ok well i have a boy singing partner, and we spend alot of time together, and well my boyfriend thinks i like him. and hes all mad at me because, well, i had to kiss my partner for this song, and my boyfriend didnt know that it was part of the song and he got really mad.
anonymous -
Just tell him hey "I kissed my singing partner once cuz I had to, and exactly how many times do I kiss you because I WANT TO? Gee...golly hunnie I must have lost count!"
Then shower him with kisses.
Hopefully he'll get the idea :)
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I've been dating my boyfriend for about 9 months now (I'm 15/f) and things have been going great! We love eachother very much but lately he's been getting to protective of me. I'm sure many of you know what a "myspace" is, if not it's a site where you pretty much make/find friends. One of my friends that is a guy commented on almost all of my pictures telling me how beautiful I was and how lucky my boyfriend is to be dating me yadda yadda yadda. My boyfriend sees the comments and gets really mad because he said it's a "dick thing to do" for a guy to call another guys girlfriend "hot" and "sexy" and "beautiful". He said to me "I don't know what goes on in your school and I don't trust the guys there." So, now he's mad at me for not saying anything to the guys who were merely COMPLIMENTING me. I said to him that he should be happy that another guy is telling me that I'm pretty because you're the one that is dating me and you're the one who has my heart. He said that's not the point, he doesn't want other guys saying I'm pretty. He's driving me FREAKING INSANE! I don't know what to say to him! He's never been like this up until a few weeks ago! I can't convince him that there is nothing for him to worry about. What should I do? This is getting out of control.
anonymous -
Aww hun, my boyfriend is just the same!
Reassure him that you love him and that you won't leave him. Remind him of the wonderful 9 months you've been together, and just say sweet things to him. That's really the only thing I can think of!
But the reason why he could be acting this way is because we women get flattered when people compliment us, and he might be afraid that a little flattery might lead to something more. Especially since he has already experienced it before with his ex, he just doesn't want to lose you!
Try to tolerate it for the most part, he's just showing that he cares. But if he takes it to the point where you can't even talk to other people or hang out with your guy friends, have a talk with him and tell him how you feel. I'm not sure if you let him hang out with is girl friends (if he has any), but if you do, tell him that you don't restrict him so he shouldn't do the same to you. Also, by him being so overprotective, his behavior ENFORCES the feeling of you wanting to disobey him. That's why a lot of girls leave guys who act that way.
Sorry I kinda rambled on, but I hope this helps.
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dear advice givers,
my life is falling apart. the big thing happening right now though is my friends hating me. usually i can give myself advice but this is one of the worst situations ive been in. ok let me start from the beginning...
yesterday my cousin came over. i love her so much so i was cheering about to rip my homework into confetti. so anyway, she saw that i was holding school pictures so she phyced. she asked if she could see them so i said, sure, why not? she grabbed the pictures and pointed to people saying, "geek, know-it-all, freak, annoying, popular, a cross between popular and pretty, stupid," and so on. i thought that was amazing because she was right except for a few people where she called them a geek and really they weren't. well i thought it was so cool that i couldn't keep it to myself, i wanted to tell my friends what she said! so i did near the end of the school day in my last class because i was deciding whether to tell them or not through the whole day. so my friends aren't happy with what they hear. only a few of them are because they were considered popular or pretty, or both. well the other people ended up thinking that -->I
anonymous -
Hey don't worry, there's still hope! It was wrong that you walked out on your friends, but that doesn't mean that you can't put things back together.
The way I see it is that your friends were just being sarcastic and you took it the wrong way. And since people are iming you saying that they don't hate you, most likely they are telling the truth. How do I know this? Who would go through all the trouble to im you JUST TO REASSURE YOU THAT YOU AREN'T HATED? No person would go through all that for nothing.
Just call up or go up to your friends and apologize for the way you reacted, you just took their words the wrong way is all. Ask them to clarify what they meant when they said those things and the misunderstanding will be settled.
What I think that may have caused you to react the way you did was maybe you were paranoid when the first comment shot out. Since then anything relating or significantly close to that topic that sounded the least bit offensive, you exploded. Don't worry, it happens to everyone :)
Good luck and take care!
