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Okay, well I'll try making this as short as possible, if that's possible. So I met this guy while I was up north with one of my friends. I'm a sophomore in college and he's a freshman. Ironically, we live in the same town (I go to the university here and he lives here and goes to the community college). So of course, I thought it was fate haha. Anyways, we started talking quite a bit after meeting up north, mainly through texting, and he continuously told me how he was gonna be staying at my place (I have an apartment this year) all the time and how we were gonna be hanging out all the time. I'm pretty hesitant when it comes to guys, cause I certainly don't like to get my hopes up, so if he hadn't given me these false hopes I wouldn't be so certain that things were gonna turn out good. So once I moved into my apartment, which was about a month ago, we've seemed to talk less and less. He's been over about once a week since I've moved in, although it's been almost two weeks now. He used to text me every day and yet he's only texted me twice since last Saturday. We talk occasionally on facebook, and he shows the typical guy-signs of jealousy when he thinks I hang out with other boys (which I don't) and like two weeks ago we told each other that we really like each other, so you'd think that we'd be spending a decent amount of time together or at least talking a lot. But nope. He has practice every weekday morning and night, so I understand he's busy, but that shouldn't be an excuse. Also, he neverrr comes over on the weekends, only at night on like Wednesdays once he's out of practice and we never hangout during the day. So he basically comes over and we watch tv or something and go to sleep. We don't do anything (sexually) so it's not like he's using me or something. So I just don't know. I've talked to my friends about this a lot and even they don't know what the deal is. I don't think I've ever been this confused. Do I just move on and don't make him a big part of my life? What if someone else comes along; is it wrong to hangout with other boys at this point? I certainly don't wanna put my life on hold for a guy, but I do/did like him a lot and don't wanna ruin anything if he still likes me or whatever. Any advice as to what I should think or do? Also, I told him straight up that I don't text guys first, soo he's very aware that he needs to talk to me first and it hasn't been a problem until recently. And now I wouldn't wanna text him first anyways considering I don't even know if he wants to talk to me haha. Thanks though!
Oh, and I guess I should add, I confronted him early on that 99% of guys I know turn out to be players, but he SWEARS he's not. And since we're not actually "sexually active" wouldn't that defeat the purpose of being a player? Or is that not necessarily what a player looks to get? haha
Hey there,
It sounds as if you expect him to give you more of an effort, when you don't really show him that you want to give an effort. Sure he is busy, but if he doesn't have time to talk to you, send him a quick "hello" or "I was just thinking of you" to let him know you want to hear from him when he isn't busy.
Instead of thinking of all the times he doesn't come over, you should appreciate the times when he does come over. At least he is making an effort to come over once or twice a week. If you feel though that you want more of an exciting date, then find something more exciting then tv to do. You could go for a walk, sleep under the stars, give eachother massages, make pizza together (guys love food), or soak in the tub together. Whatever your heart fancies.
If you are unsure if he wants to talk to you, then talk to him. Tell him you hope he is doing well, that you would like to spend more time with him, and that if he is having a rough day you are always there to talk to. This will let him know that you want to be in a closer relationship, he can text you whenever he feels, and that you are there for him. I hope you make time to go to his place too, that way he will feel comfortable having you over anytime.
I don't see why you wouldn't text a guy first. Is is because you are nervous? Is it because you just don't want to? Or is it because you don't know what to say? Whatever the reason, communication has to work both ways or the relationship will slowly go downhill. What if he never texts you for a week? That could be a long time without talking... anyhow, never be shy to text him a nice "what are you up to?" or "I can't wait to see you again". Even though you said 'I don't text guys', he could be waiting for a message to know you do want to talk to him at some point.
If he says he isn't a player, he most likely is being honest with you. There are only a small bunch of guys that would treat you nice, say he isn't a player, and then actually turn out to be a player. Players are people that will try and pick you up just to make another girl jealous, pursuade you into thinking you like them only to dump you later on, and/or make you fall for them only so you will have sex with them. Since you aren't sexually active, I would say he is thinking of getting closer to you emotionally first, even though a guy would never say that out loud :p The actions your guy shows now lets you how he will treat you in the future. Just because you two aren't sexually active, doesn't mean he isn't a player, it just means he has a way lower chance of being one. All you need to know is: if he treats you good he is good, if he asks about you life or how you are doing he truly cares about your life, and if he makes time for you... he is still interested.
