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Q: ive been going out with this amazing girl for 4 days but the problem is i dont think she knows i love her /i dont think she loves me,can sum1 tell me a way to tell her i love her,by the way im 12 years old and we hav kissed twice like just a little pek though.

Okay not to be rude but you are really really young and you have only been dating this girl for 4 days, so don't jump to the conclusion that you love her. Give it time and see where everything goes because if you jump to it then it might just scare her off.

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Q: me and my bf were just fooling arond and he gave out the pre cum and rubbed it on my brests and then inserted the same hand inside my pantie and felt the sides of my vagina....will this cause pregnancy?

Precum can cause pregnancy, but it is a very small chance because there is sperm in precum. I wouldn't worry unless you miss your period. You really need to be careful about this stuff though, one wrong mistake and boom! your whole life could be ruined.

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Q: im obsessed with my boyfriend v weve been going out for almost 3 years and were only in hs. weve done everything but sex and i am in love. ive tried to picture myself with someone else and i just cant. lately he has been pulling away and idk what to do because im obsessed what do i do to make him obsessed with me again and dont say talk to him because i would be right now but ive tried and he says nothing is wrong. just tell me what to do ill do anything

Okay in my opinion you are making the mistake of pushing yourself on a guy and being to available. This really freaks guys out most of the time and it will make him pull away from you. I advise that you pull back a little bit and show him that even though you care about him, that you aren't going to keep trying and trying if he isn't going to try back. Once you pull in the reigns alittle I think he will come back around.

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Q: i've been with the same guy for almost a year and he was my best friend before we ever started dating. i love him but i'm not IN love with him (theres a difference) and i just really don't see myself ever really falling for him. we get along really well and we care about each other... there's not much to complain about. But i've really started liking this other guy, we actually met through my current boyfriend and just really hit it off, we've become good friends. i get the feeling he kinda likes me too so now what? he's a senior.. ready to graduate too while i'm just a junior but being with him feels so right.

do you think he's more ready for college and not a girlfriend?
any other advice would be great whether it's on my current relationship or my new friendship.. thank you!

I know where you are coming from, the same thing happened with my ex and I. I just wasn't in love with him anymore, I still cared about him, but I agree with you there is a difference. I also understand the thing you are saying about the guy you like, my current boyfriend is a senior and I am a junior, but you have to realize that guys do not mature half as quickly as girls. Which is why guys always date younger women. I think you should explain to your current boyfriend how you feel and try things with the new guy. Hopefully you will be lucky enough for you and your current to stay friends, that is what my ex and I try to do. Though it does cause problems sometimes.

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Q: I guess the answer is quite obvious but as always, fool in like always think up of excuses only until the truth is blatantly staring at you in your face.

so, anyhow
there's this guy that I recently met at the wakeboarding group.
Our group meets up once a forthnight to wakeboard.
Previously he asked me if I wanted to go wakeboard with him, but because someone interrupted the conversation, it kinda stopped there.

So when our group met up again 2 days ago, I casually asked him 'so , when do you want to go wakeboarding'. His reply was 'Anytime, just give me a call.' so of course I whipped out my mobile all ready to exchange numbers. But he doesn't take his out and instead give me his number. And NEVER asked me back for mine.

So please hit me in the face and wake me up guys and gals. Does this simply mean that he's just not that into me, or not into me at all?
I kinda thought that getting a person's number is imperative if you like him/her.

confused. boo.

Well that is true is most cases, but maybe he is shy or doesn't want to seem to forward so he is just going to let you call him. Maybe he just wanted to see if you were interested in him? Who knows boys are the most confusing people in the world. I think you should just give him a call one day and see where it goes from there. He may ask you for your number later after he sees that you are really interested.

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Q: Hey, I asked a question yesterday, and like, it was about if I had a u.t.i. but, now I'm not sure if that's what it is. On like, the opening [still the outside] of my vagina, one side is bigger than the other, and it really hurts, and it still hurts to pee. And I have small lump things randomly down there. Does anyone know what it could be? I had sex april 11, and he had a condom and stuff, but could that cause it? Please help. I'm really worried. I'm probably going to go to the doctors next week, but I'd like to know sooner what it could possibly be. I'm really scared.

