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Hey, I'm Mara. I love dancing. It's practically my favourite thing to do. I love House, R&B, pretty much everything with a good beat, and Benny Benassi is my hero; that's why my column is a shrine to him. I graduated this year and am now in my first year of college where I'm trying to pick a major. Chances are you'll see some of my Psychology questions floating around somewhere here. I'm also extremely interested in Political Science too because I, like half the people living in Canada, somehow want to change the world. I particularly want to find a cure for poverty, corruption, cancer, AIDS and George Bush because honestly, I think those are the biggest problems we have right now. I have decided that maybe I should take the time to live a little before I start though because I have a good fifty years ahead of me to fix all the issues there are. Currently my life consists of: studying, working, socializing, eating and ocassionaly sleeping. I spent practically all of my high school life being a delinquent and partying to huge extents until I discovered my brain sometime in the middle of my senior year. I still like to have a good time every once in a while but you always need to find that balance (I haven't exactly found it yet but I'm getting close). Unfortunatley, a habit that has stuck with me from school is my obsessive gossiping. I just can't stop and you know, an article in Cosmo says that gossipers are healthier people because they bond over it? Who would have thought? Anyway, I do have my limitations and I don't condone nasty, brutal gossiping and I don't gossip about anything my friends have told me in confidence or something about someone else that they have slipped to me, however, if I find you in a washroom at a random party making out with my bestfriends's boyfriend, a few people are probably going to hear about it. Actually, more than a few people will hear about it because one of my absolute pet peeves is parties where the all the bathrooms are occupied due to sexual activity or... puking activity. Sooooo what else is there to know about me? My favourite thing in the world is shopping and my worst fear is existantialism. I am OCDey in a clinical way so you can ask me questions about that. You can ask me practically anything you want except for dumb questions but I'm not going to answer them in my little column here because it's a huge waste of space when I could be writing about myself (Click 'LookIt' on my menubar for answers to dumb questions so you don't have to embarass yourself asking them and getting bitched out from me). What I can do, is offer you three pieces of truly inspirational advice. Firstly, never live your life by what others want of you, cherish yourself and everyone around you, and never beat yourself down about anything you couldn't have avoided. Secondly, donate at least ten percent of the income you earn in your life to someone who needs it. Lastly, never get into a bulldozer when you're under the influence and start driving it towards a poor freshmen (I am never going to another kegger ever again... ever). Ok, I'll shut up now. You can start asking me stuff, if you haven't hit the back button already.
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i get little black dots after i shave my legss and it looks like i havent shaved them! its soo embarassing !!!!!!!
That means your razor isn't sharp enough. I usually use a razor for 3 times maximum (although usually people use them 4-5 times) and then replace it.
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I've been pretty ill for about a week or so and haven't been able to eat, I've lived on tap water for the whole week and havn't eaten anything else. I've drunken about 1 1/2 to 2 litres per day, maybe a bit more. What will happen to me? Anything bad? What can it do? I'm scared but I can't bring myself to eat anything else...
You shouldn't go that long without eating.
Try to get something in your body. Try a light soup or anything that will be easy on your stomach.
Read this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Starvation
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OK, how long after you have sex should you be feeling the effects of morning sickness? I had sex 8 days ago with my boyfriend. 2 days later I woke up feeling sick as a dog, and it continued into the next day, I was ok after the initial day but I haven't really been eating anything until today when I finally got my appetite back. Is that too soon to experience morning sickness or will it be a couple or weeks before i do?
thank you
Two days is a little too soon. Usually morning sickness starts at about three to four weeks into the pregnancy and ends at around sixteen weeks.
The only way it could possibly be morning sickness is if you had sex with your boyfriend a few weeks ago and that's concieved. You didn't mention whether you had.
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ohkay on my last report card these were my grades..
math, A-
science, A-
english, A-
social studies, B
I'm a smart girl and my parents consider a "B" failing in their eyes. of course i was grounded with no tv no phone and no computer for a week.
my parents think im not trying. the truth is i try my best. i work myself sooo hard i study for everything. none of my friends even study anymore but i study like crazy. i do all my homework i really try and get things done.
my grandpa my mom and my dad had a 3 hour talk with me about how my grades are slipping. okay wow i got a "B" but is it seriously the end of the world? they still think im in 6th grade when you could get an A+++++ without ever studying or trying. i wish they congratulated me when i get all "A's" and 1 "B". they make me so anxious all the time because if i get an 86 or 88 on a test they flip out. once they got mad when i got a 91!!!
i only got A+ in elementary school and a little bit of middle school because it was easy back then. now they expect more of you and you have to work for straight A's. how can i prove to my parents that i do try my best and im not very good in Social Studies and i should be glad a got a "B"
You have the worst problem that's infected Generation Y, the pushy parents.
