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14/f
My best friend's birthday is coming up soon. It's a guy by the way. I love him so much (like a brother) and I'm just not sure what to get him. He doesn't want food. I'm just trying to think of something really cool that he'll love and doesn't exceed 20 dollars. I dunno. Any suggestions? Has anyone ever gotten something a guy loved? I don't want to get him something he'll just say is cool and never use. I want something that he'll be really happy about and actually really like. I can't order online. Nothing like a photo frame or a bracelet or something. Help!
I went to that place in the mall that does engraving and they have a lot of good stuff there. You can get him like a Best Friend thingamajig with your names on it where he keeps one half and you keep the other. Guys are way mushier than we give them credit for, so don't be scared to get him something loving and corny. Another good gift is a magazine subscription. Maxim is a really good guys magazine that only costs like ten bucks for the year. You will find yourself reading it.
Theres this guy that likes me that i like back
but the thing is when he asks me a question i dont want to answer, he thinks i dont like him or im mad at him.
Like he wants to spend more time with me and wants to go to my house
but I cant tell him where I live because my mom doesnt let me out of the house at all and Idk they dont allow me around guys, but I dont want to lose him! He just doesnt understand......
I think the problem is like you said, "when he asks me a question I don't want to answer." Maybe you have to answer it even if you don't want to. If you tell him that your parents are really strict, and they wouldn't let you invite him over, he will better understand. Also, maybe you should approach your parents about the subject again. You should consider yourself lucky that he wants to go to your house because a lot of guys could care less about things like meeting your family. If you really like this guy the best bet is to be honest with him.
okay, so I am a 17 year old girl and a virgin. I've been in two relationships, only one of which I made out with the guy. Whenever we talked about sex he said that the fact that I was a virgin attracted him. I don't understand why he would say that. Do guys really think being with a virgin is attractive, it seems to me like it would be worse because, well... we have no experience.
A good guy is going to feel honored if he is with a virgin. A jerk is going to think, "hey, I popped her cherry." You sound like you are smart enough to figure out who is who. One of the big reasons that your boyfriend told you that your being a virgin made him more attracted to you is because it shows that you have respect for yourself. You weren't taken in by all of those guys who wer trying to get in your pants, or all of the girls who were telling you it was so great. Virginity is a huge turn on.
I love my boyfriend to death, but there's just a few problems... He's completely disrespecful. He takes me out to eat and doesn't even say thank you to the waiter for bringing us our food and drinks. And it's not just that. He works at the local grocery store and my parents went in there to get something and they asked him to help them look for something. He was just like "Duh it's right behind you." He may have been trying to be funny but it's not and it offended my parents very much. I don't want to dump him because I've never had feelings like this for any guy I've ever dated. I've spoken about it with him a million times. I don't know what else to do. I feel like that's my only option. Please Help me!
You have to understand that part of it isn't his fault. If he wasn't raised with good manners, he has no idea how to have them. I honestly think he was probably trying to be funny with your parents but it backfired. Another symptom of not being raised right. First thing I would do is talk to my parents about it. Tell them that you really love your boyfriend, but you can tell he wasn't raised with good manners. They may actually take it as a sign that they can help him with it. Parents are surprisingly great when you go to them for help becuase they love helping their kids more than anything. Then, you have to make it a point to teach him. Tell him that you are not asking him to change as a person, but he should at least show a little etiquette. Even go so far as to say that one day you want to have children and when you do it is going to be with a man who is going to think good manners are important. It sounds like he is really uncomfortable how to act around people so he turns to humor instead. Let him know that if he can't even bother to attempt to work on something that is so important to you, you are going to have to consider moving on.
i've never touched myself and im grossed out by the vagina and i don't really know how to masturbate so i don't wanna mess anything up down there by trying....i kinda want my boyfriend to finger me but i don't know if it will hurt or anything...ive tried clitoris stimulation when i was dry humping my boyfriend i guess it stimulated it? is that normal? and my other question is, is being grossed out by my own vagina normal?
