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Am i fat??
Hi all, I just wanted to know somthing about my weight... I'm 13 5'3 and 126 lbs. I think I'm overweight. Yes, I do have a bf and he picks me up all the time, but I'm just barely off the ground.... like mabeye an inch?? Anyway I have huge thighs, both of my sisters are smaller than me and they call me thunder thighs. My gut isn't that big, and my boobs are a size B. But I that pink skin around my nipple is really big and covers the whole tip of my boob. So when he does pick me up I can see the look on his face that he is sorta struggling. Ok, there is more like a few questions about everything in here so bare with me. Every day at lunch he sits with this one whore who flirts with him all the time. She once kissed him on the cheek and said she was smelling his cologne. She keeps telling me that she will never flirt with him because she knows we are dating but she is a whore!! I keep telling him I'm ok with it but I'm not.. I love him and we kiss all the time. So today she kissed him on the lips and he kissed back. They say that they always pretend to be sister and brother but i am sooo mad at her!! What can I do to make her stop and not seem overprotective?? P.s. everyone always says he treats my like shit and I think so to. everytime he sit with her they always tell him to sit by me cuz we are dating bu he ignores them so what can i do? Sorry it was soo long... please help with all my questions!! Thanks!!!
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You like him because he is in demand and your feeling of competitiveness with other women is keeping you in the relationship.
Also, by treating you like crap the guy shows he is not a pussy and that also turns you on. The person least emotionally invested in the relationship has all the control in it.
The thing is you have to determine where your boundaries are and be firm about setting them, So next time you see your BF tell him the next time he shows that kind of affection you will dump him. You better be prepared to follow through with that threat, too, or you will look like a total lamer. Also keep in mind that anybody's chances of marrying their junior high school sweetheart is about the same as winning the lottery: about nil. Once you leave him other guys will get in line to get with you.
Your weight is fine, Just eat right (low fat diet, about 2000 calories a day with at least an hour of vigorous exercise a day) and you'll be fine. You will fill out as you grow up and some of that puppy fat will be redistributed in a way that will be even more appealing to guys by the time you graduate high school. Don't worry about your thighs. They aren't finished vertically growing yet. Just keep them toned by regu8lar running, long walks, bicycling or swimming and you are good to go. Some guys like thick thighs anyway.
As for the coloration issue on your breasts, don't worry about that, either. First, no guy ever broke up with a girl due to the tint of her aureolae or nipples. So you can write that issue off right now. Plus your breasts aren't finished filling out, either.
Finally, women are built through evolution to have some fat on them. That is what makes them soft and so huggable. Nobody wants to hug a girl who is so skinny that she is basically like a skeleton in a shroud. Believe me, your boyfriend gets hard everytime he embraces you because it feels so good. So relax.
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First things first. Depending on your frame size you are right were you should be or possible closer to being underweight. I checked on a body height to weight chart. As far as having heavy thighs; you are 13 and from your description of yourself somewhere into puberty. Your body is still changing. You did not say if your sisters are older than you, if they are then their bodies have changed more than yours and they have lost most if not all of their baby fat.
One other thing to consider is athletics. If you are in to athletics that require great leg strength, your thighs are going to be bigger than most as muscle is both bigger and heavier than fat. Everyone's thighs have fat tissue.
I don't understand what you are trying to say with this line; "my boobs are a size B. But I that pink skin around my nipple is really big and covers the whole tip of my boob." If your trying to say you don't like that or guys may not like it; relax, you are still going through puberty and your body is still changing.
Last but not least. YOU ARE NOT FAT. Fat is a word that is self defeating, derogatory and insulting. If you could delete it from you're vocabulary you should. Use of that word only destroys your self image and those that you use it on in a descriptive manner.
There are things you can do to help your body shape itself as you go through the changes of puberty. Talk to your physical Education teacher about different exercises you can do to tone up different muscle groups. Just remember muscle weighs more than fat. But this is good weight not bad weight.
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ok so you went from being fat.. to issues with your boyfriend. lol.
As for being fat- don't use that word. Shame on you. That word can really hurt people, same as retarded. I would have to see you in order to say if you are overweight or not. But honestly, I think you're just overreacting.. You're 126 pounds and 5'3".. I'm 5' 7" and 135 pounds. So i think you're okay. You're only 13 too... so you probably still have some baby fat on you. Its okay. Accept who you are. If you cant, then work hard to get rid of it. Eat healthy, make sure you get enough exercise. Join a sport. Embrace your features and don't let anyone put you down. I have a mole on my upper lip. When I was about your age I thought it was disgusting and thought I was super ugly. I even considered surgery to get it removed. People made fun of me and said nobody will ever kiss me because of it. But guess what? a year later, a guy kissed me. I proved all of them wrong. I realized that its just a silly mole. Who honestly cares??? People have more important things to freak out about, than my mole. I could care less. If people wanted to make fun of me because of my mole, well then that just proves they have no lives. They feel better about themselves when they put other people (like me) down. And you know what? those people get no where in life. They turn out to be failures in life because instead of worrying about themselves, they make fun of other people. So instead of listening to the rude comments, I laughed at their faces and embraced my mole. I kept telling myself that it was a beauty mark, which is unique. I felt special because not many people have moles on their upper lip. Soon enough, I was walking with my shoulders back, chest out, nose up, with pride. I love myself :) i'm not going to let some sissy little kid make me feel bad about myself and change who I am. That is insane. If someone came up to you and said- I dont like your face. Would you go and cut your face and completely change it??? NO. Because this is who you are. If they dont like your face, they can turn the other way and walk away. But theres no way you should change yourself just to please other people. If they dont like you, tell them to f*** off and find someone they DO like. instead of being immature little kids complaining.
as for your boyfriend issue... you're still young and you're still understanding the concept of a boyfriend. Here's a huge tip that will help you in life- If your boyfriend is treating you unfairly, DUMP HIM. Trust me this will be so much help for you in the future. I've had friends with boyfriends who treated them so badly, but they kept on staying together because she said "oh he might change"... nope. He kept on treating her badly. He apologized once in a while and put on an innocent "i love you" face... but then behind her back would treat her horribly. YOU DO NOT DESERVE THAT. Honey, take my advice and leave him. I'm 18 and have way more experience than you. I know lots of people who didnt dump him, but regret it. They said they wished they had dumped him because they were always so unhappy. They felt like their whole childhood was horrible, because they were unhappy. They said they wish they could go back in time and change it and dump him so they could be happier without him.
If he goes around kissing this girl right in front of you... thats not okay. STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. In front of him AND her, bitch them out and say "you know what? i'm done with you and done with this crap. You 2 can makeout and have a good life together, because i dont want to be a part of it. goodbye" and then walk away with pride. I would rather do something risky but walk away with pride and courage, than to sit there and do nothing and feel like a coward. Stand up for yourself. you dont deserve it.
good luck and inbox me if you have more questions :)
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okay ya. thats bad. obviously he dosnt care about you if hes doing that.. so just be like to him: "You know your not exactly a good boyfriend and your not exactly treating me well so im breaking up with you and im going to go find a guy who totally respects me." And just leave cause hes not worth your time. i promise you, it is the best advice you are going to get on this thing.
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