My boyfriend and I see eachother once a week, but we are still happy and in a close relationship. Plus, we text eachother only a few times a week. Let your guy know what makes you happy. It is not how much you see eachother that matters, it is the quality of the visit and conversation that does
ok so i met this boy last year. and we frist went out last year but it was only for like 2 weeks. then he dumped me. we still talked though like on the internet. then i got a phone and we texted. then i didnt talk to him for a while again. then we started talking again but i didnt see him again until april of this year. and all the sudden he kissed me i was left confused. i hung out with him the next day but we didnt do anything. after that we didnt talk again. and then in august he randomly messaged me saying he wanted to see me. then i said ok and we met up and he kissed me again.. and later that day he sent me a message saying he wanted me back and i said ok. so i guess that i was his gf again but it didnt seem like it and after that we still talked but i didnt see him again until last week and i seen him like 4 days in a row. the last time i really talked to him was sunday and now i think he is like ignoring me like not texting back and stuff. i dont know why and he has pulled this stuff on me before but those times i didnt care as much. but now i do and i am upset its like he only talks to me when he feels like it. what should i do? why is he doing this
Hey there,
It sounds as if he isn't being real with the relationship. I mean, if he really wanted you back he would stick to his word. Him kissing you and leaving is obviously a mixed signal. If he really felt that strongly for you, he wouldn't kiss you then leave you hanging now. If I were you, I would talk to him. Tell him you would like to be his girlfriend, but only if he treats you right. He doesn't seem to be treating you the way he should. He may be doing this because he doesn't know what to say to you. He could be doing this because he isn't sure about his feelings. He could also be doing this, just because he is busy and cannot reply right then.
Whatever the reason, he should be able to tell you why he is doing this when you ask him. You do not deserve someone who is only going to talk to you or be with you when it is "convenient" for him. Relationships do not work that way. Talk to him and let him know you are confused and upset. If he is a nice guy, he should care and change what he is doing that makes you feel this way. If he doesn't seem to be changing... I think you know the answer (he is not right for you). Guys can be misleading, so trust your instincts... they will let you know what is meant to be
I don't quite know where to start with this. I'm actually so confused, I'm having difficulty just fabricating sentences. Sorry if this sounds confusing. I'm just hoping someone will listen. It's long, so if you don't feel like reading it a story, skip to the next question.
I feel that for the past few years (from freshman year highschool , to senior year) That over the course of the months, half of the year, what have you- I'll be extremely depressed- then the next half of that year, I'll be completely fine. Or, it'll be like that for 3 months, then the rest I'll be functional, ect. ect. . Trying to figure this out myself has been the hardest thing, but I also know not to be foolish and complain to people. I'll be myself one day, then suddenly feel indifferent and have serious social difficulties (or, just not feel like talking to people). Nothing I can think of actually triggered these events. I'm wondering, if it's from trauma of my past? (As a child, my family was abusive- verbally,mentally, physically) Years ago, it was much worse. My mother suffered from severe depression with the fact that my father had developed psychotic aspects to his personality. He became delusional, schizophrenic, angered and an alcoholic. She watched him change, and from what I can conclude worst really did come to worst. They devorced, and he's now a lot better- as is she. To say the least- I feel like I've forgotten a lot of my childhood to the soul fact of saving my mind from the stress of being so little. I only remember memories of some friends. So after that messyness, needless to say , I believe it's the reason these past few years have been so hard on me. I feel like something is coming back to haunt me, something I can't even remember. I wouldn't be typing this if I were fine. I honestly just can't grip how I can be happy- then suddenly feel blank nothingness. I feel like a black void is just in my head. It's too stressful, I really just want to give up all together. But, I could never voice this out to anyone- I don't know how. I try to tell my mom how I feel "nothing", I can't think of anything, and I'm just generally upset for no reason- but it almost seems as though she doesn't care. She just tells me it'll pass. I don't know what to do, how I can be helped, or where to turn. If you haven't guessed, I have no real connections in my life. I guess I'm just looking for some peace, some story you have for me, something to believe. Some kind of help, any kind. Thanks
Hey there,
You never mentioned how old you are, but thats alright. I think you need to get away from all the stress in your home life for a while. I believe being in this place where you don't feel as if you are being heard, feel as if you should be finding something better, and having things that bring you down, makes you feel depressed. You cannot change things in the past such as your mother suffering and your parents divorcing. It is not your fault and just because your mom went through it, doesn't mean you have to feel the same way she did. I know it is hard to keep moving day by day when your past is still with you. There are many things you can let go of... but others will still stick with you, and perhaps that is a bit of a good thing.
