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how do i know if he's a player?
I just started talking to this guy that I work with (at a fast food restaurant). We have been texting every day all day for about a week. We have talked about hanging out in person outside of work and I don't know what to expect because...This guy and I are definitely flirty, but I literally just got out of a 1-year relationship and I honestly don't know how to tell if this guy is a player and is talking to other girls or if he genuinely likes me. What are the signs -- how do I know if this is just how he is with all girls or if he has a thing for ME only?
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Does he listen and remember? Does he ask about you as much as he talks about himself? Guys can be forgetful but you have to watch for those who still make the efforts and you need to give yourself enough time to see it.
Hang out with him. Go on a few dates. Put off sex until a little later. Take time, get to know him. That's really the best I've got. Being a guy I don't have to deal with people dishonest in their intentions in dating, but knowing guys I will say that there's always an element if impatience. A guy looking to get off and move on isn't going to spend hours in conversation with you. He's not going to communicate. Go with your gut, feel him out. At the end of the night do you feel like he's interested or do you feel like he's horny?
Both isn't bad, but you can usually tell when a guy is all about sex, vs. when sex is all a guy is about.
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Well, my best advice to you is keep your eyes open until he proves that he's different.. Since you just got out of a year relationship, I wouldn't rush into anything anyway, so just keep things simple and unofficial, don't go too fast either. Hang out with his friends with him, and trust your gut. Just remember if something feels wrong, it usually is.
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honestly your best bet is to give him a chance, just keep your guard up. a risk is really the only way to find out for sure. if he is into you and only you, you will be able to tell. if he is more involved in his cell phone than you on the date... ask him who he is talking to. be straight up with him, and tell him where you are at with this whole seeing people thing. let him know that your not interested in being someones booty call.
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Get to know him. After a while you will date enough players to just know when a guy is playing you because they all play the same game. But until you find out he is playing you for sure dont judge him. Get to know him, hang out with him, and if he messes up just stay friends because no girl deserves that!
some signs are when you are hanging out with him if he is constantly texting, or if he always makes up excuses to not hang out, the people he hangs out with. there are a lot of different things it just depends on the guy!
Hope i helped(:
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Hey there,
The only way you will know for sure if he is a player, is to get to know him. Hang out with him, see if he flirts with any other girls, ask him if hes been in relationships before (and if they were serious), and read his body language. If he looks you straight in the eyes when he is talking to/answering you, he is most likely an honest guy. If he turns his knees towards you when sitting, that is all he is focused on. If he smiles at you, touches your arm/shoulder/any part of your body, he really likes you... and if he tries to make you laugh, wants to spend more quality time alone with you, and doesn't text anyone when he is around you, he is serious about you.
What you have to be aware of though, is any overly sweet talk. If he calls you baby/honey right away, you should know he is probably just using you. If he kind of turns away when you ask him something about a girl, he most likely has treated them wrong, but if he fidgits it could just mean he is nervous. Watch how he acts around other girls and see if he is treating you differently... if he is, he most likely is into you. You are special in that, you are a girl, and we have our instincts. Get to know him on a more personal level and then if you feel something is up, talk to him about it. Then if you still feel something is wrong, odds are there may be. Trust your gut. It will let you know if this guy is meant to be more than friends <3
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Ok here's my sugestion .go on a date with him a couple of times .and pay close attention and watch if he's looking at other girls or is he keeping his eyes on you .if he's. Looking at other women chances are he's just a flirt and only have one thing on his mind a true player can't resist the urge to see what the opertunites are or should I say bait .so if you seeing him looking at other women and not at you then you will have your answer that he's not fully intrested in you and you should forget him and move on
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