't start talking about horses and your favorite pony, otherwise they might fall asleep haha). Always stay positive. Don't bring up negative thoughts or anything.
and most importantly... BE YOURSELF! I cant stress that enough. Don't try to be something you're not. You are unique. Nobody else looks like you, or is you. Embrace that! Be proud of who you are and don't try to change yourself just to impress people. That will actually not impress them. It will just make you look bad.
:)
My boyfriend tells me that i am a SHY KISSER ... i should know what he means s i didnt ask him lol. so now im asking you what does it mean and why in the world would somebody tell another person that?! :) thanks
a shy kisser means that you're hesitant. You don't want to go too far and are scared to do anything risque.
While some people find "shy kissers" cute and attractive, sometimes it can cause problems. Obviously your boyfriend has a problem with it. You can either change a little bit and become more passionate or aggressive with your kisses. Or you can tell him that this is who you are, and you prefer not to change yourself.
If you dont want to be a shy kisser anymore, try going a little further with him. Open your mouth and use a little tongue, suck on his bottom lip, run your hands up and down his back, pull on his hair, maybe make some seductive sounds like moaning softly.
One thing you should realize is that kissing and sexual activity to guys.. is like winning the lottery. If they have a girl getting jiggy with him, then he feels like the happiest guy on the planet. So depending on how important this boyfriend is to you, maybe its worth it to "put on a show" for him. Surprise him with something he wouldn't expect and just give him a great time :)
I am 15/f and have beed dating this guy, we'll call him Noah, for a little over a year and a half now. He is the best boyfriend I have ever had, he is sweet, generous, funny and caring. He can be a bit rebellious sometimes. He drinks a bit, and ditches class but this hasnt effect me at all. He is 18 years old. I just recently introduced him to my family. Actually I just recently told them I was dating someone. After they told me I had to break up with him. They didnt like him, and none of my friends like him either. They all say he only wants me for my body, and he'll dump me when I give him my virginity. But he has only brought it up once, on our anniversery. I dont know what to do. Do i break up with him? I really like him and I dont wanna hurt him. Do you think that my parents are right?
This is kinda tough because you should stand up for yourself but at the same time you should respect your parents.
Its not right when someone tells you that you need to break up with someone, even if you love them dearly. If your parents told you to drop out of school because they think its bad for you... would you?? if your parents told you to start drinking because it will help you with your problems.. would you?? if your parents say "break up with him"... would you?? My point is, they don't know him. You said yourself that you dated him for over a year and half. clearly, you know him WAY better than your parents, and even your friends. Your parents have no clue what he is truly like.. so are you going to let their ridiculous assumption about him get in the way between you 2??
You 2 have been dating for a year and half.. thats a pretty damn long time for a 15 year old.. clearly you 2 are a good couple together. Your parents have no idea what kind of person he is, so why does their opinion matter all of a sudden? Talk to them about it. Stand up for yourself. Let them know you dated him for a year and half. Yeah maybe he is a little bit of a bad boy, but tell your parents that his actions have no bad effect on you. If you must- tell them that instead of him being a bad influence on you, you're a good influence on him.
Now.. here's another thing to consider.. you don't want to disrespect your parents. You are still 15 and that is considered a minor. You do have to follow your parents rules. If you want your parents to respect you, then you need to respect your parents.
Its entirely your choice on what you decide to you. My personal opinion is that you keep dating him because it makes no sense to break up with him just because of someone's ridiculous opinion (especially since they have no clue what he is truly like). But then again, consider that if you continue dating him.. you could be disrespecting your parents. It depends on what your parents are like. Some parents will get extremely mad if a child doesn't do what the parents say. But some parents will just get upset and then forget about it later on. I dont know your parents, so you have to make that judgement for yourself.
Oh and 1 more thing.. You're a growing teenager. You've still got 3 more years of development. You're going to be experiencing different things like driving and sex and more mature things. Remember this- all parents, at some point, need to let go of their children and let them grow up. Maybe this situation is "that time" for your parents to realize that they need to let you grow up. When you're a teenager, its all about experiencing new things and trying out different things. This particular situation is about experiencing different types of guys. So regardless if you dump him now or later, you're learning about what types of guys you're interested in. Your parents have to realize that eventually, they won't have a say in your love life. When you're older, you can date whom ever you want and your parents wont force you to break up with him because "they dont approve".
