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My name is Melissa. I'm a sophomore, and finally SWEET 16. So, I'll be driving on January 7th. I usually go by May or Mel. In the picture is myself and my AMAZING boyfriend Kyle. He's truly my entire world & I'm not sure how I got lucky enough to get someone like him. I don't like girls. They're fake, and I just in general dislike most girls. Little known fact? There are times I hate my best friend, I mean, hate hate. She drives me insane. When I'm close friends with a girl it's a big deal. As far as best friends go; I have Kyle, who's the most amazing boyfriend in the world; Jennifer Anne Reese aka: PIECUP.. she's one of the few girls I'm close to. I'm generally a nice person, if I like you. If I don't, you'll know it.

In college I want to major in psychology; with a minor in wedding planning or some type of organizational planning type thing. I'm a planning freak. I ALWAYS have a plan, and if you don't plan stuff ahead of time, I'll probably kill you. I tend to change my plan spur of the moment a lot, but I always have one. Lol, one of those weird things about me.


I'm not that much of a "laid back" person. In general, I have my opinion, and I'm going to win. Drama = stupid. But just like every other girl on the planet, I definitely start my share of the drama. I don't like it, but it follows me like a puppy, so I'll just admit I start stuff.

I like giving advice. I've been through a lot, and I want to help people in any way I can. If you'd rather email or IM me, feel free to ask. ♥

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Male 16
This is a complicated situation heres the story.
My friend started going out with a girl who hooked me up with one of her friends its been about 3 months and then my gf dumped me but thats not the problem the problem is me and my friends girl have become good friends but now shes starting to really like me and i cant go out with my friends ex unless it was alright with him (if she dumped him for me) and i dont wanna lose a friend so i need to know if theres is anyone to become just friends with my mates girl without hurting her feelings and without ruining hers and my m8s relationship
Any Suggestions? im stuck

You need to explain to her that you two can't be together, and if she can't just be friends with you when she's with your friend, then she needs to stay away.
♥ Melissa

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Well now i have apple sauce...thanks to you guys! =)! but i have 2 questions..

1) how do you get it to come up when you want to? Is it a program on my desktop or can i get to it from AIM?
2) How do you get a text to go from one color to another? because when i was playing around with it i couldnt get it to be more than one color.

THANKS!!

Applesauce is a great program! Lol I love it. But anyways, you should be able to get it from the desktop or the start menu. If you can't find it in either of those places, go to your C Drive, then Program Files, and find your Applesauce folder in that. Just keep playing around with it!
♥ Melissa

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my boyfriend of 7 months got drunk the other night and planned on hiding it from me. i found out from someone else who was there. my boyfriend always promised & swore that he would never drink and how stupid he was. he ended up getting drunk with his friend and when i found out, i gave my boyfriend soooo many chances to confess and tell me the truth and he didnt. later he finally admitted it and i was so outraged that i broke up with him and told him i never want to see him again, and i hung up. he hasnt tried to call me or fix things up. my friends called him and said he was crying and too afraid to talk to me. i dont want to call him first...but should i forgive him? he broke my trust.

If you want him back you need to call him and let him know. Chances are, even if he's upset, he's MAD and hurt too because you probably hurt him. Just call him and talk to him and explain why you're so mad, chances are he doesn't even understand why you're angry enough to throw away a 7 month relationship. Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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Today i was happy and ready to go to cheer camp. When i got there everyone was wearing the same color shorts eccept for me, i guess it was required. My mom drove me back home to change but i didnt have that color becasue someone borrowed them and never gave them back. My mom left to work and now im sitting home thinking of waether not i should of gone back. Its a three day thing, yesterday i went but i wore the wrong color and today im not going. they already made up the routine and gave me a spot but now they are gonna change it and i dont feel liek putting up with everyone askign me where i was and i just know that they are going to tlak behind my back.Everyone went besides me and liek 2 peple have areason bc they are on vacation. What do i tell people?

