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Sex ..always on my mind
18Female.
So I recently lost my virginity, about two/three weekends ago. Oh my gosh, it was amazing haha. But now it's all I can think about like I want it all the time. And I don't have a boyfriend, and the guy I wanna do it with is about four hours away for hockey so he will rarely come back but once I see him, I can get it from him ;)
I don't know what to do though. Masturbating doesn't work, I hate it actually. Like I need a guy, I need that feeling and I'm going crazy! Is it normal for me to think about it all the time, I know guys do but now I feel like a perv or something haha.
Suggestions, anything?
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bahahahah:) yea its normal hun..trust me i lost it in febuary and i still always think about it! it will get pretty bad when your ovulateing (or however you spell it). hope i helped(:
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Buy a vibrator. Explore porn and erotic literature to find out what works for you.
I know that isn't exactly the advice you are looking for, but it's the advice I wish someone had given me when I was a teen.
I'm a very sexual twenty-five year old woman, and YES, sex is absolutely better with a partner. But the truth is, until I learned how to enjoy myself solo I was constantly falling into stupid relationships and drama because of how much I felt I 'needed' sex with someone else. Sure, I was physically safe, but emotionally my self esteem and my ability to feel good about sex and my body was all tied up in having someone else want to have sex with me.
It is normal to want sex, to want to be desired and some people naturally want sex more than others, but honestly, if you NEED a guy to screw you, then it isn't about sex – there is an emotional need you are trying to fill there and it becomes about power and a desperation to feel desired that can be dangerous if you don't find healthy ways to handle it - alone. Those things can very easily lead you down a path of self harm and tie your self esteem up in sex.
It’s just not easy to find someone who is compatible with you. It’s not easy in a relationship, in a friendship, or simply in sex partner. No matter how promiscuous you are willing to be, you are going to go through periods in your life – if you are safe and sane – without a regular sex partner. You need to learn to deal.
I still love sex. I still think about it a hell of a lot. I still prefer sex with a partner, but I don't need one to enjoy myself. Put any squeamishness or shame you might feel and kick it out the door. Then, seriously and diligently explore sex INSIDE your own brain. I promise you that you can find ways you enjoy yourself when you don’t have a partner, and to lead a happy and balanced life, you kind of need too.
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Hey there,
It is completely normal for a girl to think about sex. All the time, I'm not so sure.. but a lot, yeah. I think you should have a committed relationship before you have any more sex. Just having sex with guys because you feel the need, isn't going to do you any good in the long run. Sure it may feel good now, but they will just end up using you or leaving you in the end.
In a committed relationship, you both love eachother, you both have sex with one another because you know you will be there for eachother when it is over, you are both willing to put up with the consequences of having a child, and you know the other person will not walk out on you no matter what, for they are in it for who you are as a person and not just your body.
You are not a perv because you want sex with a guy. You do seem lonely though and I believe you deserve a guy who loves you for not just your body, but for your wonderful personality and loving heart. Do not let yourself go just for the sake of being pleasured. You are better than that. Find a guy who treats you right. He will be the one who will stick with you through thick and thin. I know you want someone who will hold you when you are down, who will be there when you need someone to talk to, and who will love you when you need to be loved. This guy doesn't sound like someone who will do all that for you. He sounds like a good time is all. You do not need a guy to make you happy, what you need is self confidence. Take a look at all your great attributes and put your real talents into action (music, sports, art, running, etc). You will feel satisfied when you accomplish your educational and career goals in life.. they lead you to your true success.
When you do find that special someone, you will not just be thinking about sex, but all the things you can do before and after. Sex isn't everything, it is just a small part of something bigger <3
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