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Hey everyone! My name is Kristen, I'm 20 and I'm a college junior studying pharmacy. I've been blessed with a really good life, and part of the reason for that is because I've learned to see GOOD in everything that happens to me.

I love giving advice, and I've been told that I do a good job at it, but I'll let you decide! Feel free to ask me anything... don't be shy, that's why I'm here. I've been through a lot... moving from one country to another, leaving and finding new friends, break ups, boys, middle school, high school, college, self esteem issues... pretty much most things that people need help with.

I usually spend a good amount of time answering your questions, so I would really appreciate it if you leave me an honest rating along with some feedback (good or bad!) It really does help me improve my advice... and in the end, that's good for YOU! Talk to ya soon! :)

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I'm 4"10 very petite but I have 34D boobs. They dnt look as big as they sound but they sure feel like it. I hate them! They hurt me sooo much. My back has been hurting a lot lately and I just don't know what to do about them. My mom doesn't want me to get breast reduction because even though its done at my age she says that it hurts and they've gotten smaller. But they havnt any suggestions?

well, im not sure how helpful this will be considering the fact that im nowhere near a D... but i know people who are, and they do say that it hurts! i know to get breast impants, they reccomend that you be at least 18... but i'm not sure if that's the case for reductions! i mean you are still growing, so i am not sure if it is a good idea now! if you do decide to go through with it, talk to a doctor and do a lot of research to make sure that 15 is a good age to do it! but for now, all i can really tell you is just to buy very good (usually expensive) bras with very good support in order to ease your pain! also, if you don't exercise already, try doing that! i hear a lot of people say that when they lose weight, it usually comes off their breasts first! good luck with whatever you choose to do!

I am 13, and all my friends shave their legs except me and one other peron. I always tell my mom to wash my sweat pants. She is like "If your wearing thooses just because you don't shave your legs than well go to the store and get you a razor!" And of course I say "What, No Mom!" because I don't like talking to her about that kind of stuff.(shaving, periods, dating, boys, whatever)
I want to shave because every one always looks at me wierd when they can see my legs and I have never worn a skirt shorter that my ankles since I was a little kid. I REALLY want to shave my legs, but I just don't how to tell my mom or what to say to her. What should I do?

aww, hey you have nothing to worry about!! your mom is offering to go get you a razor... that means she actually wants to talk to you about stuff like that and help you out!! next time she asks you... or even if she doesn't, just say ok let's go!! don't be shy, she is your mom... there's nothing better than being really close with your mom! you don't have to talk to her about boys if you don't feel comfortable, but ask for her advice! ask her about make up, ask her what shaving cream or moisturizer she likes best... little things like that will get you closer in no time, and you will feel good about talking to her!

I have a problem right now n i dont kno what to do.. me n my new boyfriends been goin out for 2 weeks and i really dont got mad fellings for him cuz hes more like a friend plus i still have mad mad feelings for my ex!! n i dont kno wat i should do i want to break up wit my new boyfriend n go with my old one but my frienmds r telling me no.. n then another reason i havent is cuz my ex was a real ass hole n i just dont know wat to do will sum 1 please help me!!!!!

hey! well sounds to me like you have a problem with being single! best choice you can make is to break up with this guy because you obviously don't like him! and do NOT go back out with your ex... he is your EX bf for a reason! being single is so much fun... you don't want to be with someone unless you REALLY like him, because otherwise your not putting yourself out there and you will never find the perfect guy for you, because you will be too busy being in a relationship with someone that isn't exactly what you want! so ditch them both and go out there and find exactly what you're looking for!

oh, and why listen to your friends telling you not to break up with your boyfriend? yeah they are your friends and all, but they are not in the relationship!! if you are not happy, then that's all you need to make up your mind!