This really seriously sounds like an STD or something else that could be very serious. I really really think that you need to go see a doctor, because seeing as none of us are doctors and we can't see it we can't tell you what it is. This could be something really serious and you need to get it checked out as soon as possible.

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Q: f/15
does it really hurt for a girl for the first time cause if it hurt so bad then why do people do it again>>>

That really depends on who you are. It hurts some people more than others. It also depends on whether your hymen is already broken or not.
When it does hurt it isn't a really really bad pain and it usually stops after the first or second time of having sex.

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Q: Okay, so.
There's this guy I really like, lets call him Billy, and so I went somewhere with my friends, and I knew Billy was there. So I meet up with him, and I was like can I have a hug? And his like I owe you one. So I gave him a hug. But when my friend asked for one, he didn't want to he finally did. And we talked for a bit and than he left to go back with his friends, because he was with them before. And so the next day, I texted Billy saying I really like him. And that was like 5 days ago. Finally, he writes back yesterday saying 'hi'. like nothing happen. BUT, the promblem is. I'm not over my ex. But I'm tring to get over him untill the other day he talked to me. And me and him where like in love, or really really really liked one another. What do I do? Like does Billy like me? And is there anything I can do, to like make things back to normal, because its weird when I talk to him now. What should I do with my ex? I mean I really do like him, maybe even love him. And I'm stressing out about this. Please help me :]

Well your ex is your ex and so you must have broken up for some reason or another. It is probably best if you move on, unless you completely feel like you really really want to get back with him.

As for Billy, seeing as he ignored your text message I think he probably either isn't ready to admit he likes you or he doesn't. Your best bet would probably be to just act as if nothing had ever happened. If he likes you then he will come up to you sooner or later and let you know.

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Q: Well me and my boyfreind have been going out for 1 year Im only 14 and I haved had qute a few boyfreinds. Well are 1 year aniversy is on the 1st of next month and latly he had been pushing me to have sex and I just dont think im ready. Yes I love him but once you do somthing like that things just change. Im pretty sure on are aniversy night hes really going to try. So what should I do give in or not?
thanks in advanced
peace

You should not give into something you don't feel you are ready for. If this boy really loved you as much as he says he does then he would accept your decision. Giving your virginity away is not to be taken lightly and once its gone its gone. Sex is also alot of responsibility and you shouldn't give in until you think you are completely ready for all that responsibilty.

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Q: I have a great boyfriend.
He just always touches my stomach, he'll rub it and just sorta play with it when we're sitting on the couch. I'm not fat, but I do have a bit of a belly.
i just don't understand it, we'll jsut be walking and he'll grab my sides and give the bit of fat there and give it a little squeeze, or just pat my tummy. I just don't get why he likes it? I swear no one's supposed to like fat.
Or I sorta think it's because he weighs so little (like 100) pounds that he touches my stomach because he thinks I'm fat. Iunno.

My boyfriend does the exact same thing and I weigh a little bit more than him and when I tell him to stop he says 'no i love it.' Boys don't like stick skinny girls they like that little bit of cushion and I don't know why but they are usually attracted to it. I'm pretty sure he isn't saying you are fat, he simply likes that little cushion.

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Q: Well me and my boyfreind arent talking at them moment well lets start with the basics. Im 14 this is like my 30th boyfreind I swear it just never works out me and him have been dating for 1 year. He wants to go all the way and im not ready for the responslablty of a babie if I get pregant and im jsut not ready so what should I do he said he wanted to dump me but I love him he is the only guy I ever told I loved i mean plenty of guys had said I love you but i didnt say it back.