You seriously need to sit down and talk to them instead of having them sit down and talk to you. Tell them that that you're trying very hard. You might even be trying too hard and only for them. You should be studying because you want to study, not because you're trying to fulfill -their- dreams. It's way too much pressure for a fourteen year old to deal with all of this now, especially since you're going to be breaking your back in university because they probably want you to get a BS, an MS and a PhD or something.
Yes, you should study hard and get into a university (A-s and Bs are actually pretty good for your first years especially since the grades barely count in your grad req) but you should also be able to have some fun, you're barely a teenager. You just can't slave over your studying all the time, how is that going to help your social development at all? You won't be able to grow, you'll just keep sticking facts and information into your head all the time.
There's nothing you can do anymore. You'll just have to reason with them and hope that they'll figure out that what you're doing isn't right and though they have your best interests at heart, maybe they're missing out on other important things too.
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does anyone have any advice on how I can get into Deerfield Acadamy ?
Well first of all, get them to mail a package to you from http://www.deerfield.edu, but I assume you've already done that.
Just make sure you keep yours grades up. Write two amazing essays. Make sure you do your SSATs very well. Participate in a lot of clubs/sports and volunteer everywhere. Just basically be a model student and appear bright and eager to join the Academy and you should be ok.
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15/f
Okay, so our party is on the sixteenth and i'm planning on wearing a long black v-neck top, a wide bronze belt, a dark-washed skirt and metallic peep-toe sandals or metallic flats....
Do you think this is fine?
By the way i'm 5'2 and slender.....
That sounds fine. Just maybe co-ordinate your belt/shoes/jewelry together. Have fun
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ok, i've been dealing with acne since grade 5..i'm now it grade 10, have tried perscription stuff, didn't work, tryed noxema, tryed clearasil, and have been on proactive for about 2-3 years now. its not working all that great, any one have any other suggestions on what i should do? also, how do you stop whiteheads from forming on your nose??? i haven't been able to and its starting to really bug me. any tips would be great, thanks
alyssa
My friend went on Accutane because she had horrible bacne and it worked really well for her. I have to warn you that the pill has really bad side-effects like rashes, flaky skin, photosensitivity et cetera.
Accutane is also disputed because a lot of people who take it, get depressed (431) and about 37 people on Accutane committed suicide (between 1982 and 2001). A few people have won lawsuits claiming that Accutane made them clinically depressed.
You should go talk to your doctor about it and ask him if you're old enough to start taking it. He'll probably have to do a few tests to make sure you can handle it.
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Ok, I'm 14 and last night when I weighed myself I was 106...and that was with everything I ate (which I didn't eat much) I'm really worried because everytime I get hungry, I'm not as soon as I see food, or when I eat food, I'll get full after ONE BITE! My mom said that if I don't eat more soon she'll take me to a hospital...and I don't want that. So I've been forcing myself to eat...but the bad part of that is that everytime I force myself to eat...it hurts my stomach and makes me feel like I'm going to throw up...can anyone tell my easy foods to eat? I really need y'alls advice(and just saying something...I don't want to lose weight, I want to gain it...and I ain't one of those girls' who starves herself, so dont go thinking that alright?)
Instead of eating 3 large meals a day, you should do with eating small meals throughout the day so it'll be easier on the stomach.
Try salads containing cucumbers and lettuce.
During off-times in the day, snack on milk, fruit, nuts and whole grain carbohydrates.
Avoid sugar and foods with a high-fat content.
Try to eat out of the four food groups every day (you may not get all the servings they want you too but keep it general)
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Why do ravers wear all those colorfull beaded bracelets and necklaces? And why do they have whistles and passifires? I don't understand this.
Please let me know if you have any idea why!
Thanks.
The colourful beads are just a part of raver fashion, they're called Kandi. People pass them out as a token of PLUR (Peace, Love, Unity and Respect).
I've heard that people have pacifiers as symbols of childhood and "rebellion against growing up" but a most people use them because they're on ecstasy which causes you to grind your teeth so they take a pacifier for safety.
Whistles are just to make a lot of noise which probably won't be heard over the music.
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Is there any harm to your partner or to you if you have sex with a yeast infection?
Yes there is. Please don't do it.
You don't want to pass your infection to him. Otherwise you might have the infection hopping between the two of you.