16/f
I think most girls are grossed out by their own vagina when they are younger because there is so much going on down there. It is always leaking out gross white stuff, and let's face it, it can have a funny smell. The good part is, as you get older the white stuff slows down and the smell evens out. Number one thing you should do is get to know your own vagina. Take a mirror and really check it out. I'm serious. The vagina is really actually a miraculous thing, and guys can't get enough of it. One thing about the clitoris. If you kind of pull it apart a little bit you will notice that there is a teeny bit of white stuff that seems to build up there. This can smell pretty funky. Make it a point to clean it when you are in the shower.
You will not mess anything up while masturbating, although if you constantly give yourself an orgasm through clitoral stimulation it could be hard to climax any other way.
Fingering usually feels pretty good, and it doesn't usually hurt unless the guy has long fingernails. Most of the time it is going to take clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, and many girls never have one through penatration until well into their 20's if at all. Just remember that everything is normal. If you happen to like things one way, it's normal. If you can't get into things another, it's normal. As long as you feel comfortble with what is going on, everything will be a learning experience. I sometimes wonder if girls being grossed out when they are younger by their own vagina isn't just natures way of making sure the species procreates. If we weren't grossed out by our own vagina when we were beginning our sexual experience we would probably get with other girls because that is who we usually hang around with.
well to start out my mom is an alcoholic...she benge drinks..meaning she'll go on a month spurt of where all she does is lay in bed and drink. this has hasppened for my whole life..i can't remember a time when it wasnt going on. She is also bipolar..drinking is a symptom of this disease but they diagnosed her seperatly. well my whole also she has kind of isolated me from the world..wanting me to spend all my time with her. I didnt all the time but she made me spend mosto f my childhood with her. i am now 16. she still does this. we have been fighting so hard and i cant even tell her when i have a bf. no matter anyway if i did because she wouldnt let me see him. I have no life partly because of her. We have sat down and had numerous talks and deicusions but ir always goes back to normal. i told her that whe needs to get friends but all she says is that i am her everything and thats how she wants it. I DONT want to be all she has for many reasons. 1. im going to leave and move FAR away...so where is that ging to leave her? and 2.i need a life. I stay in my room most of the time because all she does is yell and scream and call me names...yet she wants me to spend time with her nearly 24/7. I awm so low all the time because of everytning she says to me. I ahve told her awnd talked to her about that 2. she apologizes and its ok for a few days and then it goes right back to it. She takes away all my things whenever i dont do something she asks...or even if i bring home nething lower than a b+ (yes that means ANYTHING lower) im not exagerating one bit. this is what i live with everyday and im so tired of it. i want a normal life. my point is Talking does nothing we have sat down and tried...its like it goes in one ear and out the other with her. i need a way out but i dont know what to do
You probably already know this, but alanon is a group for people who have addicts in their lives. I have never been, but it can be helpful. Also, you have got to get some scheduled activities. Find something to do after school like a sport or whatever. This will get you out of the house and give you something else to concentrate on. Don't take your mother's drinking personally. All of the love in the world can't change a thing unless she wants to, and quitting something you're addicted to is really really hard. You should stop expecting things to change because whenever she apologizes and goes through a good spell you are getting your hopes up only to get hurt again. You don't need that roller coaster. The next time she apologizes for her bad behavior tell her that if she was truly sorry she wouldn't keep doing it. Tell her that you love her, but if she doesn't get treatment you plan on moving far far away. You might even want to look into some sort of a treatment program for her. I don't know if you maybe have family or someone you could stay with for a month, but you might have to put your foot down and tell her that if she doesn't go to get treatment you are outta there. I know that you feel as if you have to be there to take care of her, but you really don't. She is going to have to go through the pain herself, she doesn't need to drag you with her. She is probably on some sort of medication for her bipolar illness, which works really badly or not at all when mixed with alcohol, so it is almost as if she's not on any medication at all. You might have to practice some tough love. In your mind, imagine what you would be doing if it was your child who was in your mother's situation. Maybe you have to be the "parent" for a moment and make your mother consider a program. They say that addiction is a disease, and that people aren't responsable for their actions, but don't fall for that crap. Your mom needs to know that you have high expectations for her, and one day you are going to have children who are not going to be able to be a part of her life if she keeps this up. Keep reminding her that you love her, but don't allow yourself to be dragged down and hurt. She relies on you to bring her the joy in her life, except you can't be the be all and end all of her world. It is too much to ask of anyone. Don't allow her to make you feel guilty by crying or getting the "poor me's" when you talk to her. Be firm, and when she comes up with some sob story give her one of yours right back. Be firm, and if all else fails move on. Tell her that you respect her because she is your mom, but if she doesn't at least try to make a change you are going to have to back off from her. Don't forget about finding productive things to do with your time.
