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do you think, when your asking someone out, is timeing everything? Or, if timing is everything, do they really care about you as much as you want them to care about you?

You mean when you should do it? I think that's what you mean. I would do it when you're alone with him. Make sure there's no one else around, then ask him. Only you can answer the second question. Do you think he cares about you? I think you do, because you're asking him out! Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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ok i have dark circles uner my eyes... i get a enough sleep but i still have them... ive tried concealer and foundation n crap but it gets so annoying because it comes off throughout the day and i hate reapplying... anyone know any way to get rid of dark circles for long periods of time? i rate high =)

Dark circles? I can help you! Ok, first, use your ring finger (it has the lightest touch) to put cream concealor on the dark circles only. Then use shimmery white eyeliner on your bottom lashes and blend it (so there's not an obvious line). Curl your lashes with an eyelash curler (obviously, lol). Apply mascara to your top lashes only. This helps the eyes to look more open. Good luck, hope this helped!
~*Erin*~

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Sorry this is long, but i rate high :)

I have liked this one guy for nearly a year. We used to date over the summer, but then some stuff got messed up and we broke up. Well he managed to get over me but i never got over him. Recently he and I have gotten really close (somewhat) and we talk all the time. He has been throwing hints he likes me. And apparently he told a friend of mine he likes me. Well, on thursday he and 2 of my other friends (one guy on girl) went to hang out at his house. They got bored and found an unfinished house. Well, the guy i like and my really good friend (who knew i was head over heals for him) went into the house and made out...Yesterday we went to a new years party and the girl told another one of my friends about it. Who in turn told me. Now my friend (the girl) likes him and asumes he likes her as well. Both of the people who made out have yet to confront me about it. Im so devistated right now and i feel like having a break down...Please tell me what to do because im so frustrated...Thanks.

(Please please please dont delete this!)

Wow, guys are so stupid. Try talking to him about whether it's face to face, IM, email, or a note. Also, your really good friend made out with him when she knew you liked him? How rude! Haha, I don't know, try making better friends, because I don't think friends should do that to each other. Maybe try talking to them about it if you still like them. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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okay, my dentist said i might need to get a "screw-in" tooth, im only 14, and I have no idea what he was talking about, has anyone ever got one, or known anyone who got one? Did it hurt? What happened. THANKS

I've never had one, but I think someone asked this question a while back ago. I think it was a screw-in tooth, but I'm not sure. If that was what they asked, I remember people saying it hurt, and to take painkillers before and after, but I'm not sure. Sorry I couldn't help much! Good luck, hope it don't hurt too bad!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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Hey, can anyone tell me where you can get already made icons, like the pictures on Advicenators?? THANKS

Try www.iconator.com. They have some awesome icons! Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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in about a month my family and i are driving to florida from ny. there are 6 of us and we drive an expedition. im afraid that my 3 annoying brothers (11,7, and 4) are going to make this trip hell..what are some ways i can prevent this from happening? Also..for anyone whos stayed at a disney resort..whats your favorite one and why? We love the Carribean Beach resort but in case we go somewhere else what do you suggest?
Thanks

I've never been to Disney, so I don't know. But as for the cartrip, I have 2 older, really ANNOYING brothers (19 and 22), so I know what you mean. Try asking your dad if you can rent an RV, so you'll have more space. If he says no, what you can do is when they're being annoying or even when they're not, try playing games with them and just be really nice to them, so they have no reason to be annoying. Or another thing you could do, is make a deal with them. If they aren't annoying at all during the trip, you'll buy them something at Disney, or just something like that. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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I have this friend named Heidi, and shes a really fun girl to hang out with. I know she has a rough time at home because her brother and her are really close and when he does pot and crap she gets super mad and cries really bad because he soon before stopped. Her sister also drinks and she has to babysit for her 1 year old neice (sisters baby). By the way the sister is not married. Or w/ the boyfriend w/ the baby anymore. Um, yeah, anyways, i thought that backround info might help, but, she is such an energized person at school and to hang out with. very fun to hang out with. but sometiems most of the time she can be snotty. its her personality. she will be like your a bitch! and stuff as a 'joke' and she knows ALL the swear words possible.. cock sucker pussy licker, bitch, hoe, skank, etc. yeah, so shes realy good at comebacks. anyways, yeah, im the kind of person thats sorta dumb and stuff like slow on things, they call me a total dumb blonde and the most blonde i have is highlights bcuz im a brunette. anyways, yeah, she'll be like ERIN SUCKS shout that when i bowl like the other day, and then she'll randomly hit me and stuff like punch me and then she started hitting me HARD and it hurt im like what r u doing she goes IM BORED im like ummm ok... and the whoel time she was walking around in her tightest jeans and tighest shirt and she has a big butt big boobs shes pretty kinda and idk, she was walking around like she was the king of the world, queen i mean, and she was stickingher chest out and crap. it just annoys me so bad. and she'll make fun of me as a quote joke unquote and shell laff and im like no.... not funny that hurt. but i cant confront her w/ all the stuff she does because this other girl that did she got totally ditched by her and isnt friends w/ her. im in the popular crowd and part of me doesnt want to lose being in there because u know everyone wants to be in it. im in 8th grade by the way, and im sick of her pushing me around. i mean by "ignoring" herpunching me and crap, part of it is just letting her do it and push me aroudn more. idk. my screen name is takemeaway032 on aim. ill give you more info ifyou would like. thanks os muhc, please give advice!!!!! :-\

