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Q: There's a talent show at my school coming up really soon and I'd like to play piano and sing. :-) Does anyone know any really nice piano songs that I could play piano and sing to? They could be easy to play or hard, it doesn't matter. Maybe some alternative/rock songs that are somewhat lesser know? Any suggestions would be great. Thanksss! :-)
Death Cab For Cutie songs sound pretty on the piano.

Q: alright well my friend brad does peircings. and my friend sara wanted her tongue done. well brad is really good at it and i recommended him to sara. well last night he peirced her tongue but its a little crooked. i feel bad cause i reccommended him. usually its straight. but he kinda did it crooked. is there anyway she can fix it by herself?
No, she can't fix it herself unless she wants to poke another hole in her tongue on her own. Which I definitly don't reccomend! I don't reccomend her getting it re-pierced either. Too much damage to the tongue! No piercings are perfect though. I'm sure it isn't noticably crooked, but if it is she can always take it out, wait for it to heal, and get it re-pierced.

Q: ok. my hands get very sweaty. and its annoying. im very like self consious about it or whatever because i hold my boyfriends hand so before im always drying it on my pants. but its really annoying. how do i stop this?
You have palmer hyperhydrosis. In simpler terms, you've got extremley sweaty palms. You can actually get prescription medication for it, just explain your situation to your doctor!

Q: ok. so last night i took a shower. and i looked inside my bra and there was little hairs. then i look at my breast and theres hair. not alot like verryy small and little. you can barely tell unless your face is like right there. is that normal?
Completley normal. Humans have hair all over their body, it's just more noticable in certain places on certain people.

Q: i was at the dollar store today and i saw this V05 hot oil treatment for dry/damaged hair and i wanted to buy it but i didnt because i didnt know what it would do to my hair.. i should of looked on the box but i didnt lol. what does a hot oil treatment do to your hair? thanks a lot.
It's supposed to make your hair soft, moist, and silky. It makes your hair overly greasy and flat. Don't put anything with the world "oil" in its name on your hair. If you have dry or fried hair, try doing a deep conditioning treatment at a salon professionally.

Q: "What nourishes me destroys me"
or
"What nourishes me also destorys me"
I'v seen 3 people with those tattoo. What does it mean?
Food or drugs/alchohol.

All humans are nourished by food, but food destroys anorexics.
Alchoholics and drug addicts are nourished by the substances they use, but they destroy their body.

Q: im 14/f and i have the symptons of bipolar disorder. i thought only older people could develop this order. is it possible that at my age i have this?
Yes, it's possible for a 14 year old to be bipolar. Most psychological disorders can happen at any age. Talk to your parents about seeing a psychologist, if they don't take you seriously (most parents don't), see your school guidance person (they usually don't know anything about psychology but they can help you contact someone who does).

Q: I was thinking of widening my wardrobe. I thought of wearing lower cut tops. But my question is, if let's say a girl reveals her cleavage, will the guy wanna bang her or something? Will he lose respect for her?Because I definitely won't want guys to think of me that way. So, maybe the guys can answer this?
Low cut tops are perfectly fine, as long as they aren't disgustingly low, you know. No respect will be lost, girls have a right to show off what we have. Or lack of what we have in my case.

Guys are guys, if they see cleavage, they think boobs, and when they think boobs, they think sex. 95% of them won't be gross about it though, you won't be considered a slut or anything like that. You might get noticed a little more, but there's nothing wrong with that.

Q: so i have these two best friends. and it just so happened that their boyfriends and my boyfriend are bestfriends also. well my two friends have lost their virginity to their boyfriends, and i didnt, and me and my boyfriend have been together longer than any of them!!! is this normal? i mean i wanna do it with him, but im scared i get hurt by him, i mean he is really sweet and he loves me but i just dont know..
Of course it's normal. If you don't want to or if you aren't sure if you want to, then don't have sex with him. Losing your virginity is a one time thing, if you aren't ready, you'll regret it later. Alot of peer pressure going on with your friends, but try and keep your head on your shoulders.

Q: Late at night like after 12 I'm like an eating machine. I'm afraid that if i dont stop soon I'll gain 100 pounds and ruin my life.

What can i do to stop my late night binging???

It's making me depressed!!!

:(
Try to go to sleep before midnight. If that isn't possible for you, reach for water before the snacks. Drink a full bottle and then see if you're still craving food. Eat negative calorie foods (fruits, vegetables, things like that). No fun at all, I know. There's nothing wrong with the occasional fattening midnight snack though, we all do it.

Q: i might be prgenate and if iam im not to sure of how to tell my parents .. wat should i do
Don't tell your parents if you don't need to. Right now you aren't positive, so go to the store and buy a pregnancy test. Take the test. If you're not pregnant, be more careful next time and leave it at that. If you do end up being pregnant, you need to tell your parents. If you hide pregnancy from your parents, you won't be able to get the neccessary pre-natal care, and you can damage yourself and the baby.

