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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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Here is my Recommended Columnist of the Decade for the 2020s:
Laura!




--Jack

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yeah, That would be alot easier. I dont have AIM, but I have yahoo? How about you?

I don't have Yahoo!.. sorry.. do you have an email address? just add @aol.com to my s/n.. and that's mine..
btw.. what is your username so I can find your Column?

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Yeah. It was my decision, I just needed a boost from someone else. Thankyou so much.

You're welcome- but if you'd like to chat... I do have AIM- its up on my column.. that might be easier!
--Jack

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Yeah I asked a question. Haha. I usually start out venting and then im like, uh, crap i need to ask a question. Sorry about that. I really dont have anymore questions. Hmm. Lets see here. WHATS YOUR FAVORITE COLOR??? Oh my gosh! thats a question. But, thankyou for the advice, It really helped me. I just broke up with him. I need someone better than him anyways. :]

P.S. Your going on my favorite coloumnists! :]

My favorite colors are blue and orange.. lol... that was random.. but I guessed since you asked..I needed to answer.
Congrats on dumping him- I hope that was you decision, and not mine.. lol
Besides.. You deserve someone better!

--Jack

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I have always felt like he liked me for sex. Or sexual pleasures. If that is the right word for it. I would always find him touching my butt or not looking at ME when we talk [If you know what im saying.] At the movies once, he actually put his hands down my pants. I was afraid that to say no because I didnt know if he would get mad or not. I feel so slutty now that I look back on it. Is there any way I can avoid this in the future?
Thankyou.

If you are looking for something more in a boyfriend than just sex.. this guy might not be the right one for you. Don't feel slutty because he's been doing things- let him know how you feel about what he's doing- if he doesn't know you don't like it- he might just continue doing it.
Did you just ask me a question? Because the way you started the question made me think that.. lol
Hope I helped you!
--Jack
keep postin in my inbox!

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My computer saves every thing ive been to up to a certain number on Aol 9.0 and it is really annoying . I want to know how to delete everything thing ive been to so it isnt there every time i get online . Please help !!:)

What you need to do is at the top of the AOL 9.0 screen- click "Settings".. and when the screen pops up- go under Internet Options and choose "Internet Explorer Settings" then in a separate window that should appear- go under Temporary Internet Files and click Delete Cookies, Delete Files, and then go under settings-> view files & delete. Then, click "clear history". Hope that works- that's what my mom wrote down when I asked her how to get my computer to go faster.
Hope I helped!
--Jack

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Ok, you are a guy, and I need a guy's point of veiw. Would you get mad if your girlfriend didnt want to do it with you? Because my boyfriend is trying to push me into doing stuff I dont want to do and I was just wondering, should I dump him for this?

Well.. since I'm not a guy who wants sex before marriage- and if you don't feel confortable about doing it with your boyfriend- tell him and let him know. I wouldn't be mad at all (because I could never find it in myself to force my girlfriend to do something she didn't want to do). Most guys would probably get mad- and if he's mad just because of your choice not to have sex- then he probably isn't a very good boyfriend. He'll be the type that might abuse his wife if she doesn't agree with something. You might want to ditch someone like that while you still can. Whatever you do is your choice- don't feel pressured to dump him because I said so.
Hope I helped!
Let me know how it goes!
--Jack
P.S. thanks for posting in my inbox- please continue!!

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what does it mean when some 1 says "i did not mean to thump your nickel"

For some odd reason- I have reason to believe this has NOTHING to do with a nickel... ;) he he he
Maybe it has something to do with a certain pickle.. he he..
Sorry about the immaturity here.. but it's like 2 in the am.. and i'm slap happy...
--Jack

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There's these two guys I like. I have dated both of them before, and one knows what he's doing in a relationship, and one doesn't. They are two totally different people with two totally different personalities, and I honestly just don't know what I want. They both asked me back out tonight, and I just don't know what to do. I don't want to leave them both hanging for my answer, but I don't know who I want to choose! Help!

Hey, first I'd like to say thanks for posting a question in my inbox! I appreciate it!
Well.. if you are a religious person, you could always ask God to help you choose the better person; who is more suited for you.

If not, just trust your heart- it always knows what to do. I would personally go for the person who would treat you better as a girl friend.