You learn from your past and I know this because as yourself, I have had some things that brought me down because of it. I have seen my parents divorce because of alcohol, I have felt depressed on and off, I have lost all my friends, and sometimes I feel/felt like giving up because it seems like the easy thing to do or it seems hard to move on. The only thing you should do though, is learn from these things, grow from it, and know that what you have gone through makes you a much stronger person.
It is what is inside of you that is hurting, so you need to fill your heart and time with all the things that make you smile. It does not matter what others say, you are your own person and you should follow yourself. Turn on your favorite music and dance around your room, soak yourself up in a nice bubble bath, take a walk around the park with your favorite stuffed animal, eat ice cream, wear your favorite clothes around the house just because you can, and if you want to hang out in your house wearing your comfy pj's all day... go right ahead :) You know what will make you smile, so start doing those things today.
You seem as if you just need someone to talk to about your problems. Someone who will listen and someone who will understand. There is always time for great things to happen in your life, if you give them time and allow them to do so. Never lose hope. You are a great person and none of the things you mentioned are your fault. Everyone needs to be heard, sometimes it is just hard for people to hear. If you want, you can inbox me anytime and/or e-mail me. I can help you have a connection
I just started talking to this guy that I work with (at a fast food restaurant). We have been texting every day all day for about a week. We have talked about hanging out in person outside of work and I don't know what to expect because...This guy and I are definitely flirty, but I literally just got out of a 1-year relationship and I honestly don't know how to tell if this guy is a player and is talking to other girls or if he genuinely likes me. What are the signs -- how do I know if this is just how he is with all girls or if he has a thing for ME only?
Hey there,
The only way you will know for sure if he is a player, is to get to know him. Hang out with him, see if he flirts with any other girls, ask him if hes been in relationships before (and if they were serious), and read his body language. If he looks you straight in the eyes when he is talking to/answering you, he is most likely an honest guy. If he turns his knees towards you when sitting, that is all he is focused on. If he smiles at you, touches your arm/shoulder/any part of your body, he really likes you... and if he tries to make you laugh, wants to spend more quality time alone with you, and doesn't text anyone when he is around you, he is serious about you.
What you have to be aware of though, is any overly sweet talk. If he calls you baby/honey right away, you should know he is probably just using you. If he kind of turns away when you ask him something about a girl, he most likely has treated them wrong, but if he fidgits it could just mean he is nervous. Watch how he acts around other girls and see if he is treating you differently... if he is, he most likely is into you. You are special in that, you are a girl, and we have our instincts. Get to know him on a more personal level and then if you feel something is up, talk to him about it. Then if you still feel something is wrong, odds are there may be. Trust your gut. It will let you know if this guy is meant to be more than friends
I often find myself (after It's already to late) Doing other things instead of what I was told to do. I don't have any cases of ADHD or anything like that, I haven't had a reports of mental sickness or abnormality. When some tells me something I often forget what they said and when they said it. It's like I never heard before. I believe that I am lost within myself and am soooo tired of being here in this confusing life. I'm down to the point to where I just don't care about anything anymore. Have I gone crazy, or am I an Idiot with a high IQ? Please help!!!
Hey there,
It sounds as if you may have short term memory loss..?. Forgetting what someone told you or not remembering where you put something can be signs of this. But, you may also just be tired. When someone is tired, their body just cannot focus on one thing for a long period of time. I know, because I have short term memory loss and at times I forget what people told me earlier in the day or where I left something. I know how crazy it is to say to yourself 'I am going to put this here so I remember it', only to forget where you put it :p Believe me, sleep does help with this. Also, eating healthy, having your protein, and doing things like sodoku/crosswords/puzzles will help you build your brain/mental strength.
