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i've fallen for my co worker
Im 18/f hes 18 too.
We've worked together for about a year now at a restaurant. he cooks, i dish wash and waitress.After a month of working together i said "we should hang out this weekend" but he said " i work all weekend sorry"...which was true, he worked everyday long shifts. for the next few months we talk at work,nothing to deep, i always laugh when we start talking and smile. a week ago i called him and left a voicemail asking if he wanted to go to the movies. he texted me later saying he couldn't today but we should go another time. i let him know he worked way more than me and to let me know when hes free.at work we didnt mention anything about me asking him out, and he didnt say anything about hanging out another time. he seems pretty shy but we get along super well. all i want is to hang out with him more, get to know him but if it doesnt go well work would be awkward. all of our co workers always say "when you guys going on your first date" and stuff like that. we always go along with it and laugh.
i was planning on walking out to our cars one night after work and just tell him i like him, and ask him if hes into me at all.but thats kind of blunt, i dont wanna freak him out, but i really like him, and he wont make a move, even though he seems to flirt with me a lot.
what should i do?
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Well I would not come out just yet and say you like him because that really might just freak him out. Just tell him that you are interested in hanging out and let him make the next move. If he claims he wants to hang and obviously he works a lot then wait for him to make the plans. If he never does, then he might not be interested like he says. Enjoy being friends until he makes that move. But after hanging out, if all goes well, then you should definetly make your feelings clear to him. (:
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--Taylor
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Mention hanging out to him one more time. If he makes excuses or doesn't suggest a time then I think you should leave it at that. There is a possibility that he isn't interested in anything beyond friendship and you don't want to make things awkward by pushing him.
Similarly, I don't think telling him you like him bluntly is a good idea. Even if he does feel the same, if he's shy you might scare him.
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Hey there,
You do realize you sent me the same question in my inbox five times in 20 minutes... yep, anyhow. What I think you should do, is not tell him up front, but just subtly tell him. Just walking up to him and putting it out there that you like him, may scare him a bit. I would say it is obvious he is into you if he flirts with you, so no need to ask him. If you want to show him how you feel, ask him if he can go for a walk with you after work, find a time when he isn't busy and then go to the movies with him, and flirt back with him. He is kind of making a move by flirting with you, so he is probably wondering if you feel the same way. Flirting back and/or spending quality time with him will definately show him that you are interested. If you do get alone with him, lean into him, rest your head on his shoulder, touch his hand/shoulder/arm, and look into his eyes when he is talking to you. Don't forget to smile :)
If you do keep asking him every now and then if he will spend time with you, eventually he will. He doesn't seem too shy if he flirts with you alot. I bet he just wants to see if you will flirt back and show him your personality. I am sure once you do, he will be more liable to open up. Flirt with him, ask him if he would like to do something with you, then after a few times of spending time with him, start to build your relationship from there. Every guy has an outgoing side, showing him yours will help remind him of his <3
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well i think you should be very honest with this guy. i understand that you are nervous. I think you should keep reminding him that you would love to hang out and its nice being around him. That you could probabl open up to him. Once you think it is the right moment, you should tell him that yu like him. and maybe then he would try to get off work for you. You seem like a nice girl. i bet if you let him know you like him, he will like you too.
I hope i heped(:
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