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ok well i liked this kid, we'll call him fred, :P well, anyway my friend, we'll call her megan, was always up on him when i liked him. well i stopped liking him and she laid off. and the other day she told me she likes him, so i went up and told him cuz she asked me to, and hes like, yeh thats cool, but i like you again. and i was like woh ok? so i was hanging around him alot and stuff, and then today "megan" was like, i cant believe ur nosing around my guy. and i was like, WOAH OK FIRST OF ALL, and i told her what she'd been doing, and she was like, well atleast he liked me! and i was like, ok no he didnt, and he likes me. and she was like, yeah right i doubt it, so i went up to him and askedh im and he said yeh and now shes all pissed at me, and its not my fault.
anonymous -
To put in simple words, your friend is a bitch. If she's willing to betray you and go up on a guy that you liked first, just drop her. What's important is that "fred" likes you, and don't let her get in the way of that. She really isn't worth the trouble.
My thoughts on why she's pissed is because maybe she has this super ego that a guy just has to choose her over you. Another thing that can add to her pissyness is that she's embarrased that you confronted "fred" about liking you and he agreed to it. She just might be ashamed.
But if you do want to be friends with her again, then I'd suggest that you talk to her. Tell her that you don't appreciate her reacting like this when instead she should be happy for you.
Good luck!
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i have this friend at school and we are really close. (he is a guy) we went out last year for awhile and basically he ended up breaking my heart, but months had gone by and one day he just randomly comes up to me and we end up making out etc... the only thing is, i promised not to tell anyone... the problem is that our relationship has skyrocketted and we are not going out and he has said that he loves me and that the thought of me brings him to his knees, but he can't date me... he is with someone else now in a less tangled, less involved relationship, but i can't stop myself from wanting him anyway. I got him to give me a ride home yesterday and we ended up going too far for comfort since he is taken... he often complains about her. he confides in me a lot. but in the public eye we are enemies. in the public eye, he and i never talk, never even really talk at school. but at home and after school, he is the only person i really have. my feelings for him from the begining never died and he admits that the only reason he left me was because something inside (not the feelings for me) changed.
can someone tell me what i should do?
anonymous -
The answer is simple, if he really does have feelings for you, he would've broken up with his girlfriend already and pursued something with you.
Talk to him about it. Ask him if he loves you, why is he still with the other chick?
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im 13/m...All of my friends say that i always flirt with this girl. she used to like me A LOT and then when i started going out with my g/f about 8 months ago, she like started yelling at me and we didnt talk. But now, we are friends again and we talk, but whenever we do, EVERYONE says that we flirt, nonstop. i try not to, but i just cant help it, i love my girlfriend and i mean that. what should i do pls help me......
PS.... how do you flirt? i barely know what that means
anonymous -
Good question. Flirting comes in a variety of different ways, it also depends on how people take your actions also.
Some flirting is pretty obvious. Like joking around "playfully" hitting each other, finding some reason to get close to that person even if you aren't dating, that type of stuff.
But some actions people mistaken for flirting. It's silly really. Like a lot of guys feel a girl is flirting with them if she just starts a simple conversation with them. Some girls feel that way too. They tend to think, "Why is he/she talking to me? They never talk to me...they must like me!"
But with your "flirting" with the girl, if you do love your girlfriend, keep it at a minimum if you can't help it. And I also think the girl is trying to lead you on...cuz not every girl overreacts to a friend getting a significant other if ya get my drift? I'm thinking that she has a thing for you and got angry when you found someone else and didn't hook up with her. If you don't want to harm your relationship, just avoid the girl altogether.
Hope this helps!
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ok well im a little overweight and when i wear tight shirts you can see my stomach ... so my question is, is there ANYTHING i can do to temporaraly make your stomach flatter. i thought of duck tape but that would hurt like a mother but i want to wear a cute outfit tomorrow but it is pretty tight on me. but i am going to work out every day after school and tonight so PLEASEEE answer ASAP!!!! thank you in advance and i will rate 5s to almost anyone :) but i need your help cause even my mom calls me fat
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chubby lil me
pS i asked this before and you deleted it but please dont this time i really need some answers and this is not a joke question
chubby lil me -
Wearing clothes that don't fit you are never flattering. Especially if they're too tight with little flubs hanging out...I don't think you want that. There are a lot of cute outfits even for more hefty girls out there that look really nice. Pick clothes that flatter your figure, and draw attention away from your stomach area. I had a friend who was pretty chubby too, and a good store to go to for cute plus size clothes is Torrid. Hopefully they have it in your area!
