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i know it sounds so stupid, but the littlist things like facebook are different. he used to always comment on pictures of us or comment on my facebook, but now its like he only comments on his friend's stuff. i try so hard just to get him to leave one fricken comment. i know its ridiculous and everything but it just eats me up. i tag him in so many pictures and he never says a thing about them. but as soon as his friends tag him in a picture with them he'll say something. it just makes me feel like i just annoy him and he just cares about his friends. and yes i talked to him about it. nothing came out of it. just the same thing. (link)
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It is stupid. You are being ridiculous. You see your boyfriend outside of FB all the time! He can SAY the things to you that he would normally comment on in FB land. Gosh, when I read the subject line I thought you were going to say something about how he won't touch you anymore or call you or doesn't want to be around you. He doesn't comment on FB pictures?! Honey, FB is a website. You should be more worried about what he does when you're together than what he says on a computer. Get over it and go apologize to him for being so petty. I'm sure he would appreciate it.
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im a female andd i turn 17 in two weeks.this guy from my work whos 22 recently told me how much he likes me. which happens to be alot. since i started working with him weve always flirted alot and i just thought of it as flirting and am always constantly reminding myself he doesnt like me im too young etc. but now its much more complicated and my mom would not approve of us dating. he also says i remind him soo much of the first and only girl hes been in love with wouldnt that cause problems for us since im definatly not her? (link)
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I think the age difference is not the biggest problem.You should be worried that he says you remind him of his ex. That's a bit creepy and tells me that he doesn't see you as YOU... he sees you as a representation of someone else who was important in his life. I don't think he is TRYING to be creepy about it, but in the end, it can't work when the other person is always comparing you to someone else. You'll never live up to her and that's even more worrying than the age difference. That being said, there IS a big difference between 17 and 22, even though its only 5 years. So just keep that in mind as well. I think you should just keep this relationship right where it is - a flirtation. Anything else is going to get messy, and you don't need that in your life right now.
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So I've been crushing on this guy since my freshman year in high school when he was a senior (I'm a freshman in college now). We're finally talking now and he wants to hangout and like 99% sure he wants to hookup. I don't wanna mess things up though, I want to be more to him then just a hookup but I don't want him to stop talking to me. I've heard from people that he's really sweet. But then again I'm so attracted to him so it might be hard to pull away if he tries to do something. What should i do? (link)
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This is an easy one. Don't hook up. If you want to be a sex object, have sex with him. If you want him to get to know you then hang out with him and make it known (through actions and attitude, not necessarily words) that you respect yourself too much to be used. If you want to be seen as different from the other girls, you have to act different. Good luck.
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My parents have been married for 31 years. My Dad is a jerk, cheated on my mom several times early in the marriage, was an alcoholic & is now just plain mean to my mom. He treates her like a slave. My dad has been going outside on the patio, smoking cigars & playing online poker/games for over 2 years now. Just recently my sister & I were sitting on the sofa watching TV. She turned around & saw that my dad had a small window up with porn on it. My mom is a Christian & they both go to church. I KNOW she wont be okay with this especially because she meets all of his "physical needs" when every he wants. I have been very convicted about this & think I should tell her. Please give me your advice. Thanks. (link)
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Your mom probably does know, or at the very least, it wouldn't surprise her to know. Ask yourself what you hope will happen by telling her? What will she do? Leave your Dad? Make him stop? Probably not... she's been there after all this time, she's probably not going anywhere. If you feel like you have to tell her, just because you need to ask her about it and why she puts up with it, fine. But if you are thinking its going to change how she deals with your dad, you're probably going to be disappointed. If you have any kind of relationship with your dad, and you are not afraid of him in some way, tell HIM what you saw, and that it creeped you out. But telling mom probably won't change things at all. Sounds like you should be start making plans now to get out of that house and on your own as soon as you are able or old enough. Sounds like a whole bunch of stress that is unfair, and that you don't need.
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Hi,
I'm a senior guy in college studying business and I'm only a couple months from graduating. I feel a huge amount of stress to go out find a job and start a career but I have no idea how to go about doing it. I live in the northwest of the US and want to move somewhere new. Also I am currently living with my parents and feel a huge urgency to get out of the house and on my own as soon as possible.
