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ok,so im cutting my hair about 2 1/2 inchs cause it is COMPLEATLY dead,but im wondering,i might get a little bit of layers, what do i tell the person if i only want a little bit of layers? i know i cant just say that,they'll get confused,i want some just for movement in my hair maybe a little more for style. also, once i get my hair cut, i want to get a new straightener,which ones dont burn your hair as much? (i heard there are some that hydrate your hair with steam- any brands that you know of?) alsooo,if there is no straightener like that what are some really good brands of heat protectant spray? thanks!

Hi there.
I'm obsessed with haircare, so I'm happy to help on this one :)

Okay, as for you hair cut.
Make sure you POINT to the stylist how short you want it. I once saw a tv show and they mentioned that 2.5 inches to you is alot LONGER then 2.5 inches to the stylist. Thus, I recommend getting a picture if it all possible.
Do not hesitate to ask questions or tell him/her if they are not cutting it the right way, they actually prefer it when you tell them what you don't like about what they're doing. If you think about it, the stylist is just guessing and hoping it meets your expectations. So for the layers, tell him/her that you want 1-4 layers, where you want them to start, how long you want them, how far apart you want them etc. And fully discuss the cut before they take scissors to your hair.



For the straighteners; there aren't really any that 'protect' your hair no matter what people say. I once asked my stylist the same thing, and he told me flat out no.

The key to protecting hair when straightening is getting a good quality flat iron (He recommened a CHI, a Sedu, or a Helen Of Troy Ceramic Series) and how you treat your hair. You should wash your hair atleast 4 times a week with a hydrating shampoo [I use SunSilk Hydra TLC, you could also try Pantene Time Renewal Restorative]
Also, you must use a heat protectant before straightening. I use CHI 44 Iron Guard.

Make sure your hair is bone dry before flat ironing. Also deep condition about once a month. Many brands (Garnier, Pantene) make a deep conditioner, you just need to find the best one for you.

Good Luck

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So I am aware that its only 3 days until christmas but i have absolutly no idea what im going to get my super-sweet boyfriend... id like to know what everyone got their bfs for christmas and what i should get for mine. just a little about him he is 14 and he plays lacrosse and football (when in season). he and all his weird friends play that stupid halo game. ahha. i know. anyways// he's so sweet and we havent been going out for long. all the lacrosse guys are obsessed with mulan (yes the disney movie) and they all sing the pokemon songs on the way to their tournies. and they were champs at the reindeer games. chyeahh. so anyways back on topic.


id perfer not to get anything sexual. someone tld me to get him some boxers. im sorry. thats like getting someone socks.

but please help... EEK.

xoxo
sorry for long msg. :)

p.s. nothing chessy. like my mom sugested those little halmark bears that have magnets in their noses. ew i think not. he has an ipod and limewire so, yeah. that might help.
:( hurry. im screwed

I got my boyfriend a UGA sweatshirt&tshirt.
He loved it, especially since thats his favorite
team. I would recommend that, since you did say
he likes football [you can get him whatever team he prefers] I also got him a bag of his favorite candy; Watermelon Jolly Ranchers.

Good Luck

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Ok, to make this really short, I'm becoming the third wheel in my frienship. My best friend recently started dating one of our other guy friends. We used to all hang out, us a other people too, but now its just me, her and her boyfriend and I feel as though I'm becoming the third wheel. What can I do about this?

Try asking her if you guys can hang out in
a bigger group sometime. Maybe bring along
another friend for you, I know where you're coming from and being a third wheel is deffinitley no fun.

I'm sure your friend will understand
if you tell her that you're kind of uncomfortable around just the two of them, or if you feel left out. If you don't want to be around them when they kiss or something, ask her to keep the pda at a minimum.
Communication is key, words to live by.

Good Luck

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hey. i love your layout. i was wondering where you got it? but in a different color. you give great advice.
xoxox.

Thanks :]

For the part that has the stripes, I just used a random pattern from photobucket.com [I just searched STRIPES under the 'Images' button] Then I right clicked, hit properties, and copied the URL.

Then I pasted the URL in the Sidebar Background Image (URL) spot under Column Settings.
You can do this for any picture.

