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dear advice givers,
my life is falling apart. the big thing happening right now though is my friends hating me. usually i can give myself advice but this is one of the worst situations ive been in. ok let me start from the beginning...
yesterday my cousin came over. i love her so much so i was cheering about to rip my homework into confetti. so anyway, she saw that i was holding school pictures so she phyced. she asked if she could see them so i said, sure, why not? she grabbed the pictures and pointed to people saying, "geek, know-it-all, freak, annoying, popular, a cross between popular and pretty, stupid," and so on. i thought that was amazing because she was right except for a few people where she called them a geek and really they weren't. well i thought it was so cool that i couldn't keep it to myself, i wanted to tell my friends what she said! so i did near the end of the school day in my last class because i was deciding whether to tell them or not through the whole day. so my friends aren't happy with what they hear. only a few of them are because they were considered popular or pretty, or both. well the other people ended up thinking that -->I<-- said those things about them and not my cousin. by now i have my face shoved into my hands hoping no one will notice its me. well right before they called buses and walkers (im a walker) i go up to them and we start having a short conversation about how i didn't mean to say those things about them and how they think it was stupid. well im thinking its stupid too and then finally my friend has to say the thing that got me mad, "i hate when people say things about me behind my back" i was just about to blow up so i say, "YOU KNOW WHAT? WHY DON'T I JSUT SEW MY MOUTH SHUT?" and i walk right out the door, behind me i can hear them saying, "no, shelley! we didn't mean it that way!" and "somebody go get her!" now i don't know what to do because i know they DO hate me because my friend told me who was avoiding me and all my friends were like, "why me?' and i was just thinking in my head, "WILL YOU SHUT UP? I DIDN'T SAY THOSE STUPID BEEPING THINGS! I DIDN'T MEAN THEM! GET OVER IT!" i didn't really say that but i wanted to. so i go online and i put up my away message. it says how im so sorry and how i know everybody hates me. people are iming me saying how they don't hate me. but i don't know whether to believe them or not. plus there are other million things in my life that are so twisted like my grandparent about to die and my mother feeling like dirt. well now i know how she feels and im trying to help her but everything just seems to fall apart...now i think i shouldn't have walked out on my friends but i can't change it now, WHAT DO I DO? :'(
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Talk to your friends, don't just put up an away message. Say your sorry if they were offended, but you really didn't say any of those things. Try and get together to talk if it's possible.
I'm very sorry about your grandpa and your mother. Try writing in a journal or talking to someone you trust. Please send me a message or IM me if you want to talk. My screen name is in my advice column.. ♥ Kristen
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Hey don't worry, there's still hope! It was wrong that you walked out on your friends, but that doesn't mean that you can't put things back together.
The way I see it is that your friends were just being sarcastic and you took it the wrong way. And since people are iming you saying that they don't hate you, most likely they are telling the truth. How do I know this? Who would go through all the trouble to im you JUST TO REASSURE YOU THAT YOU AREN'T HATED? No person would go through all that for nothing.
Just call up or go up to your friends and apologize for the way you reacted, you just took their words the wrong way is all. Ask them to clarify what they meant when they said those things and the misunderstanding will be settled.
What I think that may have caused you to react the way you did was maybe you were paranoid when the first comment shot out. Since then anything relating or significantly close to that topic that sounded the least bit offensive, you exploded. Don't worry, it happens to everyone :)
Good luck and take care!
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Wow you wrote alot! well i would just try telling your friends that your cousin said that stuff and the person to be mad at is your cousin not you. i don't know what else to do because what you wrote kind of doesn't make much sence. Sry i can't help you out on anything else. maybe if you explained it alittle bit better i could help.
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Trash the away message. Give me your IM name, and then we can talk. Everyone's life falls apart, then the puzzle peices seem to fit back together. So try, try again. Apoligize to your friends. When you say everyone hates you, it actually makes YOURSELF hate YOURSELF more.
IM ME AT xkendall10x
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