last night i was in my room after school and I started to masterbate. I don't masturbate too often so I guess I didn't think about locking my door. Well, my mom walked in on me! She left pretty quickly but I don't want to just leave it at that. At dinner she was pretty quiet and didn't seem too happy. I know I should say something to her, right? What do I say? Or do I just let this blow over?
NO. SAY NOTHING. let it be the elephant in the room all it wants. never acknowledge it. NEVER!
it will go away, or scar your mom for the rest of her life. either way, you win, in the form of guaranteed privacy from now on.
-Gunner
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I am a slut. I will admit it. I've had sex with about 20 or so boys from my high school and I don't even know how many I've given head to. I'd had sex in the bathrooms, in the janitor's closet, and behind the school. I've skipped class to do this too. I'm really ashamed of myself and the way I dress on a day to day basis. I feel like I'm growing up and I don't want to be that type of person any more. None of the guys at school have respect for me. The girls hate me because I've slept with a lot of their boyfriends. Basically I can't get a good boyfriend who is really interested in ME because he knows we will have sex and I can't have a best friend because the girls think I'm going to steal their boyfriends or something (I don't blame them though...A LOT of guys have cheated on their girlfriends with me).
I am completely unhappy with myself and I don't know what I was thinking when I did those things. I guess I just wanted some attention because my parents are working alllll the time and I don't feel very loved or that I'm special. ANYWAY, how can I stop being such a slut? I hate it about me...I want to stop...but I just keep...screwing up, for lack of better words. Help, please? It's like, I keep thinking things like, "Yeah, maybe this guy might REALLY be into me! I need to push this forward..." but I KNOW he isn't...ugh...I feel stupid...
let's see, what is the easiest fix-it to this problem? run off to a convent.
OR.... you could nip this problem in the bud by being hard to get. guys love the challenge, and if you keep using your body to get their affection, you'll keep losing. well now, look at it this way: the average young male is interested in one thing; sex. to which we will refer to as the "Main course". your resturaunt has only one serving, that being the main course of the meal. put in some appetizers, like dating, movies, phone conversations, cuddling, sharing dreams and aspirations.... the list goes on. The french believe in an excrutiatingly long lunch, several hours of bread, cheese sampling, wine, casual conversation, etc.. followed...ever so slowly... by the main course, which was well worth the wait. then the day turns to festive lovemaking for the rest of the afternoon, followed by a light dinner, then sleep. you can use this model in order to pace your relationship. so instead of just feeding the bloke and having him leave soon after, you should use patience. it is a virtue. like pie. pie is definitely a virtue.
-Gunner
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How do you tell a guy that you don't like him? I want to tell this guy that I'm not interested in him but I don't want to be mean about it. He's just not my type and I don't know what to say to let him know that he needs to stop pursuing me. How do you tell a guy you don't like him and you're just not interested?
shoot him in the face. sorry, gut reaction, but thats what I do when I don't like someone. particularly if they're brown.
anywho.... a straightforward statement of "you're not my type" is worth a thousand subliminal messages. offer to find a girl for him... play the sacred role of the yenta... and if you don't know who or what a "yenta" is, watch "fiddler on the roof"....it will explain everything. including how to properly deal with your present situation.
-Gunner
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My sister is 18 years old. I'm 22 years old and recently moved back with my family after college.
She is ruining our lives. We live in a small apartment (It's me, her, my mom, and my brother). Everyday she creates a mess. There are clothes everywhere. She saves trash for some odd reason, which has caused a rat to come inside. I went into our closet and found rat poo everywhere because she had saved old food in there. She was supposed to go to college, but she lied about getting a scholarship there. They wanted us to pay $5,000, which we couldn't afford because we didn't know. We really want her to leave. I'm doubtful she will go to college. She steals stuff from me and my mother. I have things my friends gave me that she destroyed. She totally destroyed an expensive Chanel bag someone gave her. My grandmother passed away and left us a blanket she made, she destroyed that.
The biggest problem is she doesn't realize what she is doing wrong. She thinks she is doing nothing wrong. She gets mad and me and my mother, if we throw her trash away. She really makes everyone in out home mad. She constantly starts fights. We are perfectly happy when she is not home.
We don't know what to do. She won't leave, we can't force her to live on the street. People think she's nice, but they don't realize how much she has ruined our life.
