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how to heal from a heartbreak
im 18 years old and a dude.
how do i heal from a heartbreak? ive dated this girl for a year, and now we broke up. how do i get better? it sucks honestly, but any tips?
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I can't say it will work for you, but it worked for me. For some people it can be hard, but date other people. You don't have to make any commitment, you don't have to call it love, just date. Have fun. It will make you feel better and help you get past the pain. Some people call this a rebound, however it's not a rebound if there aren't any strings attached, in my opinion.
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Go out with your friends. Do anything you can to keep your mind off of her. I know it is easier said than done but if you stay busy it helps. Don't go places you two went, put anything that you have from her and put it away in a box, and put it in the attic. If you kept her for a year you can find someone else i promise! You don't have to start dating right away but call some old girlfriends of yours, or go out and get some cute girls number.
Hope this helped! if you need anything else feel free to message me personally(:
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There are a number of things going on here:
First, the lamentation of wasting time on a relationship that didn't work out.
Secondly, just the overall sense of loss.
Thirdly, natural teenage insecurity. You're afraid you might not get a girl again plus, let's face it, being on the prowl for a new chick is a pain in the ass.
The way to look at this is not, "oh God, she isn't in my life anymore, wah wah wah," but, "what have I learned from this? What went wrong and what went right? What were my strengths and weaknesses in the relationship? What have I learned about women so far in my life when I look at my previous relationships?"
Also, keep in mind that, upon reflection, the sensibilities of the people involved in a relationship turn out to be too different, even with the best of intentions, to make it possible for the relationship to succeed.
Try to be dispassionate about this. Too many people react non-constructively because their egos are bruised and that inhibits their ability to reflect judiciously on things. Disconnect the emotion from it and then use what you have learned in your next relationship.
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time. it sucks, but its about the only thing that can get the broad out of your head.
-Gunner
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