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I got my first period 11 days ago.
It stopped on day 5 in the evening. Then in the afternoon of day 6, it started again a little lighter but still. Then that evening it stopped again. It kept starting and stopping right up until this morning, and it still hasn't stopped for good.

I know that a period is supposed to last 4 to 10 days, but is it supposed to start and stop like this? It's my first...

That's perfectly normal. It's your first, so it's bound to be irregular. It generally takes a few years for your period to become regular. Don't worry about it.

school is here. good bye summmer.
but im not sure as to what to wear the first day of school.
so advicenators, what are you wearing the first day of school? (ideas for me haha)

I'm wearing a yellow tank top with little black flowers on it and a vest over it. Then I'm wearing some dark wash skinny jeans and flip flops. Hopefully, it'll be cute :D.

Yeah, yeah a little early for costume shopping but whatever x].
So, I have been batman for the last, I don't know four years? I need a change.
That change is a LLAMA. Sad thing is I can't find a llama costume anywhere. I googled it and found nothing.
I was wandering is anyone knew were I could get a llama costumer or, how to make one?
thaaanks :].

SWEET BABIES I TOTALLY LOVE YOU! My dream is to ride a llama. Unfortunately, llamas back are not strong enough to support humans. However, in my opinion, knowing someone would want to make a llama costume is the next best thing.

Anyway...

This is probably an extremely hard costume to make. First, I'd say you should make a nice pair of llama ears. Do this by covering cardboard, which you should cut into the shape of llama ears, with cotton balls. This will give off a nice fuzzy appearance. You could wear all white, including a fuzzy sweater. You could also try and find a nice sheep costume and wear that with the ears you made. Your call. You'll probably have to explain to people what you are all day long, though, so be prepared for that.

Okay well, i like(d) this guy named chase. and he said he like me but he want's me to change like everything about me like my looks my friends, my makeup....is it worth it? Or should i go for someone else, PS im emo/scene...so i need's tips too go for someone like me,
Thanks in advance.

He is SO not worth it!

If he doesn't like you for you, meaning everything you are, he doesn't truly like you at all. Move on.

I am going on a date with a really nice guy soon and I want to make a great first impression on the date. He knows me from work but I really want to show him a different side of me. I am really already shooting for another date after this first one, as long as everything goes smoothly and there isn't some twisted shocker by the end of it. I think I know him pretty well but I want him to be as interested in me as I am in him.

I know I need to dress nice and be polite, but I'm sure that's not all. He's never seen me outside of the work environment and I really want to wow him with myself. I am a pretty down to earth girl, and I don't do anything wild or risky (I don't drink, smoke, have sex, etc.), but I want to show him that I'm interesting.

Can anyone just tell me how to make a great first impression on a date? I mean, how in the world do you act on a date? I don't want to be pushy but I do want to show him I'm into him. What do you do on a date? How do you act on a date? Are there specific things I need to say or do while on a date?

I've always thought charm is the most impressive thing there is. So channel your inner Holly Golightly (the main character of "Breakfast at Tifany's". If you've never seen it, watch it now!), and charm the pants off of this guy.

http://galadarling.com/article/how-to-be-charming
This is an article entitled "How to Be Charming." Quite useful ;D.

Another great tip is to smile! There's a little saying that everybody is pretty when they smile, and I believe it is true. A warm beautiful smile shows that you are interested and are able to have fun.

Lastly, and most importantly, confidence is key. Nothing is more attractive then someone who is comfortable in their own skin and who isn't afraid to show that to the world. So even if you don't have it, fake it. Sit up straight with your shoulders back and your head held high. Speak at an audible tone and don't be afraid to show your opinion.

why does everybody say suicide is not the answer? that's all you say! suicide is not the answer.. suicide is not the answer.. that's not a good enough reason for me.
why the f-k not??

Suicide is not the answer because taking your own life does not solve any problems. On the contrary, it creates bigger ones.

I know people who have committed suicide. It affects everyone who once knew them. It is so difficult getting on with life when you know someone who you once loved very, very much took their life because they were unhappy. One cannot help but wonder if they did something wrong. Were they the cause of the supreme unhappiness their love one felt? A person will live with this wonder and fear for their entire life.