Also, whether you're pregnant or not, you're still sexually active so you should be seeing a gynocologist.

Q: i heard somewhere that if u brush your hair while its wet it doesnt help prevent split ends. is this true? bcoz im geting my hair cut 2day and after that i need to really take good care of my hair.

thanks a lot
xxxx
Brushing your hair when it's wet can damage the hair. It rips the hair follicles and actually promotes split ends.

Use a wide tooth comb when it's damp to get out any tangles. Use conditioner on only the ends of your hair, and it should stay soft and healthy. Get a trim every few monthes to make sure all split ends are taken care of.

Q: Why would a cat start pooping next to the litter box instead of inside of it. I have two cats, but just the female is doing this.
The litter box might need to be cleaned. Alot of cats refuse to touch it if it's too dirty. Females are usually more picky. If it's clean, the litter box may be too small for both of them, and the female doesn't want to be surrounded by the scent of the other cat's urine. Try cleaning the spot on the floor next to the litter box, if it still smells like her poop, she probably will keep going there.

Q: i dont know if im ready to lost it. but i just wanted to know when do you bleed and how badly does it hurt? like do you bleed after, or while its going on? someone please tell me!!!
The most important advice you'll ever recieve: If you're not sure if you're ready or not, you're not.

You bleed when the penis goes inside of you and breaks your hymen (that's what bleeds). It hurts for a short while. but then you'll feel somewhat numb.

Q: Any ideas on how do I put up my hair so i can decrease my acne from the oils of my hair? It's so hard to keep it up because first of all, It'll put a dent on my hair and my hair will forever have a dent in it and second of all, it's hard to put up your hair when you have serious amounts of acne
I used to have horrible acne too. My dermatologist told me to put my hair up, but I was so self conscious so I never did. By the way, if you don't see a dermatologist, I strongly reccomend it. My skin is almost completley clear now.

Ponytails of course. There are tons of ways to make a ponytail look interesting. Small braids here and there, clips, curls, etc. If you have bangs, clip them up and poof them up a little in front.

Avoid the "messy bun". It's horrible.

Q: can anyone list me some healthy things I can eat for break fast? That's healthy though because this year, I want to eat really healthy stuff to improve my complexion (no i'm not fat, but I have really ugly skin, not just in my face either). So bread with sugar is executed thsi year..Can I eat yogurt for breakfast? My parents said it's a snack so they took it away from me =(
How many times can you eat yogurt a day?
I ate nonfat yogurt every day for breakfast during the summer and I lost alot of weight. There's nothing wrong with eating one yogurt everyday, as long as it isn't a full fat yogurt with alot of sugar. Organic yogurt has no aspartame sweetener, try and buy that.

Healthy breakfast foods:

Whole grain toast (with butter, peanutbutter, jelly, egg salad, etc).
Cereal (a healthy cereal, not a sugary one.)
Fruit and granola
Egg white and vegetable omlette
Scrambled tofu and potatoes (if you're a vegetarian like me)
Leftovers from dinner.

Q: ok, i'll be blunt, i hate my legs. i don't know why, and i'm not sure when it started, somewhere around grade 4 and i am now in grade 10. i have a little extra above my knees and i am self consious because hair grows thicker on my legs. so here is my main question: can you shave your uper legs? is it better to wax? if so how much is it going to caust me? last but not least: how do i get over being self consiouse about my legs?

P.S. i'm a 15 year old female and i weigh 130.
Of course you can shave your upper legs! I thought everyone did. Maybe not. But of course you can. Waxing isn't any better than shaving, they both get the job done but waxing isn't worth the money (or the unneccessary pain).

Q: ok i have over axcess ear wax and do you know of anything that i can use to dissolve it i need all the help i can get i already tried q-tips it only makes it worse please help
Okay so I was in this really cool store and found these things called "ear candles". It's a hollow funnel of cotton with wax hardened outside of it. The pointier part goes into your ear, and you light a candle on the opposite side of it. When you're done, all the wax from your ears is left in the funnel. It doesn't hurt, no worries.

Q: theres this boy and hes been going to my school for like 3 weeks and he is like a thug boy and my best friend really likes him but i do to and he is such a flirt with all of us.i just cant get him out of my mind. he hangs out with us all the time but he has a girlfriend. And just the other day he asked me out when he had a fight with his girlfriend...i said no but deep inside i was thinking yes! so if he asks me out again what should i say? also i dont wanna hurt my homies feelings
If he asked you out and you said no, he probably won't ask you out again. Guys hate being rejected. Sorry.

Q: how am i supposed to get bigger bobs mine jus wont grow and im getting older and nothing is there any natural at home way icould.. mmake my boobs bigger?
Mine won't grow either. Try a super padded, push-up, or gel filled bra. You can get good ones at Victoria's Secret. The ones from target and walmart tend to get too flimsy after a couple of wears. There are no natural ways to get bigger breasts. They'll be bigger if you gain weight, but nobody wants that.

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