To help yourself find you again, leave sticky notes around your house or in places that you go to remind yourself of things you need to do, what you plan to do next, or what someone told you to do. They are a great reminders. Another thing you can do is have a friend remind you beforehand of what you want to be reminded of. Tell him/her that you just need a reminder before the time you are going to do something and I am sure they will try to help. Friends are always a great way to find support and positivity.
Also, get out there with people and have fun again! Go have a pop/coffee/lemonade with someone you know, go check out a new movie, have a gathering in your house with yummy snacks, meet someone new, or do something you have always meant to do but never got around to doing. Listen to your favorite music, dance around the house, call your best friend for a walk, or just find someone to talk to. Smile, even when you don't feel like it. It will help you feel better.. as will giving hugs :)
No, you are not going crazy, this is more common then you probably realize. And no, you are not an idiot. Try the things I've told you and see if they help. If they don't help much, ask your doctor what may be causing this, for I am not as knowledged as them. You can find yourself again... just find support, do the things you love, and you will find the path that will lead you there
Hey i went to the doctors Saturday night and found out that i have bronchitis with developing pneumonia. He prescribed me Zithromax and that helped overall i have one day left of taking the anti-biotic and the last couple nights i cant sleep because i have a horrible cough that wont go away. I cant lay down because i cant breathe and when i lay down its constant coughing every 15 seconds, it almost feels like a tickle in my throat. I've tried Vick's vapor rub, turning a humidifier on, taking NyQuil and Nyquil and nothing seems to help. I've coughed so much the past couple days that my stomach is sore and tender. Any suggestions on what i should do? If this was part of the bronchitis shouldn't the antibiotics be helping by now? Any solutions or tips would be greatly appreciated, i hate not being able to breathe or sleep laying down. Thanks in advance!
Hey there,
I know how rough it can be having bronchitis and pneumonia, it is not pleasant. I believe you may have already developed pneumonia, it depends on how well the anti-biotic is helping you fight the illness off. Every person is different and so you may need a stronger anti-biotic..? You never know. If you have asthma your cold will always be worse. When I get bronchitis, it always develops into pneumonia.
What I usually have to do, is use a nebulizer; a machine that turns liquid medicine into a mist, which travels through a clear tube hooked to a machine up into a mask you wear, so then you can inhale it. It helps you to breathe easier, helps your nose clear up, and helps you to stop coughing your guts out (as I would say). I don't know how bad your cough is exactly, but you may have to use a nebulizer twice a day to help the illness clear out of your system. Another thing you can do, is prop yourself up at night. Laying down causes your lungs to kind of clog up and so if you prop yourself up with a few pillows and suck on a few cough candies, you will soon stop coughing enough to fall asleep. It may be uncomfortable at first, but I am sure you will find a comfortable way to prop yourself up if you want a good nights sleep.
I would definately go see your doctor again if the anti-biotics don't seem to be helping and maybe ask if you could use a nebulizer. We have had one for a few years at home and it definately comes in handy when any of my family members get bronchitis or pneumonia. Keep taking cough medicine or sucking on cough candies too; they will help throughout the day. I hope you get well soon
I'm really shy, always have been! don't really have that many friends at school, I mean, I have friends, but i'm not popular.. Everyday I get asked by atleast 3 people why I am so quiet? why do people ask that? it's obviously because I am shy. Why does it bother people so much, I mean I am not doing anything to them! I feel like everyday people are judging me, talking about me, etc. I want to know how to overcome shyness I want to have fun in highschool, because right now I dread going everyday! I know in order to overcome it you have to learn to talk to people but it's not that easy, I never know what to say! I don't like expressing my feelings to people. Also, when people ask me why I am so quiet what can I say back to them? because, I never know how to answer their questions..
Hey there,
I know what it is like to be shy too. I find that what you have to do, is start by doing something little. When you are sitting in the hall or walking by someone, say hi to them. It is one word that will make people want to get to know you and that will make you seem open to meeting them and finding out their interests. Do not forget to smile while doing this task :)
I believe people ask you why you are quiet because they are not used to someone being subtle the way you are around others. I don't think it bothers people, they are just curious as to why you don't interact as much as some other people may. People aren't always judging you or talking about you, even though it may seem that way at times.