ok so tomorrow im going to the movies with this kid. i was going to have my mom drop me off, but the kid is taking the bus so he is going to get dropped off at the bus stop about ten minutes away. so im going to drive so i can go pick him up at the bus stop. but now, apparently the bus can drop him off at the theater. but he told me to "still take my car." so i know he is going to try to 'get with me' in the car. i dont know how i feel about this. i dont really want to do it. but hes deffintily going to try. i dont know how to say no or stop him. i could just say no, but he's very persuasive and he might try to convince me that i want to. but i know that i will regret it afterwards. please tell me how to get out of this situation. i do want to go out with him, i just dont want things to move too fast.
well, there is the easy way, which is not taking the car, but you're going to have to deal with it sooner or later. I think you are really confused because you fluctuate between not wanting to do it and not knowing if you want to. This definately means that you shouldn't, period. The best way to deal with it is to tell him how you feel. Say that you like him and you want to go out with him, but your not the kind of person who can move that fast. He may hem and haw and try to convince you and complain and all of that, but in the end if you stick to your guns he will actually respect you all the more, even though he would never tell you that. Also, if you decide to kiss him during the movies, or something, you should definately let him know that it isn't going any further then so he doesn't get all wound up. I hope that things go OK. In the best of all possible circumstances you can let him know where it stands before the movie so that way you can sit back and enjoy rather than worry about it the whole time.
i am a pear shape and no matter how hard i try, my legs are still unproportionally bigger than my top half. i am still a size zero (sometimes 2) in most jeans but i am really skinny on my top half, like i'm skinnier (from the hips up) than my 12 year old sister and i'm 17. i am 5'6" and weigh 110 pounds. is this an unnattractive shape?
and.. are there any good exercises to make my legs thinner? (i already run, do rowing, and tone them with weight machines at the gym)
I hate to say it, but all of the excersizes that you're doing are making your legs more muscular. This obviously doesn't mean you should stop them, just be aware.
As far as being attractive, it truly is all about how you feel about yourself. If you think you're a sexy bitch, you will be a sexy bitch. Grownups always say it, but it's really true. Anyway, if you are a size 2 in jeans there is no way that your bottom is that much bigger, and everything you see in the mirror is put under your critique because it is your body. If you saw another person with your exact same body you would most likely think they look good.
15/f
A couple months ago, I was at a party, this guy in my year (a popular, gorgeous, complete manwhore, let's call him C) would ask me a question or smile or say hi or stare whenever he saw me.
So, a few weeks back, my best guy mate, M, who's very good friends with C, mentioned things that C had said about me, for example C had mentioned things he'd read on my bebo profile. A couple days later, M told me that C had said he thought I was really hot and wanted to get with me at a party we were all going to that weekend.
I'd always kind of liked C, I mean, not properly, but the kind where you want to catch their attention. I wasn't taking it too seriously, but I thought I could have a bit of fun with him. That night, he added me on msn and talked to me a lot. At school, the day before the party, I noticed him staring at me. As I was walking into my class, I looked up and he was standing there and he just looked at me, smiled, and said hey, I quickly said hey and then went into my class. He looked a bit confused, as if he thought I should have stayed and talked to him, but then he left. Later that day, as I was walking past him in our english class, he smiled and said hey again, I done the same as before. That lesson he talked to me quite a bit, and was watching me a lot. Then he spoke to me on msn a lot that night, flirting a bit.
