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How do you have sex? Which hole is the penis supposed to be inserted into? By the way, I'm 13/f and I don't know whether I want to have sex with my boyfriend or not. I really like him, and he won't leave me alone about it. What should I do?
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First of all you are 13 years old you shouldn't be worrying about having sex and if you boyfriend is pressuring you into it then he really doesn't care about you.
Second, if you don't know what sex is, what hole the penis goes in, then I personally don't think that you are ready to have sex. You should have sex when you are ready and you really care about the person. Not because he is pressuring you and you want to get him off of your back.
Third, I think you should do some research on sex before you think about having it. You can go to the library and research it, use the internet, go to your sex education teacher, or even go to your local clinic. No matter where you get the information you really need it before you decide you want to have intercourse.
If you do decide to have sex be sure to use protection, such as condomns.
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You should break up with him.
If you don't know which hole the penis goes in to, the fact you want to have sex makes me somewhat sick.
Think of your period, if you've had one. Are you thinking? Now, the hole your period comes out of, that's called you vagina. When you are older, and understand this concept, you can consider sex. Until then, tell this guy to get lost.
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WOW you should not have sex!!!! first of all. im just saying if you dont know what any of that stuff is then you shouldnt at all.
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First off, there are many different types of sexual activities a person could engage in. In addition, there are different ways to go about each activity. This being said, I cannot tell you specifically "how" to have sex; however, I can answer a few of your other questions.
You have three holes in your lower region. The first (closest to your front) is your urethra and this is where you urinate (pee) from. The second hole is your vaginal canal and this is where babies and menstrual blood exit from. The third is your anus and that is where your solid wastes exit you from.
Here is a decent diagram of how these three holes are laid out on your body:
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As you can see, your vaginal opening is much larger than your urethra and is much higher up than your anal opening. Your vagina will also be a lot more moist in and around it than the other holes because it is constantly cleansing itself.
Sex is a major thing and you should definately be picky about what you do and who you do it with. You should not be in a hurry to lose your virginity. It's a very scary activity (you're naked and vulnerable in MANY ways during sex) and we're all pressured to do it in some way.
Your virginity is special and people should not be devaluing it like they are. Giving your virginity away to your husband on wedding night is an awesome gift that would be cherished and well-received. Be proud that you aren't having sex. Hold your head up high when people talk about you because secretly they are wishing they had waited because you're not missing anything. They have such bad sex lives they degrade the value of it and say it isn't a big deal. It IS a big deal and if they had been emotionally, physically, and mentally ready for it they would know how wonderful it can be to share such things with your husband/wife.
If you have sex and something goes wrong then you will be scarred for the rest of your life. If things get out of hand, pregnancy occurs, you're hurt in some way, or you contract a STD from the activity you cannot take it back. You will have to carry that onto each and every partner you have after then.
As a note, married couples simply do not have the problems that other sexual partners do. Also, giving your virginity to your partner on wedding night shows a huge amount of love--to save yourself for that special day, for that special person. Married couples never fear they're being used or will be left. They're able to open up and tell each other what they desire without fear. They know that if a pregnancy happens that they will get through it together with each other's support. They also aren't fearful of catching an STD from their partner because they know they're their only partner. Both partners tend to be fully satisfied because they're able to communicate well with each other and they're able to feel emotionally secure.
Sexual relations can be extremely risky and even fingers can actually carry herpes (both genital and oral), HPV, and other STDs/STIs. These STDs/STIs can render you infertile and you won't be able to ever have children. If it doesn't do that, it could hide in you and you could end up spreading it to every partner you ever have without knowing it. Even at that, some STDs can deteriorate the brain and be so severe that they cause a long, painful death years later.
It is also very possible for someone to have an STD and not be aware of it while never having any previous sexual partners. If you check around some forums for people with STDs you will notice a surprising number of people who have transmitted their STD to their infant either during delivery, while in the womb, or even during a diaper change. The infant will unknowingly grow up so use to the symptoms of the incurable STD that they will be clueless that it is transmittable.
I also want to take note that condoms so a very poor job in helping to prevent the spread of STD/STIs. Seriously, if you're concerned about your health then you should have yourself and your partner screened for illnesses before engaging in activities. Many, many people contract STDs/STIs from engaging in sex with condoms. Condoms aren't really for preventing the spread of such things--they are only meant to be a barrier from sperm entering the vagina. This being said, it does not cover the entire genital region and, let's face it, STDs usually do.
Here is a link that has some really freaky STD facts:
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Here is a link to photos of STDs you should research so you're aware of what they look like on the body:
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Along with the risk of sexually transmitted disease/infections is the risk of pregnancy. Having a child is a huge responsibility and NO "protection" is 100% effective in preventing pregnancy (or STDs, as a matter of fact). Condoms are actually about 85% effective on preventing pregnancy with typical use while hormonal birth control pills are about 92%. While they sound like large numbers, take into consideration that the condom percentage means that 15 in every 100 condom users will become pregnant and 8 in every 100 pill users will become pregnant.
Having a child (or children in the case of twins) means being completely selfless. You have to support the child financially and emotionally. You have to tend to another human life every minute of yours.
