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Teen christianity is becoming an enormous problem. In hordes normal children are being brainwashed into believing their elders that the world will end within their lifetimes.
As a result kids aren't just kids anymore. Everything that used to be "fun" is suddenly a "sin." We're busy thinking about heaven and our church before we hardly even had a chance to see the world, and we're waiting for the "world to end."
What a crock of sh**. I personally don't even want to go with Jesus if there is an apocolypse. I never was attracted to Christianity. Your parents shove it down your throats before you even have a chance to thin for yourselves. It's a religion created by old men, for old men, and against personal gain or women in general. Well, being an AMBITIOUS woman and a FEMINIST I want nothing to do with this faith. I know I'll be getting some violent attacks from all of you brainwashed little turds about how right you are and wrong I am, and I'll sit here and sigh and understand because you're in a box that you didn't necessarily put yourself in.
So here is my question- what makes you believe anyway?

hey there....first of all, I don't agree with you that kids today are realizing that they commit sins. I NEVER hear christian or catholics in my school ever talking about or waiting for "the end". Today we are so busy with wondering how we need to look better, how much we DONT have, and how other people are so lucky, that we don't realize our sins.
However, I am a muslim, and I try my best to follow the rules of Islam. Praying & reading quraan, (& staying away from alcohol, pre-marriage relationships, showing skin) do not prove that i'm a good muslim. I don't stop myself from committing sins because I have faith & I beleive, I beleive & have faith because there is someone who stops me from committing these sins. It's not my parents who control my mind, If I want I could go behind their back with every little sin in the world, & yes they would find out, but that doesn't mean they would stop me....* It's that beleif I have in my mind that there is a god, that is showing me the right way.

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Shannon again, i swear this is the last time im going to bother you. That was weird i was askin you because ali'z friend monty knew something which was really between ali and monty but i threatened monty to tell me:)Anywayz thanks for all your help!!!!!! And say Hi and sorry for me to Ali.
Salma A.K.A Shannon

hey shannon, no your not bothering me, dont worry. & yeah I've heard alot about ali's friend monty as well...though i've never personally talked to him or even seen him. Why dont you give ali a holler yourself? He does live around you & you guys know the same ppl....aight peace

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Hi, i was wondering if i have HIV/AIDS...this is the first time i did it(sex) and when my b/f went inside me,i felt pain and started to bleed,he told me that since i was a virgin i had to bleed please gimme some confirmation!!!!!

hey well you can test for hiv/aids at any local clinic, Its free, but you might have to have an adult with you if your under 18. I've read about hiv/aids though, and i've never read anything about pain when you contract the disease. Actually, you don't even know you have the disease the first six months, you should actually get tested for hiv/aids now, and then again after 6-8 months just to be sure. but hey, if you trusted your boyfriend enough to go that far with him before marriage, this is something you should've talked to him about right? You should've discussed with him whether or not he has aids/hiv. I highly recommend holding back on repeating your steps until after you get married but hey its your life, be safe.

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Hey its shannon again,thanks for the response,and i didnt mean he "crushed" a girl or something....he's very clean that i know i was saying that hes been in love with some girl for a year....juss thought id fix that up. Thats pretty cool how he's your cousin.Tell me one thing, IF he WASNT your cousin and i dont know if you go out or not but would you go out with him????I mean who wouldnt???Ive never heard anything bad bout him...just checking and thanks for the email
Salma A.K.A Shannon

hey again..lol..first of all, its weird your asking me this, but anyways,...considering the fact that I dont date and especially that, HES MY COUSIN, I surely wouldn't date him ...but thats a funny question...*

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nevermind,this is shannon again.....i dont need him i found someone else,i dont know if i already posted this but yeah im ok with it i have a new b/f and hes sweet too.....i wonder if ali ever found somebody?? I have a feeling you either know me or him??anywayz write back!!!
P.S. i didnt get a reply email from you...

salma A.K.A shannon

Hey again...well its good you found someone sweet, best wishes on that & yes Ali did find out about that....my sister told me that ali's friends told him that you liked him again but then it also reached him you have a new boyfriend. Oh and I emailed you back...*

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Hey!
Its shannon again.....nvermind,i dont need him i found someone else!:)I also heard from his friends that he's crushed on another girl for almost a year!!!Well thanks again on tryin to help me out!:)
Shannon

hey gurl...well im suprised you found someone so fast...& i dont know if hes crushed any girl for a year ...no prob.

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Hey!!!
i was wondering that if you knew how to get a boy back??? My name is shannon and i had boyfriend at centreville and i want him back!!! We broke up becuz i told him that i did it with someone else. But now i realize i love him alot,he is so nice and sweet even after we broke up.Anywayz i was hoping if you knew wut to do??? i really want him back,theres no guy on earth like him!!!!!!!!!

aNgElInNeEdOfhElP!!!!