At the party, we did end up getting with each other throughout the night, although obviously we were both drunk. All his friends kept coming up to me and saying that C wanted to get with me. Me and my friend texted him on M's phone that night, and he replied telling me I was beautiful (bare in mind that he was still drunk to a certain extent). The next day his friends said that C had spent the night saying he loved me (obviously he doesn't actually love me, but you get the idea..).
Throughout the next week, we talked on msn a lot and he'd try to help me out with coursework and he did seem to care. He also would say things like, "I love your...", not anything sexual, just things about my personality. I didn't take it too seriously, because let's face it, he's a notorious manwhore.
But then he went on holiday over christmas so I hadn't spoken to him much, and when he got back he started talking to me on msn again. That was about a week ago, I havn't spoken to him since then. A few days ago M (and C's other friend J) were saying that C had told them he actually likes me, and it wasn't just a one night thing. They seemed pretty serious when they were saying it, although they continued to make jokes about me and C throughout the day. M kept suddenly going serious, warning me and saying, 'Don't do it okay, please, don't do it. You're too good for him, you just shouldn't. You know what he's like, he might try and rape you." Ever since then I've started to like C a whole lot more.
Then just now I asked M what C actually said about me, and he said that him and J were just joking and that C doesn't actually like me. This has really confused me because they seemed pretty serious about it before. Most girls just fall for C and won't leave him alone after they just makeout with him on one night or whatever. I know that drives him away, because, like a typical manwhore, he can get whoever he wants.
So, he'll definitely be drawn to someone who's more of a challenge.
What I want to ask is,
Does it sound like C fancies me?
Do you think that M was just saying C doesn't like me to stop me from getting involved with C? Or were him and J just joking?
How do I get C to like me by playing hard to get, but not so hard that he just goes off me? It's hard to get the right balance, because we hang out with completely different groups of people (apart from M and J) and I don't see him that often. Also I'm quite shy.
Thanks, x
I think that you're doing a pretty good job of getting him to like you. You're not playing too hard to get, but you're not jumping all over him, either. You saw the reaction you got from him when he said, "hey," and you didn't stop to drool over him. It made him pay you all the more attention. To him it is all about the chase if he's a manwhore, and I'll say you have him exactly where you want him. It sounds like he totally likes you, but I have a feeling that once he gets you he might not be as into you as he would be if you played the game for a little while. Believe me, he will not get off you because he will not be able to stop flirting with you. One more thing, when you're talking to him, don't bring up his reputation. Don't act like you are worried that he is going to hurt you, etc. You want him to think that you're not worried about other girls because once he gets with you he's not going to want anyone else. If I were you I might never even get with him because plenty of girls have been down that road and now they are all walking around with broken hearts. Don't pay any attention to what M and J say, and don't ask them anymore questions about c. You know that c is asking them what you are saying, so if you do talk about him keep it light. C definately fancies you, and the fact that you're shy has heightened his feelings because he's taking it like you're not as into him as all of the other girls.
ok so this is gonna be a long question, so anyone willing to read this long, thanks.
so last night i was trying to go to sleep around midnight, but i was having the worst cramps, you know. the kind that make you writhe where you lay, near tears? yeah. so i went and took some ibruprofen, and then about an hour later a i dozed off.
but after i fell asleep, i had the strangest dream ever. and usually in my dreams, i cant really control what i do. usually, its like im watching myself on TV just do all this stupid stuff. but last night in my dream, i could control everything i do. and the whole thing was really vivid. everything except for the first part, anyways. heres my dream:
i was in my bed. and i couldnt sleep, so i went to my parents room. (my parents' king sized bed is made of two twin beds, since they need different back support.) my mom was on my dad's bed, and my dad was MIA. so i got onto my mom's bed. (at this part, everything gets a little blurry, but i do remember that my dad raped me or did something sexual with me in my dream) and then after that, i go a band practice. (even though im not in band) and i was trying to play the oboe (even though ive never even touched an oboe.) and everyone had to learn 3 notes from a random instrument, and play them in a talent show. and at some point in my dream, i had told one of my friends about my dad raping me or whatever. and i told her not to tell anyone. she said she wouldnt. but when the talent show came up, her talent was telling EVERYONE about what my dad did, and about 3 other secrets of mine. i tried to wave to her from the audience and tell her to stop. she ignored me. i skipped the talent show to look for her. and this little 3 year old was following me around, and apparently she was my daughter (even though i dont have a daughter) and i found my friend and we got into a huge fistfight. her best friend, krista, was standing there watching the whole thing.