One thing's for sure.. whomever you choose.. you have got to let the other guy know why you can't go out with him. Hopefully he won't take it the wrong way..

sorry if this advice is mediokre- I'm kinda tired as of now

Hope everything works out
let me know how it goes...

please continue to send me questions!
--Jack

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Every time I go to my friend she always jokes with me saying that "Oh here comes lil miss christian girl" and "Oh great your going to preach to us are'nt you." I know she is just playing but I wish I could witness to her without being made fun of.

Hey-
I'm not sure how long ago you posted this question.. but it stuck out to me.
I myself am catholic (christian- same thing i think)... and if there's one thing i learned, its that you need to put all your faith into God- and let him deal with evil (I know you probably don't classify your friend's taunts as "evil".. but I think it is though she is your friend). YOu should just tell her how you feel about her making fun of you- once she realizes she's hurting you, she'll probably step down, and be a better friend.
Hope I helped!
--Jack
P.S. feel free to post questions in my inbox! I'll answer just about anything!

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Well me and my girlfriend have been going out two months on the 23 of this month and i'm trying to think of some good gifts that won't cost a fortune(i'm 13 she's 13, low budget)
I was thinkin of gettin her rose's but i'm not quite sure if i should get her anything else.
any suggestions? I'd apreciate it
Thanks

Knowing girls (because most of my friends are girls), I would have to say that even the smallest gift (roses, for example) would be good for her. If she expects something more.. then she probably isn't the girl for you. She's definitely a keeper if she only cares about the thought
Hope I helped
Let me know how it goes!
--Jack

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Hi. My name is nickie. I'm 13 yrs. old and still haven't had my first kiss yet. There's this guy i really like and i'm goin to his b-day before the summer's over. I really wanna have my first kiss, and I'm pretty sure he likes me because we flirt all the time. Do you think I should go for it?

Hi Nickie-
Your first kiss is important. Now I've had mine.. so I know how good it feels (wow.. that sounds weird..) but anyway.. you should first, before making a move, really make sure he likes you- have someone (one of your girl friends) go up to him, and ask if he likes you. If the answer is yes- eventually start talking to him and things will work out, and you'll have your first kiss right there- with a guy you like!
Let me know how it goes!
--Jack

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i used to go out with this boy. lets call him jeff. he was everything i wanted and more. he was funny sweet loving . and he ened up dumping me for this hoe bc his friends told him that I didnt like him anymore. so even tho i still had feelings for him i ended up going out with this guy...joe. well he was also sweet and kind and i started to really like him till one day my ex imed me and told me he had dumped the girl bc hestill loved me and that for me to come bac bc he made a huge mistake. and yeah i would of but im with joe and yeah i like joe.. but i like jeeff. i dont kno wat to do or say
someone HELP MEE!!

if i were you, i wouldn't dump joe just because you want jeff back.. if you like the relationship with joe, then you should keep it going, not end it because you think you have feelings for jeff... besides, if you were to go out with jeff, then he will just end up dumping you after his friends tell him something again... but.. whatever you decide to do.. just make sure that its the right decision..
--Jack

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I'm scared that my Best friend doesn't like me anymore. We're both 13 years old. She never calls me any more and when I asked her about it, she said that I don't have to worry about it. She said that we would hang out a lot over the summer, but I've only seen her a few times. I think that she's busy, but I dont know. What should I do? I really want to stay friends with her.

I've kinda been in this situation before...
She's your best friend, and if you don't want to lose her, you have to contact her, even if it means calling her 3 or 4 times a day. She probably wants to talk to you, she just hasn't gotten around to it; or, she is being a typical girl and waiting for you to call her.
When this kinda thing happened to me, my friend didn't want to talk about how we hadn't talked(if that makes sense).. so if she says that.. just give her time, and don't stress about it- she'll eventually realize that she needs to talk with you.. so just be patient!
Let me know how it goes!
--Jack

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I wasnt sure were this belonged but anywho:

I want to know what are some things that cause premature birth and what disroders or health problems can they develop if they survived.

The reason I'm asking is because I was born premature && I've developed Anorexia.I didnt' know it until I just noticed.And I want to know if being premature has anything to do with me developing Anorexia.

And well I've just recently found out that my mother use to be Bulimic. Could it also be that its genetic., Or because of my premature birth. or both?

My question are :

What kinds of health problems can premature people who survive develope as they grow old?

Is it possible that because of my premature birth, Ive developed ANorexia or is it because My mother had Bulimia when she was my age (13)?

and anything else.

