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I recently wrote on here asking for some ideas on how my boyfriend and I could celebrate our one month anniversary....
However last night things took a turn for the worst, and he broke up with me. Basically, he was really quiet all afternoon so I kept trying to get to him tell me what was wrong. "I don't know, I've just been mellow like this all day." was his answer.
A few weeks ago, he told me that he wasn't sure if the feelings he had for me were just for a friendship or relationship. He said he was starting to just see me as a friend. But the next day he said, "I'm so sorry, I don't know what I was thinking. I changed my mind." So I just went with it, and things seemed to be fine after that. It left me very paranoid about were we stood, but everyday he seemed to prove things were fine. He often apologized again for doing that.
But yesterday I just had this gut feeling with the way he was acting. So we took a walk and I finally got out of him what he had been thinking about all day. Apparently, he was thinking about breaking up. He said that his feelings had gone away and he really liked me as only a friend now, not for a relationship. He admitted he's thought about it ever since that first time he brought it up, and that hurt me a lot because it means he was pretending everything was okay. So I said, "Do you want to break up?" And he was kind of unsure at first but then was like, "Yeah, I think we should." So we gave back each other's things and he tried to explain how he didn't want me to hate him because we always have so much fun together and laugh so he wants to stay close. I said it would be hard, but then agreed because I don't want to see him out of my life either. Plus he is my next door neighbor.
Later that night we were texting and he was still kind of apologizing and explaining it to me, so I said, "How do I know that you aren't going to change your mind tomorrow again?" And he said, "Because I'm sure of this." But then he continued to say maybe things could work out later on after we were friends for awhile. Because after we met, we both immediately had a strong connection/chemistry and started dating a week later. He said at first he was really happy about it, but then he started to feel like we went into a relationship too fast. So I said, "That means in a couple days you might miss me?" And he said, "Maybe." Ughhhh! I hate that. He said "Even I don't know what the future holds."
Do you think there is any chance things will work out again soon? We get along so well. He says that he doesn't feel "anything special" when we kissed, and he was sorry. I don't know if that is important so I just threw it out there. Also, do you know of any good break up songs I could relate to please?!?!
The worst part of all is that he told me "forever, babe" and that he wanted to have kids with me someday. I knew it was going quickly but it made me happy to hear him say those things. He said he meant them at first but then just wanted to make me happy and hesitated ending it cause he didn't want to hurt me. Now I'm hurt even more than if it had ended earlier. Please help, thank you. (link)
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ohhh im sooo sorrry...hes sent you so much mixed signals!sounds like he,himself doesnt know what he wants.i mean on a good day if hes in a good mood he wnats you but when hes not feeling up to it hell break you:(, i dont think right now you should go back to him even if hes said that hes sure.he needs time to really think it through and time apart might make him realise that hes truly made a mmistake and needs you back.he needs to prove to you that hes not just playing around with you. i mean he talked to you about the future and stuff so obviously he really liked you and the day before he was so good with you which makes me think that (please dont get angry please) there could be another girl on the side.he could be confused and doesnt knnow who he wants. again this is only a theory but it just doesant make sense he keeps changing his mind.i think you should just play it cool dont put pressure on him and give him space to think it through so that he can truly see what he wants and not feel guilty because he doesnt want to hurt you..sorry if this was harsh i just thought i might give you all possibilities
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So this might not make much sense, but here it goes. There's always been a blank period in my life. I can remember absolutely nothing no matter how hard I try. For some reason when they would talk about sexual abuse and all that in health, I would always have a feeling I had been abused. I can't explain it any other way than I somehow just knew, but I always pushed it aside & refuse to think about it. That's what I do now actually--when something bad happens, my mind just instinctively blocks it out; it's weird. Anyway, I keep thinking and it's like I'm on the verge of remembering something, but I can't. I just have this very faint memory but I can't put any of it into words. I just really want to figure this out because it would explain SO much. I don't know how I can get the memory to come back though. I'm not really sure what I'm asking, but uh, help? Has anyone else ever gone through this or have any idea what I'm talking about? Hah. (link)
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I had this happen to me...i was 4 when i was molestered and i didnt realise it at all and lived a normal life until the age of about 14 i started to remember little bits and oventually i remembered so much i was able to put the pieces together and was able to remember everything...imagine that 14 yeaqrs nowing nothing.
