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ive been meeting up with this lad for over 5mouths now and i realy like him , im actualyy in love with him because we met up like 4 times a week , but the only problem is a part of me thinks hes just using me for sex but if he was using me wouldnt he of moved on by now? we always fall out i dont no why its mosty me because i need him and i cant see why he wont get with me we act like a couple well i think we do, he never tells actually told me if he likes me or not not even to his or my mates he just sayin he hates realatships , like i said its 5mouths and i want to move on coz i dont think he will ever get with me but a apart of me thinks he will he just need time to think i mean we txt eachother everyday , i dont weather to say its over with the meeting because i cant handle it and that because we int getting anywere or leave him for a days, weeks or months , to see if he do care eught to get in touch with me or leave him a message sayin you have a week to make your mind up but thats childish , another thing is he never kissed me lol we have done everything not once has a got a kiss :S i tryed to kiss him but he just says he done like kissing, if anyone understands what im tryin to tell you can u please help me ....
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The biggest mistake most girls make is to ignore that inner voice. You know how he feels about you, but you just might not want to accept it. You have to look at the relationship as it stands now and decide if it is enough for you. If you can accept that the two of you have good sex and not much more, continue on. If you have decided that you want more from him you will never get it if you allow things to continue like they are. I think the whole, "you have a week" thing is a little childish, besides it will backfire. There are some things you have going for you, though. First, he is so used to having you whenever and however he wants, that he really doesn't even pay attention anymore. If you were to suddenly back off a little, he might be suprised at how much he really does like you, but he just never realized because it all came so easily. I get the feeling that you are in love with this guy and hoping that he will come around, but chances are that he won't all of a sudden decide he wants to make a commitment to you unless you change the mechanics of the relationship. Second, in order for anything to change you are going to have to accept the risk of losing entirely. You may back off and he may just let you go. That will hurt, but if that is what he does, he never really cared all that much in the first place. You need to decide if you would rather be his sex partner with no real relationship than nothing at all. Don't say that you are going to back off and then not do so, because you will ruin all credibility. If you want to have a healthy relationship you are going to have to demand more for yourself or just enjoy the sex. You think you need him, but you probably spend more time hurting than you do smiling when it comes to him. Guys always want what they can't have, so the less you make yourself available to him, the more he's gonna want you. Deep down inside you know what is going on, and you know what you have to do, you are just scared to do so. There is option #3. You can back off from asking him to be with you. Turn it around on him and use him for the sex.
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this guy is not interested in settling down. he just wants sex. and he wont even kiss you, thats an even worse sign. its been five months and if he isnt interested in being commited, i dont think its ever going to happen. who knows who else this guy is seeing and fooling around with. guys like sex, and if he can keep having sex with you hes going to, it doesnt mean he likes you..it means he likes sex
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i'm sorry but i think he's just using you for sex. if he loved you i think he would have at least tried a relationsip with you. and the fact that he has never actually said he likes you is not a good sign. and .. he won't even kiss you? kissing is one of the most pleasureable things for a girl, all girls like kissing. even if he didn't like it i should think that he would do it for you since you have sex with him. personally i think he sounds like a really selfish guy and is using you because he knows he can get sex from you. if you want to find out if he's using you or not see how he responds if you guys don't have sex for a while, i.e. just hang out and hook up and do other things... if he is mad or responds negatively (demands sex, doesn't wanna hang out with you, etc.) it is time to move on. go find a guy who deserves you
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