thats all i can remember of it. but it really freaked me out, and i dont know why. does someone know what might be wrong? or does someone study psychology and might be able to tell me something about it? thanks so much! :)
I can't be sure about this, because things in dreams can mean anything, but I'm going to take a stab at it.
1. Your father raping you is probably code for some kind of pressure he may be putting on you about something else. Maybe he is telling you that you have to do something you really don't want to do, or it could even be that you think he will have a bad reaction to something you are planning to do.
2. The oboe/instument probably represents some sort of other object that you feel the same way about. If it felt comfortable in your hands, it is probably something you are used to doing already, and if it didn't, it is probably something new that you are going to try. The important part of it is the teacher trying to get you to try something new.
3. It is common to be on stage in a dream (just be greatful you weren't naked). This usually means that you feel as if people are gossiping about you, or you are somehow the center of attention in some other way.
4. The friend blabbing your personal business is just what it is. Maybe deep down inside you have always been a little concerned that a good friend will do that, or maybe it is a sign that you need to hold your cards close to your chest for a little while or else someone will do that to you.
5. The daughter probably represents a person that you feel responsable for.
6. The taking off to Minn. and all of the roblems you encountered on the way are probably just normal fears about your future.
You know how sometimes you have a dream but you don't really remember it, but then throughout the day things will happen and for some reason it will remind you of your dream. Pay attention to that if it happens today and see where it takes you.
Ok here it goes...I have a boyfriend but I'm not supposed to have one but I really like him and it feels like love....he says it too...it's been about 3 months since we were girlfriend and boyfriend. He says that i'm the one for him and he says it so serious. I want to be with him for the rest of my life too. There's only one problem right now,,,actually there is several.
We barely see eachother and we don't go to the same school either because he's homeschooled. Anyways he is also 16 and i am just 13 and I need to know a way to tell my parents about this because eventually they're going to find out. My boyfriend and I want to tell them, but we're also scared of what my parents would say because i'm not allowed to date and because he's 3 years older than me. The main thing is I need to know how to tell my parents about this.
The first thing I would do is feel out what your parents are going to say or do if you tell them. Broach the subject about you having a hypothetical boyfriend. If they fly off the handle, you know that they will forbid the whole thing. Another tactic is to tell your parents that most girls your age that aren't allowed to have a boyfriend, do anyways and just lie about it. Or you can tell them you are thinking about having a boyfriend and you don't feel like you can be honest with them about it because they aren't willing to compromise. I can tell you right now that they aren't going to be down with the fact that he is 16, and this whole thing could backfire and you could find yourself without any freedom. Also, you are going to have to consider what will happen if they find out on their own. Then you have given them an excuse to take away your freedom. You are in a really tricky situation, and at least if you bring up the subject, if and when you do get caught you can tell them that you tried to tell them but they wouldn't listen. If you plan on telling them the best thing to do is think about any and all good qualities about your boyfriend. Does he get good grades, etc. Try to make him out to be a really great guy
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so i've like this guy for awhile now. he is really active, he plays three sports. well anyways he is always sore and he asks me sometimes to give him a massage and i dont mind at all ;) its a good reason for me to get somewhat closer to him i guess you could say. i always make him lay on the floor because for me its easier. but i never feel like im doing a good job, and i hate feeling like that! its usually always his lower back that hurts. i try and like rub it, it's hard to explain and i'll always be like "right here?" "is this even doing anything?" and he always says yeah but i dont know if its just because its me doing it and its somewhat good, or if he is just saying that. i am a pretty weak girl, my hands get tired easily which also makes me feel bad. i know its hard to try and explain how to give a good massage but can anyone give me any hints, experiences? i dont use oil or anything because well usually its like at a friends house when were all doing something and he'll ask me. is there ANYTHING that would make it feel better, maybe even turn him on a little bit? sometimes i'll like strattle him while doing it, because it's easier to do it at that angle but i dont know. anything will help :)
As you are giving the massage imagine how it feels. In your mind "feel" the massage and do to him what you think would feel best to you. If his lower back is bothering him, don't forget about his bum. Butt cheeks are a muscle, and feel great when being massaged. Ggenerally, men like the pressure to be more than what a woman would feel comfortable with, so push down a little harder than you would like if it were you. Also, don't ask, "does this feel good," or "right here," because that will take a person totally out of their groove. Consider the environment just as much as the actual massage. Candles, soothing music, etc. Use an oil or a lotion. Neutragina (excuse the spelling) has a really great sesame seed oil that isn't too girly and is really good for the skin.
