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my bestfriend likes me
alright i really need a little advice here.
thank-you in advance.
Alright well my bestfriend came out and told me that hes liked me for two years. i was very shocked because i would have never guessed. he gave me a list of reasons why he liked me
-im not like other girls
-im cool
-easy to talk to
-good looking
-the only girl that hes liked that has actually paid attention to him
ionno there was a few other things too but i forget. Its all very cute, but there is one problem.... i dont like him back in the way and i told him that i dont want to ruin our friendship if were to date because i value it a lot. and he seemed to get it. Now we talk and its not awkward but he brings up the fact that he likes me. hes always bringing up the fact that he dealt with holding in his emotions for two years and that since i dont want to go out with him he can do it for however longer he has feeling for me. so its all good.... EXCEPT that now im hearing rumours that hes going to ask me out.. and i dont know what to say this time. please help
thanks
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how do you know it is going to ruin your friendship.Just give him a chance and say to him..listen, though I want to give this a try, please understand if it dosnt work out that I really want us to still be the best of friends.And for him to come out after 2yrs and then (talking about FUTURE) and for you'd then to break his heart, isnt exactly nice and to know his best ever mate was the one who hurt him - who has he to turn to?
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i think it is really nice that he like you and all, so you gonna have to make him see the negative part of this like it will ruin your friendship. try talking to him before he ask you out so he won't be disappointed on the day he ask you, or you two can go out as friends, maybe you will like it, if not i am sure he will understand(sure he will act upset for a while but he will come around). hope i help
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Aww I think that`s really cute. If I was in this situation, I`d give him a chance, because you never know you guys might be perfect for eachother. But on the other hand if you`re not willing to give him a chance then just let him ask you out, and then say, "sorry you`re a great friend and all but I kind of like someone else." Or anything like that. & yeah it`s going to take him a while to get over you, but who know`s maybe you`ll start liking him later on! Good Luck & I hope everything goes Okay! ♥ =)
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This might be his own personal way of dealing with rejection. If he liked you as much as he is employing he did, then it'll take a little time.
Let him get over it in his own way, however try to keep things the same. Don't ignore him, don't crowd him either, just go about each day as normal as possible. If incase he does ask you out, reply with a 'I kinda thought you understood me when I said I valued our friendship too much to risk it like that.' Make sure he knows you find it sweet and flattering, but sending him the wrong message will only make things worse.
One hint though, do not discuss a new crush with him in the near future, this could totally ruin your whole friendship, which isn't good.
Good Luck<3
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okay. well.
1. Rumors are worthless information. It probably started because someone found out he likes you..and it somehow got twisted into "omg this kid likes her and is going to ask her out". so yeah, i wouldn't beleive that.
2. It is sweet that he likes you because of those reasons. and not just because your hot or anything.
i'm not EXACTLY sure on what you should say to that kid...but just say you would rather be friends..cuz you don't want to hurt him.
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