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13/f
me and a friend, we'll call her T. T is bi. I am supposed to be straight, but I'm confused now. Well, T and I went to a friends house and when my other frined fell asleep, we played truth or dare. I couldn't thing of one, so I said
'i dare you to do the first thing that comes to your mind when I say sexy.' She kissed me! She grabbed my face and kissed me! it was surprising and it scared me. but that wasn't the scary part. the scary part was... it was a nice kiss. well, then I was quiet and obviously, thinking about very stupid things. my friend said, i dare you to kiss me back. i don't turn down dares, but this one was a little creepy, but for some reason, i kissed her back. unfortunately, things got a little out of hand. she dared me to get on top of her in the bed, so i did... then, i think we made out then just... uh humped each other for a while. it was okay, but when i didn't feel that weird urge anymore, i felt so stupid. i cursed myself and i still do! the same thing happened again a couple weeks after school let out. only this time, we got a bit undressed, not all the way. again, i don't get how it happened. i don't want to be bisexual or lesbian. i want to be straight and straight all the time. what do i do about this?! I couldn't be considered bi could i? I get angry afterwards, then don't get turned on by any other girls. just guys... and then when T does the dares, then i get... yea. so, what do i do?!
Candy (link)
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you could be just really confused rite now i say u stop hanging out with her seeing that everytime you do that happends start hanging with guys see if its differnt theres nothing wrong being bi or lesbian but dont beat ur self up for being who you are!
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Me and my mother were in the mall the other day and we went into Hot Topic, And you know those little sex shirts that they have, well my mom bought one!, ya and she is over wight so it was kind of gross, But that was not the worse part, then i hear her and my step father haveing sex, for the theird time! one tims my friend was over to! My problem is that when ever i talk or see them its like mad awkward, i cant help but want to say whats your problem or mom how was your night? how to I handle this?? And i dont really like the way my mother is buying clothes that I should eb wearing not her. what do i do?? (link)
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ya thats way awkward like if i was you i wouldn't be able to talk to them about it thts just nasty but like next time u see her buying sexy stuff pick one out for your self like a thong or an outfit what can she say your saying something witout having to say it your protesting if she can buy then so are u. see what im saying?
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Okay, so im going to have my first time in august with my boyfriend. I just have a few sex questions.
its pretty much impossibal to get preg. if you use a condom right?
does it hurt the first time?
can i have sex without birth control?
My periods are usually unusual, so im going to be scared if my period comes late [it usually always does] so how will i know if im preg. or not?
how do you use a preg test? im going to use one just incase.
are you sore in the morning?
anything else i need to know?
thank you :] and im 15 1/2 female. Please don't tell me that its stupid and im too young because i really love my boyfriend (link)
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ok 1. its not impossibale you can still get pregnant there is always a slite chance it tells you on the box its like a 98% chance or something that it works.
2. yes it hurts i wouldnt know but from wat i heard from my friends it hurts like a motha fro
3.yes you can have sex with birth control its an option you have
4. you know if your preg. or not if your more than two weeks late like that doesnt tell you if you are or not but its a slight chance so i would take a pregnancy test if there are symptoms that you are pregnant like nuasia stuff like that
5. to use one i believe that you buy it first haha and then like it has directions im sure that you wait a certain time when you remove the cap th at it has and this little flat part that you pee on and you wait how long it says too ( let me remind you that this all knologe from others experiences and not my own so if im totally off gaurd on somet things i totally apologize! and im glad you love your boyfriend i hope all works out for the best love
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i'm not sure if there's something wrong, but recently i've noticed that when i urinate it smells really awful and my vagina is a wee bit swollen, but i put the swelling down to my boyfriend fingering me the other night, which normally happens. could this be the cause of the smell or could it be something to do with my diet? i'm fairly healthy and haven't changed my diet at all, so could i have an infection?
cheers, help would be greatly appreciated :) (link)
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um it could be a lot of things like if when you pee it burns then ya its a urine infection but if you wait to long to check it out it could be really bad like me i didnt know and i was in pain and it was awful so get it checked it could be a yiest infection too but only ur doctor would know
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I am a virgin. My boyfriend played with me "down there" and he ate me out last night. When I got home and went to the bathroom, not only did it burn, but when I wiped myself, there was a lot of blood. (It's not period blood.)
