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how to i make sure theres a chance for us to work in the fut
we're amazing friends (i'm the girl hes the guy) and we've dated before.
he said things werent gonna work with us which was why he broke it off earlier this year..since then, he's been dating around just having his fun like a typical guy.
he admitted to a mutual friend that he still liked me a bit.
how do i ensure that we could possibly get together in the future-the base for it is there-his family loves me (i spend a lot of time with him and his family like movies etc.) and we spend a lot of time together and hes still sortof different around me..just more himself/open/cute.
what to do/think/say.
as many people as possible give me advice please!
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So you're thinking in the future, when he's had his fun and his drive for having a bunch of different girls calms down, you'll be the one he is most comfortable around and he'll stick with you. You have a lot more confidence than most people I know, but hey, it may be for a good reason ;)
You don't have to worry about keeping things open until that happens unless it really hurts him when you go out with other people. You can have your fun too, and if he doesn't eventually come back to you it's nice to know you didn't spend years waiting for nothing. It usually takes quite awhile for a guy to think of settling.
Keep your friendship going, nurture it, be the coolest person he's ever met, that kinda thing...that you should already be doing, seems it comes naturally. Don't push the idea that you could get back together, wait for an opening, wait for him to get tired of "lesser" girls or certain behaviors that he thinks is in every girl he's dated...then you can *suggest* and see how he reacts ;)
If he's not that open about how his relationships are going, you may have to keep things open by making suggestions in a joking nature. Keep the idea of sexual activity fresh between you, by being intensely interested with what he's doing with his latest fling (if you can stand that), making suggestions about what he's doing or should be doing, and slowly start changing those suggestions to be between you and him. This is usually the only way to get out of the "friend zone" without doing something seriously drastic, and since it's so subtle it seems to work quite well.
Just remember, if you two are in HS, to make your move a year before either of you go off to college unless you're very certain you'll be going to the same college also :x
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anonymous -
Unfortunately, I can't give you advice to ENSURE that you two will get back together. Remember, you can't make someone date you. If they really like you, it'll happen on its own.
Just be yourself, live life how you always do. When you're around him, you don't need to act differently cuz after all, you've been the same for how ever long and he said he still likes you. What makes you think that if you change he'll still have the same feelings?
Good luck!
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