The way I see it... its YOUR relationship. YOUR life. YOU make the decision. Yeah, your parents still get the upper hand since you're a minor, but that doesn't mean they can make every single decision for you. How are you supposed to grow up and experience things if they are always telling you what to do and how to do it?
Good luck and inbox me if you have more questions!
i want to move out with my boyfriend will i be able to and im 17?
wait until you're 18. Then you can do whatever you want and your parents wont have a say in it, because technically you'll be an adult then.
My friend is feeling very sad and she feels like crying but she can't. What can I do to comfort her ?
She just needs someone to be with her. She doesn't need pity. You can buy her stuffed animals and chocolates and all the gifts she wants.... but the thing that will truly make her happy is someone there for her. Maybe its a person who will listen to her. maybe its someone who will take her mind off of things. Whichever it may be, you just need to be there for her.
Communicate with her. You can go talk to a wall but you can't communicate with a wall. Hence, communicate not talk.
Plan out a whole day where its just you 2 and you do everything she wants. Like in the daytime make breakfast, then go shopping, then go see a movie, then have a bonfire and eat brownies or something.
Do all of our questions have to be advice questions, or can we ask things that were curious about? Can we ask a question like "why are pregnant people so moody?" *Just an example question. No offense to moms LOL
nope. you can pretty much ask for anything on here. Help, advice, opinions, experience, stories, reviews etc.
and pregnant people are moody because their hormones are going crazy at that time. Its kinda like puberty.. your hormones are released and you experience different emotions like sex drive and growth spurts.. same thing with pregnant women, they experience emotions like mood swings and cravings.
So my so called best friend has been telling her boyfriend everything that I've been telling her, And I've told her a lot. We've been friends for about two years and they have been in a really bad relationship for over a year now.
Now i found out because her boyfriend yelled at me and messaged me all the things he could use against me. It didn't really matter to me because it just doesn't bother me. Only thing that does bug me is that I thought i could trust her and i clearly couldn't. She has lied about a lot of other things to, I can't even begin to tell you how much she has lied and how busted she is.
Right now I am not speaking to her, when she knows someone is mad at her she ignores them like THEY did something wrong. When I was there for her from the start. So it's just..I don't even know.
you call her a friend..?
clearly what she did was not okay.. if there's 1 thing I learned from my past mistakes, its that if a friend (especially best friend) tells you some private information, you do not share it with anyone else unless she approves of it.
Just forget about her. Honestly. If the information doesn't bother you, then just leave her ass behind in the dust and move on with your life. Find another friend who will actually respect you. Don't even talk to her and completely shut her out. If she asks why or wants to be friends again, you just call her out on it and say its not okay to do that.
good luck!
Should dump him or not. But mi real problem is that his mom and sister r so happy for him and were going to our 8th grade dance together next Friday and his mom and sis r buying him a tux and everything. And if I hurt him I hurt his family. Should I still dump him.???
hmm this one is a little difficult. The way I see it, you have 2 options.
A) you can break up with him before the dance. yes that will make him upset because he was probably looking forward to this. It will also make his family upset because they spent time and money buying him a tux and also looking forward to it. And it could also upset you because then you won't get to go to the dance.
or option
B) You can break up with him after the dance. It will give you a chance to take a break from all this thinking. You can go and just have a good time. Forget about breaking up, forget about love, forget about all your worries.. and just go out and have fun :) And then a few days after the dance, think it over again and make a decision.. who knows? maybe you'll change your mind after the dance.
Its entirely your choice which option you go with.. But my personal opinion is that you go with choice B. But if you do go with that one, you have to be careful because you don't want it to seem like you were just using him just so you could go to the dance. So if you do go with this option, make sure you wait a few days and then break up with him if you still wish to.
Remember, its entirely your choice. don't let anyone make your decision. Inbox me if you have any more questions! good luck :)
im a teenage boy, and i know you might all say that
"you are too young to be worrying about girls..."
but i think i am in love with my gf, well my ex.