I also love to travel so I'm also looking into possibly teaching English overseas or something like that. I am proactive and outgoing and so I already have some interviews with companies but I'm so confused I don't know who I even wanna work for even if one wanted to hire me. I feel like I have no time to think cause I have a part time job as well as going to school.
I've already talked about it with friends and family but I feel like sometimes they just give me answers they think I wanna hear so that's why I decided to post up a question here.
My question is should I focus on trying to get a job overseas teaching English, or should I try to get a job here in the states? Also if I try and get a job in the states what's the best way of trying to get a job somewhere else in another state?
Any advice for my situation is greatly appreciated. Thanks (link)
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Your entire future does not need to be decided in the next few months! if you have a heart to teach overseas, by all means, pursue it! You can't know what you want if you don't try some things first. As long as you can support yourself, I see nothing wrong with getting out there and testing the waters for a few years.
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Or are they confused? What can I do? My son thinks he is going to hell, I believe god loves us all. I don't know what verse in the bible will be helpful. Anything you have will help. (link)
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check out this website....
http://livehope.org
They deal with issues like this. Click on the 'resources' tab to link to all kinds of articles, stories and testimonies written by people who have gone through this same situation. There is even support there for parents of gays or those struggling with same sex attraction, like your son is. And there are all types of bible references and testimonies that you can share with your son that will help assure him of God's love for him, no matter what his questions or struggles are. I promise, you WILL find something of value there, and so will your son. He is blessed to have such a caring and concerned mother.
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19/f
I've been having a lot of personal issues lately. When I was 18, I moved out of my house, and now that I am almost 20, I have moved back in with my dad. A lot of things have been happening that made me decide to move back here, and it was a really hard to decision that ultimately ended my relationship with my boyfriend. Anyways, we have been broken up for 2 weeks (maybe less, I forget because I'm in a fog) and he already likes someone else. I am fine with him having friends and doing what he needs to to get over our break-up because it was definitely a shock to him, but it hurts my feelings as well. 2 weeks ago he told me he loved me and wanted to try and work this out, and now all of a sudden he likes another girl. Am I wrong to be upset by this? If it was longer than 2 weeks, I probably wouldn't care so much but I'm really hurt and I don't know if I have the right to be since we are both adults and can do as we please.
I really want to continue to be his friend, but now that this has come up it makes me feel weird and now I don't like him as a person. Am I in the wrong? Is he? Should I just get over it?
Thanks in advance. (link)
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No, you are not wrong to feel hurt. No matter what the circumstances of the break up were, the fact that he seems to have moved on so quickly naturally makes you wonder if what you had was real at all. Anybody would feel that way. That being said, don't be so sure he's "moved on". Its different for guys. We women retreat when we are in emotional pain. Men seek out things to mask the pain. He may just be trying to forget about the pain of your break up by covering it up with a new girl - the rebound girl. That's pretty common, actually. And I don't believe that you don't really like him as a person. I think you are hurt, and that is coloring your feelings for him. I believe one day you will be able to be friends again, but considering that you have just ended a pretty significant relationship, its best to break off communication for a while and go your separate ways. Its unfair to expect him (and you) to heal and move on when you can't even get away from the sight or sound of each other for any serious amount of time. I know its not what you want, but you need to back away from this relationship for right now. Let him do whatever it is he needs to do to heal, and you do the same. And when the fog lifts and you can think more clearly, only THEN will you be in a position to pursue a genuine friendship. Being friends right now is unrealistic. Give yourself a chance to mend. It may seem impossible right now, but it WILL happen, I promise. Good luck.
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how far up the vagina is the cherry? (link)
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The 'cherry' you're asking about is actually called the hymen, and it is a thin layer of skin that stretches across the entrance to the vaginal tubes. Its quite close to the opening and it is very easy to break. Most women have already broken their hymens by the time they become sexually active. It can happen from exercise or other activity, using tampons or riding bikes. Its common.