Take a break and just take the time to recover from it. If you really can't hold yourself back, you can engage in oral sex as long as he doesn't go near your genitals.
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My hearts hurts, yesturday I had the symtoms od a heart attack, a real heart attack. And now today my heart feels werid. It doesn't hurt as much as yesturday but I can feel it beating in a odd way...What should I do?
-Please- listen to DangerWench and call 911.
You honestly should have done it when the symptoms started showing. There was a ton of people who told you to get to a doctor.
We don't say this stuff for fun. We actually STRONGLY recommend that you listen to the advice you get when it's about something this serious.
Get to an ER ASAP.
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i have a white louis vuitton purse that is real. the leather on the outside has gotten dirty over the year, and i was wondering if there was any safe way to clean it without ruining the leather or the purse? (when i say dirty i just mean dirt and the color has darkened a little and its not as white)
I'd take it to a professional leather cleaner. You shouldn't mess around with it.
My mum has a few and she takes them to a Louis Vuitton location every once in a while. It takes about a month though but they come back looking like new.
You could try doing that too. The LV website says that all of their stores have a repairs department. And that way, if they wreck it, they'll have to replace it.
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i have a cingular motorolla razr phone and under the sound section, there is something called new iMelody and you can type these notes to make a song or whatever.. how can i make a ringtone out of this? like i dont understand the numbers and wht i should do..?
That is so odd because I have the same V3 and I have something else called the MotoMixer which seems totally different from what you're describing.
I used to have another motorolla phone and I used to punch in different notes to make a ringtone but I had to experiment to figure out which notes sounded best and how to put them together but it didn't sound so great so I gave up trying.
I did a little research for you though and a lot of reviews of the V3 with the iMelody in it say that it's practically useless and that you can't make real beats out of it anyway.
But the following website has a few rings that you can copy the notes from and punch them in your cell:
http://zano6.home.att.net/imelody.htm
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Hi I am a 15 year old female. I have a red/blue undertone and cool skin colour. My hair is platinum blonde and purpley black (not naturally). What colours for cosmetics or clothing would look best on me?
Are there any particular brands which are best for me? Or a good website to help me with all of this?
I dress somewhat prep (not that you could tell from my hair) so don't go thinking I wear all black.
Haha thanks so much :)
You are a perfect example of the cooler tone:
Your hair has a chilly black-blue vibe, you have a blue-red skin tone.
That means that your makeup/clothing should revolve around shades of black, blue and things with a blush tinge like a blue-pink and or blue-red.
There isn't really a brand I can suggest in particular to your skin tone, but you should always take a look at the names of the product.
I'll give you an example of MAC names:
Amber Lights > Amber > Yellow-orangey > Warm > Not for you
Cream Starviolet > Violet > Purpley-blue > Cool > Perfect for you
You can also hold up an eyeshadow against a piece of white paper, does it look warmer or cooler. It sounds weird now but it's pretty straightforward when you do it.
There's also a cute little makeup generator at myjellybean.com that may serve of use: http://www.myjellybean.com/makeup/makeup.html
Good luck
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alright, well for christmas i've been thinking about what i want and what i want is some newer, better makeup.
i like playing around with colors that are kinda of bright and out there and'll catch attention. and i like to blend them with my outfits so they look really neat. like i like doing my makeup like this: ( a girl i found off of myspace, not me ) http://i9.tinypic.com/2iqj2f5.jpg
but see how like, boldish and what a pretty color that makeup looks like?
does anyone know where to purchase makeup colored like this, that won't be running all over my face, for a cheap price?
even if you don't know where to tell me to get brightish, bold makeup like that, can anyone just tell me where to get good-looking makeup that doesn't run all over my face and stays on for good amount of time?
thanks.
sorry if i sounded confusing, i kinda ramble, haha.
I totally understand where you're coming from.
I LOVE bold colours and I can't find a good, reasonably-priced brand to save my life. Even colours that look amazingly bright end up looking bland. I have about two boxes filled with makeup that I thought was going to look great but I had to keep layering the powder on for it to look darker. It didn't come close to the promised colour and fell apart in an hour.
But honestly, it's worth your time to take a look at Urban Decay and MAC. They're a little pricey but the colours are so worth it and if you get MAC pigment, you can mix your own colours.
If you really can't afford it, you may want to look at cream colours. They aren't as nice and are made for one-colour solid application but they stick.
