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Help? Anyone had this happen?


Question Posted Sunday October 11 2009, 12:54 am

So this might not make much sense, but here it goes. There's always been a blank period in my life. I can remember absolutely nothing no matter how hard I try. For some reason when they would talk about sexual abuse and all that in health, I would always have a feeling I had been abused. I can't explain it any other way than I somehow just knew, but I always pushed it aside & refuse to think about it. That's what I do now actually--when something bad happens, my mind just instinctively blocks it out; it's weird. Anyway, I keep thinking and it's like I'm on the verge of remembering something, but I can't. I just have this very faint memory but I can't put any of it into words. I just really want to figure this out because it would explain SO much. I don't know how I can get the memory to come back though. I'm not really sure what I'm asking, but uh, help? Has anyone else ever gone through this or have any idea what I'm talking about? Hah.

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sia answered Sunday October 11 2009, 11:47 pm:
I had this happen to me...i was 4 when i was molestered and i didnt realise it at all and lived a normal life until the age of about 14 i started to remember little bits and oventually i remembered so much i was able to put the pieces together and was able to remember everything...imagine that 14 yeaqrs nowing nothing.
i mean for me it just came back little by little there was nothing i did to make it come back.
you can go through hypnosis to make you remember your talk to a psycologist but i think hypnosis is the best way to go abouts if you ever want to remember

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hotpotato answered Sunday October 11 2009, 3:24 pm:
What you are talking about makes sense. Ever watched the movie "The Butterfly Effect"? You brain can black out intensely unpleasant moments of your past, a type of amnesia. You repress the memory. You have to be careful because there's a reason you pushed the memory into the back of your mind in the first place.

From Wikipedia:

"Repressed memory refers to the inability to recall information, usually about stressful or traumatic events in persons' lives, such as a violent attack or rape. The memory is stored in long term memory, but access to it is impaired because of psychological defense mechanisms. Persons retain the capacity to learn new information and there may be some later partial or complete recovery of memory. This contrasts with e.g. anterograde amnesia caused by amnestics such as benzodiazepines or alcohol, where an experience was prevented from being transferred from temporary to permanent memory storage: it will never be recovered, because it was never stored in the first place. Formerly known as "Psychogenic Amnesia"."

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I am not sure how you can retrieve the memory, though. I think you have to talk to a psychiatrist or a psychologist. Maybe another advicenator can help you out with that aspect.. or you can go over to Yahoo! Answers: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)

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