Throw her out on the street, sounds like she'd actually enjoy it. sorry, gut decision...give her an ultimatum, find a place to live in thirty days. if she doesn't comply, throw her shit out on the curb, and change the locks. people like this only understand force. or better yet, charge her rent....an exorbitant amount, to the point where she'll find an apartment without your urging, lock the fridge if she doesn't pay for her share of food. Any person that deliberately attracts rats deserves to live with them, and not in my house. but thats just my opinion.
oh, and might I suggest putting deadbolts on the doors to every room. Isolate her, make her pay five bucks to use the bathroom, and most important of all, make sure she can't get into your stuff and destroy it further. and if she gets pissy about it, just remain completely calm, and tell her she's welcome to leave at any time.
good luck getting rid of this pest.
-Gunner
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Can you gt charged for egging someone's house?
Someone FINALLY talked to us about who egged our house 3 months ago and I'm dissapointed that they didn't tell me sooner but at least I know.
I'm sure the police can't do anything now but I just want to know.
depends on the state, and whether you're caught in the act. I caught some dudes egging my house back in 2003, and the cops couldn't do a damn thing about it. some places would call it vandalism... but my town in florida just didn't give a fuck. you could shoot them for trespassing, as long as they're on your property. thats really it... it'd be a misdemeanor at most if the cops caught their asses red-handed.
-Gunner
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ok so im almost 14/m and i am in pretty good shape, cuz iv been workin out for a year. i have big arms for my age, muscular, and a pretty good body. on the bus today, this 7th grder, whos small but pretty strong for his age, as always messes with me. he was slapping me and i was just like " dude stop"tryin to block it. one of my frans said, dude hit him back, and i was like no man . eventually he stopped. i overheard my friend telling other ppl on the bus, thatim strong, i just dont know howto fight. help?
its simple. ball your hand into a fist, hold your arm out with your fist in line with your shoulder, retract, and extend with full force while throwing your body weight into it(while keeping your fist in line with your shoulder and your wrist straight). aim for the following targets: soalr plexus(spot just under your ribs), face(jaw in particular), and joints. fighting is not about being fair, its about doing maximum violence to a target to achieve the required behavior from the target. do not aim for the neck...you'll kill him if you land a punch on his throat. find a book on pressure points, its basically a how-to on beating the hell out of somebody. brazilian jujitsu is pretty fun if you're taking on one opponent... but I'm a big fan of bringing wrenches to fights.
now as to why you're fighting...I don't care. just whoop that ass if you feel a need to... and don't be afraid to pull out a taser or some other weapon, as long as you stop fucking him up after he hits the ground, you're good.
-Gunner
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glow plug light on my ford mondeo flashing ,then get loss of power
diesel engine glow plugs are finicky if you haven't been giving them enough time when you start up the car. IE turn key, wait for glow plug light to turn off, then start. if you haven't been doing this, your glowplugs are probably messed up......now when are you getting the power loss? thats needed info. if its when you're starting the bloke, then you need new glowplugs. try force starting the thing, either jump it off another car, or just get a bunch of friends to push it and pop the clutch(if you have a manual). I had the same problem with my Humvee a few years back, we just switched out the glowplugs and she started up fine.
if this is your first diesel, try to baby it a little more than you would a gas engine... they're real problem children if you don't. In addition, if it turns over but won't start, get some friends, a board, and some Ether(labeled as starting fluid, comes in a spray can). have one person cover the tailpipe with the board, another start cranking the engine, while you spray a little bit of the starter fluid into the engine's air filter or intake. don't do this too much, if you do, the car will become an ether junkie, and will be impossible to start without it. Have fun with that thing, I got mine up to 260KPH on the autobahn last year.......that thing has a good god damn engine.
-Gunner
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hey guys.
im kelly and i recently turned 17. im homeschooled right now becuase i had some problems at my old shool back in jr high so my parents decided to home school me. anyway i wanna go 2 college like a public one or private one and i heard that we need to write essays. can you guys give me some topics on what essays i can write about? and how i can start it? id appreciate it so much. tanks God bless, kelly
in addition to the last, the structure matters as much as your topic. the way you convey your opinion could determine the success of your paper. you could write about the importance of feeding laboradors with blue colored dog dishes, and as you do so eloquently, you're golden.
-Gunner
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i dont know what muscle this is called so i cant search how to fix it but it is really sore, i went on a walk n tried to do stretches but nothing helped. standing it would be the back of my knee and above it, on the back though. what are some stretches or things i can do, im in training and have to be better by tomarrow, and i cant tell the instructors or they will have me sit out.
thats called a hamstring. while standing, try and touch your toes with your hands. hold for fifteen seconds, relax, and repeat. also, try going into a sauna. heat relaxes the muscles, I do it after every workout.