Please Help!!! I'm getting a bit worried & I really want to know. Ill rate 5's & recommend you.

As far as I know, Anorexia has nothing to do with genetics or premature birth. Anorexia is an acquired disease, which means that you get it from your environment; or in other words, just because of how you think of yourself. In this case, you probably should not worry about your weight that you may think is too much, but in all reality is probably fine. I bet that you are PERFECT the way you are. Don't try to change yourself because of an impluse you have right now. Go with what I'm saying, and be who you are, not what you want to be, if being who want to be requires anorexia.
I hope I helped
--Jack

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I was wondering which plans are better verizon or T-mobile. I am either going to get the min. plan for either complany or me and my sister are going to have a family plan together with still the min. plan.

Everything at Verizon is basically $10 more for the same plan than T-mobile, but i have more friends that have verizon (so free incall or whatever)

which plan do you recomend verizon or T-mobile i can't decide on what i want!

Well, seeing as I've had a Verizon phone for almost a year, and there haven't been any lost calls, you should get verizon. It may be more expensive, but the quality is so much better.
The best thing about Verizon is that you have IN-Calling, and you can call your friends for FREE! lol.
The battery for my phone lasts 2 and a half days without being plugged in, so you should defintely get verizon!
Hope I helped
--Jack

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i'm on the yearbook staff at my school. we're trying to think of themes for next year. do any of y'all have any ideas? what have been the themes for yearbooks at y'all's schools? the name of my school is pine tree, if that helps.

As you are, I am on my school's yearbook staff. Our theme this year was "Under the Sea"... like The Little Mermaid and stuff.. the book turned out great! We got really crazy with the 8th grade mock election... we even made some girls into mermaids.. lol.
Some other ideas for themes we had were Reality TV... Maybe even like a CSI thing... like CSI: [insert your town's name here] lol that would be cool
You could do a tropical theme.. that would be awesome
I hope I helped.. tell me how it goes
--Jack

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So there's this guy and I really like him. And everyone says he likes me. Yet, he didn't ask me out. Well, my friends and I are going to see Stay Alive soon and I wanted to ask him. How do I do it?

If you REALLY like him then you should ask him if he wants to go with you. If he says yes, then at the movies, just act like yourself, and I bet he'll like you even more than he supposedly did.
I hope this helped...
--Jack

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hey my boyfriend and i have been talking about making out lately. i gave him this website to show him all the tips that someone posted. he says he doesnt just like to make out. and he says he uses tongue. i dont think im mature enough to use tongue yet...i think,...its gross.. no offence for all u people who french kiss. but i dont want to french kiss just yet. hes made out with a ton of girls before. ive never made out before. any help? thanks!

this is what you should do...
Flat out tell your boyfriend that you aren't comfortable with french kissing yet. Tell him you want to wait to french kiss, and that if her loves you as much as you love him, he will wait for you.
If he's a jerk, and wants to french kiss now, and he breaks up with you because of it, just know that he doesn't deserve someone like you, who I'm sure is a GREAT person.
Hope I helped
--Jack

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My boyfriend is getting "confermation"(sorry about spelling guys!!) and i am invited to his party.. I was wonderin, hes realy religous, well not a freak about it but he truely beleives in god. anyways, would it be stupid to give him a congrads card with will 10-20 bucks in it? If so how much money???

Let me know asap!
Thanks bunches you guys!

~meg~

Ps. It doesnt matter how long we've been going out so dont ask. We've been going out for 2 1/2 months but we were best friends, and i mean best friends since 6th grade. and i mean best friends.

thanks.

First... it's spelled Confirmation. lol just wanted you to know.. ha ha.. but anyway..
Its okay to give him money.. it doesn't have to be much, because if he believes in God, then he will realize that you care about him, and that'll be enough...
Hope I helped
--Jack

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For my hair type, I wash my hair every two days. But, by the time the day comes my hair kind of smells. So I use a lot of shampoo to make it smell good longer. I straighten my hair everyday. How can I make my hair smell good for awhile? I use Suave shampoo and conditioner.

Well, even though I'm a guy, (and no, I'm not gay) I have a solution. My hair is shaggy, so I have to wash it everyday in the shower. You could do the same thing; take a shower everyday. Maybe once in awhile take two showers a day.
You might be busy, so that last suggestion might not work...
tell me how it goes, or if you don't want to, you don't have to.. lol
--Jack

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