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Too JelOuse =(
Well me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year & a month . But i just like dont trust him , well i mean i trust him i just dont like him around girls ''/ idk why , he has never done anything to make me not trust him. He trusts me , and doesnt care if i go anywhere with my girls and there's guys around but i dnt like him going anywhere where girls are . I want us to have a great relationship but i just cant help it . I just always think about girls trying to flirt with him or this and that . He's told me before that im the Only one for him , he's in love with me and he doesnt want anyone else but i just dont know whats wrong with me . I have came a very long way with jelousy from the start. But like when his friends want to do stuff they usually have girls with them & sometimes i cant go so i dont want my boyfriend to & deep down i kno thats not fair from keeping him from having fun just because i cant , even though he'll let me . We have talked about over and over , dont tell me to talk to him about it because we have . TELL ME WHAT [ I ] can do , because he's done all he could . thanks <3
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Jealousy is a sign of insecurity. Is this your first BF? Have you had bad relationships in the past, and you just don't want to lose him because it's going so well?
"Just Plain Jealous
Perhaps the majority of us fall under this category. We are afraid our partner will find someone prettier (or more handsome), smarter, richer, or just plain better. This is the heart of jealousy, our own insecurities. The tips below may help you overcome this type of jealousy. "
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All I can say is to just let him go even though you don't want to. Just let him. Even if every fiber of your body doesn't want to, just do it. Once you do it more, you will get used to it. It's hard to be jealous for no reason, and you can't just change your jealousy... it's probably going to be there for a while. Try hanging out with him and other girls. Note when or how they flirt with him, then get over it. Tell yourself you don't care. Eventually you won't. If he does something in the future, then you can fret about it, and you will be able to see it better. I don't know if this helped, but I hope it did. Good luck...
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Every girl in the entired world is jealous of girls around their boyfriend. I, for one, am one of the most jealous girls in the world. It's because we know how girls are and how they will stab you right in the back and try to get with your boyfriend. We also know how boys are when they get with their friends. They tend to fall really easily into peer pressure and we are worried that their friends may pressure them into another girl. There really is no way to stop this either, you just have to realize that your boyfriend cares about you otherwise he wouldn't have been with you for a year. He has never done anything to make you distrust him, so give him at least a little slack. I had to really really try very hard and show my boyfriend that I trusted him and it is one of the hardest things I have to do, but I feel like it is necessary to do for our relationship.
Take a deep breath and think about how much you care about him and how much he cares about you. You have been together for a happy cheatless year, give him that trust, at least until he gives you reason to take it away.
Hope I Helped.
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Wow.. I'm in the same boat as you. Me and my boyfriend are going to have our year and a half anniversary this week... and he's honestly the one I want to be with for awhile... and he feels the same way... but deep down I have the same fear you have.
I KNOW he won't do anything but all this fear stems from all of the insecurities I have.
If you've been made fun of, cheated on before, or ridiculed/condescended... these could all be factors in why you're feeling the way you do (I know that this is why I feel this way).
You don't probably feel as if you're good enough for him, but the truth is you are.
He wouldn't be with you if he didn't feel that way ya know? But I know its a tough struggle, to get over the feeling. You just have to tell yourself over and over again that you trust him. I mean hang out with him and his friends more... it helps if you know what kind of people he hangs around, even if they are girls.
but live in the present, and know that he's yours, and your his... and he cares about you otherwise he wouldn't be with you for such a long time.
and work on your insecurities, everybody has them but once you care more about yourself you'll learn to feel like you're able to be more independent and not always be worrying about whether somebody else is being faithful to you.
good luck
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There isn't any advice on what you can do, you're just going to have to overcome that silly feeling you have. It's a personal thing and you're gonna have to learn to keep your mind off of it. You had better figure it out soon though, the jealousy thing can tend to end realationships.
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