okay well this is the deal.
im ready to have sex i know i am. im with a boy right now and we've decided that were going to do it. im just really nervous cuz im not on birth control and im scared something is like going to happen to the condom, like rip. i told him that i was nervous and asked him that whenever he felt like he was going to bust he would take it out and then put it back it when he stopped ..
is that a god idea and if your not on birth control and you use a condom is it most likely you can get pregnant or is like 1 in every 500 people?

please comment back asap !! thank you !!

i've read in a couple of magazines that condoms are about 97% effective IF and ONLY IF they are used correctly!! so of course there is a little chance that you could get pregnant even when you use one... but that's just a responsibility that comes along with having sex! if you're not ready to face something like a pregnancy and its consequences, then you are not ready to have sex! And there's nothing wrong with that, you have plenty of time... not to mention that sex doesn't even feel good when you are constantly paranoid and all you're thinking about is getting pregnant! don't let any guy pressure you... when you are ready, you will know and you won't have ANY doubts!

I have diabetes so i dont drink regular sugared soda. I mean i can but i dunno i just dont really even like it. But anyways ever since i got it i have been drinking diet coke. I know its not as good as drinking water but is diet soda bad for you???

i am not 100% sure, but i have heard that diet sodas are just as bad as regular ones. there is a study being done which could prove that soda in general is bad for your bones, because it gets in the way of vitamin D, which is needed to help break down calcium. they are not 100% sure about this, but who knows! i personally don't drink soda because i don't really like it that much... not to mention it makes me look so bloated!! i think it's ok to have it every now and then, as long as you're not depriving your body of good things it needs like water, 100% fruit juices and milk!! :)

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ever since ive been starting this diet i have been getting really bad stomach pains (not like period) but it hurts..this is my diet::

Day 1-eat a lot of food. everything i can. then i eat so much it makes me throw up..!
Day 2-eat nothing.at all..
[[repeat]]

oh my gosh!! this is a terrible idea!! not only will this make you extremely sick, but it will NOT help you lose any weight! actually you might gain weight as a result! one day you are not eating anything... basically you have no energy all day and you are slowing your metabolism A LOT. the next day you are over-eating... not only is that bad to begin with, but it's even worse because you are doing it with a metabolism that has slowed down more and more with every day you don't eat! if you want to lose weight and stay healthy, all you have to do is eat a variety of foods in the right amounts EVERY day... ditch the chips and coke, you don't need junk food! jog every day or do some form of exercise, eat well (4 to 5 small meals a day) and drink plenty of water and you'll be good to go! good luck!

and if you can't get off this "diet" of yours, then you have a problem (an eating disorder) and you need to talk to someone and get help ASAP!

I'm 16/f and my mom gave me her 2000 Lexus but my dad wants to sell it and get me a 2000 or 2001 Honda Accord and I looked at pictures of them, they seem very old style and I don't want to be driving in a grandma-style car. The two door Honda Accords are nice, but my dads making me get a four door. I dont have a lot of knowledge in cars -- so should I go for the Honda or beg to keep the Lexus?

have your dad check how much he can sell the lexus for... if it's not a big difference then go ahead and ask to keep it. but if it's a couple of thousand dollars, then i would deffinitely get the honda... trust me you are a young driver and you are going to hit that car a couple of times... hopefully nothing big, but you are bound to back up into something sooner or later... hey when i was 16 i deffinitely hit a few things! if you do end up getting the lexus, then maybe you can have the difference in price put away and get a nicer car in a couple of years when you are a more experienced driver! and come on, a honda can't be that "grandma"!! if anything the lexus is more grandma... i mean think about it, all the old people drive expensive cars! haha either way good luck and be careful!

i'm 17, and i like this guy who is 27. usually i like guys who are within my age range.. but i suppose you can't help who you fall for. he's very quiet and seems very lonely.. hes doing law so he spends a lot of time studying and doesn't go out too much. he always jumps at the opportunity to speak to me when we see each other. well, i'm not sure what to do about this. 17 is legal for consent and all where i live (so its not a legality thing) but i guess it does sound kinda bad that hes 10 years older than me. i'm wondering whether i should just try and forget about him or whether i should try for this. i don't really care about age, but he might feel differently, and society always views these kind of things as unacceptable. so just curious what everyone thinks of the age gap, and whether it's worth pursuing or not.....?

