|
Its just way to awkard
Me and my mother were in the mall the other day and we went into Hot Topic, And you know those little sex shirts that they have, well my mom bought one!, ya and she is over wight so it was kind of gross, But that was not the worse part, then i hear her and my step father haveing sex, for the theird time! one tims my friend was over to! My problem is that when ever i talk or see them its like mad awkward, i cant help but want to say whats your problem or mom how was your night? how to I handle this?? And i dont really like the way my mother is buying clothes that I should eb wearing not her. what do i do??
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
Gross as it is, she has every right to buy those clothes and have sex with your step-dad. ;) She really does.
Do NOT tell her how to dress. Seriously. I can't even believe other people suggested that. You can make suggestions when you are out shopping and you can compliment her when she wears something you approve of, but you are the kid and she is the adult. She can tell you how to dress, you don't get to tell her.
What you can tell her is that you'd appreciate if she wouldn't wear the shirt when she is out with you 'cause you find it awkward. Don't bully or nag or embarrass her. Don't tell her that she isn't allowed or that it's not made for her. She is allowed, and I promise you the people who made it don't give a damn who wears it as long as they got paid. SO, take all the blame for the situation, like this "I know Mom, it shouldn't bother me and you can wear whatever you want, but it DOES bother me anyways so could you do me the favor of not wearing it when I'm around?"
Similar deal with the sex. They are going to have sex. They are going to enjoy it and sometimes, you are going to hear it. That is just a fact of life and living with other people. However, it's not unfair of you to say 'Hey mom, it's totally embarrassing when my friends hear you have sex, could you please not do that when I have people over."
She might not even know that they are that loud, and be quite embarrassed herself about it.
Nothing is going to change unless you talk about it. So, steel yourself and collect your courage and just get it out their in a friendly and respectful way. Remember that she is adult and she entitled to dress the way she wants and have sex when she wants, so what you asking her to do is respect your teenage insecurities and do you a favor to help you feel comfortable. If you phrase them as favors and requests rather then complaining or insulting her, she'll be more likely to change.
]
sit her down and talk to her about it. maybe she is going through some kind of mid-life crisis. you are not a baby anymore so now your mom is trying to act like she is 19 again. i think if you talk to her and connect with her she will understand. and maybe ya'll can go shopping together at a place where she can find cute clothes and it might even bring ya'll closer together :]
]
Talk to her about it. Tell her it makes you uncomfortable when she wears sexy clothes, because they aren't made for her age group. Just let her know it bothers you.
Maybe, you could go shopping with her to an age appropriate store. Help her pick out things that are more for her age and body.
-Laura. (16-f)
]
ya thats way awkward like if i was you i wouldn't be able to talk to them about it thts just nasty but like next time u see her buying sexy stuff pick one out for your self like a thong or an outfit what can she say your saying something witout having to say it your protesting if she can buy then so are u. see what im saying?
]
More Questions: |