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I really love my husband but i keep having these thoughts what it would be like with out him we have a lot of problems and then again i feel like i do not have a good enough reason to leave him. our problems are i feel he yells at my son (his step son) to often and over stupid stuff if i correct him my husband throws a fit saying you are always telling him the oppisite, he is constatly trading and selling dogs, he hasnt had a job longer than a week since i have known him, his last real job was in like 2008 sometime, around the house i can not get him to do anything, if i ask him to do anything its days before he will do it and i ask him why its not done he says why do i have to jump up and do it. if i start to do it then hell get up. we had split up because i had surgery and he refused to help me i had to take care of my two kids and my self a day after i had surgery well while i stayed at my dads he gave my furniture away for a dog, all my dished and stuff are gone i have nothing any more and he doesnt seem to care. the furniture i am upset about i am still paying on them almost 3 grand i still own and he wont help me get them back and he still talks and hangs out with the people like nothing is wrong. sometimes i cant even think of the good things. its just once in a while he has good times were hell straighten up a little of offer to take my son with him to the store something like that. sorry so long. (link)
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Get counseling together or leave. As I see it those are your only options in order to keep from going insane. Or leave and THEN get counseling... you've made a poor choice for a partner. Its time to make some good choices, for you and your children. And remember, the right choices are rarely the easy choices.
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ok my friend is bein a real douchewad lately ,saying i dont care about my soul just because im agnostic and hes christian and all kind of other stuff with my girlfriend and how he hates her and one of my friends whose bisexual got made fun of by him and this is all of the sudden and he never acted like this and if he keeps it up i might have to give him one good hit to the face to snap him out of it and should i even be friends with him even after he apologized cuz im pretty sure hes gonna do it again but i can tell he really is sorry but he might not be able to help himself...so i need advice (link)
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Tell him he's doing a TERRIBLE job of representing the love and forgiveness of God, and he might be the only "Bible" you ever read, so maybe he should represent Christianity with a little more respect, or risk driving people like you away. Then leave him alone. He'll tone it down after a while, I'm pretty sure.
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so call me stupid, but I met up with this guy I met online a few days ago who I actually have mutual friends with and who lives a town over. He was sweet and bought me coffee and we walked around and talked for a while, getting to know each other. Until I stupidly obliged to go to his house with him (even though his parents were home -he's 20 almost 21 by the way, I'm 19). we just hung out for a while until he put it in a movie and that's where things took a turn...I had actually never even been kissed before (yeah, at 19) and obviously also never done anything else. well, we kissed, and did more.. we didn't have sex, which I'm glad we didn't, but I know he wouldve gladly wanted to. he's not a virgin and really experienced.
he keeps texting me now asking to hang out again, but my gut is telling me I shouldn't. He was nice and sweet, and had a cool personality but I wasn't really that attracted to him and the fact that the majority of our little date was sexual gives me a bad idea of what would happen at the next date.. this leaves me confused though because he was my first kiss and whatnot and if I don't see him again then I'm just another girl and he's just a random hookup.
there were times where things were cute- we were just cuddling on the couch and he'd be like "I like this" leading me to believe a relationship could form out of it.. but I don't know if I even want a relationship. let alone with him.
I'm confused. I feel like this was a bad idea to even meet up with him in the first place. I don't regret the fact that he was my first kiss, but I just don't know what to do or say to him now cause I don't think I want to see him again. help? (link)
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Follow your instincts. Back off this one. Believe me, when its the right person, you won't even question wanting to be with them. The mere fact that you are conflicted about this says he's not the right one for now. Next time he asks you to hang out tell him you think he's cool but you realize you're not ready to be with anyone in that way right now. Apologize for sending the wrong message and politely say goodbye. You shouldn't feel too bad about all of this, but take it as a lesson learned. Until you're confident enough about yourself and own sexual desires, stay away from the one on one cuddle time with guys. That way you won't get yourself into a situation in which you are afraid to say no, or don't know how. This is just how it goes when you're dating. Sometimes you can't get around hurting feelings. So just be as nice as you can and let him take it however he wants
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Hi. My husband and I had a baby in 1998. She died at five days old and never made it home from the hospital (long story). We had another pregnancy in 2004, but he died at 5 months gestation. We aren't able to try again. The hospital took photos of our daughter after she died as a keepsake. They were very caring. We sent a photo later to my parents and in-laws and have one framed at home. My mother displays Katie's photo very prominently, and for some reason this doesn't feel right, especially after so many years. Katie's face is greyblue and it reminds me of her last day and our pain, and I just can't look at it. I keep my copy where I can look if I have the urge, but I just couldn't keep it out where I'd see it all the time. I think Mom has hers out as a tribute, but it feels like time to put it away and replace it with a photo of another, living grandchild. Should I ask her to remove it or do you think this is still appropriate in her home? Thanks! (link)
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I think you should tell her about the pain you feel whenever you look at it. Wether she takes it down or not should be her decision, but I would hope, as your mother, that she would see and understand your pain, and at least accommodate your wishes while you are visiting. Maybe it would help to prepare a special scrapbook or something to display the picture in, something that can easily be closed and stored in a drawer or other handy place. And encourage your mother to find other way's to celebrate Katie's life - perhaps a special plant, tree or rosebush in the yard or a lovely vase or painting that reminds her of her precious grandchild. Something that has meaning without the shock of the picture. I'm very sorry for your losses and your pain. In the end, as I'm sure you've already discovered, your family is what is the most important element in healing (or one of, anyway). I hope that you'll be able to have an honest discussion with your mother about this. Good luck!