To overcome your shyness, smile, say "Hi (insert name here)" to everyone you pass by, stand up straight, and positively comment the person or something they do. If someone is talking to you, say "I like that too!", "Thats cool", "you seem good at that", "I bet that is fun", or "I like your _____". Saying "I like your _____" will usually make someone stop and talk to you. If they say "thanks", say "your welcome" and ask where they got it from. Keep the conversation going by commenting on what they are talking about, tell them something that relates to what they are talking about by telling them something you have seen/done/want, or ask a topic-related question. You can ask a question such as: "how long have you been doing that for?", "Do you go there often?", "how do you like that?", or "what is it like there?". Asking questions shows you are interested and want to know more about what they are talking about.
When people ask you why you are so quiet, smile at them and say "because I am unique" or "because I like it". No matter what, be yourself. It doesn't matter if you are really shy, because there is always someone out there that is outgoing that will come right up to you and want to talk to you, be friends with you, make you more involved, or make you laugh. It is not the quantity of friends you have that matter, it is the quality of your friends :) You can look past your shyness... start small, then work your way up to conversations in time. It is always the small talk anyhow that makes people eventually want to talk to you more, so go for it!
I'm a fifteen year old girl who's had emotional issues and low self esteem issues since I was a very little girl.i'm really hurt because I think that all most guys in high school Want to do is take advantage of girls and never treat them good like a girl friend.I've always felt alone for some reason which always made me strive to try to "fall in love".it doesn't work though because I always end up getting hurt.I've been in relationships before but I've never had a boy friend.it's usually either I'm the girl on the side or just a girl that is taken advantage of.so I'm constantly in search of someone who will fall in love with me but its become a very unhealthy habbit now.it's like whenever I see a guy that I really like (or "love") and they have a girl friend already or they're hugging on one of there chick friends Im crushed and start tobreak down and cry.I don't want love to be something I depend on or something that has taken control of me,but I fear it already has.and in the midst of all this I feel unbeautiful and ugly and the person everbidy hates.
Isthere anything that anyone can tell me that they think would help???
Thank you.
Hi there,
You are beautiful and no one could ever hate you. You may think now that you need a boyfriend, but you can be a strong independant girl being you. You do not need a guy to make you feel good inside, you can do that with your own desire. Love who you are and then a guy will love you too. You are still young, so keep your head high, wear a smile, hang out with your friends, play crazy/fun games, give hugs, have sleepovers, and be yourself :) You don't have time to worry about silly boys right now.
When the time is right, you will find a guy who treats you lovingly. It may not be right away, but it is coming. Do not let yourself fall for a guy who isn't treating you right, for you deserve the best. You are special, unique, and brilliant the way you are. Never lose hope, he is out there... you just do not need him right now. Friends are what is important
16/f
Lately,no matter what I do goes wrong.I can't study,I've lost most of my friends,my boyfriend and I are going through a HUGE crisis and I think I may lose him...I've lost all of my positivity and now I see life as all dark and no light.I am aware this might be because of puberty.But I hate that I can't truly laugh and be happy,I can't get rid of my negativity...Why is this happening to me and what should I do to stop this?It's tearing me up inside...
Hey there,
I know how you feel. I am 18 and I've felt tired, exhausted, I've lost all my friends, and felt like life is a dark place as well. I do not think this has anything to do with puberty.
I believe this is happening, for you may be depressed by all the things that are troubling you in your life right now. When you are surrounded by what seems to be a ton of things that make you frown, it can bring you down quite a bit. To stop feeling this way, you have to find what truly makes you happy. Even though life may seem as though everything is horrible, there should always be one thing that will make you smile. It took me quite a while to find out what makes me feel happy and it could take a bit of time for you too, but to get there.. you have to give it a shot.
Smile when you are walking down the hall or a road (even if you don't feel like it). Smiling helps yourself feel good inside, it can make you want to actually smile, and when you seem positive, others will want to get to know you better. Listen to music that will make you want to get up and dance. Music is part of a persons soul that lightens your mood, soothes you, and if you sing along it will allow you to be creative. Your favorites will make you feel good inside :) Also, get out of your comfort zone. If you stay in whats is comfortable, you will never see or do all the great things you are missing. If you engage in what seems different, it will give you a sense of accomplishing something. Therefore, giving yourself gratitude. There may be an activity, place, or thing alone that will make you feel like you found what you've been needing.