thanks.

well this is kind of hard... age doesn't really matter that much. But, a 10 year age difference is one thing when one of you is 30 and the other one is 40, and it is a completely different thing when one is 17 and the other is 27. you are still in high school... but he's already gone throught high school, college and now law school. basically he has seen and been through a LOT more than you have... i mean let's face it, a lot of things change for people in their late teens and 20s! so you two might have different views on life and what you may want out of a relationship. i suggest staying friends with him and casually dating... basically take things very slow! if after a while things seem to be going well and you both want to get more serious, then that's great! but if there seems to be a lot of problems early on, then it will only get worse! good luck! hope that helped!

Yes Im female and im 14 and i thought maybe someone whos had more expierence could help me. I have a bf and i love him lots, but theres this other guy that i knew b4 my bf and hes in love with me and i like him but i feel stronger about this other guy then i do my own bf.
I get mixed emotions. At one moment I feel like im in heaven with my bf then the next im not. With this other guy im so comfortable with him ive never felt badly around him. Is it just because im getting use to my bf being with me or is there something else I really feel more strongly about? Please Help. Im so confused.

hey! ok first of all, it's ok to say you "really like" your boyfriend, but if you really LOVED him then you wouldn't even be thinking about other guys! honestly this decision is mainly up to you to make... if you really like the other guy more, then you should just go ahead and be with him! but if you think you are truly happy with your boyfriend, then just stay with him. it's normal to have crushes on other people while being in a relationship. just wait it out for a little bit. see if you still feel the same way in a month or so. if you still like the other guy, then go ahead and get with him adn break up with your boyfriend because it's not fair to either one of you. you don't want to be in a relationship with someone you aren't completely happy with, and it's not fair to your boyfriend if you are with him and aren't giving him 100% of your attention! good luck! :)

Okay. I was supposed to get my period at..eh..around the 20 of last month. obviously i haven't. :( and i'm a bit confused why.

I'm NOT sexually active, nor have I ever had sex.
I'm 13.
But I can't say that defensivley because there are many people my age sexually active.

I just got over being sick..could that effect it?

Thanks for your help. :]

well, i got my period when i was 13 years old, and i wasn't sexually active either because that is WAY too young... but anyway, i got it a couple of times and then i didn't get it for 5 months! it was completely normal, and it came back on its own! nothing to worry about! :)

Well, i know this guy from my previous office.
Ive left the office, so i don't really see him anymore.

This guy, he's a lawyer and talks pretty well when it comes to work but ends up so shy when i asked him a personal question in the sense that he doesnt even say a word.

How do i talk to him on the phone (ive got his no) or even get him to open up?

Is it ok for me to just call him occasionally to ask him how he is or wish him goodnite, even if i dont really know him that well?

The funny thing is, he doesnt say no or yes to my personal questions to him but he still replies my sms once in a while.

I think he probably knows i have a crush on him.

hi!! ok now when you say personal question, what exactly do you mean? if you are asking him just general questions and he is freezing up, then he is just a shy guy. but if you are asking him VERY personal questions, then maybe he just doesn't feel comfortable answering them. but i am sure they are not very personal, so he is most likely just a shy guy. i think it's a good idea for you to try and make the first move because you have nothing to lose. i would give him a call and ask something work related since you said he is not shy when it comes to talking about work. that way he will get his confidence up at the beginning of the conversation. not only that, but men like it when they are asked for help because it makes them feel important. so call him up, and ask him for some sort of advice that you know he could help you with. after that, then you can say something like "so how are you doing? how is work going?"... just general questions. if you are feeling brave, ask him at the end of the conversation if he would like to meet up for lunch or dinner or whatever it is you want to do. if not then tell him it was nice talking to him, and you'd love to hear from him again! then maybe call him again a few days or a week later just to ask him how things have been. at this point he will get the hint that you like him, but i have to warn you if he is REALLY shy, then you might have to make the first move and ask him out! but GO FOR IT, you have nothing to lose! if he says YES, then you have a date! and if he says NO, then you know not to waste your time on him! but as far as getting him to open up, it is just something that takes time! make him feel comfortable by talking about things he knows about, and before you know it, you guys will be talking about everything! good luck, hope that helps!!