As for temporarily flattening your stomach, there isn't any way unfortunately. Just do a lot of cardio (running, jogging, jumping rope, getting your heart rate up basically) and a lot of different ab exercises. The results will be gradual, but you'll see a difference if you keep with it.
Good luck, hope this helps!
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im in love with this kid who ive lost my virginity to and i just started going out with him like 3 days ago and we got into a fight because my friend wanted them to leave her house so he went outside to sit so i followed him and he was really being mean and told me to leave and that he wasnt gonna come see me anymore (he lives in another town) so i went upstaries and started crying and my mom picked me up to take them home and i just got out of the car cuz i couldnt take it anymore. i love him so much and hes being so mean to me and i dont wanna call him and he hasnt called me, i dont know what to do. im so confused. i love him
i rate 5s
anonymous -
Tell me what's wrong with this picture...EVERYTHING! You sleep with the guy after 3 days of dating, you claim to "love him" also? Hun, how can you love someone after three days??? If you ask me it's infatuation rather than love...
To be BRUTALLY honest, it looks like he just used you for sex...and already leaving you after three days? The sex must've been horrible then!
Oh yea, about the advice part. Just move on and mingle. Life's too short to get butt hurt over something like this. Yea you lost your virginity, but I'm taking it that the big v doesn't mean a whole lot to you if you lost it with a guy in three days. Just move on and forget about it. What happens, happens for a reason. It's better to be happy than wallow in your sadness right?
Sorry for the bluntness, but reality isn't pretty. You can't always be told what you want to hear all the time, sometimes you just have to accept things for what they really are. Good luck.
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Im not yet either but Im scareed I will become. Earlier this night i tried to make myself throw up. Im 14 5'1 and wiegh about 103. Most people think Im crazy because I think Im fatter than most people, but I do. How can I overcome this feeling, and actions. I know that if i become either it will be very hard to stop. please! I need help very bad! Im not afraid to admit it. so please if you read this, answer my question! please!
♥ scared
scared -
To overcome this feeling isn't as hard as you may think. You just need to come to the realization that you are skinny. You want some help? Look at all the obese people at your school. Watch "Shallow Hal". Hun, be fortunate that you're blessed with a petite body. A lot of people have it worse off than you, you're not as "fat" as you think. Come to that realization and you'll get over it.
Also, why are you forcing yourself to throw up? Don't you realize that girls your age halfway around the world are lucky enough to eat that amount of food you almost threw up? It's a waste!
Hopefully, this isn't for a guy...remember, guys like girls with a HEALTHY weight, not girls who are bone thin and malnourished. Even so, a good guy is a guy that likes you for who you are, not how much you weigh.
Just for the record, you have to EAT to be skinny. As contradictory as that may sound, by starving yourself you're only slowing down your metabolism making you more susceptible to gaining the pounds. Why? When you deprive yourself like that, any food you take in your body will grab those calories and fat and store them in case you starve yourself again. Your body is just using a mechanism to keep you alive...that's why people who constantly diet on and off are the overweight ones. If you get back to eating, your metabolism will slowly go up and you'll be able to burn the calories.
That's what I don't understand about girls with EDs. The true key to losing weight is eating healthy and exercising. Now who ever thought THAT would work? :)
Hope this helps!
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well im currently going out with this guy i like alot....but last friday i hung out with muh ex boyfriend and i think im starting to like him again...and im really confused cuz im having mixed feeelings right now...what should i do??
anonymous -
I'm seeing questions like these a lot, and the answer isn't that difficult to grasp.
Your ex is your ex for a reason. Obviously something didn't work out when you two were dating. How do you know things won't end up exactly the same if you fall for him again? I'm not saying that he's a bad guy but the answer is simple.
Who do you like more? Who do you feel you could have a future with? There's your answer.