Maybe you need to talk to a counsellor. Sometimes all we need is someone to talk to about our feelings. Counsellors are people who will help you sort things out on a confidential level. Do things that are positive and you will be positive. Whatever frustrates you, get away from it. Don't ever let little things get to you, you are strong. Whatever makes you happy, do it. Start a list of all the things you want to do to be happy right now, then do them. Plus, add a few things to your list that you've never done that you can do near to where you live.
Explore the new and discover yourself again. Get out there and do not be afraid to be yourself. When you set your mind to something, you can do it. There are things that will make you smile and laugh... and you will find them with an open heart and a little searching
If you have a wart on your finger can you subsequently spread it to your lips by ways of skin to skin contact?
Hi there,
Yes, you can spread a wart not just to your lips, but anywhere on your body by skin to skin contact. Also, as long as there is a wart there, you can subsequently spread it this way if you are not careful. If you would like to know of ways to get rid of warts, feel free to inbox me
i think i like this boy in my classes but the thing is hes not very popular as in he dont have many friends, and is very shy im the sort that has a lot of friends and isnt that shy i dont know if i should go for it or not.
Hey there,
If you like the guy, then go for it. It doesn't matter if he isn't very popular or if you have a lot of friends... what matters is that we are all human and if you would like to get to know him better, do it.
Talk to him, find common interests, spend some time with him, and get to know him better. You have nothing to lose girl :) If you do these things, he will be glad to have made a friend (you!), you will both be more happy, and then if you flirt with him... you never know, it could lead somewhere ;) If you like him, he is definately worth a try!
my boyfriend wants to get in a bed with me what do i say/
Hey there,
You say exactly how you feel. I don't know how you feel right now about sex, but the best thing to do is to be honest with him. If you want to have sex, but not right now... tell him you really love him and everything is great, but you just aren't ready for that step in your relationship at this point. If he really loves you, he will respect you and wait until you are ready. Telling him how you feel about sex will help him understand your thoughts and desires. It will also help both of you to connect on a more personal level. When you are ready for it, let him know and remember to take the proper precautions :)
Know that when you allow someone into your thoughts, you are allowing them closer to your heart
13/f
i have this one guy in four of my classes and hes so sweet and funny but i think he likes me and i just wanna be friends cuz i like this other guy...so i dont want to send him the wrong message but how do i let him know i wanna be just friends?
Hey there,
If he is sweet, he sounds like he would understand if you told him "you are a great person, and I would like to be friends with you for a long time". This lets him know that you do like him, you do want to be friends, and that you respect his feelings so you don't want to complicate anything for him. If he hasn't made a move on you yet, no need to tell him that you just want to be friends, but if he has, just tell him nicely and everything should go well
I am starting to like this boy, he is very cute and very funny. All the girls think he is sooo attractive. I have this thing, though, that if someone did something nice for me or complimented me, that they like me and I know that I shouldn't do that but with this boy, I really feel that there is something there.
-The first time we talked, my friend was walking with him and I told her I loved her dress and she told me that she loved mine, she asked me where I got it and so on. Five seconds later, he pops pops into the conversation and said "I love band!" Then everyone started walking in to the already opened door and he went to open the closed door and said "I would have opened that door but it doesn't opened" he smiled, then I smiled.
-A few days later, I was walking by myself out of the class we have together and he was behind me and he said "I love band. I love band. I love band!" That's what he said to be funny the first time we talked. So, was he saying it again to make me know that he was back there?
-Then all of my friends know that I think he is cute and they think he may be diggin me. So they tell me everytime he looks over at me and to be honest.. it's quite frequent.
-We were arriving at practice and I showed my mom to him, we were in the car and he was walking in front of us so my mom approved and waved at him. He went up to my best friend who is a boy and said "___'s mom waved hi to me today.. why would she do that?" My friend just said that she waves hi to everyone that she likes. My only fear with this boy that I am starting to like is: I am not sure he will do anything about "us" because I think that he thinks my best friend and I like eachother because we are so close.. ):
I'm sorry that's all I have, we don't talk much, I'm really shy when it comes to this, so I kinda want him to initiate some things. So, what kind of flirting can I do without talking? How can I make him approach me more and do you think he likes me?!
Thanks!