Please do not commit suicide. The one most important thing about life I can tell is it goes on. Your current negative circumstances will most likely end. Therefore, do not take your life over something that is currently going on.

If you are feeling suicidal, please get help. Your loved ones will not be able to bare the loss of your life.
http://www.suicidal.com/

i'll try to make this one short, im 17 and she's about my age i think

so. i go snowboarding every sunday night its allaways a good laugh. tonight the ramps and stuff wernt made up so there wasnt anything else to do but bomb it down the slope all night. so 9 oclock comes and everyone but me is off the dry slope and in the bar, then a girl who i'v seen before working there had come out on her board, i dont even know her name we've spoken before but only breifly and then i was fine. but that was before i found out she had the same interest as me. anyway it turned half 9 and she'd had enough so she went up for the final time and i followed sort of on the lift a couple of hand rails back she got off at the top which was were i was going and she gave me the nicest smile and wave i have seen in my life. now of course that moment is stuck in my head and i dont want to get too attached to memories because i dont know her. i dont even know her name, i dont even know if she has a boy friend.. but yeah... has any one else had this trouble? how have you forgotten about things like this or if you have any good advice its all welcome, thanks

by the way dont say keep yourself busy :P im normally busy but its times like this that things just get to me lol thanks again

I have had the same experience before. I was in a store once with a friend. As she was buying a shirt, I chatted it up with the boy working the register. He was just so funny and attractive, and I really regret not getting his number.

Anyway, moving on from my regrets, there really is no simple answer for how to get over someone like that. You just have to remember that there are other fish in the sea, and if fate really wants you to be with her, it will find a way to force you together. The only thing you really can do is go on living your life as you normally would, and you will eventually forget about her.

Oh, and by the way, every time I go into the store I met the cashier in, I secretly hope he'll be working. So I guess you could say I haven't forgotten about him completely :D

I have this plain black babydoll top.
I love it but it's a bit plain so I thought teaming it with black skinny jeans, some heels and a gray,green,white or purple(these are the colors I have) cardigan and a few accessories.
This is for a night out, but not clubbing. More like sitting at a cafe type of place having drinks and talking with friends.

So what do you think?
Or anything I should add/change/remove?

I wouldn't recommend wearing black skinny jeans with it. That would honestly just be too much black. If the top is long enough, wear it without pants underneath. However, if the top is short enough to flash everybody on the street, wear a regular to dark wash skinny jean under it. Andy color cardigan would look cute, as would heels and accessories.

15/f

i want to get some cute moccasins for winter/school. you know just soemthing comfy. do you know where i can find them kinda on the inexpensive side?

http://www.zumiez.com/zshop/ProductDetail.aspx?DepartmentID=5&CategoryID=706&ShopByBrand=False&OrganizationID=-1&ProductID=30398
Pin stripes, for the win!

http://www.payless.com/Catalog/ProductDetail.aspx?&TLC=Womens&SLC=WomensStory&BLC=WomensPromoFlats&Width=Regular&ItemCode=60380&LotNumber=063152&Type=Adult&Popularity=&DescriptiveColor=Brown&cm_re=S08_p02a_20080814*Flats*063152-Brown(American_Eagle_Coco_Ruffle_Moc)

http://www.minnetonkamoccasinshop.com/peace_moc.htm
This is the best brand moccasin you will find. If you look around the site, you will find it isn't really cheap, but they are so warm and fuzzy and just so worth it!

the other day my boyfriend and i were messing around without a condom. all he was doing was rubbing the head of his penis on my clit and it didnt actually touch or go in the hole. he said nothing came out of his penis.
im just nervous, what are the chances i could be pregnant? i usually get my period around the end of the month

Anytime a penis comes in contact with your vagina without protection there is a slight chance you may be pregnant. In this scenario, it is highly unlikely, but if you happen to miss your period, take a pregnancy test.

