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PDA
14/f
this guy wants to ask me out and i want to say yes
but i know especially with his past girlfriends (by the way ive never had a bf B4) he likes to hold them and kiss them and everything. but i hate public displays of affection, any kind. how would i tell him, and if i did what if he doesnt listen? and questions something like
"want you dont want people to know were together"
like i guess i dont wanna make it up front in front of people, just for people to find out about it slowly so they dont relaly care and make it a big deal. know what i mean?
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oh, WOW...this is the exact thing that I'm trying to figure out right now! haha, even in terms of him always having been all over his ex girlfriend and everything.
Weeell...I'd say, if he tries anything on you that you don't feel comfortable with, don't let him do it. You definitely deserve to have some control over this aspect of the relationships (and all others, of course), and it would appear that it does take two to 'PDA'. Haha
But, I'm exactly the same way, in the sense that...I wasn't trying to keep the relationship a secret or anything, but it's just awkward to bring up, you know? And I'm not usually the type to talk about those things. Although my friends were skeptical and/or upset/annoyed when they heard from other people that I was going out with him....
...but anyway, sorry I got sidetracked, haha. Just remember that you have a say in what goes on, and you can talk to him about it sometime when it's not the heat of the moment. He may be more likely to listen to you then...and if he doesn't let you have a say, or if he gets frustrated, he's not the guy for you.
And I've learned this, too - don't let your friends' annoyance (because maybe they're not used to it, if it's anything like my case) get in the way of a normal, healthy relationship. Just keep things low-key if you want...since it's just high school, (and we're the same age) it's nothing too serious at this point.
Good luck. And remember to be confident, and speak up if need-be! :>)
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It's okay if you don't want to move that quickly and be that upfront in front of people. PDA is okay, but there is a line and I think you know that. You need to let him know before you get into it that you aren't comfortable with making-put in front of people. Like holding hands is okay and hugging, but you don't want people thinking you should get a room haha. Just be sure to let him know where you stand before you get into it and don't let him force you into anything.
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See , you just dont want that [ now ] . Thats totally fine . Tell him that you just need time to get use to everything like that boyfriend/girlfriend thing and you dont wanna take it too fast untill you feel confortable with showing PDA ya know .
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