okay well tomorrow i want to wear this long jean skirt. its not super long but it goes a little bit past my knees. and its like body fitted.. i dont know if thats the right way to say it.. like its thight not flary. but anyways i dont know what shirt to wear with it? like i know a polo would look stupid & i dont know bout a real fancy top? what would look good with that? thanks in advice

basically a tight fitted shirt of any kind should do it! tube top, tank top, halter... whatever you have. an extra long fitted shirt would be cute too... maybe with a big belt over the shirt and some flip flops! denim skirts are easy... no matter what you pair up with it, you will look great! :)

I'm 16/male. I was just thinking about[and no not willing to try this] two ways that I heard to minimize the effect of drinking, mostly hangovers.

1. Drink a cup of olive oil before you drink

2. Take Tylenol before you drink

I think the second one causes problems if you do that too often with your liver. Can anyone verify any of these two? Is it true or not. And again I have never drinked and plan not to, but I was curious when I heard these statements. Thanks.

you deffinitely should not be taking tylenol or any other over the counter drugs like it with alcohol... if you read the warning label, it says not to take the medicine if you consume more than 3 alcoholic beverages that day! and about the olive oil... that sounds terrible! lol i would rather have a hangover than have to drink a cup of OIL!! but yeah i never get hangovers... i drink a lot of water before bed and when i wake up, and i sleep in for as long as i want! hope that helps!

I come on here and I always give advice but this time I am asking for advice. I have always been good at giving advice but as most people know for most people it is hard to come up with advice for theirself. There is this person who I use to date. The only reason we broke up is because we both got busy in our own lives. I love this person and their son with all of my heart and soul. They are my life eventhough we aren't together. Well about every couple months this person comes to me and tells me they still love me, they remember all the times we spent together, all the things we did together, how I used to hold them in my arms, how they held me and we took care of the other one when they were sick. They even said the dream about me. Since we broke up we have stayed in contact and we talk all the time. They do all of this even if they are in another relationship and the same goes for me. I have tried to be in other relationships, tried to love other people and just couldn't do it because my heart and mind is always on my ex. Both of us are always making comments about how we are both in a relationship why does it always work out this way. Well now we are both single but my ex says they are swearing off relationships. I guess my ex is tired of getting hurt eventhough I have never hurt my ex and have always loved that person and their son. My ex knows I still feel this way but still says they are staying single. So knowing how I feel and how they feel about me should I remain patient? if not, any suggestions on how to get over my ex? This whole thing has been going on for like over a year now. And I am heart broken because we are not together. I am a 24 year old female. I would appreciate any help and I am sorry this is so long. Thanks Fiesty

Hi! well all i have to say is that if this guy really has stong feelings for you, he would want nothing but to be with you and only you. You feel that way about him, so why doesn't he, right? I once broke up with a boyfriend of 2 years and we decided to stay "friends." we regularly talked, just like you talk to this guy, and we ALWAYS ended up getting back together... but then we always ended up breaking up because it just wasn't working out. I never got COMPLETELY 100% over him until we stopped talking and cut off all contact. I know it sounds hard, but it is a lot easier than having to deal wiht heartache every day. It might take a few weeks or months to get over him completely, and there will be mornings when you will wake up and question what you did, but in the end you won't even think about i twice! :) my ex is now in the army, and after 6 months of not talking to him, we now write letters and he calls me! things are normal, and we are friends without the heartache. but you can't have a friendship with someone who you were in a relationship with, unless there is a long break where you can each sort out your feelings and fully heal! good luck! :)