HON- you need to email me at tayiba278@yahoo.com...or im me at tayibalcj278 ok? Shannon hon, i really need to talk to you...and i promise ill try my best to fix everything up for you.
by the way, you know rahul right? yeah you best hit me back...peace

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i was just wondering that you give so much advice on sex,love,relationships.........are you experienced with any of them???you seem like an expert!

haha...actually no...im just experienced with annually subscribing to magazines such as glamour...seventeen...allure...marie claire..& i read about different subjects in my free time...* I will get expereinced in that after i get married hopefully...till then its just me and my books!

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i was messaging my guy friend today and teasing him about liking this chick i know. (he used to like her) he's like "i dont like her. i like another girl but i know she doesn't like me." i was like "ooooh who is it? whats she like? how do you know she doesn't like you?" he wrote back "she's amazing and wonderful in every way. i know he doesn't like me... coz it's you, babe." i was like OMG i SO dont like him that way. what do i do???

Tell him you see him as a friend....he'll be more hurt if you tell him you like him....and he finds out later that you dont.

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My friend, we are really good friends, he told me that he likes me, more than a friend. I told 4 of my friends, when I wasnt supposed to tell anyone, but people have to find out someday. He got upset, so to make him feel better, i said i like him more than a friend too. But really, im not sure how I feel. Im really frustrated. I don't want to hurt his feelings...Please Help!!!
Ana

It's awful to say you like someone just because they like you....I know your just trying to keep him from being hurt, but eventually he will figure out that you don't feel the same way right? So just let him know that you see him as a friend...before it gets too out of hand.

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I have piano lessons and I love it. My mom says that im probably going to quit because I dont practice. But i do practice! She just never listens! I really really really dont want to quit Piano! Music is my life! I have an absolute passion for it! I LOVE music!
Ana

You should never quit a 'passion' because your mom doesnt like it....unless its dangerous or something, but yeah...keep playing...if you quit, you quit...if you dont...then dont. Tell her its your hobby and you love it....she'll understand...she's your mom.

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Ok, Recently i told this boy lets call him kyle i like him and i really have major feelings for him and he told me he has serious feelings for me we keep writing to eachother and flirting but i have a boyfriend... lets call him justin and kyle and justin sit at the same table at lunch and usually justin walks me to gym and he forgot about me and i forgot about him and is that a sign to break up with justin and go out with kyle? please help me i know this is confusing but i really need help! i'll rate high!

well if you have major feelings for kyle...then its not fair to justin, you or even kyle...because your doing justin wrong, your confusing yourself and your only giving kyle half of your feelings.

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ok well me and this guy have been going out for awhile..maybe like a year?well anyways the past fews days have been HORRIBLE!i thought i was going to break up with him but i relized that we were in love and i told one of my friends i MIGHT do it and she told him that i did and he was like what no one told me..?so yeah then later that night i called him and he told me and we talked and we told eachother we loved eachother and then hung up.well today things got worse. supposidly he called me a slut and a bitch.so we got into a HUGGE fight and i didnt know but he told my friend that he was confused if we were going out or not.So i thought i had broken up with him today.but it turns out i didnt and i still love him.but he asked one of my best friends out and she said yes.it turns out shes liked him the entire time we've gone out.he told me none of the stuff people have said is true, but we have broken up. Im okay with that but im afraid somethings going to happen and we aren't going to be friends.he means the world even if we arent going out and i cant afford to lose him.my friend who is goin out with him says she was in a hurry so she was just like yeah whatever when he got this girl to ask him out for her.one of my other friends said that the girl going out with him was hanging all over him.so im so confused and i dont want to lose him but i think i did.how can we work this out?

thanks ill rate high and please no mean comments this is serious to me!

Well if he did ever call you a name...then he's not even worth thinking about but if you didnt directly hear him say anything bad, and your friend is just telling you....I bet shes jealous and wants him because she went and told him about your thoughts before right?

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there is this guy i like that i send letters to but i was wondering should i ask him if he is single or would that be to rude of me?

Well you might as well find out if he has a gf or not...if he does and hes writing to you...what does that tell you about him?

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Why is there no more true love anymore??and if there is, when you claim you love someone and the other person doesnt love you back!

There is true love but the thing is, people go looking for love. True love happens when you aren't looking or expecting it....or when you give up on it....wait and see...maybe not today or tomarrow but one day you'll find your true love

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I am 15 and have been going out with the same guy for 4 years. I lost my virginity 2 him when I was 14. He is starting to act way to controlling and we have gotten into several fist fights and he forces me to have sex with him sometimes. I met a guy on the internet that lives 1700 miles away. We have been talking for a while and I think I am in love with him. Is it possible to love someone that far away? He also says he loves me back, and wants to meet. Thanks

Ok first of all, if he wanted you to lose your virginity at 14...sorry to break it to you but he doesnt really love you, and he hits you on top of that? And forces you to do it? You need to leave him and get someone who respects you...he doesnt love you unless he respects you, love IS respect & loyalty. Every other nice thing in the world fits under either loyalty or respect...* And loving someone on the internet? Well i dont believe in it but hey...anythings possible these days. be careful hon.