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13/F ok so I have a grandmother that loves to watch old movies on Tcm and I am at her house a lot and so I always have to watch them. Well over the time I have learned to really like them. Well the other day, I watched this Elvis movie, and I liked it well sinse then I have been renting his movies and I litteraly have became obsessed! I know this sounds wierd but I really like him lol like a lot of people did but like for example it is really late at night like right now and It we just had a snow storm two days ago and the roads are all ice and stuff but I can't stop talking about him alllll the time and I was upset cuz I finished the movie I got today and I didn't have anymore so my mom made my dad go out and get another one of his movies in the night on icy roads, haha:P and like all the time I talk about it and ask questions about him. So basicaly I'm wondering do you think that its wierd for me to like him and do you think my parents can tell, because I don't want them too! haha please help. Thanks(: (link)
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No! Elvis was one of the best! If anything it will make you more interesting and unique. He is a piece of American history and by watching his movies, you are actually learning about an important time in this country. I bet a lot of your friends know nothing about it. Good for you. Enjoy!
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I had been going out with a guy for approximately two years, waaaaay back in 2009. For our one year anniversary, he gave me a beautiful gold ring with an emerald stone as a promise ring, for me to keep until we were ready to get hitched in the future. Well, basically, things didn't work out, and I gave him the ring back because I felt awkward. May I note, I wore this ring for an ENTIRE year. Religiously. I thought it was the most beautiful thing that I had ever seen, back then. Anyways, he told me the next day that he was probably going to throw it into a river, and we never spoke of it since.
About one year ago, he got a new girlfriend, who just happened to be one of my best friends. Me and him attempted to be platonic friends, but it was impossible; he revealed after a few weeks that basically he couldn't stand me anymore and never wanted anything to do with me again. I obliged, and haven't spoken to him since that day.
Today, at school, I saw her talking animatedly about her one-year anniversary with this guy. Lo-and-behold, on her pointer finger, sat a gold ring with a green emerald stone. The same. Frigging. One.
I couldn't contain my emotions and walked off. I was so appalled by the fact that he had given my 'promise' ring (although it was pretty much void now) to a girl he claims to love more than life. I find this not only offensive to me, but a horrible way to treat my best friend, whom has been head over heels for this guy in ways that I can't even describe. She obviously has no idea that the ring used to be mine; she's under the impression that he bought it for her as a present.
Should I tell her that it was my ring? Or should I confront him about it? May I note, we have barely spoken in months, and he openly glares at me whenever I attempt to make eye contact. So communication will be ANYTHING but peaceful.
