Iam a girl with black hair and gray eyes. I like to go to the gym to workout because it relieves stress. I like to help people no problem whatever they ask I won't judge people I'm just a person willing to give you some advice that's all. I think its important to have a good education and a good carrer in life. I want this world to be peaceful which is one of my biggest dreams!I'm back!I apologize to you all for not being able to help you guys in need for help whatever help you ask for just write me in my inbox,I'll answer as soon as possible.
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Age: 17
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My best friend and I have been best friends for ABOUT A year now. the year b4, he was best friends wit my otha best friend. At that time she was his numba 1 and I came about second or third..maybe...then they fell head ova heels for each other, then they fell out and they started hating each other, all during this time, We got closer, not in spite of her but because he is cool, and we just got closer.So when they werent best friends anymore...I guess I became his numba 1, well now Me and him are closer than eva, and the girl used to tell me I was just bait until they became best friends again. Well now they are going to the same high school, and Im not going to there's, and Ive been away alll summa.....They have obviously gotten closer, but just recently they have started talkin on the phone again, and I have this horrid feeling that maybe she was right. Becuz they are going to the same high school, so naturally they are going to become closer, and we all go to the same church, and his sister is friends wit us both, ( I think she likes her better tho) Im afraid she was right and they are going to become #1's again...and we will naturally be as close but now Ill be his second pick..and I am afraid that she is the better friend so he deserves her..We are just so close, I dont want to loose him at all, and please dont tell me he can have 2 #1's, because even if he can, one will still dominate the other..and I dont know what to think and how to prevent it?? (link)
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Keep in touch with him at all times as much as possible and try hanging out with him you can.As far as what you should be thinking is that I'll do what I can to not lose that very close friendship,your best friend should also think about you, and should still consider you as his number1 .Maybe you shouldn't listen to much about the bait part she might have said it for jealousy because now you are his #1,and people like that just want to make you feel really bad.
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okay, well i'm 14/f. and i have this guy friend that is 15/m. he's like freaking out because he got into a HUGE fight with a girl that he really liked, but she didn't like him. now he's thinking about commiting suicide. i am soo scared, what can i tell him? (link)
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Tell him not to kill himself over a girl, that there other girls out there,he can't let something like that affect him,to move on,life is something great to have he's just hurt right now,he'll be able to get over it,just because that girl didn't like him doesn't mean it's all over,ask him "don't you want to see your future you know that you get a career,form a family with a girl someday,to also think about how many people he'll hurt if he suicides himself,and that god will not approve of his decision.He should notice that there are other people who are suffering more than him,they still live because they want to live they appreciate the life that was given to them so why can't he do the same".If it doesn't work go to the teen help line, please don't let him kill himself,and let his parents know it's very important.
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If god loves every one then why dose it seem that being gay is wrong. im a big gay rights person and i dont understand how in most religions its like one of the bigest sins (link)
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You've got to understand that religions have different beliefs,rules that are to be followed,to some see it as evil,but you must stand up for your rights,don't let people put you down,show that you're strong,remember god loves us whether we like our opposite sex or same,and that god is always with us.
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can you admire a person and like them at the same time?For instance, my sis's friend told my sis that she admired me,does that mean that she likes me as well?
And is there a difference from liking someone to loving someone? (link)
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Yes,you can admire a person, and like them at the same time.And about liking someone is not strong as loving someone,when you're in love it can make you think that the world is beautiful,and make's you a very positive person.
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about a week ago, my parents were fighting. it was so bad that me and my sister had to call my grandparents to tell them that we would like to sleepover. our parents tried to work it out but i don't know what will happen. also the next day when my dad saw us, he started crying and saying that he loves us. it was weird though to see my dad crying but i thought something was going on. yesterday i went blueberry picking with my parents and my sister. i wasn't really up to it but my mom said privately to me that we did this to be together and we don't have to be together and not have my father.
i am really scared now. please can you help me?
ty in advance. 13/f (link)
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You don't have to be separated from the both if you don't want to you could stay with both at different days like half of the week with your mom and the other half with your dad but choose wisely for who to spend more time with if that's the case.Maybe your parents may not get divorced don't you know that when they are about to sign the papers usually the lawyer will tell them to think about it, and sometimes he lands up convincing them not to.Hopefully things work out with your parents.