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Hey,
I was just wondering that if you tell a girl you like/love her and she accepts that and says i love you back,and the nextday or so she doesent know, does that mean she doesnt love you back???? Basically i had this happen to me and i wanna talk on that subject with her but im scared, i know that we spend ALOT more time together than we use to. And right im not trying to sound cute or anything, but i lover her alot i alwayz find some kind of reason to go to her house so i can just see her face. She probably thinks im some kind of pimp or sumthin but from the day i told her how i felt ive been attracted to her and only her. One of my friends told me she might just be playing and just leading me on with no where to go and other friends think that she likes me too but is scared to admit it. And i know im not like in my 20's(im 18) but im pretty sure imma love her all my life and will make her the happiest girl ever! So please help me out cuz imma be so happy if she loves me back and if not im just ruined,by the way i know shes a really nice girl and she could never have a 2 faced life....and remember ill do ANYTHING FOR HER....ANYTHING!

mysteriousnigga

um hey, ok if she said yes at first and then no, then obvioulsy that means she was just saying yes because she didnt want to hurt you but then realized that it'd be really wrong to just say you like someone because you dont want to hurt them. If she liked you, wouldnt she tell you? Why would she hide it from you, if she's sure you like her too? How do you even know that she doesnt have someone else in mind and that shes only "spending time" with you AS A FRIEND. These days alot of ppl think that just cause someones friends with you and laughs with you, that they like you...but you need to understand that today guys and girls can be friends and have no girlfriend/boyfriend feelings. I strongly recommend you move on, and dont think you will never love again....she may not be what you think she is.......it really isnt what it always seems....*

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I broke up with my BF at this dance we have in my city...this was only because he was dancing with other girls....(girl) and I was jealous, so I broke up with him, but I have been walking with him and I really really like him a LOTTT!!!!!!!!
what should I do???

why wasnt he dancing with you? and if you dont like him dancing with other girls you should tell him that, if he still wants to, tell him "fine....you can have dem.." .. if he doesnt want to respect how you feel....then he doesnt respect you

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my mom is sick with breast cancer and bone cancer and 3 brain tumors.....i kno thats bad but shes in remission now and doing really well...but for some reason no matta how much i spend time with her she keeps telling me to stay with her.....no i can see when she was really sick and wantin to spend time wit me but she betta now....and this is cutting into my skool work and social life...i told her i cant spend every second wit her but the she told me that i dont respect her and that i hurt her feelings....now everytime i go to my friends house i feel bad....what do i do to tell her i need my space (i've tried sendin her flowers,and cards)--(doesnt work) help me out !PLEASE!

Parents are the most important thing in life...they gave you life! Spend as much time you can with her....because as bad as it sounds...and as geeky as it sounds or watever...they arent always going to there.
You can chill with your friends and go party later....stay with your mother for now...she needs you for a reason...she wants you there for a reason...you may not understand it....but just beleive it. Your mom wants to be with you....so give her that much.

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ok ima 15 yr old female and i need sum relationship adivice..me and my exbf chris dated for 4months. i kno that its not a long time at all but we were totally in love. i was his first true love and i was his. we had a long distance relationship and didnt see eachother often but it was all ok bc we were totally in love and realli wanted to be together. well we broke up at the end of august and we talked up until like sept 10th...then sumthing changed and i dont even kno wut. i mean i will always love chris but i do not want to get back wif him bc i cant deal wif the long distance realtionshiop but i do NEED him as a part of my life. stuff has been goin down hill for me since we broke up and i keep gettin worse and worse and i dont kno wut to do anymore. chris was like my angel. without having him as a part of my life it seems kind of pointless. i dont kno wut to do i either have to forget about him and i dont kno how to do that when everything reminds me of him or i have to get him back in my life...and i dont think i have the guts to do that. i just dont kno wut to do anymore htis has been goin on since september and i hate the way i am...im a total emotional wreck and i cant take it anymore..

Yeah its really tough for girls especialy when they breakup with their boyfriends. Think of it this way - you and chris werent meant to be with eachother, if you were meant to be together, YOU'D BE TOGETHER.Everything happens for a reason, and the reason you met chris was so that you could have memories of him...not be with him. You will find a guy who you will love even more than chris...and you guys will be meant for eachother! Just wait for that special guy....and let the past be in your memories....not to make you cry...but to make you smile*

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