i mean for me it just came back little by little there was nothing i did to make it come back.
you can go through hypnosis to make you remember your talk to a psycologist but i think hypnosis is the best way to go abouts if you ever want to remember
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Hi there...
Sometimes after I exercise I am feeling dizzy. Is this because I could be dehydrated? Or because I've pushed myself too hard?
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make sure you warm down after your work out. Example if you go for a run then stop and sit down without walking after the run then all the blood flow in your brain will go down to your feet causing you to feel dizzy and could make you faint...make sure you warm down after your exercise k!
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I'm a single 52 year old woman from Houston. I am not included in any family doings. I don't get high or drunk and I'm a pretty nice lady. One of the problems is that my sister has a terrible life and marriage. Her husband is a drug user, herself a border alcoholic. All 3 of her young adult children are a mess. I love them and have tried many times to help them. I love them no matter what. I am a very stable person. I've lived in the same place 20 years, pay my bills on time, you know just a blissfully normal life not counting my diabetic coma and cancer. But I am on the mend. I am never invited to anything, especially when she is involved. She was always jealous of me as a kid. She whined to our mother about all sorts of stuff. She was into bad stuff, I was a nerd. I don't envy anybody. I'm just stable. She has my brothers wrapped around her finger. "Feel sorry for me" is the attitude she gives anybody and actually rolls her eyes behind peoples backs, even her own children, when they talk about their lives or problems. I want to be with the family but because I am easy to deal with, my brothers give into her and know that I will understand, and I do, but I'm tired of being alone on all the holidays, especially when I haven't been too well. If I was well enough I would just go volunteer at a mission at Thanksgiving or Christmas. I'm just tired of being alone especially for the holidays...what should I do, if anything? Thank you. (link)
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ohhhh thats very sad of her!does she not know about your illness?she soudns very selfish im sorry to say.you shouldnt wait to be invited theyr family just invite yourself along and turn up.call them up and just sooo whatr we doing these holidays and say great c u there!just ignore your sister shell never change. this is the time to be around your family so make it happen.also why dont you invite them to you?it might be good to put on the BBQ and invite them along. another thing you could do is go visit your sister and talk to her tell her that your unwell and dont want to have conflict between you two. tell her that you want to be around her and want to do things with her wether she wants to or not. ask her to just try to want to be with you. ofcourse you understand but how long are you going to let them push you around for?its not good for your health either.stand up for yourself once in awhile and tell her to stop.you dont mean any harm all you want is to spend sometime with your family..i hope i helped
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i was with someone for a year and a half and about a month and a half ago he broke up with me. i handled the situation pretty well and i've met someone new who i really like (he was always in a two year relationship and was broken up with).. but i often find myself comparing him to my ex. like, i'll be like "my ex would never do that for me." and i find that the new guy compares me to his recent ex as well..
are we both ready for a new relationship? do you think we're over our ex's? (link)
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if you keep thinking about your ex and compare other guys to him then your not over him. what your doing is treying to find someone just like your ex but the thing is you wont,hes one person.in my opinion i think you shouldnt rush into it until you and your ex are fully over because if not itll never really work out with this guy youll always be thinking about your ex and without knowing youll probibly keep talkign about him too until your new bf gets sick of it. just wait abit you cant just erase a year and ahalf just like that you need time to yourself to think it through.when your ready youll know. the same goes for this new guy too
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my 17th birthday is at the beginning of november, and i haven't had a birthday party since i was 10. i wanna have a really good party since i didn't throw one for my 16th.