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Recently this boy has been walking me to class with his arms around me. Everyone is starting to think that we go ouy but we don't. I tell him I don't want his hand around me but he still does it. But the bad thing it thatwhen I am not around he makes fun of me and calls me bad words. See if I tell someone about this they may think I am unpopular or whatever and I can't afford that to happen. So what should I do.
anonymous -
Think about it this way, which is more important to you: popularity or this guy bugging you? To be honest, I'd speak up regardless of your social status. Confront him about it privately so he won't feel obligated to deny anything. When you speak to him, speak so you put him at ease, so he can feel comfortable telling you what he has to say. Otherwise, he'll just deny everything and lie about it and you're back at square one.
Good luck!
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we're amazing friends (i'm the girl hes the guy) and we've dated before.
he said things werent gonna work with us which was why he broke it off earlier this year..since then, he's been dating around just having his fun like a typical guy.
he admitted to a mutual friend that he still liked me a bit.
how do i ensure that we could possibly get together in the future-the base for it is there-his family loves me (i spend a lot of time with him and his family like movies etc.) and we spend a lot of time together and hes still sortof different around me..just more himself/open/cute.
what to do/think/say.
as many people as possible give me advice please!
anonymous -
Unfortunately, I can't give you advice to ENSURE that you two will get back together. Remember, you can't make someone date you. If they really like you, it'll happen on its own.
Just be yourself, live life how you always do. When you're around him, you don't need to act differently cuz after all, you've been the same for how ever long and he said he still likes you. What makes you think that if you change he'll still have the same feelings?
Good luck!
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hey im 15f, whats the best way to quit smoking? i tried cold turkey and lasted 3 days.
anonymous -
Try the Nicorette gum. I heard it works :)
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i have just broken up with my boyfriend who i had been going out with for 8 months. it was the first time i loved someone, he came over nearly everyday. we broke up because he was taking me for granted and always ditching me and saying nasty things to me.. and then sometimes he was awesome. we have broken up and got back together in the past and but i dont want that to happen again. i miss him so so so much and i do still like him but i cant take any more abuse. wats the best way to get over someone.. im trying sooo hard not to call him please help!
anonymous -
If your old enough, hit the clubs! Just mingle with new guys and friends and don't worry about your ex too much. Just remember, life is short, and you don't want to spend it with a guy who treats you like that. Hope this helps!
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can u get herpes from giving someone without herpes head? like do they have to have the disease for u to get it? PLEASE HURRY! im very worried :(
anonymous -
They have to have the disease in order for you to catch it. Hope this helps!
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i hear constantly about 14 year olds having sex... this is scary. what has the world come to? one day people will be having sex at 8 and then people will finally realise there is a problem. i dont see why 14 year olds have sex when they are so young... at 14 i was like, gross, why have sex? i'm 17 now and i am a virgin... i am proud of that and i like it coz guys respect me and i know a guy isn't going out with me for sex. what i want to know is why do girls lose that respect at such a young age? and how young were people when they lost their virginity???
- confused
confused -
I definitely agree with you. It's kinda funny cuz a lot of those sexually active teeny boppers are the ones constantly asking questions on advicenators, eh? It's so sad.
There are a variety of reasons why they could be losing their virginity at such a young age. It could be that the media is constantly "sexualizing" television, music, and magazines. Nowadays it's common for "tweens" to wear a lot of makeup, dress sexy, and unfortunately get pressured into having sex. But also it could be peer pressure, "love", or just the desire to be an adult. The list is endless.
When I was that age, sex wasn't common, but sexual play was. As for your question on the age I lost my virginity, it was a few days before my 17th birthday. I know I was young still, and if you believe me or not, "it just happened." It wasn't planned, it just happened. Even so, I don't regret my decision because me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly a year when it had happened and are still together today (2.5+ years). In a sense it has strengthened our relationship because we felt we loved each other enough to share what's most personal with each other. Don't get the wrong impression that I was naive, "believing" I was in love. We talked about it for months before anything had happened, that's how much it meant to us.
Whoa I wrote a lot, well I hope this helps!