-Gunner
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How bad is it if you poop blood? Seriously, like do I need to go to the emergency room? Should I call 911?
you should definitely talk to a doctor, its probably a ruptured internal hemmrhoid. not life threatening, but will most likely require some form of surgery or rectoscopy.
-Gunner
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Okay well every time I take a shower wash my hair some of my hair falls out? Not a lot but like my ends..it's really annoying. I use herbal essence shampoo and conditioner in one. Even when I brush my hair when it's dry I have the same problem and it's really getting to me!
your hair naturally falls out. its being pushed out by new hair. mammals shed hair on a regular basis, why do you think cats and dogs constantly leave massive dust bunnies everywhere?
-Gunner
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im 18yo and my penis is about 5 3/4 inches and about 4 inces in girth, is that enough to please a girl?
An M-14 Battle Rifle is the weapon of choice for troops who face off against the Taliban in Afghanistan. it is accurate to Sub MOA, devastating kinetic energy retained out to five hundred yards, with confirmed kills out to as far as 1400 meters. its easy on maintenance, and just the right weight balance. But its nothing if the guy behind this epic weapon is a toolbag idiot. same for you. if you know how to use a tool, you will have success. if you don't.....
-Gunner
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My dad left about 2 years ago. I am in serious financial trouble becasue I am a full time student and part time worker. I have tuition to pay fro and am 20yrs old. My dad and i don't speak very much but he asked me not to file any claims and he would "try" to send me money. he has send me MAYBE a total of 400 dollars since April. How do i file a claim against him. I need money and he should help me...what do i do???
last time I checked, you're an adult. he has no obligation to support you. there's this new thing called "working your way through college". try it out.
-Gunner
well now, maybe you should add that little tidbit of info the next time you ask a question...then you won't sound like a jackass. twenty fuckin grand? how in hell did that happen? if you or your mom co-signed on a loan for him....you're screwed. he can walk away from it and you're stuck. be specific on this, and people might be able to help you, instead of getting pissed off when you give them a poor rating for lack of bloody pertinent information. Have a great god damn weekend.
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okay so im 14 and my boyfriend wants to kiss me..the thing is i never kissed anyone before and im really nervous and i dont wanna screw it up or do it wrong. please helpp :)
who cares if you suck at kissing? I bet your boyfriend won't care if you're sloppy at first, he's fourteen. anything involving kissing will probably make his day. Hell, I bet he'd shoot right out of a chair if you started talking about it. its called learning, if it feels good, do it! Now go and start learning. stop reading this and get to it. seriously. now!
-Gunner
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I recently discovered, at the doctors office oddly enough, that a finger in the butt excites me. A lot. Does this mean I have repressed homosexual feelings or does it just mean I like wierd stuff?
I agree, as long as you don't start looking at gay porn, you're straight. I'm not one for ass-play, but there's plenty of dudes that are into it that aren't into the penis. just remember to use an enema before you have your girlfriend play doctor with you.
-Gunner
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i feel very suicidal. i want to end my life. everything i do is wrong, no one in my family loves me they all putt me down either im stupid or ugly or everything is wrong with me. i cant do anything right what is there for me to live for
the key word missing in many of your sentences is "seems". you're doing something right, its just so mundane to you that you don't notice it.
on to the advice- find something worth living for, an objective. And fight through all the bullshit to acheive this objective. Hell, even if its something like joining the military to die in a glorious hail of PKM fire with RPGs slamming in all around you. Hell, that was part of the reason I joined up. I saw where the world was heading, and I was determined to go down fighting instead of sitting around waiting for the inevitable. and look what happened, I fought through a rain of hot steel...and survived somehow. so I'm going back into the warzone to give those bastards one last shot at doing the job. If I survive that round, its college, then sailing around the world on a boat. always remember a follow through if you succeed.
But if you do decide to end it, remember to lay down some tarps or plastic so your family won't have to clean up the mess. at least be considerate about it.
Good luck with your decision, and I hope you decide to stay around for the rest of the show.
-Gunner
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17/f
My boyfriend broke up with me and I am having trouble figuring out why. I met Jake when I was lifeguarding a little over a month ago and he hit on me and was like "hey beautiful" and was completely smitten (like really...haha the other guards were teasing him about it) and told the other guards he felt this connection with me, etc. He even asked me to marry him that day. He asked me out and just two weeks later we became boyfriend and girlfriend. He always told me that he could see me being his girlfriend for awhile, would text me everyday, and just was an overall really great boyfriend.