I've been a cheerleader my whole life and I'm telling you, not going just because you don't have the right color shorts is NOT a smart thing to do. They will start thinking that you aren't a dependable person and won't give you important parts in routines, because they might think you'll bail on them again. Just get some shorts and go to practice. Nobody really cares what shorts you have, because by you not being there they might have to change a lot of the routine. Just go! If you really need something to tell them, just say that you weren't feeling well.
♥ Melissa

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I have these friends of mine. They were my best friends. Even though we go to different schools, I still spend lots of time with them. I really loved them, no matter what happened between us. Some people said that I was so stupid that I trusted them so bad that I have never thought bad things about them.
Few days ago, one of my friends came to me and told me that all of my friends were talking bad things about me. I did not trust him, of course, cause I believed that my friends would not do such a thing to me.
Then, when I checked my e-mail, I found a message for me. It was all bad things about me. It was from my friends. I was so shock that I spend my time crying with my boyfriend. My boyfriend, which was my closest best friend too, told me that even though my friends hated me, he would stay with me. But actually, his words did not calm me down. I still worried about my friends. I did not hate them, and I would never do, but I could not forget what they said about me. Now, I'm avoided and hated by my friends. And they avoid my boyfriend in their school too!! I really don't know what to do... Please help me!!!

-brokenheart girl-

Awww! I'm sorry ]= If your "friends" are talking about you this way, then they REALLY aren't your friends. Find some who treat you better, because that's what you deserve. Just remember, eventually one of them [or all of them] are going to come running back, and you won't need them anymore. I hope you feel better!
♥ Melissa

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well...i am not gonna put down all the details....but...my best friend sarah and me were like in a fight wit our otha friend and so then sarahs sisters got involed (big mistake) and so then it became this big "thing" and so it went on for a month..and then they tried to put me in the middle!! and me and the otha friend have been friends like foreva!!! me and sarah have only been friends for just one year.....so then i go well i don't kno kaliegh (sarahs sister) i don't want to choose!! so now her daily duty is to make me feel miserable!!!! i don't get it!!
SO neways...now i think sarah is lyin to me to be all cool infront of her sisters and i am loosing everyone!!! anyways!!!! i feel now i should be like "sarah..maybii we should...just stop being friends...i feel like soon your sisters are gonna make u hate me/..." thats just how i feel. WHAT DO I DO?

signed,
hated for a lil repsone

You need to confront all of them individually. There's no excuse for them treating you like this and it's stupid. Just talk to them, and if you don't want to be friends after you talk then tell her.
♥ Melissa

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listin, i need to make as much money as fast as i can plz help, im 13 so i cant work at a reastrunt or anything plz help!!!!!!!!! need money quick!!! i rate high!!!!!!!!!!

Babysitting, or doing other things that you can do locally. Cleaning, planning things, helping around the town doing "odd jobs". Just put your name out, and hopefully you'll start getting SOME kind of work.
♥ Melissa

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there are these guys that live like 3 doors down from me. (they're super hott 2 haha) They are a couple years older then me but i dont care.. anyways i ALWAYS see them.. but @ the rong times, like when im walking home from babysitting or from the pool with a friend when there is a HUGE group of very good looking guys we hafta walk through. Infact i was walking home the other day and a guy in a car waved to me but i didnt no who he was so i just smiled then i recognized the car in their driveway! The always check me out and smile and stuff (not trying to sound cocky) and i just wanna kno how to like say hi, im very outgoing but i wanna find a good time to do it!! anyone have suggestions (i rate) sorry its so long :-/