Hey there,
I think he may like you, but the only way to know for sure is to flirt with him ;) Some things you can do to flirt with him without talking, is to smile at him, wink at him, walk close to him (don't knock him over,haha), sit near to him, touch his arm/leg/shoulder/hand, slip him a cute note into his pocket, look into his eyes when he talks to you, and if he is sitting don't be afraid to come up behind and lean on his shoulders :) If he asks what you are doing, just say you are trying to get a better view of his cute face ;)
If you talk to him a little bit, then flirt with him... believe me, he will want to initiate something on you eventually. If you be yourself, he is bound to like you. A guy likes someone who is genuine, outgoing (which you can be if you give it a shot), and not afraid to be themselves. Never be afraid of being yourself, you are an amazing person
I wuznt sure which subject to put this under, but i wuz wondering if i wuz pregnant. I get headaches, i may be bloated and my vagina kinda smells. I am not even close to my period. I have 21 days left. I wuz just wondering if i could tell before i have a missed period if i do. Cuz i'm really scared. And please, i dont want someone telling me that i shouldnt of had sex if i wuznt ready for sex. Its already happened. i cant change it. I need a real answer):
Hey there,
I am not sure if you are pregnant.. but there is the possibility. The symptoms you have could just be because you are starting to get sick or they could even be a result of you just thinking you could be pregnant. When you worry about being pregnant, your hormones can change and cause you to feel this way. As for the smelly vagina, that sounds completely normal, unless you think it has a stronger smell than normal. If you think it does, then I would recommend having a shower and cleaning down there and if that doesn't help, go to a doctor to check if you may have a urinary tract infection
Im 18/f hes 18 too.
We've worked together for about a year now at a restaurant. he cooks, i dish wash and waitress.After a month of working together i said "we should hang out this weekend" but he said " i work all weekend sorry"...which was true, he worked everyday long shifts. for the next few months we talk at work,nothing to deep, i always laugh when we start talking and smile. a week ago i called him and left a voicemail asking if he wanted to go to the movies. he texted me later saying he couldn't today but we should go another time. i let him know he worked way more than me and to let me know when hes free.at work we didnt mention anything about me asking him out, and he didnt say anything about hanging out another time. he seems pretty shy but we get along super well. all i want is to hang out with him more, get to know him but if it doesnt go well work would be awkward. all of our co workers always say "when you guys going on your first date" and stuff like that. we always go along with it and laugh.
i was planning on walking out to our cars one night after work and just tell him i like him, and ask him if hes into me at all.but thats kind of blunt, i dont wanna freak him out, but i really like him, and he wont make a move, even though he seems to flirt with me a lot.
what should i do?
Hey there,
You do realize you sent me the same question in my inbox five times in 20 minutes... yep, anyhow. What I think you should do, is not tell him up front, but just subtly tell him. Just walking up to him and putting it out there that you like him, may scare him a bit. I would say it is obvious he is into you if he flirts with you, so no need to ask him. If you want to show him how you feel, ask him if he can go for a walk with you after work, find a time when he isn't busy and then go to the movies with him, and flirt back with him. He is kind of making a move by flirting with you, so he is probably wondering if you feel the same way. Flirting back and/or spending quality time with him will definately show him that you are interested. If you do get alone with him, lean into him, rest your head on his shoulder, touch his hand/shoulder/arm, and look into his eyes when he is talking to you. Don't forget to smile :)
If you do keep asking him every now and then if he will spend time with you, eventually he will. He doesn't seem too shy if he flirts with you alot. I bet he just wants to see if you will flirt back and show him your personality. I am sure once you do, he will be more liable to open up. Flirt with him, ask him if he would like to do something with you, then after a few times of spending time with him, start to build your relationship from there. Every guy has an outgoing side, showing him yours will help remind him of his
I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long!
Hey there,
No question is ever too long, no worries ;)
I believe your boyfriend knew what he was doing was wrong... and because he hid it from you when you found out, shows that he knew exactly what you were talking about. If he is denying it, I would definately call him out. Say "I saw some of what you put on Facebook, will you please tell me what is going on? Why are you hiding it from me?". If he has no explanation or just keeps denying the things he wrote... I would not stay with him. I am sorry he is treating you like this, but you do not deserve that from anyone.