My boyfriend and I (20 and 21) are in a bit of a rut. We haven't gone out on a real date in months. We are completely broke--he recently closed his savings account to help me pay for rent, and he is also applying for law school right now. I pointed this out to him and asked him to take me out on a fun, romantic date tomorrow, and he agreed to try and think of something. I need to do the same in return, so I was wondering if any of you guys had ideas! Thanks so much!
~TD
Well, if you live where it is cold it can put a real damper on "free dates," but there are usually events and stuff listen in the local paper. Head to a motel pool and pretend you have a room. You can swim and sit in the jacuzzi and sauna. Another thing that the two of you can do is donate some time to charity, like work in a soup kitchen, or something. I know it's not exactly romantic, but it will make the two of you closer and appreciate what you do have. You would be surprised at some of the deals offered by museums, etc. during off hours. Many towns have a chamber of commerce or information center that will list free events.
I'm a single mother of two kids, working full-time and going to college part-time. Through the years since I've been divorced, my little brother moved in with me to help me out. My parents bought a house and rent it to us. We split the rent and all bills evenly.
In September of this year, my brother lost his job. Since the economy is so bad, he's had a really hard time finding work, and takes whatever job he can to make extra cash, but can't seem to find a full-time job. So, for the past 4 months, I've been paying all of his bills, except for rent. He's racked up about $800 that he owes me. And I'll probably never see a dime of that.
He helps out sometimes, by watching my kids for me while I run to the store. And just the other day he fixed a water leak in our house. But for the most part, he sleeps, eats my food, watches cable tv that I pay for and plays video games. He was promised a job by my boss, but construction is slow right now and they don't need him. So instead of seeking other employment, he stays at home waiting for work. He's getting unemployment money, but I haven't seen any of it. Instead, I see him buying beer and cigarettes.
When I talk to my parents about him, they seem to think that I should just deal with it. But this is driving me absolutely CRAZY! I couldn't get my kids much for Christmas. I can't even buy myself a new pair of shoes because my kids need some and I can't even afford that.
I was told by my parents that if I kick him out, they will make me pay the entire amount of rent, which I can't afford. I'm so confused about what to do. Should I just deal with this?
If your parents are expecting you to deal with your brother, why don't they? They should put their money where their mouths are and give a little on the rent. It is easy for them to act like your somehow wrong or greedy while they are demanding the entire rent from you. Ask them why they are expecting you to handout when they aren't willing to, themselves. If they aren't willing to go down on the rent try to work something out with your brother. Maybe he should be babysitting for you on some sort of a set schedule so you don't feel so bogus about him taking advantage. Also, the economy really is in a bad state and it is difficult to get a job. He is probably thinking that he will use the unemployment until it runs out because if he got a job at McDonald's he would be getting less than if he did nothing. Either way, it doesn't matter how small the unemployment check is, he should be able to give you some set amount of money every week, even if it's only $50. Have him go grocery shopping once so he can appreciate that all of the food going into his belly didn't come for free.
okay its the most annoying thing in the world when you really wanna have sex and during 4play the guy comes....ugh wtf...then you gotta wait till he gets hard again until you can actually get to it...how can we have 4play long enough to enjoy the process
working up to sex and not have hi come because hes to exited? because its seriously irritating!!