-->> girl next door

Just start a conversation. If you've never talked to them before, walk up to them and be like "Hey, my name's ____" and start talking about something. Even if it's like "I like your car" or something like that, at least you got the conversation started! Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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ok i am going to the mal on friday to meet up with a close guy friend of mine. he used to think i didnt like him but i did soemthing that convinced him i made a shout on the radio dedicating a song and sayin that i love him, but anyways i like this guy a lot i meet him by a friend of mine she gave him my sn and we have been talkin on the phone and online all the time but on fridau we r plannin to go to the movies my best friend going wit just in case but idk i dont really care about looks he tells me he has the cute face but he has an average body which doesnt bother me but he wants somethin to happenin in the movies except i DONT have to do anything i DONT want to do.. he thinks i can give realy good head because i noe a lot about doing but never have done it be4 i want to try it but then i dont. a friend of mine who is older then told me it taste nasty and has a lot of taste of salt.. is that true?? if so how can you change the taste?? we r not plannin to have sex in the theater we r arent even goin to have sex at all... bc i am a virgin but what should i do?? if i back out of doing it how can i tell without making him think i hate his dick or stuff like that.. thanks! and me and this close friend are plannin to hook up on friday!!

p.s.

can someone give me some tips on giving head/ blow jobs and not websites

Do what you're comfortable with. I can't give you much advice on this subject because I haven't gotten that far with anybody. Try www.sex-project.com. [I'm aware you said no websites, but I really don't have any advice, sorry!]
♥ Melissa

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I am 13 years old I kno young and well i like this guy and he likes me and he wants to ask me out and all but hes taking so long i hate to sound impatient but how do I try to give him the hint that i want to go out?
thanks!

It depends on your confidence. If you're confident [and comfortable] enough to tell him to his face, just tell him! Or just ask HIM. If you are a more shy person, then drop some hints or have another person tell him that you really DO want to go out with him. Maybe he's just having some doubts. Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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ok my boyfriend who lives in the same town as me went to florida for a month and i really miss him. the day before he left, he slept over and my house and we had so much fun and i didnt want him to go. but i really miss him. i cant call him because of long distance. what should i do? help.. i'll rate 5's for sure!!

My boyfriend is in Brazil right now visiting a foreign exchange friend and has been for almost 3 weeks. He won't be back for another 2 weeks. So I completely get where you're coming from!! If possible, use a pay phone to call him. [Or tell him to do the same!] E-mail is good too, if he has some kind of internet access. Plus, most places now have internet cafes and places like that where he could send you some kind of e-mail. But I get where you're coming from. Even if you don't know if he's getting them, still send them. They'll make him smile when he comes back. [=
♥ Melissa

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this may get kinda long...well i have this boyfriend and weve been going out for about 2 months now, ive seen him mabe once in this time period. he always is with his friends and has time for them but never asks me what im doing or if i ever wanna do something. i can tell he likes me i mean he calls me everynight and if he cant call me, like if he gets in trouble or something, he will tell one of his friends to call me and tell me he cant call...i know this sounds bad and all but i had one of my friends that is a guy call him and casually ask him if he was cheating on me cause i figure mabe hes sick of me and he says that he hasnt been...so i dont know what to do, i really love him and i never stop thinking about him so its not so easy to say, just dump him, thats the advice ive been getting from all my friends...i know i should talk to him about it but im to shy to say it on the fone...i would really appreciate anyyy advice anyone can give me i rate 5's!!! thanksss

You need to talk to him. Even if it's through a note or e-mail, communication will work best. Just tell him what's going on, and that if you're going to be together you need to talk about this.

If he really likes you, then you should be able to hang out with him when he's with his friends. He shouldn't ALWAYS pick them and it shouldn't always be just him with friends. You can come along. Just talk to him! [= Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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Sorry, i didn't know what category to put this under. lol, okay my question is, if you dont know how to put a tampon in, and you're NOT on yor period. Can you still practice to stick one in you? Because I'm going to a party soon and I should be getting my period soon. And I'm going to have to swim. And I just need to know how to put a tampon in. So could I practice, while I'm not on my period? What would it do?