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In the begining of the schoolyear, I made a new friend, Carol. I started to hang out with her alot. Now, I don't want to be her friend anymore because she steals and smokes. Now, Elissa, my old best friend who i want to be close with again, is best friends with carol! In my Xanga (KirksSkater) they said to stop talking about them. All it said was "Which Do I prefer :Carol or Elissa" and it was a fill-in thingy for other people. Now, I have no friends because of them. What should I do?
AAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH
TarA
tara -
I can understand how they could get upset by you posting it on your xanga. I was fighting with one of my friends too, and what I hate about what she does is that she makes our whole situation public by posting it on xanga, and telling all her friends to prove her side of the story. Keep the conflict between you two, and only between you two. Otherwise if you get others involved, it'll just get worse as you have experienced.
What I do find wrong about your judgment is how you want to end the friendship based on who Carol is. She smokes, she steals, so what? That's just who she is. I don't think you'd like it if someone stopped being friends with you for something silly say, the way you dress. Realize that these aspects make a person who they are, and aren't necessarily a bad thing. Also, it appears that your bothered by Carol being friends with Elissa. Remember, don't punish them and tell Elissa who she can and cannot be friends with. It's a free country.
As for resolving the problem, just talk to them. I know it sounds harder than it really is, but approach them in a way that they won't feel pressured or offended by what you have to say. Maybe something along the lines of telling them you are sorry for the xanga incident. Clarify why you did what you did and that the friendship still means a lot to you and you want to work things out.
Sorry if I sounded a little blunt at times, but I only do it with good intentions. :) Good luck!
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hi, I am a 2nd year student of Nursing and right now I'm really confused if this is really the course for me.
I admit that the reason I shifted to nursing (I already took 2 years of BS Psychology) was because I was attracted to the big bucks awaiting in the states, Canada, etc.
But then, after hearing about how stressful nursing is, after being exposed to some nursing techniques and obligations, and just observing some nurses, I think it is rather a boring and stressful job, something that I don't think I would like to get myself into..
What should I do? I don't think my mom would allow me to shift again and all my relatives are so proud of me because they already think I will be a future nurse earning big bucks.... pls help! I don't know what to do...I realized that life is too short to be unhappy, stressed and live "for the money"
anonymous -
The answer is simple, would you rather work at a job you love and earn big bucks, or at a job you hate and earn big bucks?
There are a lot of job opportunities out there right now that are high in demand that can fit your needs. I was in the same position where I wanted to become a nurse practitioner, but the work environment and pay was rather boring and stressful. I changed my mind over to pharmacy because I already have a passion in the medical field, the job pays very well, and the work environment can range from hospitals, supermarkets, etc.
This job may not fit you, but it's an idea. Just explore your job opportunities and with your family, they should be able to understand. We live in a difficult and confusing world and it only takes time to find out what we want and what we're meant for.
Good luck, hope this helps!
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I'm 13 and I had high cholesteral since I was 3. My parents aren't exactly cooks and we always eat food made from instant and frozen foods. I'm skinny, but still I need to exersice, but I'm too lazy because the food I eat isn't giving me enough energy. Any suggestions on how to be healthier?
anonymous -
Although your parents don't cook, you can maybe start cooking. When you make homemade food, you know what goes into it and you can control the fat, salt, and sugar components. If that's not appealing, try suggesting your family to buy more health-conscious food. Since there is a low carb craze going on right now, there are a lot of pre-packaged food that are healthy. For the energy part, I don't think you can put blame on the food because carbs (which almost everything has) has carbs which give you energy. For a boost however, drink a lot of water, and get some much needed motivation to exercise. It doesn't have to be strenuous, start at maybe 15 minutes a day and gradually work yourself up to which you are comfortable. Good luck!
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Ok, Last nite my b/f told me that he smokes. I didnt really know what to do. I mean I dont want him to smoke and he said that he's trying to stop and its not really working. I dont know what to do. Can someone plz help me cuz itz like really annoying me that he smokes. I mean its not really a big deal but I just dunno....
anonymous -
Come to a compromise where when he's around you he won't smoke let alone SMELL like smoke. He said that he's trying to stop, so tell him that you fully support him on it. Just remember not to get frustrated if he doesn't completely give it up as soon as you had hoped, quitting smoking is incredibly difficult especially when they're going through withdrawal...during those times they tend to get VERY moody and cranky. Just be patient and support him. :)
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