He has had A LOT of girlfriends/hook ups while I have never had a boyfriend before and only kissed two guys before him. We are really different in the sense that I'm really conscious about my grades (i have a 4.0) he barely has a 3.0, he is a "hardcore" kid or whatever and goes to hardcore shows while i'm really "preppy" or whatever. we also go to different schools and live about 20 minutes away from each other.
i brought this up the day he went out, i told him i'm not into drugs and he told me he isn't either anymore, that he used to be a bad kid but he has changed. he told me he still does smoke but only two cigarettes a day, and that i would be his incentive for him to stop. i also brought up the distance and he kept insisting it's not that far away.
everything seemed to be going pretty okay, but we only got to see each other once a week since he is a senior and his parents wanted him to get his gpa up so i could only see him on weekends. what we would basically do is watch a movie/talk/makeout. before we did anything he told me that he liked me a lot and wanted to take things slow. he also told me whenever he was kissing me that i could say "get the fuck off of me jake" and that i didnt even have to kiss him if i didnt want to and that he just liked spending time with me. he would say so many romantic things when we were kissing like "i could do this all day" one day he started to finger me and he asked if it made me uncomfortable and if it did that i could just tell him to stop.
last week i met his sister and best friend. when i asked him what they thought of me he said his sister loved me and that was the very first time his sister had like any of his girlfriends, and he said his best friend said i was "tight". for some weird reason after that day he seemed less interested in me. he didnt text me the day after and when he did text me he was really short with his answers. when i asked if something was wrong he said "no why???" i said "okay nvm" and then he seemed suddenly worried and asked "no. what's up babe?" saturday was our one month and i hung out with him on friday night, he asked me if i wanted to go out to eat and that he wanted to take me out/pay for me but when i got there it didnt seem like he wanted to so i just told him i wasnt that hungry and we just went in his basement and watched a movie/made out. he then asked me since it was like our one month if i wanted to try anything, and i said sure...he could do what he wanted but if it made me uncomfortable i would tell him to stop. he started to go under my shirt/feel my chest and i told him "i'm not ready!" and he seemed disappointed but he stopped. then he unbuttoned my pants and started to finger me on top of my underwear and asked me if i was sure i didn't want him to go under (hes always done it on top of my underwear) and i said i'm sure. then later we were making out and he put my hand on his crotch and i started rubbing it. i asked him if it felt good and he said yeah but just do it a little harder next time. then later he asked me if i wanted him to pull down his pants so i could give him a better handjob but just on top of his boxers so i said okay and i think i did a better job and i told him "i don't know what i'm doing...i havnt done this before" and i asked him if it felt good and he said yeah and i'm pretty sure he was hard too so i could tell.
when we were just cuddling and watching the movie i kept asking him about his sexual experiences and for some reason it seems to have bothered him. i asked him if he remembered his first blowjob...if he has hooked up with a lot of girls...if they were from his school...if they were spontaneous hookups...if it was true that he hooked up with this girl in the guard office closet. before i left he kissed me and i was about to leave and i asked him "you liked everything? like it felt good?" and he was like "yeah! we'll talk about this later though you'll freeze." (it was raining/cold outside)
the next day he broke up with me in a text saying that i didnt seem comfortable with his lifestyle at all...but that i was an amazing girl and that i was gonna make a guy really happy and all of this bs. i was really angry and called him and he kept saying "you didn't seem comfortable about my past...plus we are too far away and only get to see each other once a week (something i reminded him the day he asked me out and he said he didnt care) and said i don't seem comfortable with his drinking (something said i didnt mind unless he drove) and said its hard for him to have a girlfriend because he needs to get his grades up and focus on college. i said i could come over more if he wants and could help him study, etc. but he wasnt even trying to make it work and just seemed set on breaking up with me. i asked if the questions i asked last night had anything to do with him breaking up with me and he said sort of.
so i'm basically asking...why did he break up with me? do guys hate it when girls ask about their past? he was COMPLETELY head over heels for me before...i cannot stress this enough. (his friend/the other gaurds would tell me this and would tell me how cool it was that people could see that we were in a relationship together on facebook) was it possible that his friend didn't like me anymore and was just lying when he said that he thought i was cool? i asked him if there was another girl and he said no...i asked him if he didnt think i was pretty anymore and he kind of scoffed and said that wasn't it at all and that he told me from the start that he thought i was beautiful. was i being too nosy asking all of those questions? or did he break up with me because he thought i gave a bad hand job/thought i was a bad kisser/thought i was too inexperienced? i also asked him if he wanted to be friends with benefits and he said he doesnt do that and kept mentioning "pressure" or something when he was with me...he also says that he felt that we went out so quickly and that he wishes we got to know each other better before we became boyfriend and girlfriend. the breakup seemed random when he seemed into me the night before/we went farther than we have ever gone before. he seemed so set on having a long serious relationship with me. what is the deal?