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well this guy i know and have dated
the first time we dated i broke up cause my friend sayed he cheated.
then we dated agian and this time i dumped him
cause he said my friend was a stupid b...
but now i'm really confussed and someone is lying
to me and i wanna know who.
last time i dated him was the first time i
ever saw him this mean.
but i think both my friend and him are lying about each other.
cause usually he's really nice.
but she always says crappy things about him.
and he denys it.
and he always says crapy things about her.
and she denys it.
and her boy friend called me asking me to go back out with him.
cause there friends.
but he's always going on about how cool he is and
how all these girls like him. so why can't he just leave me alone?
i need help. (link)
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You have to get rid of these doubts,perhaps a lot of these girls like him because he's being nice too them but in an ugly way if you know what I mean or in an innocent way like he treats them with respect by not touching them or going beyond that, and not making contact with the lips you know kissing them there.But then again either both are lying about each other,or one is so investigate,find what others know him have to say about your guy,your friend,have someone help you which will be easier,also try either remebering if either one of them acted weird in any kind of way,and who seems to you the one that you should get more information on.Good luck!
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So there's this girl I like from school. We are totally close, like almost best friends and a little while back we would be passing each others notes in class and I told her I liked her and she sadi she liked me back! I was so happy.
So then we would secretly hold hands and just keep passing notes. And she invited me over to see a movie and we totally cuddled together while watching it. After that I was thinking we should go out...but I never told her .So then the hand holding continued until summer break.
Now I live in a small town and she lives in the city so its kind of hard for me to go there so we didnt really get to see each other. So just recently I went to a party and a bunnch of people were there. And she was there too and so was a guy named Brandon. Now I heard stories of them getting "married" as a joke but when I got there she was totally flirting with him and barely noticed me the whole time. Turn out i'm old news and she has a crush on him.
Now obviously i'm jealous but...what happened? I know we weren't going out but...we were getting there. So should I still hang out with her alot? Or will that be just awkward.
Very confused,
Greenlalablue (link)
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Yeah I really feel you should hang out with her a lot because if you don't this guy will wind up stealing her from you,ask her if she still has a crush on you before you too start going out because for some reason some people may not feel the same anymore as some time passes, and so you don't waste your time on someone who may not be even worth it.
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Ok, so I am a 16/f. The problem that I happen to have is this boy that I was supposed to be with (who is also the father of my child) all of a sudden changed his mind about how he felt about me when we started hanging out with my best friend. It all started a few days ago things between me and him were progressing and we were very close to getting together and then we started hanging out with my friends and he got a crush on my best friend, well me and her decided we wanted to mess with his head and make him think she likes him a lot and so now the problem is that she is really starting to like him and I have been pushed to a back-up girlfriend in case things between the two of them don't work. I don't know what to do because I know my friend doesn't like him and she's just messing with him but it still frustrates me because shes basically stealing him from me and now I have no one, it's hard enough as is for me to get a man considering I have a child and I just don't know what to do...HELP!!!!! (link)
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It's normal to be frustrated at time's like this but it's not to late to try to get your boyfriend to be interested in you again,try not to keep him out of your time,spend as much time with him,and tell your friend that you don't want her to keep on with the plan.If she is still on with it then it should make you realize who you're true friends really are.
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i work with this guy and He came back today. he was on vacation all summer in florida. I have had a thing for him since i started working there in august. He is 8 years older then me & he has a girlfriend But when we work together he flirts i guess you can call it. Like if im standing down one of the isles he'll throw something at me to get my attention just to laugh at me. We have a squirt bottle of water & he'll go up behind me and squirt me with it. He'll grab my side. Or if there are no customers in the store he lifts his shirt up & says noone you know can compete with this.or something like that lol.
Its just a bunch of random things he does. And that all happened tonight.
Is this flirting? Is he leading me on? Im not going to tell him to stop doing this stuff because i love the attention. I just dont want to fall for him.
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Yes,he is flirting by showing off,also leading you on,but don't get into it don't pay too much attention because you'll end up falling for him especially since you love the attention, remember he is taken already,you could put your eyes on other people, he's a very cocky guy from the things you say he does,and says.
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I have a major obsession about my body and exercise and food. At first, it was just like, not eating so many cookies at lunch or limiting how much soda I drank in a day. That was about a year ago. In like, April I think, about that time anyways, I found that I was not eating any junk food at lunch anymore and I was only eating ice cream on sundays, and i hardly drank soda. I also was running about 2 miles 3-5 days a week. So basically, I was in shape. Then when summer started I joined a club lacrosse team and did a lot of training, we ran at least 3 miles everyday and had practice 3 days a week (one was a muscle training day). My coach told us about all the bad things about soda. and how not to eat the dairy before a work out, that kind of stuff. Along with lacrosse, I joined my old swim team (practice every weeknight for an hour). And I also did a special start and turn session for about an hour every week day. I was getting a ton of exercise so I had to eat constantly, like in the car between practices and stuff. I really slimmed down, lost 10 pounds, and I haven't had my period since May. Now, I am extremely picky about how I eat. NO candy, soda, ice cream, pizza, chicken wings, at ALL. I also run 4 miles almost everyday, but I don't swim anymore and lacrosse is over. But I still find myself always thinking about how much I've eaten and how I'm going to burn it off. I mean, I enjoy working out, it's just I can't help but calculate in my head the number of calories I'm eating and using. I am very fit, but I'm not convinced that I"m healthy. My mind is all screwed up, and I just want to be able to enjoy other things in life besides my body. How can I fix my mental issues??? (link)
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You should say to yourself to enjoy life you know like people say"were livi'n life",like we only have one life,that calories can be lost but also remember what really counts is calories from fat not the word alone calories,that if you're fit there shouldn't be a problem like this model she still eats anything she wants but has plenty of exercise,loses that fat,still has a beautiful body,but people who are overweight have to have a diet along with the workout, just don't worry but remember to be a little loose, and enjoy yourself.