I told him about it and he mentioned that maybe my cherry popped?
Could you tell me what it really means to have your cherry popped and like what happens. I just need information.
Thank you!
17/f (link)
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um that kind of sounds like you mite have urine track infection. i would seriously check it out!
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Oh kay so my boyfriend wants to like have sex with me and shit-i mean he already fingered me and i gave him a BJ but i don't know if i should have sex with him i am only 13 and i don't want it to get around my school! HELP!! (link)
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ok hold up a minute here. your 13 like a one and a three put together and you already got fingered and gave your boyfriend a blowjob.??? k so that sounds good. i would have to say and its my own opinion that if you were my sister i would be verrrryy disapointed in you. you need to really think and especially at your age what would your parents think of you doing this your 13 its way to young to be getting fingered and giving blowjobs and yes handjobs. im guessing you dont even know what most of the affects it could have on you like. STD yes giving head can still pass an std and with sex duh u probally know that. and if you already had your period you can get pregnant but if you havnt or u still have because you are at such a young age your body hasnt really developed all that much so by having sex can really affect you. you could get a blatter infection you could be emotionally damaged. how long have you been going out with this boy? a month or two a year maybe but did you stay together not once broken up over him looking or talking to another girl. i mean i know that you think that what am i to say anything to you like this and it will probally make you angry because i have so been there at your age im 15 and a female and when i was 13 i just got my first kiss and it was a peck and my first boyfriend like you may be saying wow what a loser but do you really want to be in 9th grade and already not be a virgin and having guys think o its loosey goosey or she so easy and then no one will respect you and people will be calling you a hoe and its not good i see it everyday i have to say that i have never gave a guy a blow job i think for one you need to really connect with the guy he needs to really love you and really need to love him and there needs to be a lot of trust and my rule is if i have dated the guy for over a year and we didnt break up the whole year and no major problems then hes the rite one to have sex with. i havnt found the one yet im in a relationship now but we havnt done anything serious. taking it slow is the way to go rite now you should be enjoying the first time a guy holds your hand or asks you out or kisses you. not your first blowjob thats gross. in the future if your not ready wich seems your not becasue your having second thoughts on this then your not ready if he breaks up with you because you wont do stuff with him then so be it hes the pig and you wont have an awful name to you. and trust me he will say he wont tell any one but he will then that person will tell someoene and then next thing you know its all over school your sent to a councling office and they talk to you about it like its their business and its not! its annoying heart breaking its awful. you need to think before you act next time really think would you want to tell your mother that being thirteen you already had sex. how would she react. think about your future. think about you.
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i got my cartlidge pierced about a month ago and its still swollen and sore.
is that normall?
how do i make the swelling go away? (link)
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well your supposed to clean it with the stuff you have and try not to sleep on it and maybe ice it but if it looks really bad go to the doctor and if you are thinking of taking it out DONT cuz its hard to put back in for one thing and i didnt take mine out until a year after i got it done its way easier i took it out b4 and almost had to get it reperireced worst feeling ever!
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okay so i'm 16 and i have never been on a date or even kissed a guy for that matter. it makes me kinda sad because there are freshman who have already had like 3 boyfriends in one year. and i know i shouldn't compare myself to them but it makes me feel like there more mature when i know that there not.
anyways! is this weird that i haven't done anything and i'm already 16? (link)
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youll hear this over and over again everyone get thier own boyfriend at thier own time and you will too. its not sad or tragic i know someoen who didnt get her first kiss until she was 18 and they wernt even going out! so you see your not alone. and yes some girls look or seem like they are way far more uglyer then you and still get a boyfriend but just imagine what or where they hang out and have to do to get them i mean i would rather be me and get a boyfriend then be somebody im not and get a boyfriend that likes the person thats just a lie.
