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How do you know when you are in love?
im a teenage boy, and i know you might all say that
"you are too young to be worrying about girls..."
but i think i am in love with my gf, well my ex.
She dumped me because i was a senior and she is a freshman. I know everybody in HS doesnt like the idea of a senior and a freshman, and everybody says it wont last, but for some reason i think she is special, and i cant get her off my mind that its destroying me. And please dont tell me to get over her... because ive tried that, and my heart wont let me get over her.
And i know that the whole senior-freshman thing might seem like its a biggie, but i have ALOT of girlfriends who are seniors like me who have dated older guys, since they were freshman too. like they literally stayed with a college guy throughout all 4 years. Thats what i want with this girl, and i know that she only dumped me because all her friends told her to since they thought i was a perv for going for a freshman. How do i know if i am in love with her?
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I think you should totally listen to "VoiceofReason". As relationships like this can last until after you both graduate but once you graduate you may break up anyway. I know this isn't right but "Friends before Relationships". If her friends don't like you then the only time you guys can hangout is when you're alone. Which I think is great for alone time but other interactions with friends can be fun too.
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First, don't let anyone outside the relationship ever intervene in it. It is your life and only you can live it and determine what makes you happy, so take control of your life and ignore busybodies. Too many people just can't mind their own business.
But listen dude, here is the thing: your brain will keep developing until around age 25. During that time, your view of how the world works, your sensibility, what you want out of life and who you want in it is going to evolve a lot. That is why almost no high school relationships survive very long. People grow apart.
In addition, everyone needs that exploratory phase of their life or they will later regret it. That is why you shouldn't get tied down to one girl at your age. Date around, scope out different facets of life and move on from there. In fact, once you graduate college, you should live overseas, which is a good way to reset one's life and really get in touch with your strengths and weaknesses.
Moreover, part of becoming an adult is learning to deal with failure as well as loss. You can't always have what you want. In addition, you're showing yourself being so needy that you can't get past your ex turns other girls who would otherwise think of wanting to be with you (and who may end up actually being better for you) to go elsewhere. Women hate that smell of desperation and clinginess.
So what you need to do is turn the negative into a positive by dispassionately analyzing what went wrong with the relationship. And by that I don't mean trying to assign blame, but evaluating what were your strengths and weaknesses in the relationship, what did you learn about women, what was working in the relationship and what wasn't and how are you going to conduct yourself in your next relationship.
Yeah, the loss of someone you loved is a bitch and so is having to date around trying to find "the one." But life is what it is and you have to make your peace with it. And sometimes, negative outcomes (getting fired, breaking up with someone, etc) turn out to be gateways to something better. That isn't a cliche, it is the truth as long as you don't spend your time wallowing in self-pity.
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You know you're in love when you literally can't describe how you're feeling.. :)
I've been dating my boyfriend for about 9 months now and i'm completely in love with him :) I just feel like everything is so perfect between us. The way we act around each other, the way we can be ourselves (i'm kinda nerdy and weird and i'm not ashamed to act that way in front of him. I know he wont judge me) He's literally my best friend :) I can tell him anything and I know he won't judge me, he can keep my trust, I can trust him, and we just understand each other. We have a lot in common like our parents fighting a lot, so since we can relate, we help each other out with our personal issues and we make each other feel better. I know this may sound corny haha but when he kisses me, I get a feeling in the pit of my stomach thats so "ahhh" hahah. Its like butterflies in my stomach. I get lightheaded and time slows down. I can look into his eyes forever and I would lose track of time :) I smile whenever I see him or even hear his name. Its just so amazing haha. There's like no way to say "this is love"... its just how your heart feels.
I know i'm in love with him because I can't ever stop thinking about him. After sports practice, the first thing I want to do is call him and talk to him and tell him about my day. I want to hear every detail about his day, and when he tells me something good, I get extremely happy for him. Recently, he was in serious trouble.. I was right next to him the entire time. I never let go of his hand and I cried telling him I will always be there for him. He is pretty much my life. Yes my parents say i'm overdramatic and they think its just another relationship i'm in... but to be honest, when you're in love.. nothing else really matters that much. I mean, of course my parents matter. They are important too. But if they don't like him or dont like the relationship, well then that sucks because I'm in love haha :)
I know that I can definitely see myself with him in the future :) He says he can see it too :)
Oh and 1 more thing.. its okay to feel scared when you're in love. I admit there are times when i'm scared. I'm scared because i don't want anyone else to have his heart except me. I dont want anyone else to kiss him except me. I dont want anyone else to take my place in his life. He feels the same way :)
When my bf and I first met, we had a "moment" where we saw each other and time stopped. we thought we stared at each other for minutes, but it was literally 2 seconds haha. You just get that moment or feeling when you're with them :)
anyways, good luck! :)
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