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what do you guys do in your free and occupied time besides school, eating, maintaining hygiene, and hanging out with friends?
i dont do anything in summer and otherwise. like summer camps/schools or like sports, what volunteering things, clubs outside and in school. can you suggest stuff or tell me what you do? all i do is watch tv, read, do hw, volunteer at a hospital one time a week (maximum amount possible in the program). pointers on getting a job? i feel like im wasting time and space in this world
please
thanks a lot (link)
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Well as for searching for a job it's best to look for a local job so you don't have to be traveling far,it's good to look for a job on the internet or to go directly to apply for the job,but it should also be a job that will interest you, and that you can handle.As far as hobbies like go to a gym to stay fit or for the fun you should join an aerobic class also.There is a fun camp in Connecticut you can go to but I forgot the name of it,wow it was amazing it felt like a dream but anyways there are also in other places,try visiting your school for summer camp you can attend to or you can volunteer on shipping goods for the needy or fun stuff like decorating places like a club or other places for special events,and you could also join lots of clubs but choose one that is easy for you or that you set your mind to.I think it's really nice of you to volunteer at a hospital that's sweet.
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I can't really get a teacher right now.
I would love to know if I'm singing through my nose or not. When I record my voice.. I hate it.
I'm looking for a kelly clarkson-ish voice. And I'm either a mezzo-soprano or a soprano. Anyways.. How do you know if youre actually singing right or not? (link)
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You could tell if you're singing right if you're doing it with emotion,if it sounds right,that it follows with the rhythm of a song you're singing,with feeling,and with great energy as well.
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im going to be sixteen in 3 weeks.
ive been wit h my boyfriend(17) a long time. and well you know were teens we party and drink. one night it got outta hand and we had sexual intercourse, the condom broke.
here are the signs that im pregnant::
firm breast.
moody.
bloated.
hungry.
frequent urination.
cramps.
spotting.
im really scared because i havent gotten my period yet either.
what should i do.
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You and your boyfriend should go to the hospital as soon as possible,go see the doctor to see if you're pregnant, he'll help you out with what you need to avoid,and you won't regret it for sure.
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this girl is mean to me what should i do? i've tried to stand up to her and that didn't work and i've tried to ignore her but that didn't work either so what should i do? (link)
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If this happens to take place at your school tell your teacher to tell her to stop bothering you,if things get worse than you should bring one of your parents to talk to the teacher about changing her classroom because she constantly bothers you,it distracts you from you learning, and focusing well in school.
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I met this guy at a party back in May. I knew him before but didn't really like him, but this party made me think he was a decent enough person. I wasn't attracted to him in a romantic sense though. Anyway, he asked me for my number and I gave it to him. He was okay at first, but then I started hating him. He is really immature. I tell him that I don't like him at all and to leave me alone, but he won't stop. He calls me about 394834 times a day and at odd times since he knows I'm awake a lot. He even calls the house phone where my parents are sleeping at 4am. One time I went to the store and there were twenty seven new calls on the phone. Going to the police isn't an option because I'm not exactly their favorite person ever. I've told him many times but he just won't listen. The only reason he talks to me is because he thinks my interests will fit in with his image. It's pathetic. He pretends to like every movie and band I like, even if he knows nothing about them. How do I get him to leave me alone? (link)
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Tell him if he keeps on bothering you you'll get the police on him,to stay away from you if he knows what's good for him,and that he's warned.Honestly the guy needs to get a life.I had this stalker too before it was so annoying I had to report it so he would leave me alone.What you could also do is disconnect your phone for a while or change your phone number so finally you don't have to deal with him calling you all the time.And be careful.