Inbox me if you're still unclear about this.
Good Luck

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im 13/f..

well i have sensitive eyes.. i know because ive had ee infection b4. well i wanna wear those colored contacts for funn like you those with the color and you can wear them even though there aint nothin wrong with your eye? well yeah do you think it is safe 4 me or..... i shudnt buy some//



if it is okay, i have dark brwn hair and naturall back eyes i have mediun skin..
what do you think is a good color for my eye?


thanks so much

Hi there :]
First off, I recommend seeing an eye doctor.
Yeah yeah, he's the only one who can tell you
what condition your eyes are in, and if they are
ready for contacts.

Now, once the doctor has given you the okay,
I'd recommend getting green or gray contacts.
Not a brilliant green, but a soft green to give
more color to your face.

Good Luck :)

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my mom makes me walk to the library after school on tuesdays and thursdays. well its fine except i always get like shouted at by boys and men. i dont wear revealing clothes or anything but they always say things like, "nice ass" or "hey hottie' and i hate it so much. it happens whenever my parents arent with me. what can i do?

Eek, one of the many problems of being a girl.
You could:
A) Try another route.
B) Call someone on your cell and talk to them the whole walk there. Most people won't say much if your on the phone, plus this will make it easier to ignore them.
C) Get a friend to walk to the library with you.
D) Tell your mom about the problem, maybe she'll give you a ride instead.
E) If you have a sense of humor, you could wear a Nun costume. Just kidding.

If it continues, just make sure your parents know you're concerned about it. I'm sure they wouldn't want their daughter talked to like this.

Good Luck

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Ok well my friend just got a new chocolate phone (green), and today at lunch she said- do you want to see my new phone, I said- I don't care about your fucking phone, she got mad at me. and I knew she just wanted to show it to me to rub it in my face. She knew I wanted one. She's that kind of a person. ok so now she's pissed off at me because of that, stupid I know. Ok do I appologize or what I would like to do is punch her in the face. (I will to) what should I do.

Hah, what a familiar problem.
I'd just let yourself be aggrivated with her for a bit. I mean, if she KNEW you wanted that phone it's very possible she was showing off. Perhaps, for revenge get something she wants and rub it in her face? You know, Karma.

Although, I do not advocate violence of this sort, so I do not recommend punching her, even though I understand where the urge is coming in. Let her know she's being bitchy about this, maybe by telling her off. Other then that, I'd wait for an apology from her, she was wrong.

Good Luck

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alright i really need a little advice here.
thank-you in advance.

Alright well my bestfriend came out and told me that hes liked me for two years. i was very shocked because i would have never guessed. he gave me a list of reasons why he liked me
-im not like other girls
-im cool
-easy to talk to
-good looking
-the only girl that hes liked that has actually paid attention to him
ionno there was a few other things too but i forget. Its all very cute, but there is one problem.... i dont like him back in the way and i told him that i dont want to ruin our friendship if were to date because i value it a lot. and he seemed to get it. Now we talk and its not awkward but he brings up the fact that he likes me. hes always bringing up the fact that he dealt with holding in his emotions for two years and that since i dont want to go out with him he can do it for however longer he has feeling for me. so its all good.... EXCEPT that now im hearing rumours that hes going to ask me out.. and i dont know what to say this time. please help

thanks

This might be his own personal way of dealing with rejection. If he liked you as much as he is employing he did, then it'll take a little time.
Let him get over it in his own way, however try to keep things the same. Don't ignore him, don't crowd him either, just go about each day as normal as possible. If incase he does ask you out, reply with a 'I kinda thought you understood me when I said I valued our friendship too much to risk it like that.' Make sure he knows you find it sweet and flattering, but sending him the wrong message will only make things worse.

One hint though, do not discuss a new crush with him in the near future, this could totally ruin your whole friendship, which isn't good.

Good Luck

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I think Im pregnant and i dont know what to do. My boyfriend really wants me to have a kid and at times I do to but i feel like im to young and im not ready. I dont believe in abortion. What do i do!?

First off, make sure if you're pregnant or not.
Get three tests, this way you can be sure.
If you're still not convinced, see a doctor to be sure.

Now, if you are pregnant you are given three options. 1. Keep the baby. 2. Abortion. or 3. Adoption.

If you are young and you feel you can't handle a baby but against abortion, your only other option is adoption or giving the baby to your parents/relatives if possible.

As you know, your other choices are keeping the baby or abortion. I must say, this topic truly needs to be discussed with parents, your boyfriend, and your doctor. Even if its hard, you have to think of the baby, the baby's future, and your own future.