...help? (link)
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OMGosh! Yeah, that is sooooooo tacky! Wow. You should tell your friend. I think. I think I would want to know, even though it would hurt me at first. I mean, can you imagine how embarrassing it would be to have this beautiful ring and be showing it to friends and family, and the whole time its just recycled from the ex? Creepy. The issue is, how should you tell her? You don't want to come off as jealous. I agree that you have a right to feel hurt, even though its been over for a while. But you don't want that hurt to come across when you talk to her. Pick a time when you are together and nothing is going on. A time of peace. Just when you're hanging out or waiting for something. Then tell her, calmly, that you saw her ring and you weren't sure if she knew already, but her boyfriend gave that ring to you first, on your one year anniversary. Tell her you thought about it for a while, and hesitated to tell her because you didn't want to cause trouble, but the more you thought about it, the more you thought you'd want to know if it was you. be prepared for ANYTHING. She may blow up at you, she may cry, she may thank you. Whatever happens, its important that you don't react in anger. You can imagine this is going to be hard for her to hear. If she gets angry, back off and say you weren't trying to cause problems and apologize. Then leave it alone. Whatever she decides to do with the information, that's her business, even if she just wants to pretend she never heard it. No matter what, you can bet she'll be thinking about what you say for quite a while. And don't bother with the ex. Once you tell your friend he's gonna know, and hopefully he'll feel like the giant a-hole he sounds like he is. Let that be your revenge. Good luck.
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Hey all!
Im sixteen..i have a huge dream of making it big in acting! Ive been serious about this for 6 years,its all i want to do. I literally cant imagine myself doing anything else. Demi.L..SelenaG..Mileycyrus.. Are my idols! I always watch disney channel imagining myself there! its my only dream.But Most people,,even my family! Say that im too old! Am i ? is sixteen really that old to do acting? Like this sounds sad! But its true, i cant even watch tv/disney channel without crying. i just literally watching sonny with a chance, or hannah montana or wizards, and i just begin crying because III wanna be in that position. It depresses me.
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Well, yeah, you're probably too old to be a Disney star. Those kids start young and are already out the door and on to other things by the time they are your age. But you're NEVER too old to pursue a career in acting, or anything else. You just have to put in the work. It might look like those kids on Disney have it easy, but trust me, they work. A LOT. So figure out what you can do to start pursuing your dream. Take a class. Seek out other people who are doing it and get their advice. Whatever your passion is, go for it. Just make sure you know what IT is.
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Im 18/f and I've been dating my boyfriend for a few months. I still live at home with my parents because Im a Senior in highschool. I have a job, and I've always made good grades.
What I don't understand is my parents. They say I need to learn how to make decisions on my own, and take responsibilty and what not, and I try. They don't let me. For my 18th birthday, my mom let me get a Hotel room with my boyfriend; (my dad didn't know he was staying) and for New Years, BOTH of my parents knew I was stayin at a Hotel with my boyfriend, ONLY. They didn't care.
Well, my boyfriends mom recently asked me if I would be allowed to stay the night; and when I asked my parents, they didn't even hear me out, they said NO immediately. It doesn't make any sense. They will let me stay at a hotel with NO adult, but not at his house or my house WITH adults there. Im 18 years old. I want to be treated like an adult, so I'll be somewhat prepared for when IM on my own. What should I do to make them see it from my point of view? I see it from theres because they don't want me to get knocked up or whatever, but Im not. Im smarter than that. My life is about to begin, im not going to screw it up now. I know the real world isn't easy, But I'd rather get just a lil taste of it now, than go head first, on my own, clueless, ya know?
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You're right. It doesn't make sense.
As a mother I'm guessing that your mom thought she was being an understanding 'friend' to you by letting you get a hotel (I have a feeling your dad wasn't really excited about the new year hotel, but mom convinced him), but after new year, they both started having second thoughts. When you came to them to stay over at your bf's place, they probably realized that they had started a trend, and now they're backtracking. Its not fair and its not right. They really should have NEVER let you get a hotel in the first place. Now they've changed the rules on you and that isn't helpful at all. You need to sit down and talk with them. tell them just what you said here. You don't understand why they were ok with it before, but not now. And try to understand where they are coming from. Its not that they don't trust YOU, its just they don't trust other people that may be around you. Sit down with them and see if you can work out a plan that will help you feel more independent and help them worry less about your safety. But keep in mind, as long as you live in their house you will never really be able to be fully independent. Their house, their rules, so do your best to get out there on your own as soon as you can, so you can really start making your own decisions, and dealing with the consequences on your own, as an adult.
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Im 18/f and I'm 5'1, 172 lbs.