If this boy is going to pressure you into having sex with him and he uses the I thought you loved me thing, then you deserve so much better. He doesn't really love you if he is going to break-up with you simply because you won't have sex with him. You need to stick with your beliefs and not let anyone take those away from you. You are a 14 year old and if you do not think you are ready for the responsibilities of sex, which I think is a very mature decision, then do not do it. Sex is supposed to be special and losing your virginity is not something to be taken ligthly. You should wait until you are ready for all of the responsiblities that come along with it.

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Q: Okay so I was with this guy name well lets call him charles and well we were together for three years from 6th grade till 8th grade and he was my first love...well he caused me alot of drama when ever we would break up and I have even been in a huge fight because of him but evertime we fight we still end up talking again now he is the first guy I ever did anything sexual with so me and him always have that little dirty thing between us well its been like a year since we talked and he saw my mom in the store and decided to call me well now we have been talking for like 2 weeks and Im happy but my mom dosent know about it cause she really dosent want us talking...well he has a girlfriend and I told him I had a bf when i really dont well I just want you opinon cause I kind of want to have sex with him but IDK what I should do

Well first of all he has a girlfriend and I don't really think it's right to break them up just because you want to have sex with him. I think you should tell him that he has a girlfriend and to get back to you when he doesn't. After that look into dating someone new, you probably won't be able get over him unless you start trying now.

It would also be hard to date someone if your mother is against it, she is just trying to avoid you getting hurt again. I think you should be friends with your ex and then find you a boy that doesn't have a girlfriend and will treat you great and that loves you. You deserve better than an ex that you simply miss your sexual times with. You are always going to love him and have a connection with him because of the fact that he was your first love and your first a few other things, but you are going to have to get over that and move on with your life[[sorry to be blunt]]. I really hope you make a good decision.

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Q: I have recently broke up with my boyfriend. However, I think it was wrong. I thought that I did love him the way he loved me, but now that we are not dating, I am realizing that I did care about him a lot. I don't know if he will understand and let me back into his life again in the same way as we had before. What do I do? Do I even have a chance of getting him back? Or is it over for good? Help me please

The best thing for you to do is talk to him about it. Let him know that you made a mistake and that you now know how much he really means to you. He may be really hurt by the fact that you broke up with him though, so he may not respond right away of ever. If he can't handle it at first then you should just give him some space and you may have to think about the fact that he may never be able to get over it and you may not get him back. Sorry to be blunt. I really hope you do because it stinks to lose someone you love.

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Q: so there this boy. i like him and he tells me he likes me. he always pisses my friend off so she hates him. about a month or so ago we had sex and i lost my virginity to him. yes i was ready, no i dont regret it, no im not inlove with him. i didnt like him til now. but one time when me him and his friends were together i was sitting next to him and i said "im cold" becuase it was like 10pm and cold outside. and his friends were laughing and were like "go warm her up!" to my boy. and he was laughing to. and then they were all talking about my ass and how it was big and stuff. my friend thinks hes just using me thats also why she doesnt like him.

so is he using me?

Well for one he is a boy and is going to act this way around his friends whether he is using you or not. Boys are just jerks like that sometimes. But I really couldn't say if he is using you or not, he could be because alot of guys are like that. Or he could not be and just be acting that way around friends so he doesn't seem like a wussy. I think you should talk to him and let him know that you aren't going to be a bootycall. Let him know that he has to respect you and if he just blows you off then he was probably using you and you can do better. I hope things work out for you.

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Q: ok so... there's a guy and I just realized I liked him last night. I kind of took notice as to how cute he was before, but now I completely notice. He's really nice and funny and he even put his arm on me last night :] well, his family is really involved in our church and stuff and they keep kind of a short leash on their kids. He doesn't have a cell phone, or even an AIM. so, i like him a lot and I dont know how to get him to notice me as more than a friend. And I usually kind of rely a little on the AIM/texting/calling kind of thing. so help please!

Well if you go to church together then why not strike up a conversationg at church, then maybe exchange home phone numbers. That will give you a way to communicate with him without being in person. Then maybe if that goes well ask him to go bowling or something, make it a neutral environment with lots of people there so you can be comfortable. I'm sure once you get to talking to him you will have no problem with it.