Whatever you're doing, do it REAL SLOW. It will keep him from busting a nut, but it will also heighten the feelings. It will send him over the edge, but the only problem is that he might get off really quickly once you start having sex, which is even more annoying than before. If you and the guy have a decent relationship you should let him know that just because he's finished doesn't mean you are, and he needs to take care of things by any means necessary. Not for nothing, but if the guy gets off he will be able to last much longer once he's up and running again. Also, a guy usually can't come if you are tugging gently on his balls. Do it easily, of course, but kind of hold his balls in your hands and kind of block them off.
hey thanks for reading :)
ive been meeting up with this lad for over 5mouths now and i realy like him , im actualyy in love with him because we met up like 4 times a week , but the only problem is a part of me thinks hes just using me for sex but if he was using me wouldnt he of moved on by now? we always fall out i dont no why its mosty me because i need him and i cant see why he wont get with me we act like a couple well i think we do, he never tells actually told me if he likes me or not not even to his or my mates he just sayin he hates realatships , like i said its 5mouths and i want to move on coz i dont think he will ever get with me but a apart of me thinks he will he just need time to think i mean we txt eachother everyday , i dont weather to say its over with the meeting because i cant handle it and that because we int getting anywere or leave him for a days, weeks or months , to see if he do care eught to get in touch with me or leave him a message sayin you have a week to make your mind up but thats childish , another thing is he never kissed me lol we have done everything not once has a got a kiss :S i tryed to kiss him but he just says he done like kissing, if anyone understands what im tryin to tell you can u please help me ....
The biggest mistake most girls make is to ignore that inner voice. You know how he feels about you, but you just might not want to accept it. You have to look at the relationship as it stands now and decide if it is enough for you. If you can accept that the two of you have good sex and not much more, continue on. If you have decided that you want more from him you will never get it if you allow things to continue like they are. I think the whole, "you have a week" thing is a little childish, besides it will backfire. There are some things you have going for you, though. First, he is so used to having you whenever and however he wants, that he really doesn't even pay attention anymore. If you were to suddenly back off a little, he might be suprised at how much he really does like you, but he just never realized because it all came so easily. I get the feeling that you are in love with this guy and hoping that he will come around, but chances are that he won't all of a sudden decide he wants to make a commitment to you unless you change the mechanics of the relationship. Second, in order for anything to change you are going to have to accept the risk of losing entirely. You may back off and he may just let you go. That will hurt, but if that is what he does, he never really cared all that much in the first place. You need to decide if you would rather be his sex partner with no real relationship than nothing at all. Don't say that you are going to back off and then not do so, because you will ruin all credibility. If you want to have a healthy relationship you are going to have to demand more for yourself or just enjoy the sex. You think you need him, but you probably spend more time hurting than you do smiling when it comes to him. Guys always want what they can't have, so the less you make yourself available to him, the more he's gonna want you. Deep down inside you know what is going on, and you know what you have to do, you are just scared to do so. There is option #3. You can back off from asking him to be with you. Turn it around on him and use him for the sex.
ok I undrstand he has a lot of friends that are girls. I have a lot of guys as friends. but when we walk down the halls he's saying hi and stuff to every girl!! I don't walk and say stuff to all my guy friends. I stay just to him. my question. what does this mean?? how do I stop it or something? and im 16 he's 17
One good thing is that he does the same thing whether he's with you, or not. Would you rather have everyone saying, "Wow, whenever he's with her he's so stuck up/miserable." What would they think if he only said "hi" when you weren't around? They would start calling you a control freak or something. I don't think you should try to stop him from saying hi, but you could get him to compromise, like if you're in the middle of a conversation, he shouldn't be interrupting what you're saying to talk to someone else. Honestly, it sounds like you have got a great guy, who isn't afraid to be at your side. It is good that he feels comfortable with you, and just think of how jealous all of those girls are. you're the one with him, and all they can do is just say "hi."
okay so i was using a nut cracker to crack some nuts and you know how you have to put your hand over it so the shell wont fly everywhere? well i put my hand over it and it pinched my hand it hurt and it started to bleed to it didnt break my skin it kinda just bleed under my skin. Well this happened like 4 days ago and well now it's a dried up blood dark red color spot on my hand. So now im wondering is this thing going to go away? because i dont want it to stay on my hand it's gross looking. i mean it's under the kin so i cant pick at it.But yeah so im just wondering if it will go away soon? like will itabsorb back into my body? lol
thanks in advance!