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How do you have sex? Which hole is the penis supposed to be inserted into? By the way, I'm 13/f and I don't know whether I want to have sex with my boyfriend or not. I really like him, and he won't leave me alone about it. What should I do? (link)
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WOW you should not have sex!!!! first of all. im just saying if you dont know what any of that stuff is then you shouldnt at all.
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year now. I'm 14, and he's turning 15. We haven't had sex, but we have talked about it. The problem is, there are other couples in my school having sex that haven't even been together that long. Basically, I'm pressured all the time to have sex with him. I feel like we have waited way too long and if everyone else is, then why aren't we? I know I should wait until I'm ready..but it's been over a year and I feel like we have to. What should I do. (link)
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you certainly do not HAVE to do anything if you arnt ready just beacause you have waited a year doesnt mean its long enough obviously your boyfriend stayed with you this long because you dont have to give him sex and you should be proud of that! i would other people need to have sex to keep their boyfriend or girlfriend and thats pretty sad i say
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I've been going out with my bf for 2 months nd okay that doesnt seem long but we've been best friends for alot longer. He's had sex before but i haven't. I've never thought i was ready until now. But i think he feels that he is pressuring me into having sex. If i say i'm ready he's like right okay but are you completely sure nd all tht. Plus some of my friends think he is just with me for sex so i think this is putting him off because he wants to prove them wrong. I leave for my holiday a week tomorrow. And the only day i'll get to see him is thursday. I think i want to have sex with him then. But how do i tell him that without sounding weird. I've been told that when you have sex you just want more. So i'm scared incase like he'll be gagging for it if we do before i leave because the next time we'll be able to after that is 3 weeks if that makes sence lol (link)
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ok i think you should wait is your heart telling you you are ready or just your mind. there is consequences to this action not only will you be mentally changed but there are serious causes to this how do you know he doesnt have an STD or just becuase you you used protection doesnt mean you wont get pregnant and when you break up and get a boyfriend that could be your husband one day would you like to tell him that you gave up your mind body and soul to this one person who you thought you loved. how do you feel that your boyfriend has been with another girl.? in that situation put it to the guy that your going to marry one day. really think about this i dont think your ready and neither does your boyfriend at least wait a year. your only gone for a week.
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I have built up a lot of cofidence this past year.
Especially with school and relationships. My girlfriend has almost all this power from me and I have no idea why I let myself give it to her. she's incredible and extremely nurturing. Though she broke up with me for not even a day and then the whole time we were apart it seemed extremely wrong. I realized she was my best friend and my girlfriend.
She cried the whole time she left my house to her best friends. We saw each other that next day and talked the night of all of this. She said it was a mistake. We just had our 4 month and are extremely pleased with each other.
My only issue is..what if this all happens again because I use to be suicidal but now as I have grown it's been something different. When she was there I even broke down I tried holding it in for when she left. Sure, i am emotional but I try my best to make sure she knows it's alright. I am just so scared to lose it all. I think were fine as of now, but if I do end up in that situation again what are some ways I may be able to handle it? (link)
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ok so loosing a girl isn't that hard. its going to happen most likely you can handle it out by yes crying and hanging with freinds and family a LOT! she shuldnt have so much control over you is what im thinking i hate when girls do that im sure i dont but w.e any way you have to know that its not the end of the world loosing her just think you had good memories and what not and thats it.