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Last time I went to the Psychiatrist he said I had insomnia and depression so he put me on Prozac and Seroquel and I stopped taking both because I was running out and I had no Health insurance to get any more..(I finally got the insurance now Im just waiting on the doctor list) Well the problem I have is I started taking the prozac again but I dont take it regularly b/c i tend to forget. I feel like I have no energy and I am always really exhausted no matter how much rest I actually get. But I cant seem to sleep....What the h♥♥♥ is wrong with me? Am I fatigued???
I was on Prozac for a while and was really restless and drained but unable to sleep. My doctor told me that this was a common side-effect. Now I'm on Luvox and it's better for me.
Your case is different though.
I looked up Seroquel and it's used as a sedative. He probably gave you the Seroquel for the insomnia and Prozac for the depression. So the Seroquel would kind of cancel out the Prozac's adverse effects. But now you're only taking Prozac which doesn't do anything for your insomnia (if not make it worse) and takes away your energy.
So you should either start taking Seroquel again too (you never said whether this mix worked for you before your insurance ran out) or ask your doctor to switch you from Prozac to another drug.
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right some guy is bullying my gf the way i found out was i found a pic at her house. so we were play fighting over it and then i saw it n she ran out of the room .i went after her and sed why did you run out she said because i dont like it and i dont no why he drew it it was a really mean picture. so about 20 minits ago i phoned this guy up who was drawin things about my girlfreind and he told me to go hang my self. what could i do???
Ask your girlfriend what happened between her and him. There has to be a reason why he's taking so much time out of his life to target her. Did she ever ridicule him? Did she ever reject him? Did she have a fight with one of his friends?
Once you find out what it's about, you can take the right measures to tackle the problem.
If she had ever made fun of him and that's why it all came about, you should should get together and talk it over.
However, if he has feelings for her or something, she should talk to him without you and explain that she is not interested.
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mmy moms telling me to write a christmas list so she can get me stufff. and i dont really know what i want. i already have cell, ipod, so not those. Some of my list are Make up thing from sephora, juicy Couture accesories,flats. What else shouild i write?? Thanks
You can ask for:
- gift cards to all your favourite stores
- movie passes
- season DVDs to the shows you love
- a boombox for your iPod
- little charms for your cell
- a vacation
I would love the giftcards, that way I can buy stuff that suits me and is my size.
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Can someone give me a list of sins? Recently, I've been depressed and literally thought of anything bad that happened to me or anything bad I did, purposely or accidentally and I got the word sins stuck in my head. I also started wondering what are the numbers are about when I see people go to confession boxes on tv and the priest gives them a number after their confession.
You have to remember that although not committing any of the seven sins in your life may make you a better person, it is virtually impossible to do so because these sins occur in human nature. Unless you have been brought up living a pure homely existence, you will commit one of these sins once in a while.
I'll just give you a little breakdown of all of them
-Envy/Jealousy-
"A feeling of discontent or covetousness with regard to another's advantages, success, possessions, etc."
If you are angry because your best friend is pretty and gets all the boys or you're mad that a girl you don't like had a better party than you, you are guilty of Envy.
-Gluttony-
"Excessive eating and drinking."
If you're eating plates and plates of food and take eight helpings of pie, you're a glutton.
-Lust-
"Uncontrolled or illicit desire or appetite; lecherousness."
Also referred to as indulging in pleasures of the body. This can vary by description, to some fantasizing and excessive sex with your husband is lust while to others, sex outside marriage is lust.
-Anger/Avarice/Wrath-
"Strong, stern, or fierce anger; deeply resentful indignation"
If a friend ditched you at a dance and you want to hurt her, these feelings are a result of your wrath.
-Greed-
"Excessive or rapacious desire, especially for wealth or possessions."
Cheating at games to win, leaving stingy tips, not giving to the homeless, this is all greed.
-Sloth-
"Habitual disinclination to exertion; indolence; laziness."
If you spend all day on the computer or sit in front of the TV and be a couch potato, this is your sin.
-Pride/Vanity-
"A high or inordinate opinion of one's own dignity, importance, merit, or superiority, whether as cherished in the mind or as displayed in bearing, conduct, etc."
So if you refuse to sit next to a nerd or geek because you're too concerned with your social status or if you brag about what a good basketball player you are, you are guilty of this. It has known to be one of the most deadly sins.
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I have scoliosis but the doctors said they found it too late to do anything about it. But latley I've been noticing my posture get really bad and my back aches alot, I'm assuming its because of my scoliosis, has anyone had this problem before? If so, how do I improve my posture!?
iscoliosis.com has a series of exercises you can do to improve your posture.
I recognized a few of these as I saw them in last years Seventeen:
http://www.iscoliosis.com/articles-exercise.html
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