by the way, saturday he went to a hardcore show or whatever and a girl gave him a blow job im pretty sure. they are talking and im pretty sure going to be hooking up. i feel so hurt that he went from me to this slut.
interesting. He could have gotten rid of you for a million reasons. all of the ones you gave are definitely in the top 20. now try remembering, who brought up the whole "past" issue? if it was you, then the chances of it being that are pretty good, because dudes don't say "I don't want to talk about it" very often. hell, I've gone into excruciating detail about picking up dead kid parts after a suicide bombing when one of my friends asked about the war....she didn't like that too much. anywho... to another point: his womenfolk were either very pleased with you, or they hated you. depending on his relationship with them, either could be good or bad, ie: he hates his sister, and she approves of you(thats a NO-GO for this station). The sexual thing, I wouldn't put that on the top of the list, especially judging by his past behavior. Now as far as this different "clique" shit goes, shit like that matters in high school, but "hot girlfriend" trumps that card.
Mira("look" sounds so much cooler in spanish)-
searching for flaws in yourself solves nothing. maybe he just saw that it wasn't going to work out. point being, take it as a learning experience, not everybody can make shit over long distances work. look at me, my girlfriend married a dude while I was over in afghanistan. so fuck it, his loss, time to go back out and find some other dude.
have fun.
-Gunner
whoa, hold on a sec. you can ask, its just that theres a fine line between being curious, making small talk, and being just plain nosy. take into consideration your environment, and the conversation. you don't want to go from talking about sports to talking about a person's sex life...thats kind of drastic. plus, your reaction to whatever he says is telling him whether you approve of such behavior. even if you try to mask an "iewwwww" facial expression, enough will still show that he can see you're not into "BDSM" or whatever.
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Okay, I'm 17/f and I am for abstinence until I think I'm ready and I know I'm not ready to have sex. But why do all the guys I have dated or date always talk about sex and having it. It makes me really uncomfortable, it seems like they're trying to pressure me into something I don't want. Like, I won't fall for it, but it just irritates me that they still tell me about they're sex life and stuff. Does it mean they want me just for sex? Or are they just talking about it because they're guys?
its the number one thing on our minds. sorry, dudes are like anti-radar missiles, simple programming with a lot of cool features and abilities. besides, at that age, its new and wonderful. just wait a few years, and they'll be more apt to talk about more sophisticated topics, like sports.
-Gunner
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My boyfriend and i have been going out for a year now, but he always and rarely says the right things. You know, i'm 17 and hes 18 and you know how girls like to hear cute stuff. He has never really said cute things except "Laura i never knew i could love a girl as much as i love you
get your head out of your romance novels and pay attention. some guys have a natural talent for flattery, and they'll burn in hell for it later on, but thats a different topic. Flattery is apparently not his style. deal with it. most dudes have a word usage of approximately 700 per day. this statistic gives you an idea of how much we like to talk about shit. He sounds like a great guy. now, are you going to keep him, and deal with the fact that, hey, he just says all those nice things in fewer words. OR you could get rid of him in favor of one of these silken tongued weenies, and have a lesser man in every other regard. OR you could go back into the world you just dropped out of where every guy is "edward cullen". There is no such thing as "saying the right things". that shit's a fantasy. Be happy with what you have.
-Gunner
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kaaay so this is prolly gonna sound retarded, but lately I've been seeing this one kid EVERYWHERE. Like literally, almost daily - and every time the thought 'I wonder if I'll see that kid today' enters my head, it happens like immediately afterwards it seems. I see him at parties, uptown, at restaurants, when I'm working (he comes through, but it's Mcdonalds, everyone comes through haha) at the movies (sat right behind me), like everywhere, to the point where I can't imagine he hasn't noticed it too. Andd today I opened up the newspaper and NO SHIT his name was in the first article I turned to. It's not like it's a crazy unique name but still. (i won't say his name on here for obvious reasons, but yea)
so anyways. I dunno. I know it sounds silly or like I'm obsessing for no reason, but the superstitious side of me keeps thinkin that the universe is like directing me towards him :P anyone else every feel that way? Am I craazy?
things like that happen... like how one of my buddies randomly dodged an RPG like he was Neo from the matrix, then he saved a whole track crew from getting killed a week later. the dude might be stalking you, but I doubt it. talk to him. it might be one of those "meant to be" things.
-Gunner
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