She dumped me because i was a senior and she is a freshman. I know everybody in HS doesnt like the idea of a senior and a freshman, and everybody says it wont last, but for some reason i think she is special, and i cant get her off my mind that its destroying me. And please dont tell me to get over her... because ive tried that, and my heart wont let me get over her.
And i know that the whole senior-freshman thing might seem like its a biggie, but i have ALOT of girlfriends who are seniors like me who have dated older guys, since they were freshman too. like they literally stayed with a college guy throughout all 4 years. Thats what i want with this girl, and i know that she only dumped me because all her friends told her to since they thought i was a perv for going for a freshman. How do i know if i am in love with her?
You know you're in love when you literally can't describe how you're feeling.. :)
I've been dating my boyfriend for about 9 months now and i'm completely in love with him :) I just feel like everything is so perfect between us. The way we act around each other, the way we can be ourselves (i'm kinda nerdy and weird and i'm not ashamed to act that way in front of him. I know he wont judge me) He's literally my best friend :) I can tell him anything and I know he won't judge me, he can keep my trust, I can trust him, and we just understand each other. We have a lot in common like our parents fighting a lot, so since we can relate, we help each other out with our personal issues and we make each other feel better. I know this may sound corny haha but when he kisses me, I get a feeling in the pit of my stomach thats so "ahhh" hahah. Its like butterflies in my stomach. I get lightheaded and time slows down. I can look into his eyes forever and I would lose track of time :) I smile whenever I see him or even hear his name. Its just so amazing haha. There's like no way to say "this is love"... its just how your heart feels.
I know i'm in love with him because I can't ever stop thinking about him. After sports practice, the first thing I want to do is call him and talk to him and tell him about my day. I want to hear every detail about his day, and when he tells me something good, I get extremely happy for him. Recently, he was in serious trouble.. I was right next to him the entire time. I never let go of his hand and I cried telling him I will always be there for him. He is pretty much my life. Yes my parents say i'm overdramatic and they think its just another relationship i'm in... but to be honest, when you're in love.. nothing else really matters that much. I mean, of course my parents matter. They are important too. But if they don't like him or dont like the relationship, well then that sucks because I'm in love haha :)
I know that I can definitely see myself with him in the future :) He says he can see it too :)
Oh and 1 more thing.. its okay to feel scared when you're in love. I admit there are times when i'm scared. I'm scared because i don't want anyone else to have his heart except me. I dont want anyone else to kiss him except me. I dont want anyone else to take my place in his life. He feels the same way :)
When my bf and I first met, we had a "moment" where we saw each other and time stopped. we thought we stared at each other for minutes, but it was literally 2 seconds haha. You just get that moment or feeling when you're with them :)
anyways, good luck! :)
I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 weeks now and it's just plain awkward at school. I want to break up with him bc I don't really want a boyfriend. Next year I'll be going to highschool and we won't be going to tha same one. So there's really no point In dating. But all of his past girl friends have all dumped him. And I don't want to hurt him. Should I break up with him or just continue dating him till school is over and dump him then. Please help
dump him now. Don't lead him on. Leading him on basically means that you're just going to make him wait and then break the news to him later.
If you're considering breaking up, or even doubting the relationship, then its time to end it.
Sadly, yes, it will hurt him. But its better for both of you to be happy than to live like this. He will learn and he will move on, as well as you. Thats what life is all about.. learning new experiences and moving on with life. You're pretty young, so is he. Its not the end of the world. You and him will live. Everything will be okay :)
19/M
I just got my cartilage pierced, and I was wondering how can I make it heal fast? Would vitamins for skin growth help? I know I need to wash it two times a day (morning and night), but what else can I do to help it heal quickly? I love it, but I do not want a nine month recovery. Please and thank you for helping!