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Q: I've been dating this boy for about 3 months now, offically. Before that we were an "item" for a couple of months. I don't fancy myself to be in love, considering I'm 16 and don't consider myself mature enough to be in love. I do however care about him, quite alot. But there are a few catches.Theres an age difference. I was 15, and him 18, when we first started dating. I turned 16 two weeks ago. He's a senior, and I a sophmore. This age difference really doesn't matter to me, age is just a number. Its where you are in life that allows you to have a connection. But this age difference means that in August he'll be going away to college. But I knew this going in and have accepted it as the inevitable and see no reason to dwell on it. As someone wise once said "shit happens." I also don't expect him to keep things going with me after he leaves. A 4 hour drive is a ridiculously long way away for a 18 and 16 year old. I wish I was optimistic enough to think it would work, but it wouldn't. I am however optimistic enough to think that we could last through a 45 minute drive. We met through the Washington DC Right for Life march, and live in the same state, but in too different towns. It started off as us just wanting to be friends. But we were spending 6 hours on the phone. And meeting every other weekend. The second time we met we ended up kissing. But neither of us were ready to commit to such a distance, mostly because I couldn't drive. But as time went on we got more and more attached to each other and we finally decided to make things offical. It hasnt been easy. My parents are sticklers and won't let me drive the 45 minutes to go see him. And I can't expect him to drive that far with gas prices how they are every weekend. So we don't get to see each other as often as we would like. Another catch is the fact that he's a HUGE flirt. I mean, shameless flirter. And he's going to prom with another girl. She is one of his good friends, but I still feel 'iffy' about the whole ordeal. It would be different if she couldn't find another date, but she's drop dead gorgeous and if I didn't resent her so much I'd probably say she was pretty nice as well. This put stress on the relationship, but I've tried not to say anything. I'm trying to be understanding. But it still upsets me. Other than this the relationship has been good, great, up until the night before last. He told me he felt that our relationship was fake. He knew we both cared about each other alot, but the long distance was taking its toll. That he didn't want things to be over, but he didn't know how long we'd last. This came out of no where. No where. I swear. Then last night he got drunk and made out with his ex. He called me later still trashed and told me what happened. He said he was so incredibly sorry, that I deserved so much better, that he did it because he was drunk and thought I was going to leave him, that he'd never do anything to intentionally hurt me. I just don't know what to do. I love him. Not in love, but I do love. And I don't want to break up with him. But I don't know what to do about this. I'm not mad, just hurt. And I don't know what to say to him. I don't want to break up, but I can't have him doing stuff like that to me....any advice?

Not to be rude but it seems to me like he does want to break-up, but he doesn't want to hurt you by doing so. So he is trying to do things and say things that are going to make you have second thoughts and think about breaking-up. If he is going to do this kind of stuff whenever you are only 45 minutes away and he is in highschool imagine how bad it is going to be once he reaches college. Things are just going to get worse. I think you should really talk to him and let him know that you care about him and all, but that you can't have someone cheating on you and telling you that things aren't going to last. Of course, they aren't going to last if neither think it will.

It would probably be in your best interest to end it now while you still have a choice and haven't gotten hurt really bad yet. You need to decide if he is trustworth enough, if you love him enough, if you care about the relationship enough, if it's not to any one of these questions then you should probably just let go. Yes, its going to hurt like hell, but think of how it's going to feel when he calls you one night and tells you he cheated on you or you call one night and a chick answers? Him going away to college is going to put 10 times as much strain on your relationship and if you are already having doubts know then you should let yourself let go before it gets to far. Sorry to be so blunt about it.

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Q: So the other night I got home from a concert and my boyfriend said he "knows for a fact" that I am cheating on him. I work late hours (til between 12am and 3:30am) and go out with friends maybe once a week, and sometimes grab a beer if I get off work early. I have no desire to cheat on him...but no matter what I say he does not believe me, I told him I love him and have no interest, check my timecard for work, etc. Still he thinks I am lying. I really just like to go out and have a good time with friends once in a while. Its gotten to the point where he makes sure I wear plain cotton underwear to work. How can I convince him to allow me to keep hanging out with my friends at night and that i am not cheating? he doesnt drink or like going out so I cannot invite him with, plus he works during the day so when i go out he is just sleeping anyway. I feel like I have said everything to him I possibly could.