It shouldn't do anything to you. There's always the chance of getting Toxic Shock Syndrome, but that is EXTREMELY rare. [TSS is something you get when you're leaving tampons in constantly, not changing them when you should, etc.] Just try wearing one for a couple of hours, and you should feel a little more comfortable before the party.
♥ Melissa

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Is 13 old enough to have a boyfriend...not like pair off and go out on an actual date or anything...but to really like a boy and have a first kiss or sumthin...it's not like I want to, but when I see kids in my grade kissing and holding hands and stuff and I'm just curious to whether it's right or if it's silly or if it's age-appropriate...?

It all depends on your maturity level, and what your parents will allow. If you're mature enough to have a boyfriend, then kissing should be fine. It all depends on your maturity, and how comfortable you are. But having a boyfriend and hand holding is definitely okay. Kissing just depends on what YOU feel most comfortable with.
♥ Melissa

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I belong to an apartment complex pool,where there are like no kids my age, they are mostly around 9. I'm 13 so there arent many hotties with bodies laying around. But there is this one guy, he looks about a year or two older than me (which is fine cuz i dont usually date guys my age). Its kinda hard to explain a stare i guess lol. But he always looks and me and smiles when i look back at him. I'm kinda of shy and i think he is shy too. There was about a million chances to talk to each other, but no one took them. I'm pretty sure i like him, you know that "he is all i think about and i cant wait to see him"bit.I've been trying to strike up the nerve to talk to him, but i just cant do it. It seems weird going up to a complete stranger and talking to them. What would i say?And..*sigh* i just got back together with my on and off again boyfriend who is crazy for me. I broke his heart twice already, if i do really like this guy too, i dont know if i could stand breaking his heart again. We've been really good friends while we havent been together, i cant stand to loose him.
I need help, guys or girls point of view, do you think he likes me? should i go for it?Im not an amature in the dating department, im more mature all the kids my age, i just need help getting started.

Thanks, i rate 5's.

Start a conversation with this guy! You may end up not even liking him. But you should become friends with him before you dump your boyfriend and risk hurting him again. Just hang out with the other guy, and if your feelings get too strong, THEN break up with your boyfriend.

When you call the new guy to hang out just because you're bored, or if you find yourself always looking for chances to see him and talk to him, that's when you know that you're starting to get stronger feelings. Good luck choosing!
♥ Melissa

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can anybody suggest a really good men's cologne for me. I'm 15/m and i'm looking for something masculine, sexy and powerful, and it has to last. My price limit is $100.

Axe or Tag body spray. Both are cheap, and girls LOVE it!
♥ Melissa

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What should i get my boyfriend for our 6 month anniversary & for his birthday? (different months)

hes turning 19 in september...our 6 month is in august 21st

i rate 5's no doubt about it

Do something PERSONAL for your anniversary. Maybe go to the same place as your first date or something like that. For his birthday, something more general, but still showing him how much you love him. Gift cards are always nice, or if you know what he likes, then get something for him.
♥ Melissa

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Does anyone know any website with Myspace layouts?

-www.xanga.com/a__fatality [I believe that's the site]
-www.xanga.com/tragicxWHORE_layoutsx

Those both have a few myspace layouts. Just search on www.xanga.com for "myspace layouts" in blog rings.
♥ Melissa

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Ok well, I`m on my period and I have to go on a boat Sat. Tampons are def. outta the question because I`ve tried them and they DO NOT work! Is there anything I can do?

If tampons don't work for you [which they should] then you're basically out of luck unless you are in the water 24/7. Once you get OUT of the water, put shorts on immediately.
♥ Melissa

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Ok so I have this HUGE crush on this guy. But hes realllllllllllly shy. And doesnt talk at all! He already knows that I like him because my friends have been telling him for like 4 days. When they asked him if he liked me he said He didnt know and would have to think about it. Im shy too. Just not as shy as him. N I prefer the guy to ask me out AND start the conversation. Theres a dance on friday..How do I tell if he likes me or is jus being nice?

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You need to initiate a conversation if you like him that much. Definitely start talking to him now, because if you wait too long, he might not even GO to the dance. Just start conversing with him then ask if he would wanna go or hang out there.
♥ Melissa

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