First I'll give some background info. When I first met this guy, I liked him. We went out, & broke up obviously because he liked this other girl, but he never told me that was why. Then we went out again a couple months later. Broke up again obviously because he wasn't over that other girl. Now, it still seems like he isn't over her, and I'm still not over him. It's been 7 months since we met each other/went out. About 3-4 weeks ago at a dance, he asked if we could have sex. I thought he was kidding so I said we could, jokingly. Then I told him I was kidding, after he asked if I was serious. So he accepted that, but then asked if he could have a kiss. I didn't kiss him because I thought he might be using me. [I'm NOT a slut, and he knows it. I've never made out with anyone, he knows that.] Then a couple days later, I unexpectedly had to go to Florida for 2 weeks. I didn't talk to him for those 2 weeks while I was gone. I came back to school on Monday and he started flirting with me more. Then he called me up last night, wanting me to go to his friends house, cuz he and a few other guys were there spending the night. He told me to "get my lips ready" & said, "I really like you." I told him, "I think you're just trying to use me." He denied. I got to the house & he's like, "lets go makeout" & asked me who I liked, if i liked him, all the things he used to ask when he liked me before. His friend also told me that he liked me. I again told him I thought he'd be using me. He said, "no! why would i use you? i know you're one of those girls who would wait til like marriage!" [i don't plan on waiting til marriage, i just don't want to get used] Then he asked again if I liked him, and I stupidly said no, because I've always wanted to tell him that I still have feelings for him, even though it's obvious he has them for that other girl. Then when I said no, he stopped trying to get me to makeout with him. But he kept hugging me. But now I wish I would've made out with him, and told him that I still liked him, but I pretty much lost the perfect opportunity to... when he asked. What do you think? Does he like me?

hey there! well I think from what you said, it is obvious that he doesn't have feelings for you anymore, and yes it does seem like he is using you when that other girl is not around! Sadly, a lot of people do that... but think about it. When you like someone, all you want to do is be with them and you don't care about being with anyone else. He broke up with you not once, but twice because he wanted to try and be with another girl. And you are saying that when the girl has a boyfriend, the guy is over you more! That's a pure sign that he just wants someone to fill in the gaps when he doesn't have a chance with the other girl! I'm very impressed with your actions and your way of thought! A lot of girls would have made out with him and given him whatever he wanted because they would have been in denial and thought that he liked them! But you are very smart for questioning him! Any time a guy doesn't want to be with you and only you, he doesn't like you like that anymore! So don't let him use you! Stop talking to him completely, and before you know it you will be 100% over him! Don't waste your time with a guy that doesn't really like you when you can be single and out there looking for the guy who will treat you like a queen and have eyes for no one else but you! Good Luck! =)

I am glad these kids have a place to go where they may get some logical advice about sex (and some bad advice too which is sad)

I am just wondering how many of you "adults" think that too many are having sex too early? To me, they know very little about the consequences--most questions are asked after the fact. Perhaps this shows that sex education is not done early enough and it is not effective enough. What do you think?

i read the kinds of questions 13 year olds ask about boys and relationships and sometimes they make me laugh because they are so silly (and they remind me of myself when i was 13 because i was exactly like them). to see such young, naive people who don't know ANYTHING about relationships and have had very little life experience have sex is absolutely scary and horrifying! not to be picking on them, but i don't want them all to become pregnant and have STDs and what not. my little sister is 14 and just the thought of her having sex freaks me out and makes me never want to let her out of the house! 13 year olds can't be responsible for themselves or their actions, and as a result they should NOT be having sex no matter what!

SOrry about the subject.

