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guy friend is majorly sad
okay, well i'm 14/f. and i have this guy friend that is 15/m. he's like freaking out because he got into a HUGE fight with a girl that he really liked, but she didn't like him. now he's thinking about commiting suicide. i am soo scared, what can i tell him?
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you might not believe me when i say this, because when somebody else told me this i didn't believe them either. here we go. encouragement is the best way out of that. tell him that he's better than that, and he deserves better than that. there are more fish in the sea, and maybe in the future she'll like him back. you never know. people change. about the encouragement thing: recently, i went to a bible study and what we did was get a sheet of notebook paper, write our names on it, and pass it around the room for 30 minutes. everybody in the room wrote something on everybody else's paper (if they knew them). when i read mine, people wrote things about me that i didn't even notice before. like, they said that i have a sweet spirit and i'm always in a good mood. and that really made my day. so the best thing you can do right now for your friend is just to be there for him and to make him realize that suicide isn't worth it and that so many people will be hurt if he does commit suicide. i wouldn't tell parents just yet, but if he doesn't change his mind soon i think you should tell your parents and they can figure out what to do. he has his whole life ahead of him. and think about it: you obviously care enough about this guy as a friend that you want to help him out... so make him realize that. make him realize that he has a lot of people on this earth that trust him and that he can trust... and it wouldn't be a good idea to throw that all away. i hope things get better for you two. :)
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hey, i sorta have the same problem with my 14/m guy friend. i always tell him that theres so many other girls out there that will be so much better for him. also that commiting suicide is not worth it, because then i would miss you wayy to muchh =].
-caitt♥
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Tell him not to kill himself over a girl, that there other girls out there,he can't let something like that affect him,to move on,life is something great to have he's just hurt right now,he'll be able to get over it,just because that girl didn't like him doesn't mean it's all over,ask him "don't you want to see your future you know that you get a career,form a family with a girl someday,to also think about how many people he'll hurt if he suicides himself,and that god will not approve of his decision.He should notice that there are other people who are suffering more than him,they still live because they want to live they appreciate the life that was given to them so why can't he do the same".If it doesn't work go to the teen help line, please don't let him kill himself,and let his parents know it's very important.
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I know that telling on your friend is a hard thing so I won't make the whole "Go to a trusted adult and seek help for your friend" as the main suggestion.
Why don't you sit down with him and talk to him FACE TO FACE.
He's only 15. The girl if not worth his life. As his life goes along, he will notice that there are many many more other girls out there for him that will return his feelings.
So what, a girl doesn't like him. This is all a part of life and sometimes we have to deal with it and suicide isn't the way.
Every 18minutes, people commit suicide in this country and every 19 minutes people find their loved ones taken away from them.
Suicide won't resolve anything. Because he kills himself, the girl won't like him. It will just cause grief and guilt among people who knew him.
He still has a bright future ahead of him and don't let a stupid girl ruin it. It's not wirth his time, thoughts, and life.
Tell him what I just above and I hope everything goes well for you and your guy friend.
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Hi im so sorry this is happing to your friend.Theres not much you can do.Just talk with him and be there for him.He will relise that he has such great friends that he wouldnt leave them behind.
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tell him that it's just a girl. that there are soo many more girls out there for him. tell him he's a great guy and that any girl should be happy to have him.
convince him not to commit suicide. tell him the consiquences and that he would ruin your life and his because he has so much going for him.
sit down and talk to him. don't be scared, at least if you are, don't show it because you need to stay positive and strong for him. good luck!
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tell him that nothing in this world is worth losing your life over. No girl, no fight, nothing.
Most the time people will say no one cares about them, or are thinking it.
So just tell him you care about him a lot, and you know you, as well as his parents, and all your other friends and people would be heart broken and in a lot of pain.
Remind him of things he will never get to do, or experience. Driving, having a good job, going to college, getting married, those kinds of things. And all the people he will never meet.
Good luck, and if you need help with ANYTHING else, let me know, i have had a lot of friends try commiting suicide.
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First off go talk to the girl and tell her that he might commit suicide. Is this fight really worth someone's life? If she doesn't agree then call a suicide hotline, and if that doesn't work go talk to his parents!
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if you have proof that he wants to commit suicide, keep an extra eye on him. Tell a councelor or a parent but keep it anonymous. I don't think he's truly planning on it because he wouldn't discuss it.
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Ok, this may sound a little harsh and trust me i am not meaning it to, normally if somebody is truly contemplating suicide...they dont tell anybody, not a single soul. But if he all of a sudden comes out of this depression, like really fast, you may want to worry a little more then. Normally when a person makes the decision to kill themselves they feel a sudden calmness and seem very happy. They may take the next few days to say good bye to their loved ones.
Try to talk some sense into him, dont tell him all of the things he has going for him becuase that doesnt matter to a suicidal person. Tell him how much he means to you, to his family and that to let a foolish girl be his demise wouldnt be fair to the people who truly care about him.
please, take him seriously, you need to tell an adult or counselor
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Tell him that girls aren't everything in life. Even if he liked her a lot doesn't mean he won't find someone better. They always say that the person you're with or want to be with there's always someone better. You just have to find them. & I'm sure he'll find someone else. If that doesn't work talk to the girl if you can. & ask her exactly what she said to him & ask her if she can talk to him. That might make it better. But if that also doesn't work call or tell someone. Could be serious.
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