there's not much you can really do to make it heal faster.. you just gotta wait it out :)
But here's a tip- if there's an infection, put some triple anti-biotic cream on it to make that heal :)
Oh and make sure its not irritated in any way. Like don't pull on it, be careful when you get dressed, make sure you don't sleep on it awkwardly, take good care of it :)
I am 64 yrs old. My mother is 91. I come from a very Italian background. My mother has 1 daughter (me) and 1 son. She lives 8 minutes from me now. Always been dependent on me and needy. Next year my husband and I plan on retiring. Our goal is to move to Florida. We have no specific plan other than to sell our home and wing it. How can I ever make such a move and plan on taking my mom at some point in time. She occupies a condo and lives alone. Pretty self sufficient but I do talk to her just about everyday, visit once a week and whatever else she may need. How can I make this transition as easy and with a minimum amount of stress. I have only touched the surface of this but I see it as a huge problem. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks.
Romy
Well you can't plan all of this and move behind her back without knowing.. right?
So I suggest you go over there and tell her that you've been thinking about having a change in your life. You and your husband will retire and sell your house and move to florida. Insist that she comes with you. Its very polite and I'm sure she would love it, considering she is a mother who is in need of her daughter :)
If she has a problem with it, then calmly talk to her about it and figure out a solution. Perhaps she could stay there with a nanny or care-taker and you would visit her every so often. Maybe you and your husband could talk about it and come up with a different solution, like moving somewhere closer rather than Florida. Communication is key.
Good luck!
20/f. I have always been pretty close to my mom, but right now we are just not gettingnalong anymore because she doesn't let me live. Honestly, she doesn't give me one minute alone. Today, she was going to go furniture shopping some place like 30 minutes away and I couldn't go with her because I had to study so I told her that I would rather stay at school and she started crying telling me that i don't love her anymore and that I ruined her day. Honestly, I really do have to study and these classes are already for my major so they count towards grad school. I thought about leaving to a different university because that is the only way she will really have to learn to live without me. But, I really like my school and I'm lucky enough to come here on a full scholarship. Aside from that, it's a fantastic school, not worth it to leave. I can't live at home anymore. And I don't have them money to move out. My mom doesn't listen to me. And shes like obsessed with me. She doesn't want me to leave her side ever. I know this isn't so detailed but I just want to break down and cry. I can't deal with it anymore and I have no brother or sisters to talk to. I have no one to side with me. Help!!!
Is there any dorms in your college? try to find a dorm to live in. If you do live in a dorm, you'll have the option to live with a roommate which will be a good choice for you. It will give you the chance to talk to someone and get close with them. You could even introduce your mom to their parents.
What your mom needs right now is someone close. She is probably thinking that you're the only close person in her life.. If you look at the big picture, you should be proud that she needs you. Yes, I do realize it can be frustrating. Ive felt the same way. My mother used to always want to be around me and would cancel my plans like sleepovers with my friends so I could spend time with her.. But my mom recently moved to a different country for work.. Now the only thing I can think about is wishing to spend time with her. I miss her so much right now :( So in the big picture, take advantage that you have your mom to be with. I know plenty of people who would do anything just to spend a few minutes with their mothers.
But yes I do realize where you're coming from. I get that its frustrating. You just need some privacy and space. Your mom really needs a girl friend to be with or a guy to be with. Try looking for some people like in your neighborhood and invite them over to socialize. Or ask some friends of yours in college if they have any body that needs a close friend to socialize with. Introduce your mom to them, and have them go out and have fun!
good luck and inbox me if you have more questions
what to say or promise to win school election
freedom, happiness, joy, faith in the future, equality. just whatever comes to your mind. Look at what your school needs the most. My school needs equality the most.
I'm a 14 year old girl. I've liked this guy for over a year. Last year my friend told me that he said that he might go out with me and he blushed and turned away. I've asked him out and he turned me down. He is always staring at me and sitting close to me when he can. I'm really confused and don't know what to think. If he doesn't like me, then why is he staring?
thanks(:
Instead of asking him "out".. ask him to hang out. At 14, its more appropriate if you say hang out. From my personal experience, if you ask out a 14 year old, they will freak out and think you're asking for their hand in marriage haha.
Take it slow. He probably just feels rushed. Talk to him and become friends. Hang out. Go to movies and just hang out. Then see where it leads on from there. Don't make it so serious :) just have fun!