I was online the other day at like 3 am and my ex had IMed me. i brok eup with him about 2years ago. It was kinda the parents fault because of my grades and they told me i couldnt see him anymore. So online he was like hey slut: im like shut up and leave me alone. like half way thru him talking to me he told me if he ever snapped he would kill me. He said when i broke up with him i made him suffer and i causeed him to have no respect for girls anymore. Im like why do you say stuff like that and he said he can. He has a girlfriend right now that he has been with for over a year they live together. He had no trust in me what so ever. We wouldnt of lasted. My question is what do i do about him saying he would kill me? I dont have any prove because the message got deleted. I told my mom.

He lives in a different state. And he doesnt know where i live because i had moved.

Any help would be wonderful thnk.

he wouldn't find you or do that, he is just trying to scare you. don't talk to him, just block his screen name and forget he ever existed! if he somehow does contact you and threaten you again, tell him to leave you alone or you will call the police. that should get him running.

okay i've had the flu since sunday and every night i have a problem sleeping! i take 2 nyquils every night about 30 minutes before i go to bed.. then like around 4 in the morning i wake up coughing and extremely thirsty.. it just seems kind of weird because the docter i went to said that it was just a flu and to take 2 nyquils every night and a whole bunch of other stuff in the daytime, but its not working!

so anyone have any suggestions on what i can take to help me sleep better at night?

sorry to hear you're sick... i just recovered not too long ago. ok this is goin to sound gross, but it makes your throat feel SOOO good. fill up a glass of water and microwave it for about a minute or minute and a half. then add about a tablespoon of honey in it and squeeze some lemon into it as well. mix it up until the honey dissolves... sounds gross, but it's not that bad AT ALL and did miracles for me right away! also keep a bottle of water next to your bed and drink it every time you wake up at night from coughing! drink a LOT of water ALL day! it helps! hope u feel better soon!!

How can I explain to my boyfriend that if his parents end up getting a divorce it isn't his fault?

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....Last night when I was talking on the phone to my boyfriend on the phone he told me that he thinks his parents are going to get a divorce. He says that all they ever do is fight and that his dad has slept on the couch everynight for the past two months. He said that his parents haven't said anything about getting a divorce, but he can just feel it and his younger brothers and sister cannot. He is 17 and the oldest kid in the famliy and he feels like this is all his fault. He thinks he has put too much stress on his parents because:
1. He is the oldest and is never home. He is always out with his friends.

2. He almost died last year when he fell off the stairs at school. [infact he feels that he cheated death because he was falling head first and landed on his feet]

I need a way to explain to him that if his parents get a divorce it wont be his fault.

hi! well first of all, a lot of times when people are going through a hard time, they try to seek a lot of attention from others in order to help them cope! im not sure whether he truly thinks this divorce is his fault or not, but either way just make sure to always be there for him and help make his life easier. always let him know that you are there for him if he needs to talk or if he needs anything at all.. he knows this already but it will be nice for him to hear you say it! but anyways, people always try to blame things on themselves, and most of the time, it makes no sense that they are blaming themselves. in this case, it is deffinitely NOT his fault... his parents don't want to be with each other... if he was the problem, they wouldn't want HIM to be around. if he was the "problem," his parents would WANT to stay together and help one another get thru the "problem." but that's not the case... they are each other's problem and they want to leave each other as a result. no matter what happens just make sure to tell him that it's not his fault every day, and assure him that you are there for him no matter what! it's a hard thing to go through, but he will get over it eventually, and it will be much easier with your help! :)

How do I pierce my own ears?

well, you can go through all the pain of doing it yourself, or you can feel almost NO pain by going to a professional... a lot of times it is free if you buy earrings. and even if it is not free, it is more than worth it... it would probably cost you a lot more (in money AND pain) if it gets infected... which there is a good chance that it will! plus you need to wear the special earrings for a while that you get at the piercing place! hope that helped! good luck!

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