When she's in one of her cool to hang out with moods, you need to sit her down and tell her that what she's doing is wrong and it's upsetting you. Tell her that it really hurts when she punches you and stuff. I think I know the reason why she's doing this. Some people, when they're in tough times, tend to want to want to hurt others, so they're not the only ones hurting. And they try to act like they're the best so they can feel better. Tell her you still want to be her friend, and you're going to help her through this, but to please stop making fun of you and hitting you, because it really upsets you. Maybe even suggest she sees a counseler or just talk to someone like a parent or relative. Good luck, hope everything works out!
~*Erin*~

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I always look at myself and see how not pretty I am. I hate it. Then I look around at all my friends..why do they get to be automatically pretty? No makeup for some--but still not ugly. I have kind of chubby cheeks but not huge. I have dark blonde, almost brown-ish straight hair a little past my shoulders. I'm sort of tan, but not much. My eyes are hazel, mostly green. If I go out or to school, I wear eyeliner and that's it. I also have a little bit of a belly. I really think I'm not pretty. I've never had a boyfriend, and maybe that's why? Any ideas for makeup that's not too drastic, that will make my face look better? If you have ANYTHING..please tell me.

Aw, hun, don't feel that way. YOU'RE NOT UGLY!!! I know everyone says that, but God created you, and he doesn't create ugly things, lol! Except for bugs, haha. But if it'll make you feel better, try black mascara, different colors of eyeshadow that you like, a nice shade of lip gloss or lipstick, and cover-up. For your stomach, try crunches, situps, and pushups. Do about 20-30 of them at night and you'll see results in about 2-3 weeks. As for the bf thing, guys these days are really immature and don't know how to see someone from the inside. But don't worry, you'll find that someone! Good luck!
P.S. Boyfriends suck anyway. I'm single and proud!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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all of a sudden i got this horrible pain right below my boobs, like and when i breath deeply it hurts even more, i've eaten like 3 cookies since i woke up. do u think its that? and what do u think it is. thanks \

Well, sometimes that happens to me. I'm not sure why it happens, but it might be the cookies. Try drinking some water. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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hey i rated u a 5 i am the person wit the frizzy haired one wit the girl me and my friends are fighting wit thanks for the advice and takin our side she is spreadin rumors and got us in trouble wit the princle and said moeisa punched her and she pushed my 2 good friends into locks i just wanted to thank u

Hey, no problem! Glad I helped!
~*Erin*~

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Just so you know, I extremely dislike you. Not only did you take my advice, and use it as yours, You like picking on people, for no reason. And that is pathetic. Okay well um BYE

-AMY (naimee)

Lol. Ok.

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I'm inviting 4 of my best friends over for a small group gathering party. We're going to the movies, which'll take up like 4 hours.. But do you guys have anymore ideas.. Thanks XO

Try maybe going out to eat before or after the movies for lunch or dinner. And then have them all sleepover that night. Good luck!
Happy New Year!
♥ Erin

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i just met this boy and hes 18 and hes wicked gorgeous and nice and he let me borrow his cd and im gona be burning cds for him and possibly chillen with him sometime..but the thing is i like him, alot and i cant get him off my mind..but he has a girlfriend. and i dont wanna do anything with him even though i was gonna make a move on him the 1st time i met him..but then i thought, if i was his g.f and another girl macked up on my boy..and i found out, how i would be hurten so i didnt do anything..but i just cant forget about him aand how i didnt do anything to show him how i feel..yeah i told him but idk..do you think i did the right thing by controling my urges and just tlken to him?

