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how to break up?!?! heeeelp!!
14/f
my boyfriend and i have been going out for almost six months. and i still love him. but he never calls. he never texts. he never emails. and he never offers to hang out. its always me who calls first. and its hard for me. like the other day, i was talking to him, and he's like, "sorry i havent called you in a while, ive been really busy." and i was like, "oh ok, well what have you been up to?" and he goes, "oh nothing." so i was kind of upset that he didnt even come up with an excuse. he always says, "i really love you!" or, "i love you so much" but he doesnt PROVE it. i love him, but i cant keep doing this. i am his first girlfriend, and, even though i cant wait to get over him, i dont want to crush him. so how do i break up with him? i was thinking about doing it over the phone, but is that wrong? i dont think that would be a good way to do it. if i do it in person, what do i say? where should i go to break up with him? i really need help.PLEASE help me!!
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well i say in person never over a text and never over IM its awful in person i say and like not rite after a date if your still in school do it there tell him idont think its working out or if your not in school make plans with him to go to the park to "talk" so hell have the idea whats going on and have your friends in the back like not noticeable so you can leave but not alone
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breaking up with him over the phone is not wrong you should kindly explain your reasons to him of why you are doing this or you could before doing anything drastic talk to him about you feelings about what he does
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Being that you are considering breaking up with him, I guess you don't feel the need to work it out or try communicating your needs and wants to him?
Breaking up with someone is hard because of their feelings. It's also hard not to break up with someone if you are ready to do that so you must focus on what you want and what you don't like.
Calling, texting or emailing someone to break up is petty and gets no respect in my opinion, but it's about what makes you comfortable. If you don't think that over the phone isn't a good way to break up, then follow your thought and ask him to meet you somewhere. Don't beat around the bush about it when the time comes, just stick to your points of how long you have felt ignored, avoided, or negleted. If you have talked to him about it before, mention that you tried to work this out with him, but for whatever his reasons were for not responding or acting like he loved you, has pushed you away and that you are breaking up with him immediately as a result of it. Let him know that there are no hard feelings and you wish him the best of luck in his future. Pause - to let him say whatever it is he is going to say: which is mostly likely going to be DUH.. UM... OK.. nah, but seriously, listen to what he has to say and then leave.
Good luck and always do what is best for you and what you want to deal with. If you don't want to deal with it, then don't. Also remember this, you can not change a person, they have to change themselves.
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You are his first girlfriend, he's probably nervous and stressed out. He probably has no idea what to do. Have you even talked to him about this? You need to let him know how you feel and that he needs to call you or at least do something first. You need to know what's going on with his life. Just take the time to find out what as going on and if it's just a lame excuse, just dump him. In person, text, email or on the phone. But really, if he said 'nothing' then it must be something. Maybe he's going through something at home? It sounds like you need more communication. Do you always start conversations? [emails, texts, etc?] It really depends on how much you do it and if he's a shy person.
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Oh my god. I had the exact same problem this year. He said he loved me but he neverrrr showed that he even cared. So when i was debating weather to break up with him or not I thought if he doesnt care to call me, or text me, or contact me anyway he doesnt care about me as much as i care about him, and uhmm i dont deserve this hah. I know its hard and you made up your mind that your going to do it so good for you !. (: okay. So if i were you i would od it over the phone. Just explain to him how its been bothering you the way hes been acting and you dont want to deal with it anymore. And you truely do love him but you think that its the best thing right now. You love him very much, (and the most Common line haha) I wanna still be friends. Hang out, talk on the phone still. Tell him hes a great guy, but hes probly just to busy. Also dont worry about breakig his heart, This might sound selfish but just worry about yourself through this. (: Now if you dont like the over the phone idea and want to do it in person. I would say just in a park, at your house, his house, A cofee place, anywheres fine. And just say the same thing you would say over the phone. Well i hope i helped. And good for you for standing up for yourself and doing whats right. !. Thats awesome. You should be proud. And GOODLUCK !> Be strong. I know it might be hard but i know you can do it. Okay if you need ANYTHING! else im here just ask. And hopefully everything works out. Let me know how it goes. (:
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you should do it in person, when its just you two and none of his friends and your friends are with you.
i went through the same thing with a guy last year. tell him the truth and how you feel. tell him that you feel like your the only one giving effort to be together and that actions speak louder then words, and he doesnt show that he loves you.
and then just say, i think its best for the both of us to break-up.
good luck.
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