i wanna know if anyone has any good ideas about how many to invite, where to throw it, what to do? because right now all i can think of is buying two hotel rooms at the holiday inn or something and inviting a bunch of people that my boyfriend and i know. but i would have NO IDEA what to do. any help? gracias. (link)
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that sounds really good..youd want to invite as much people as you can even if theyr not your close friends because its most likely half of them will show up. you could make it a dress up party like pimps and whorres or cops and robbers orf a character that starts with the letter of your first name since you the birthday girl.mmm what else you could even just make it a normal party with loads of loud music and good food. make sure that you play the music that everyone will like...especially dance music like basshunter or techno..or if you and your friends are into hip hop put some good stuff on that everyone can dance to or loosen up to.just think of your guests and what theyd like.i mean ask your bf what his friends are into and ask your friends what theyr into...make sure you invite those ppl that you know will loosen up and dance and get along with everyone because theyr most likely the ones that will make your party fun...id send out invitations early like a week and a half early so that everyone can make that night free for your party...rent out the hotel rooms thats a really good idea
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you can flirt with them but the sometimes flirt but its inoccent and some girl really like the person but the boy doesnt know so they just flirt back but its inoccent. so how do you get a guys attention so he can like you?? (link)
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well a few things. you can hint it to him. Like if hes at your school you can ask to walk him to class or give him a hug whenever you see him. flirt with him and when appropriate like touch his arm or do some play fighting like if he says soemthing to you like"oh your hairs messy" and hes only joking give him a poke in the stomach that wont hurt him or a little push or a nudge. even eye contact can help like when you see him look and smile, or when you talk to him look into his eyes and if someone interrupts you keep looking at him for a second before turning to greet the other personn..its soemthing to do with chemistry, when you like someone your pupils widen when you see them which sends an energy wave to the other person, soemthing like that..but i hope it works enjoy :)
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I tend to ejuculate within a minute of penetration...how can I avoid that?
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there are clinics that can help you with this. go see your doctor and hell refer you, dont worry many men whom suffer from what your suffering from
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I have been on and off with my husband for almost 9 years, we have been married for one of those 9. We have a child together, our own home, and a happy life for the most part. Recently, my husbands ex, of just a few months, has gotten in contact with me to tell me that he told her everything that he tells me now. That they were engaged and still together when him and I got back together this last time. I asked my husband about this but he swears up and down she is lying just to start problems. She told me he bought her a ring and everything, and that she broke it after she found out he was with me. My husband has been known to lie, but so has this girl. I am not really sure who to believe at this point. I am so hurt and confused. (link)
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i wouldnt believe a stranger over your husband. i meean how bad has your husbands lies been?like would he lie about soemthing like this?go with your first instinct even if your unsure of it because its most likely the right choice to make. girls can be very bitchy and will do anything to get what they want, dont forget that.
On the other hand she said she was engaged to him and broke it off which means theyr not together anymore which means she just wants to make trouble and break up a happy family. to me she sounds as if she wants to get your husband back.maybe he made her angry. how did she find out he was with you?and where did she get your number from? why is she tellign you all this now?just think about it and again go with your first instinct. you know your husband better than any of us do, she sounds like a cow just trying to break up soemthing good, dont let it happen!dont let her get to you and stay strong xox
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14/f
im not thinking bout having sex or anything with my bf but it would be nice if he kissed me properly once in a while...
like the other day he walked me home (which is odd cos he usually does but theres other people with us)and we stopped on the corner just before my house and chatted and all that. i took a few pics of us on my phone and we just messed around but he only ever kisses me when i kiss him first and he never properly kisses me if you know what i mean. it would be nice if he would lol i know he loves me its not like that. you can see it in his eyes when i say bye or watever/
thanks xx
btw he's 15 (link)
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maybe hes shy??or doesnt like to kiss in public as it embarasses him..just ask him about it thats how youll truly find out. i could list many reasons but then thatl just leave you with choosing one that might not even be the reason.let him know how you feel i mean ofcourse itd feel good if he kissed you firts, youd feel wnated i understand so just ask him, go for it
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19/f I joined a gym about 2 weeks ago and this is the schedule I have come up with. What do you think? Is this a good gym routine? I basically just want to loose some fat (nothing major) and just look leaner and more fit, not going for anything major, just kinda trying to stay healthy and fit.