This could be a really big problem later in your relationship, so you need to get rid of it now. Sit him down and talk to him. Let him know that you are not going to cheat on him, but that you really do not appreciate him acting like this towards you. It is rather disrespectful of him and you shouldn't have to keep claiming your innocence. You have to realize that if he isn't going to trust you and be there and understand then maybe he isn't the one for you.

All this jealousy can lead to some major problems in your relationship later in life. It could lead to major major fights and no happiness whatsoever. It could also turn into an abusive relationship, often men that are controlling and jealous one day turn into abusing boyfriends. If he doesn't stop being this controlling and jealous I suggest getting out.

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Q: Well me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year & a month . But i just like dont trust him , well i mean i trust him i just dont like him around girls ''/ idk why , he has never done anything to make me not trust him. He trusts me , and doesnt care if i go anywhere with my girls and there's guys around but i dnt like him going anywhere where girls are . I want us to have a great relationship but i just cant help it . I just always think about girls trying to flirt with him or this and that . He's told me before that im the Only one for him , he's in love with me and he doesnt want anyone else but i just dont know whats wrong with me . I have came a very long way with jelousy from the start. But like when his friends want to do stuff they usually have girls with them & sometimes i cant go so i dont want my boyfriend to & deep down i kno thats not fair from keeping him from having fun just because i cant , even though he'll let me . We have talked about over and over , dont tell me to talk to him about it because we have . TELL ME WHAT [ I ] can do , because he's done all he could . thanks

Every girl in the entired world is jealous of girls around their boyfriend. I, for one, am one of the most jealous girls in the world. It's because we know how girls are and how they will stab you right in the back and try to get with your boyfriend. We also know how boys are when they get with their friends. They tend to fall really easily into peer pressure and we are worried that their friends may pressure them into another girl. There really is no way to stop this either, you just have to realize that your boyfriend cares about you otherwise he wouldn't have been with you for a year. He has never done anything to make you distrust him, so give him at least a little slack. I had to really really try very hard and show my boyfriend that I trusted him and it is one of the hardest things I have to do, but I feel like it is necessary to do for our relationship.

Take a deep breath and think about how much you care about him and how much he cares about you. You have been together for a happy cheatless year, give him that trust, at least until he gives you reason to take it away.

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Q: 14/f
this guy was gonna ask me out but i said no because of my parents(but i liked him). its not that im not allowed to date its just there pretty strict and then my whole family would end up knowing, and they make it a bigger deal then it actually is. what should i do? because what if this happens again, and i really wanted to say yes. and i cant hide it from my parents

You shouldn't hide anything from your parents, but maybe you could try talking to them about it and letting them know that you are interested in a boy. If you aren't comfortable with talking to them about it maybe you and this boy could just stay friends, close friends, for a while or until you can talk to your parents about it. Let him know that you wanted to say yes also, but that there were certain circumstances that made you choose otherwise.

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Q: 14/f
this guy wants to ask me out and i want to say yes
but i know especially with his past girlfriends (by the way ive never had a bf B4) he likes to hold them and kiss them and everything. but i hate public displays of affection, any kind. how would i tell him, and if i did what if he doesnt listen? and questions something like

"want you dont want people to know were together"

like i guess i dont wanna make it up front in front of people, just for people to find out about it slowly so they dont relaly care and make it a big deal. know what i mean?

It's okay if you don't want to move that quickly and be that upfront in front of people. PDA is okay, but there is a line and I think you know that. You need to let him know before you get into it that you aren't comfortable with making-put in front of people. Like holding hands is okay and hugging, but you don't want people thinking you should get a room haha. Just be sure to let him know where you stand before you get into it and don't let him force you into anything.

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