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hey my names jess....well my friends mom nd step dad went away for the night and considering were teenagers we invited a couple of boys over..well me my friend taylor nd 2 boys decided to go in the bathtub with bathingsuits on bc we were just swimmin but the girlswho house it was at took a picture of me nd one boy in the tub. her mom looked threw her camera nd found a the picture and she found another pic of my friends poisin with boys..her mom is flipping out and says she was gonna call the cops to find out what happened..im like really have a panic attack over here i know what i did was wrong but i dont know what to do...im having trouble breathing...im a very paranoid person so its really getting to me...how can i sop being nervous and make this situation better...without getting in more trouble than i should be in?
please help me!!
jess (link)
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Try calming down,tell someone about it that can help you,have your back,apologize to her about the incident,that it won't happen again,try to come with a good explanation about it,that she doesn't have to call the cops because nothing further than posing for the camera happened so she doesn't have to go to extreme measures like that, to give you a second chance, and that if she does she won't regret it at all.
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ok i like this guy but i dont know if he likes me.my friends do this stupid game were the people rate what they think of the guy/girl.well jay put that im hot,nice,funny,and then said that he dosent think i like him.my friend molli is best friends with him and his cousin jonathan.she said that she went through a list of girls and he said i was cute and then said i dont know in a sad way.my friends keep telling me that the only way to know if he likes me is if i ask him out but im to chicken.i have to know if he likes me first before i can make a move.he also likes another girl and is very open about it.but if he likes me why is he not as open???HELP!!!13/f (link)
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He feels the same way about you the fear of being rejected by you especially of asking a girl out who is hot,and you should understand why he is not open.Why don't your friends let him know you like him so you don't have to ask him out and he'll make the move if he really likes you.
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18/m
Ok, no matter what i'm always the friend or the creep... somehow i'm always one or the other... i mean i give advice on relationships all the time and help other in real life. WHY CAN'T I HELP MYSELF?!?!
Please help me... This is my last hope (link)
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Well a lot of people have that problem,you probably think that maybe I should help myself first then help other people.You may not be able to since either you're too busy helping others or it's stress or you don't have enough strength to help yourself.But first find which of these is your problem,work on it,then improve yourself on something you're really interested to give you enough energy to solve the problem/problems then try to build your mind with positive thought's instead of the negative,and you'll be able to have hope again in yourself.
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Hey guys!!
Im stuck between two guys. They are in the same group of friends. and i really dont kno what to do.
guy number 1: Bob: Bob is a player and hes really flirty and stuff. and i really like him. i think a little more than i like guy number 2. but since hes a player he can flirt with all the girls and stuff you know? and im not even sure if he likes me but i can relate to him and he can relate to me and we can talk and talk for hours without even realizing it. and my two best friends tell me that he really likes me but i dont even know. like today we went to see lady and the water and both guys were there. and bob didnt stay in the movie so i was with guy number 2 and he comforted me and stuff. but i still felt a little guilty because i knew there was someone else. and when bob was talking to me guy number 2 got mad and wen guys number 2 would talk to me bob would get mad.
guy number 2: hes really a sweet guy and all. but he sometimes trys to hard and hes a relationship type of guy. he was talking to my best friend thats a guy and was telling him how he really likes me and stuff. and i really dont kno what to do because i dont feel like i have that connection with him. but its just that i dont want to hurt any of them.
but bob said that hes not looking for a relationship and this was like a week ago. and everyone thinks guy number 2 has a thing with me and that im pretty much taken bye him.
ugh helpp
sorry its longg.
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I think you should give guy number two a chance maybe time will help you like him or perhaps you like him already but don't notice it.Guy number two will only wind up hurting you,humilating you,and making you grow into false illusions.
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im 14m and i dont think i'll ever be albe to trust people. you see i've had crushes on girls and i think they like me because they flirt with me but when i ask them out they get all horrified and humiliate me
when ever my friends say a girl likes me and i ask her out the same thing always happens
and somtimes people just lie to me because they think that it's funny or somthing
one time i found a love note from one of my female friends but when i asked her out she didn't know what i was talking about and are friendship was totally over
and onetime this totally hot girl asked my out but i didn't trust her so it didn't work out
somtimes i dont know what to do because i wanna ask a girl out but i wont wanna take the chance of getting embarrised or hurt. and some times i just don't trust them because it's usually a joke.
will i ever learn to trust girls and could someone mabeye give me some advice or help so i can learn to trust people more.
sorry it was so long
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It's reasonable of why you feel that way but trust is not something that you get of course it must be earned.It's so mean when people decide to play with people's feelings they wouldn't want to be the ones to get hurt.The next time someone leaves a note ask the person who you think wrote it if they did so it won't happen again,tell your friends to stop lying to you about girls stating they want to go out, and real friends wouldn't do something like that.Yes,you will be able to trust again right now you're in pain but there will be a person who wins your trust,not hurt you, will really like you enough to want to go out with you,and don't think negative because then you always will.
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