Unless he fesses up, you gave him his one chance to tell you what he did. By him choosing not to do so, he shows he is unfaithful. You have been betrayed by him, he does have a secert life on Facebook, and I am sorry. You will find someone who can look you in the eye, say he is sorry, and move on with. You will find someone who will hold you tight, be honest with you, who will kiss you softly, and love you for who you are. Do not worry if it isn't tomorrow, the guy you are meant to be with is out there and you will find him. When he treats you respectfully, listens carefully, kisses you passionately, and holds you in his arms, never let him go ;)
18Female.
So I recently lost my virginity, about two/three weekends ago. Oh my gosh, it was amazing haha. But now it's all I can think about like I want it all the time. And I don't have a boyfriend, and the guy I wanna do it with is about four hours away for hockey so he will rarely come back but once I see him, I can get it from him ;)
I don't know what to do though. Masturbating doesn't work, I hate it actually. Like I need a guy, I need that feeling and I'm going crazy! Is it normal for me to think about it all the time, I know guys do but now I feel like a perv or something haha.
Suggestions, anything?
Hey there,
It is completely normal for a girl to think about sex. All the time, I'm not so sure.. but a lot, yeah. I think you should have a committed relationship before you have any more sex. Just having sex with guys because you feel the need, isn't going to do you any good in the long run. Sure it may feel good now, but they will just end up using you or leaving you in the end.
In a committed relationship, you both love eachother, you both have sex with one another because you know you will be there for eachother when it is over, you are both willing to put up with the consequences of having a child, and you know the other person will not walk out on you no matter what, for they are in it for who you are as a person and not just your body.
You are not a perv because you want sex with a guy. You do seem lonely though and I believe you deserve a guy who loves you for not just your body, but for your wonderful personality and loving heart. Do not let yourself go just for the sake of being pleasured. You are better than that. Find a guy who treats you right. He will be the one who will stick with you through thick and thin. I know you want someone who will hold you when you are down, who will be there when you need someone to talk to, and who will love you when you need to be loved. This guy doesn't sound like someone who will do all that for you. He sounds like a good time is all. You do not need a guy to make you happy, what you need is self confidence. Take a look at all your great attributes and put your real talents into action (music, sports, art, running, etc). You will feel satisfied when you accomplish your educational and career goals in life.. they lead you to your true success.
When you do find that special someone, you will not just be thinking about sex, but all the things you can do before and after. Sex isn't everything, it is just a small part of something bigger
What do i do if i get pregnant and my parents sont approve and i am too young to have a baby? What do i do?
Hey there,
There are several things you could do. You could have one of your family (not immediate family) help you raise it, you could put the child up for adoption, or you could have an abortion. If you are pregnant, I would talk it over with your parents and see if there is any way you could raise the child yourself or with their help. This is always the best option, for the child to be with its parent, but if that is not possible... adoption may be the next best choice.
Adoption is where you can put your child, after it is born in a foster care home where it can be adopted and raised by another family.. but only if someone chooses to adopt your child. Otherwise, kids can be stuck in the foster care system for a very long time without a true family.
Abortion is where you go through a procedure in which a doctor kills the fetus inside your womb, before it is born. I personally think it is the wrong thing to do, for it is a life and it deserves to be born into our world.
Whatever you choose, make sure it is in the best interest of the baby. It cannot talk, so you have to make the right decision for it. Sure, a child sometimes shouldn't raise a child... but many times it can be the best thing for a baby and its mother. Think about that
I just dont know how to deal with all of my kids moving out at the same time. freaking out and just want to sleep all the time
Hey there,
A good way to deal with all your kids leaving at once, is to make a plan on how you can communicate with them once they leave. If you get their phone numbers you can phone them, if you get thier addresses you can write to them or send pictures, and if you get their e-mail addresses you can e-mail them and send pictures over the internet. Keeping in contact will help relieve your stress and help you know that they are still around to communicate with.
Also, talk to them before they leave. Let them know you love them and you would like it if they updated you on things that are happening in their life every now and then, because you care. Since I am a teenager, I would tell them that you do appreciate that they are grown/growing up and you are interested in what they are doing so you would like to hear from them is all. I am sure they will contact you or let you contact them once they move out. Plus, kids do get a little home sick and in sticky situations at times, so they will need you eventually; stay healthy for them.
You will be okay without them and they will always be only a phone call away. Keep your life moving by doing things you love, going for walks, and visiting your friends every now and then. Friends are there when you need them and they can keep you on your toes :)