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15/f
A couple months ago, I was at a party, this guy in my year (a popular, gorgeous, complete manwhore, let's call him C) would ask me a question or smile or say hi or stare whenever he saw me.
So, a few weeks back, my best guy mate, M, who's very good friends with C, mentioned things that C had said about me, for example C had mentioned things he'd read on my bebo profile. A couple days later, M told me that C had said he thought I was really hot and wanted to get with me at a party we were all going to that weekend.
I'd always kind of liked C, I mean, not properly, but the kind where you want to catch their attention. I wasn't taking it too seriously, but I thought I could have a bit of fun with him. That night, he added me on msn and talked to me a lot. At school, the day before the party, I noticed him staring at me. As I was walking into my class, I looked up and he was standing there and he just looked at me, smiled, and said hey, I quickly said hey and then went into my class. He looked a bit confused, as if he thought I should have stayed and talked to him, but then he left. Later that day, as I was walking past him in our english class, he smiled and said hey again, I done the same as before. That lesson he talked to me quite a bit, and was watching me a lot. Then he spoke to me on msn a lot that night, flirting a bit.
At the party, we did end up getting with each other throughout the night, although obviously we were both drunk. All his friends kept coming up to me and saying that C wanted to get with me. Me and my friend texted him on M's phone that night, and he replied telling me I was beautiful (bare in mind that he was still drunk to a certain extent). The next day his friends said that C had spent the night saying he loved me (obviously he doesn't actually love me, but you get the idea..).
Throughout the next week, we talked on msn a lot and he'd try to help me out with coursework and he did seem to care. He also would say things like, "I love your...", not anything sexual, just things about my personality. I didn't take it too seriously, because let's face it, he's a notorious manwhore.
But then he went on holiday over christmas so I hadn't spoken to him much, and when he got back he started talking to me on msn again. That was about a week ago, I havn't spoken to him since then. A few days ago M (and C's other friend J) were saying that C had told them he actually likes me, and it wasn't just a one night thing. They seemed pretty serious when they were saying it, although they continued to make jokes about me and C throughout the day. M kept suddenly going serious, warning me and saying, 'Don't do it okay, please, don't do it. You're too good for him, you just shouldn't. You know what he's like, he might try and rape you." Ever since then I've started to like C a whole lot more.
Then just now I asked M what C actually said about me, and he said that him and J were just joking and that C doesn't actually like me. This has really confused me because they seemed pretty serious about it before. Most girls just fall for C and won't leave him alone after they just makeout with him on one night or whatever. I know that drives him away, because, like a typical manwhore, he can get whoever he wants.
So, he'll definitely be drawn to someone who's more of a challenge.
What I want to ask is,
Does it sound like C fancies me?
Do you think that M was just saying C doesn't like me to stop me from getting involved with C? Or were him and J just joking?
How do I get C to like me by playing hard to get, but not so hard that he just goes off me? It's hard to get the right balance, because we hang out with completely different groups of people (apart from M and J) and I don't see him that often. Also I'm quite shy.
Thanks, x
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Ok. The person who is bothering me in the situation is M and i think he has a little crush on you.
As you can see he has been staring at YOU. That's something i like.
Well play hard, i mean the way your talking about C i know what kind of guy he is, and you have to ask yourself questions LIKE Even if C would you date a manwhore?? Even if you date C who i s a manwhoree, would you think you're going to last? or is he going to be faithful??
I THINK YOU JUST ANSWERED THE QUESTION IN YOUR HEAD
So.. how about you play around and maybe get him in bed but not giving him some??
You might be confused of what i'm trying to tell you so i'll explain
PLAY HARD, i like what your doing (For explain be bi-polar to him) LIKE on the msn stay for hours until you answer him
but next day you see him in school and he says "hey" , wink at him and say "hey C" name is something you can use after the hey
next day you speak to h im on the msn and you answer him after 1 second and then when you see him at school and he says "hey" smile abit , a bored smile and nodd that's all
KEEP ON GOING LIKE THAT
UNTIL ..
you get him to bed, give him the idea that your going to actually sleep with him, kiss and touch BUT when you feel he is getting excited pull away smirk at him and say "I'l see you around" keep the smirk on your face and wink him, be so bi-polar and hard to understand to a level where he can't even ask questions
Good Luck
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I think that you're doing a pretty good job of getting him to like you. You're not playing too hard to get, but you're not jumping all over him, either. You saw the reaction you got from him when he said, "hey," and you didn't stop to drool over him. It made him pay you all the more attention. To him it is all about the chase if he's a manwhore, and I'll say you have him exactly where you want him. It sounds like he totally likes you, but I have a feeling that once he gets you he might not be as into you as he would be if you played the game for a little while. Believe me, he will not get off you because he will not be able to stop flirting with you. One more thing, when you're talking to him, don't bring up his reputation. Don't act like you are worried that he is going to hurt you, etc. You want him to think that you're not worried about other girls because once he gets with you he's not going to want anyone else. If I were you I might never even get with him because plenty of girls have been down that road and now they are all walking around with broken hearts. Don't pay any attention to what M and J say, and don't ask them anymore questions about c. You know that c is asking them what you are saying, so if you do talk about him keep it light. C definately fancies you, and the fact that you're shy has heightened his feelings because he's taking it like you're not as into him as all of the other girls.
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