Personally, I know many people who became impregnated the same night they lost their virginity. Some were on birth control even so that alone shows the ineffectiveness of it. Some were prepared for such things and some were completely lost and had to scrap their entire life-plans to raise another being.
Also, if I were you, I'd like to be prepared so that I could give my offspring the best chance at life possible. I wouldn't want to raise a child that wasn't capable of making it in life because I wasn't ready to put down my life for his/hers.
Here is a link about pregnancy costs to know about:
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Even if you think that you can have an abortion if there happens to be a pregnancy, think about the consequences of that action even. Some women suffer major depression for many years after having an abortion. There are cases of women committing suicide years after having an abortion because they couldn't deal with what they had done. Some women become infertile and can no longer have any children. Some really good men refuse to be with a woman who has had an abortion. Throwing a life away because you wanted to have some fun should be an unacceptable option.
In addition because of your young age, even if you have not started menstruating (having your periods) you can still become pregnant. You cannot tell when you will begin having periods which means you won't know when your egg is being released from the ovary. This being said, you can only assume that you are in your most fertile state all of the time since you cannot even consider calculating it. So, yes, you'd definately be at risk for pregnancy. There are many younger people that have gotten pregnant--I recall two 9 year olds in China getting pregnant years ago.
And here is just something simply for you to read and think about. I read it and thought it was pretty neat and gave some good points about when you should lose your virginity:
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Here is also a link on some things about virginity. I think it has some neat points and gives examples to explain what they're talking about:
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In short, it is not wise to give into your boyfriend's pressure. He isn't a good guy if he doesn't care about your needs and wants. You are far too young to be able to handle the responsibilities that sex may throw at you--pregnancy, STDs/STIs, emotional baggage--you are worth a lot more than that!
Before you decide to have sex, you need to educate yourself completely. Please don't go into things blind! You should know all the possibilities so that if something goes wrong you know how to handle it or know more about it. There isn't anything scarier than finding out you have an STD and are pregnant and have no idea how to treat the STD and how to be a good mother.
Honestly, I really believe the guy is not interested in you at all. He only wants sex from you and he will do what he has to do to get it. I know it may hurt a little to realize this but it is absolutely true. If he cared about you, he wouldn't put your in this sort of situation. It sounds like you care about him but he only wants one thing from you. You deserve RESPECT and should not be pressured to engage in harmful activities for his pleasure!
Any GOOD guy wouldn't pressure you at all but would assume that he needed to wait until wedding night anyway. There ARE guys out there that are more than willing to wait until it's the right time (wedding night) so please hold out for that special guy for you.
If the guy leaves and says bad things about you then know that you can hold your head up high for passing another hurdle in life. There is no reason why you should be having sex. It is doubtful that any 13 year old is ready to deal with the consequences of having children and that is what sex was intended for.
If your boyfriend is serious and you decide sex is right then you should really sit down with him and discuss this matter. Look up some photos online together of what STDs have done to people's bodies. Discuss financial responsibility and emotional support you would have to provide if there happens to be a life created from the activity. Think of the POSSIBILITIES and make sure that you're truly ready to handle everything that can come from having sex.
You should not be in a rush to have sex. You have plenty of years ahead of you. If you love your boyfriend and he loves you then sex shouldn't be a priority. Love does not mean you should be having sex and having sex does not mean you love someone. Anyone can have sex. Lots of people have sex with each other every day and don't have the slightest bit of care for their sexual partner.
I wish you luck on figuring out what is best to do for you. I do hope I've informed you of some things you hadn't considered. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me :)
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Well it seems like your boyfriend is only in the relationship with you to get down your pants. He shouldn't be pressuring you into having sex at such an early age. Having sex is something you do when you get older and when you love that person and you are ready to spend the rest of your life with that person. I highly advise you not to do it even though it is your choice. Also, if you do end up doing it, make sure he wears a condom so you cant get pregnant or get a disease. If you don't know how to have sex, then don't do it. I hope this helps! Good luck!
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If you have to ask how to have sex i'd certainly say that you are not ready to have sex. Sex is a big deal. Its something extremely intimate and you shouldn't have sex with someone unless you are really certain you won't too. Also the first time you have sex should be special and just remember you can't redo the first time you have sex.
Also this boy friend of yours should not be putting pressure on you like he is. You really need to stop and think about, if this bf is really in this relationship for you or because he thinks you will sleep with him.
Also 13 is also very young to be having sex. If you do decide to have it (which i don't think you should but this is your choice)you should make sure you use protection. Don't let your bf tell you he doesn't want a condom cause its not like the real thing! Condoms help prevent the risk of getting pregnant, getting HIV/Aids or a STD(Sexually transmitted disease).
Here's the thing when you are ready to have sex you will know it. You won't wonder if you should and you will want to share this experience with the person you are in a relationship with. And you won't have to ask how to do it.
It seems the only reason you would do this is for your bf and because he keeps bugging you about it and that is not a good enough reason. Also you liking someone alot is not reason enough.
If you still want to know which 'hole' the penis is inserted into. Message me and I shall explain. But first think about if you really want to have sex.
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