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14/f
my boyfriend and i have been going out for almost six months. and i still love him. but he never calls. he never texts. he never emails. and he never offers to hang out. its always me who calls first. and its hard for me. like the other day, i was talking to him, and he's like, "sorry i havent called you in a while, ive been really busy." and i was like, "oh ok, well what have you been up to?" and he goes, "oh nothing." so i was kind of upset that he didnt even come up with an excuse. he always says, "i really love you!" or, "i love you so much" but he doesnt PROVE it. i love him, but i cant keep doing this. i am his first girlfriend, and, even though i cant wait to get over him, i dont want to crush him. so how do i break up with him? i was thinking about doing it over the phone, but is that wrong? i dont think that would be a good way to do it. if i do it in person, what do i say? where should i go to break up with him? i really need help.PLEASE help me!! (link)
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well i say in person never over a text and never over IM its awful in person i say and like not rite after a date if your still in school do it there tell him idont think its working out or if your not in school make plans with him to go to the park to "talk" so hell have the idea whats going on and have your friends in the back like not noticeable so you can leave but not alone
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hi im 13
about a year ago i started getting pubes and i was wondering if it is normal for me at this age to be getting them.they are about 3cm long and is that just prematuring or is it a natural length? now there are a heap of pubes all around my penis-area and i am sort of worried (link)
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whats with u and like measuring your self damn your 13 of course its normal to
1. masterbate
2. have PUBES that are yes like a damn bush
3. think about girls
4. have a penis that size stop worrying
your going through what i call puberty perfectly normal!!!
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Im a very girlie person but I just don't do purse or bags. But I really need one for highschool that's big (like a rectangle sized) but stylish for either carrying through travel time between classes or as my back pack bag. Can anyone give me some of your fashion expertise? I hope that it's cheap and easy to find. It's quite a small city here so I don't want a bad that someone else will have. (link)
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oh i have the place for you i got a simple bad that looked really cute i got it at Target it was cheap too like only 15 dollars.
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i'm in highschool i want to go into the grils change room while they are in the gym and the door is never lock and i never hear anything inside is it possible to get in look around and get out? u know mabye found panties or something (link)
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um ya its possible im sure but when girls are playing in thier uniform like now swimming they dont just rip off there panties and play. thats just an FYI
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hi, im just curious about swallowing cum. is it healthy or harmful in any way? have any of you girls even swallowed? any info would be great! (link)
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OMG ive never swallowed or given head for that matter but i could tell you when helpful fact that its only 15 calories his sperm and you dont get pregnant
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hi so recently i started talking to this boy. hes always pressuring me to give him head but i tell him i want to get to know him better and hang out first. he says that if i give him head it will show i like him and he will consider dating me. i just want to hang out first but he doesn't want to. does it seem like he just wants one thing only? (link)
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ya this is the type of guy you do not want to be around with if thats what means for him to go out with you then he isnt worth it at ALL.
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Okay, I am friends with this amazing guy.He is everything a girl could wish for.I like him and he likes me, but we have never dated before.We both want to date each other, but he always has a girlfriend.He tells me he loves me but sometimes I think he is bluffing! I don't know if I should keep waiting for that day or just get over him. (link)
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i say u ask him out whats the harm u may never get this chance again so do it!
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me and my boyfriend will be dating for 1 year in a bout 2 weeks so iwanna get started on a gift for him early...i was thinking maybe find a free site online where i can put pictures of him and some of me and then one big one of both of us and framing it. Problem is i need a free site i can do that and print it from. I also need to know if you think a 17 year old guy would like it he's actually pretty emotional sweetest guy ik. i dont want to get him something of his interest cuz that seems like a b-day or christmas present so i want something that just remind him of me and him and our relationship together i was also thinking of putting little quotes of things we've said on it.
my questions are?
-Do you know a site i can put my pictures on and make a collage for free and print it out.
-Do you think he will like it
-what else could i get him to go with it?
-should the frame say anything? or just be plain? im thinking just plain wood to go with his room.
Please help. (link)
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i dont know any site that will do that for free but i do know one that will give it to you at a low cost. walmart.com and i think he would like it. ya plain is fine just wrap the gift with maybe a candy kiss on top to make it cute.
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