Good luck

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what is the best mascara to use to make ur eye lashes look long? i dont care if its expensive.

I love Maybelinne Lash Stylist.
Works amazing, I especially love the applicator, ha.

However, I've found using an eyelash curler increases the look of your lashes by a ton, I really recommend you trying one of those.
Good Luck

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My Ex & I have been done for overr 2 months.. but he calls me, emails me, IMs me, etc.. non-stop.. I don't really understand because we both decided to just be friends. & just called me & i find it kind of random.. What should I do? Why does my ex want to talk to me so much?


Sincerely,

ThinkI'mOvErIt!

Sounds like he hasn't gotten over you.
Talk to him and see if thats the case.
If you still like him, you can get back together if thats what he wants also. Other then that, you're just going to have to explain to him that 'friends' don't call, email, or im each other 24/7. But in a polite way of course :]

Good Luck

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Okayy my best friend recently started to shop at hollister. So i thought i would get her stuff from there for christmas. But see im not really the "preppy" type so i wouldnt know what to pick out from there that would be cute and she would like. So what are some of the things you like. Pictures would be appreciated.
thankss.

I would recommend checking out the clearance racks at Hollister. You could get her a simple fitted tee with whatever design you would like. They cost about 10-15$ on clearance. Or, you could shoot for a polo but those run about 25$ at least. They also have totes there, which can be great but can also run kind of pricey.

I personally love this shirt:
http://www.hollisterco.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product_10251_10201_309671_-1_12597_12552

It'd be great for a Christmas present.
And these are the totes I mentioned:
http://www.hollisterco.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/category1_10251_10201_12624_-1_12552

Inbox me if you have any other questions.
Good Luck

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which do you prefer on guys?

tattoos or piercings?

and if either or both...which part of the body?

thanks for reading

Personally, I'm not a fan of either.
One piercing in the ear is fine with me.
But I'm not a fan of tattoos at all.

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ok well me and my gf just broke up and i just really want to be sad right now every one is all like u need to get happyer or w/e but i just really want to lay down and listin to sad music


so dose any one know any sad songs i could get

for instanse
tonight i want to cry-keith urban

kinda stull like that

thanx

I'll go thru my playlsit and find some.
These songs may not all be about breakups but majority are. The ones that aren't always help me get thru tough times, they're all 'soothing.'

Grab your new boyfriends, Ben & Jerry, turn up the radio and listen to these.

Whats Left of Me- Nick Lachey.
This I Swear- Nick Lachey.
What Hurts the Most- Rascal Flatts
My Wish- Rascal Flatts
God Blessed the Broken Road- Rascal Flatts
Lips of an Angel- Hinder
I'm Not Okay- My Chemical Romance
Far Away- Nickleback
Here Without You- 3 Doors Down
Let Me Go- 3 Doors Down
I Miss You- Blink 182
Hate Me- Blue October
Diary Of Jane- Breaking Benjamin
The Adventure- Angels & Airways.
There Goes My Life- Kenny Chesney
You Save Me- Kenny Chesney
Anything but Mine- Kenny Chesney
Unsinkable Ships- Kenny Chesney
Come a little closer Baby- Dierks Bently
Settle for a Slowdown- Dierks Bently
Not Ready to Make Nice- Dixie Chicks
I'm So Sick- Flyleaf
Where'd You Go- Fort Minor
Best I've Ever Had- Gary Allen
Better Days- Goo Goo Dolls
Dear Jamie- HelloGoodbye
Let the Rain Fall- Hilary Duff
Better then Me- Hinder
The Reason- Hubastank
You Raise Me Up- Josh Groban
Making Memories of Us- Keith Urban
Because of You- Kelly Clarkson
I Hope you Dance- Leanne Womack
Hanging by a Moment- Lifehouse
You and Me- Lifehouse
She Will Be Loved- Maroon 5
Goodbye to You- Michelle Branch (FAVORITE)
A Thousan Miles- Vanessa Carlton
Built This Way- Samantha Ronson
Innocence- Sarah Buxton
Come Home Soon- SheDaisy
The Town that You Live In- Sherwood
Older I Get- Skillet
Best of Me- The Starting Line
MakeDamnSure- Taking Back Sunday (Always gets my anger out!)
For you I will- Teddy Geiger
It Ends Tonight- All American Rejects
Leave the Pieces- The Wreckers

Don't worry about your friends.
Take some time for yourself.
Good Luck :)

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i am going through a major depresstion right now and who i thought was really helping me was my boyfriend. well in the past he got wrapped up in a lot of things and met some people who are really causing problems with him. but its not something that he can just get out of if he wants to. and he thinks that its best for me if he kepped me out of it because he really cares about me and doesn't want nothing to happen. do i just go along with it or what? i don't know what to do.
i am a 16 yr. old girl

I'd make sure he knows you're conserned.
Just ask him about it, if he doesn't want to talk, don't make him. Trust him, thats key in the relationship. If he thinks you not being in the middle of it is best, trust his descision.