I was offered a job in the same company as my fiance. Is it a good idea for a couple to work in the same place. We ride to work together we eat lunch together we ride home together. And if I take this job, we will now be together ALL THE TIME. Could this cause a strain on our relationship?

This could very well strain your relationship. People who are constantly together are bound to get on each others nerves more often.

However, if this is a great job, take it. Sometimes your personal life needs to come before your relationship, and if this can really improve your career, this is one of those times. If at a later time you decide being with your fiance all the time is too stressful, you can leave the job. Nevertheless, it is worth a shot. Just be sure to spend plenty of time with friends whenever you need a break from your partner.

are tote bags still in style for back to shool this fall?

Yep! Look for them at stores like Hollister, PacSun, Heritage 1981, American Eagle, etc.

Also, big purses are great to carry books in.
http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog_name=FOREVER21&category_name=acc_handbags&product_id=1052379944&Page=1
Something like this would be very cute.

Anybody know any sites on postive thinking

http://www.positivityblog.com/

http://youareremarkable.wordpress.com/

http://www.stevepavlina.com/

http://www.thechangeblog.com/

http://www.adaringadventure.com/index.php

http://www.dumblittleman.com

http://www.thinkarete.com/ideas/show/thinkaret-eacute-themanifesto

I know this is stupid but im just 13 and have no experience...but i was wondering how do you make-out?

You've probably heard this 1,000 times, but it comes naturally. Once you start kissing you just "go with the flow."

Here are some tips, but you really won't know what you're doing until you are in the moment:
http://www.wikihow.com/Make-Out

I'm only 14 and I have this burning desire to have sex with my bf. We almost did have sex once, but then we heard my bf's mom walking up the stairs so we flipped on the TV as soon as she walked in. Now that's all my bf and I are talking about-sex! Will I get pregnant if I do one over-nighter?

There is a chance you will become pregnant, even if it's only one time. The only way you are guaranteed not to become pregnant is if you chose abstinence. Even if you use a condom, there's still a possibility it could break.

Furthermore, you are only fourteen. You have plenty of time to have sex. Think long and hard about this before you do it. You do not want to regret it.

some boys dont talk to me becuse im weird and also im not that hot or cute

Darling, it seems as though you forgot to ask a question...

Anyway, those boys obviously aren't right for you. There are probably plenty of boys who would love to date you. Therefore, don't focus on the boys who don't talk to you; focus on the ones who do.

By the way, being weird isn't a bad thing at all. Guys love girls with a sense of humor. :D

im really looking for some good fashion design websites, i do not want all those silly dressup games as im 13 i do not want any kiddy sites but i don't want all those posh hard to understand websites can anybody help me find some fashion design websites?
thankyou

http://www.polyvore.com/cgi/home

This website allows you to create collages of different outfits. It includes thousands of pieces of clothing and accessories for you to use.

I was wondering if anyone knew any songs that had to do with hating boys and how you don't need them. I have a few that I know but I need more. I'm going through a really tough break up and songs always help me out. That'd be awesome, I'd really appreciate it.

For example: Ones I have currently are:
Last Thing by Diana Anaid
I Dont Wanna Be In Love by Good Charlotte

How I Could Just Kill a Man- Charlotte Sometimes
UR So Gay- Katy Perry
Shit Song- Kate Nash
Irreplaceable- Beyonce

i know this is really nasty but i have my dog eat me out.. he hasnt done it much but i wanted to know if i could get a disease or infection from having him do that? i heard dogs mouths are cleaner than a humans?

While dogs mouths are much cleaner than humans, what you did is considered beastiality. Beastiality is considered cruelity to animals and your dog could be taken away from you for doing this. I advise you don't do it again.

15/f

i'm 15 yrs. old and i still haven't had a boyfriend or been kissed. I KNOW whoever answers this will say something like " don't worry it'll happen someday" or "when the time it'll happen". I'm not saying i WANT it to happen. but i just want to wonder why it hasn't happened. you know what i mean? please give me your honest opinions.

We know nothing about you, therefore, we cannot tell you if you're doing something wrong. And chances are, you're not. On the contary to most of these answers, you probably just haven't found a guy you click with yet. Don't blame yourself.

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