Monday: 45-60minutes of cardio
Tues: Full Body weight lifting, 30 minutes of cardio
Wednesday: Day Off
Thurs: 45-60 min cardio
Fri: Full Body weight lifting, 30 minutes cardio
Then I take the weekends off too, maybe doing an occasional bike ride, tennis session or rock climbing with my boyfriend for "active bonding" hahaha, thanks! (link)
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well i rekon you should mix up the cardio with the weight lifting on the same day..i really dont think youll be able to run for an hour,if so your incredible!but yeah id mix it up so that your burning fat as well as tonning up in one day
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Ok Well Yesterday Night I had A Dream I Was Pregnant! The Dream Seemed SO Real I Was So Scared! When I Woke Up I Realized It Was Only A Dream!! Im A Virgin Im 15. SO Idk Why I WOuld Dream That! Maybe It Could B Me ANd My Cousin Where Talking About Pregnancy THat Morning Or Becasue A Pregant Girl Sits In Front Of Me At School Idk! Does Anyone Know What This dream Could Mean?? (link)
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this usally means New life.Creative. Inventive. Prepared to produce something..but mostly it means that theres someone new that will come into your life
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Okay so Im a virgin
but i love my boyfriend and he rubs me down there and he went down on me for the first time yesterday. Only problem it didnt feel as good as i thought it would or what my friends told me.
I masterbate with an old vibrating tooth brush on my clit only though (dont judge me)...I think i have orgasmas with that but im not sure..but it feels real good.
Could this be a reason why when me and my boyfriend mess around it dosent feel that great or could it be that im not comfortable doing it yet because we are 16 and have to sneak around to do this.?
sorry for grammar and thanks ahead of time:) (link)
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it could just mean that hes not doing it the way you like it...different girls like different things maybe your more of a fingering type of girl
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I saw on a commercial a long time ago that having so many glasses of milk a day can really help you lose weight. I assumed that drinking milk helps you lose weight then.
Well, I just read on another site that if you drink too many glasses of milk a day then you gain weight. Now, I'm really confused. One thing is saying that milk makes you lose weight while another one says milk makes you gain weight.
What is true?
Why? (link)
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my science teacher told me that milk is actually made out of water and fat...so skim milk is water with one percent fat...milk difinitly does make you gain weight if you drink too much of it but its good fro your bones.
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so my hair is reallly long and i'm think about cutting about 5 inches off and getting some layers.. i also want to color it, but i'm not sure to go lighter or darker. any suggestions?
here's a picture of me:
http://tinypic.com/r/2vtuyj9/4
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dont cut 5inches i rekon that would be too much..go for 4inches because layered hair always looks great with long hair...your hair is gorgeous btw.rekon light brown/dark blonde would suit you.
soemthign like this..its close to your hair colour though but i rekon its what youd suit
http://www.latesthaircutstyles.net/wp-content/uploads/2008/07/haircut-color-330x496.jpg
http://movies.popcrunch.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/05/jessica-alba-cash-warren.jpg
http://celebhairstyle.files.wordpress.com/2008/09/hilary-duff-smoky-eye.jpg
One ip is aim to colour your hair the same tint as your eye colour it would suit real well.