Don't exactly ignore it though; but don't bring it up in everyday conversation. Just, continue going out with him and enjoying things with him. If this whole 'situation' gets too serious, you might want to really talk to him about it and make sure he can handle things.

Good Luck :)

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so my boyfriend and i broke up and it was just a week and my 'best' friend now likes him, should i forgive her or just ignore her?
because she like's my ex - isn't that considered backstab?
;l

I did this once to a friend; however I asked her permission before he and I dated. Even though she said it was 'okay' she was not happy of it, but afraid to tell me how she felt.

Your friend just has a crush.
At times, they seem more important then
a friend. A week is a little quick, so in ways
yes it could be considered backstabbing.
I would talk to her, if you're hurt tell her.
My friend no longer talks to me because
even though she gave me permission to date him
it hurt her considerably, so I would not recommened you giving her false approvals.
So don't forgive her right away, talk to her.
If you're willing, forgive her then.

Good Luck :)

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hi.
im 13 and im like the youngist in my group of friends.
everyone else is like 14 or 15.
all my freinds but my have had sex already and i just started masterbaiting.
i strted my period about 7 monthe ago and i just got off my period yesterday.my friend said i need to learn to have an orgasm and let me borrow her vibrator.
when i used it, it made me start bleeding agin..
why is that?

Since you're a virgin, you most likley broke your hymen or 'popped your cherry.'
Its okay, it'll stop soon, it should just be spotting after a while.

Remember, having sex is known as making love.
Therefor, it should be shared with someone you love. Not with a guy to make you fit in.

Good Luck

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Okay ive made out with a few guys before..but my new boyfriend never has..i really like him and i wanna make out with him like suuuper bad hehe but yea he says that he will mess it up and that he'll look stupid..it drives me crazy because i really want to make out with him..what do i do to make him ready?

Tell him you like him too much to care.
Then kiss him, and don't let him back away.
Just keep going thru with it and just makeout with him. If he likes it, he won't care about messing up.

Good Luck :)

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Okay well i straighten my hair all the time..and its starting to be not so soft and it feels really dead. People say to just stop straightening my hair so much but i cant it is super frizzy and wavy and im super self concience about it and i hate it. Does anyone know products or even ways to straighen my hair so it wont get so burnt?

1. Try to embrace your frizzy, wavy hair. Mine's the exact same. So wash your hair then apply frizz serum right when you get out of the shower. Then, when your hair is dramp 'scrunch' it with Curling Mousse. When its dried a little bit, curl any 'not perfect' strands with a curling iron then shake your hair to loosen it up to match the other waves. Be sure to hairspray when done! :)

If this doesn't work for you, or you do not like the curlyhead look:
1. Wash your hair with SunSilk Hydra TLC, I love it. Or you could try Pantene Restorative shampoo+conditioner (its supposed to reverse damage from up to two years) I'm not sure how great it works because its too pricey for me.

2. Right before you straighten your hair, apply CHI 44 Iron Guard spray. (About $8, but really worth it!) You can buy that from any beauty supply store, its amazing. Spray lightly on each layer and comb thru then straighten your hair normally. This is a heat-protectant.

3. Once a month/week do a deep conditioning treatment. Many brands make these, pick which one you like the best. This will renew moisture.

4. Wash your hair once every two days. This will save your hairs natural oils making it more soft and healthy.

Good Luck :)

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hey, i hope it's ok i added you as a fave. columnist.... you answered my question about cheerleading, and to tell you the truth... ur username made me think you were a dude.... L.O.L. but i know your not. i say "dude" a lot too. can write a question to me to or just a message even if you do i will return the message ;)

aw thanks i'm flattered. :)
ha, yeah i get that alot.

if you send me your username i'll be happy to add you back.

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