There are two different kinds of this. One is a blister, which can pop, but the other is just like a spot of dried blood stuck under your skin. The kind with the dried blood stuck under your skin can stick around for a really long time, even months. the only way you will be able to get rid of it is to dig the thing out. It shouldn't be causing you any pain, but if you can't stand the sight of it, you can have your Mom (or adult) dig it out. It probably isn't very deep, which is why you can see it so clearly. Soak it in water to soften the skin first.
whats a death march? [in the times of the holocaust]
The death march are (like the other person said) when the Germans would make the Jews/gypsies/disabled/anyone they said wasn't worthy march miles and miles to the concentration camp. Many died along the road. Death marches have been happening throughout time. We, Americans are responsable for putting Native Americans through a particularly grisly one.
Basically, this is the story. Hitler wanted to be the ruler of the world, except Germany wasn't a very rich country. The Jews, however, had a lot of money. Hitler decided to bash the Jews and convince the rest of the Germans that the Jews were bad. Once Hitler got all of the people to back him, he began making laws that the Jews couldn't have property. This meant that all of their property went to the German government. Hitler used this money to fight his war to become world leader. The Jews were all gathered up and forced into concentration camps. In the concentration camps, they were experimented on. It is very sad and disgusting, but they would experiment on twins, like hurting one to see what effect it had on the other. They would make Jews stand outside in the freezing cold without clothes to see what happens when a person goes through hypothermia. These poor people were abused and treated so badly. Many of them, when they were too weak to work, or just because, would be sent to gas chambers, where they would all be locked into a big room and poisoned together. Once they were dead, the Germans would even take their gold teeth and use their skin to make lamp shades. This whole atrocity went on and on until America finally got into the action and put a stop to things. When the war was over the American troops went to the concentration camps to let the Jews go, and they were horrified by what they found. There were dead people piled up in big holes, there were people who were starving to death. Sometimes, when you happen to come across an image of this, it can haunt you for a long time. There was a movie in the 70's or 80's called "Holocaust" that explains a lot of what happened, but if you are young I suggest you watch it with an adult who can explain things to you if it comes to a part you don't get. I think it is really important for you to know about history, especially something like this because it really wasn't all that long ago, and if you know what happened it is one step more to making sure something like that never happens again.
Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been having trouble lately. We broke it off for a bit because we thought it would be best. But now we're talking again. You see, he wasn't the best boyfriend in the world. I mean, he's a great guy...he's loyal and truthful and he really does love me (and I also love him)...but he never did that stuff boyfriends do, all the little things. All the sweet little gestures that let you know he cares. Is that asking for too much? He told me he's gonna try to do some of that, but he can't change his whole personality. Should I stay with him and see if it works?
A lot of little romantic things that guys do when you first meet them dissappear over time. If he used to do those little things, but has since stopped, you know that it isn't because he doesn't know how. If he never did them before, maybe he has no idea what your looking for. A lot of times, if you guys have an on again off again relationship, the guy might feel like a sucker if he's being romantic. The thing that sucks is that you can never really get the satisfaction if you tell him what it is you want him to do, because part of the specialness of those little things is they are unexpected and sweet. use positive reinforcement. If he does something sweet, be sweet and happy right back so he will think, "Hey, when I do this kind of stuff she is really happy." One of the best ways to get a guy to do sweet things for you is doing sweet things for him.
Another thing, if you are questioning the relationship maybe you are doing so because it's not really what you want and you are looking for an excuse to get out of it. Think about why you are with him. If the number one answer is "because I am used to him. Or because I don't want him to be with anyone else" it is time to rethink things.