I can see you have light coloured freckles so id go for a lighter col,our for you but not a light blonde because your skin is too dark..if your freckles were a darker brown then you could go dark. its up to you at the end of the dday..but i rekon lighter is nicer for you
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is it true that like bread and wraps make your stomach big or like bloat or whatever? i want my stomach to go down for halloween. i'm doing cross country and we do ab workouts but i eat bread like everyday so is that why my stomach isn't going down? what foods should i eat? i need to lose my stomch by halloweeen. thanks. (link)
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yeah your stomach is bloated because of bread. bread has yeast in it that expands in high temperature so when it enters the stomach it will expand and also absorb the liquids in your stomach causing you to bloat
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I lie about everything. This includes stupid little things like what I ate for dinner last night to big things like my serious health problems that I dramatically exaggerate for attention from my friends. I know why I do it- for attention, I look for ways to keep my friends interested with me.
I want to stop, but I'm having a hard time stopping. I always realize that the thing I just said happened to be another lie. How do I stop and just become interesting in an honest manner? (link)
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maybe a way of stopping yourself from lying is reminding yourself how cruel your being to your friends.remind yourself that your not being a true friend if your lying and that its going to get you into trouble. make a deal with yourslef. be more aware of what your saying and think before you speak.if you end up lying correct yourself and say the truth.keep doing thing and soon you will train your mind. i mean think of the consequences, if you get caught lying then no one will ever believe what you say ever again. youll loose your friends trust and respect.this is serious and you need to just train your mind to stop.even wear a rubber band around your wrist and evertime you lie pull it so it hits you.
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I am a freshmen in college and i always have to go the bathroom. Anything i eat seems to come out. What should i do? (link)
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probibly means your metabilisim is working to hard. you can buy pills that will help not make you get the runs all the time.but if you go weees all the time then go see a doctor could mean your diabetic or soemthing wrong with your bladder or maybe you just drink alot of fluids.if you get the runs then go see your health shop and ask them about pills to stop someone from going toilet all the time.
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Okay so my brother has these weird looking mosquito/acne looking red bumps on his legs and they're so tiny but he says they're super itchy and it has my parents and I freaked!!! It's been this way since last Friday and we're super worried! We tried anti itching cremes and everything! He doesn't wanna go to the doctor because she's such a big baby LAME but I did manage to snag a picture of it to show you guys. If you guys know what this is PLEASE tell me and how to get rid of it. It spread on both of his legs and I think it's starting on his right arm also.
http://s844.photobucket.com/albums/ab4/lexiegoesrawr/?action=view¤t=1006092028.jpg
(They're much redder in person but it's the best that I could do"
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP!!!!
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thats difinitly misquito bites...is he allergic to any foods because that might be the cause...has he been rolling around in mud because soemtimes you can get a rash from that.hes not getting the chickenpox is he?well soemthing that i use for when i get rashes is aloe vera gel..go to any health store and buy some aloe vera gel make sure its the good organic kind.once you got it smother his legs with it.it should make him stop itching(we hope) and make the rash go away.Its the best thing iv ever used because i always get rashes on my hands right before the summer season. keep in mind im not a doctor so if this doesnt work please force him to go to one.
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I recently seen a tv show law n order which i love oliva the detective went under cover to a prison and was almost raped.
I was raped three times and just watching that episode brought back my memories does it ever get easier? I just feel helpless and alone since i watched it (link)
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babe it never gets easier until you let it go.right now its controlling you.this image is pulling you back from living your life and having a chance at having a great life.when you watched it it must of triggered memories which your mmind has been trying to block out now that your reminded its hard to get your mind back into the routine of blocking out that image in your head.does that make sense?try talking about it to someone.im a great listner and have come accross issues like this.i can be here for you if you need it.
im sure you understand that you cant turn back the clock to go back in time,you cant bring back what you lost but what you can do is live your life to the fullest protecting that girl inside you that was hurt and traumatised.you are your own protector and now need to live for the future not the past.its easier said than done but you need to believe that now that its happened your going to work your way so that it doesnt happen to you or anyone else.
im really sorry and if you ever want to talk email me
sia.d.sus@hotmail.com
im here for you :)
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