Yes! Your heart was definitely in the right place when you thought about how his gf would've felt if she knew about it. Just keeping resisting the urge, and when/if he breaks up with her, then you can make a move, but right now, just let it go. Good luck!
Happy New Year!
♥ Erin

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I just moved back to my hometown, and I've seen all my old friends. One in particular, my "best" friend as she said, thinks that we're still "best" friends. She said to me before.." get on with your life...", and " you dont like rap". It seems like shes trying to mold me into the "perfect" best friend. I love any kinds of music. How can I stop her from controlling me? And to tell her we aren't friends anymore?? 15 F same as her.

Just tell her. Try writing a note, IM, or email, if you don't want to tell her face to face. No one has the right to control you. Everyone is different and unique and she shouldn't be trying to change you. Good luck!
Happy New Year!
♥ Erin

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i like my boyfriend alot but every time we talk he never seems to wanna talk and he always gets frustrated with me.. so i try not to call him anymore but i really wanan talk to him and then he says that he can never see me.. what should i do??

Just talk to him, and explain how you feel. Ask him why he's doing this. If you're too shy to ask him straight forward, try email, IM, or a note. Good luck!
Happy New Year!
♥ Erin

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My best friend *OK* who means the world to me, got into a fight with her other best friend *ME*, who happens to be just a friend with me. Well *KO* slept over my house last night, and after telling me about the fight I knew she was upset. So I went onto my screenname and cursed out *ME* because what she did was completely wrong. So now *OK* and *ME* made up, but *ME* is still mad at me! I already apologized, what else should I do?

Just give *ME* time. Maybe write her a note and explain to her that what she did was wrong and you were only trying to be a good friend by protecting *OK*. Good luck!
Happy New Year!
♥ Erin

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My friend and I experimented with each other. Were both 13 and are both girls also. We kissed, french kissed, nibbled and felt on each other, but nothing "below the belt." I would just like to know does that mean were lovers if we don't have boyfriends? We never had sex before and we experimented, but not "below the belt." Does that mean were not virgins anymore? Help!!

No, you're still virgins. You only lose your virginity when you have sex with another guy. Don't worry about it. It might mean you're lovers, but only you can decide that. How do you feel about her? You might of just been experimenting, nothing more. Good luck!
Happy New Year!
♥ Erin

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I asked my mom if I could get my belly button pierced and she said yes, but when we were trying to figure out where to go one of her friends said that you can get herpes from it and all this stuff like that and getting infected. So now my mom doesn't want me to anymore cause she doesn't want to be responsible for me getting some really bad infection or something like herpes. what can i do?

Try searching on Google about it, and then print it and show your mom that what your mom's friend is wrong. Good luck!
Happy New Year!
♥ Erin

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ok tomorro night my dad and i are going out for a steak dinner and maybe some shopping. My friend tutored me for free a few times, which was really nice of her. My mom suggested me taking her tomorro.. my dad said he didnt mind even though he did mention he'd rather it be just the two of us. What should i choose to do?

I would go out to dinner with your dad, just the 2 of you. Then maybe a few days later or whenever, do something with your friend or both your friend and your dad. That way you can do both, and still spend time with your dad. Good luck!
Happy New Year!
♥ Erin

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ok me and sally my best friend her boyfriend billy and our good friend cindy got into a fight with tapanga we started a joke bout her have a mop for hair because i mean this girl HAS REALLY FRIZZY HAIR MY GOD but anyway i started a joke called she needs a weedwacker or lawnmower now everyone says it to her (hehe) SHE is a crybaby and got her mom into it so her mom came up to the school she pushed cindy and billy and when her mom asked if she did she was like no and cryed and she is spreading a rumor that our other friend moesia punched she just wants everyone on her side and we no she nos we are right bout everything How do we tell her to BACK OFF stop going to ur mom for everything and that she is a crybaby who needs a weed wacker to comb her hair she thinks she cool but she is not she has no friends and i am not just sayin it i saw her buddy list she has 5 I RATE GOOD

What you could do is tell her straight up how you feel. Tell her she needs to back off and stop running to her mommy everytime she has a little problem. Then what would be really funny would be if you gave her Frizzease hair serum at the same time, like put a little bow on it. Haha..Good luck!
Happy New Year!
♥ Erin

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