Yesterday I noticed that my Vagina had a BO odor to it. I don't know why it smells like that, maybe because Im over-weight? Its done this a couple of times before, but not as bad as this time. I took a bath yesterday, and than put on some leggins with no underwear to wear with a shirt of mine; I took a bath this morning as well, and so far no smell.
Im just nervous because what if my boyfriend goes down on me, and it smells like that and it turns him off? Any ideas on what to do to cure the smell?
*And it doesn't smell like its coming directly from my vagina. It smells like its the crease between my legs and vagina? (link)
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This sounds like a BO problem, not a vagina problem. As you say, you are a bit over-weight, so sometimes its hard for some areas to get aired out. I know it sounds dumb, but sometimes I put deodorant in the places on my body that sweat a lot, like under my breasts, or under a little fat roll on my tummy. If you use it in the "creases" down there, be sure to NOT put it directly on the vagina. just use it on your legs/thighs and just a little. Another thing is baby powder/talcum powder. The problem is moisture, so anything you can do to keep it as dry as possible will help. Change underwear often. DO wear underwear, because they will absorb the moisture. You don't want your pants doing that. Stay clean and be sure to wash regularly.
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I have been on the pill for about 2 months, i forgot to take it one day, took it the next, with the pill corresponding that day too.. Had sexual relantionship with my boyfriend, and i have been having this brown liquid for 10 days or something like that, my period was suppose to come 10 days ago too, and i am getting really nervous about the whole situation as i have read this could mean i am pregnant, I am going to be 18 in 3 months, and I'm basically terrified this could be it.. PLEASE HELP ME OUT, if this has happened to anyone.. or you know anything about it. I am from Spain. (link)
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Normal discharge. That's all. You are perfectly normal! lol
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I have been living with some very close friends I consider family for the past year,
under a verbal agreement of $200/month for my room and $100/ month for my horse to stay in the pasture they have behind the house along with their horses.
Long story short, I lost my job an was unable to pay the full amount every month.
I still made payments to them every month ranging bettween 100- 325. I decided since I owe them money(about 2000 all together)I would sell
my saddle for $750 and my horse for $3000 to pay my debt. I have since moved out of their house so not to accrue anymore debt. A few days ago they
called me and told me they were putting a lien on my saddle, and that they will do the selling of it.(after I had made flyers and listed it on ebay) They also
instructed me that I still owed the full $2000 and that my horses board would be costing an extra $100 a month. Then today I recieved a call from them saying that
they have a "partial lien" on my horse.( no legal paper work has been filed for any of this). Also that if anyone is to come look at the horse that is still for sale
they must be there and the horse may not leave the property to be tryed out by potential customers. If the horse does need to leave the property to be tried out
I will have to pay for them to ship it. I offered them my horse in exchange for my debt. They said they did not want the horse. They "dont think it is even worth $2000, but are thinking about
getting it appraised and having me pay for it" ( which I know they really can't do)
I feel as though I am in an impossible situation to liquidate the only assets I have to pay off my debt, when they are being
withheld from me by the people I owe. I dont want this to escalate anymore than it has. Any advice would be appreciated.
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These are friends? Gee, with friends like that, who needs enemies? I wonder if there is more to this story. However, since there is no way for me know, I can only tell you what I know. I am a homeowner and I rent the property, so I've had just a little experience with situations like this. 1. Since you have no written agreement, they have no legal standing to hold your things. They are still yours. 2. Did you leave the horse there when you left (sounds like you went far away)? If so, they do have a right to ask for boarding expenses. And any expenses pertaining to selling the horse should be yours to bear. It IS your horse. You say you are still making payments. That's good. Listen, this is a good lesson in personal economics. ALWAYS have a written agreement when it comes to financial exchanges, no matter how close you are with the other party. Because things happen and then feelings get hurt. I think you need to have an open discussion with these people. I can't be sure, but it sounds to me like you took off when things got weird (thinking you'd ease the burden on you AND your friends) and they felt like you were abandoning your promises. Maybe you haven't been clear enough about your situation. You have to make it clear that you intend to pay your debts and take care of your responsibilities. So the FIRST thing you need to do is to write out a simple contract stating the amount you will pay toward your debt each month, and when that payment will be sent. It can be as simple as you writing it out on a piece of paper and signing it. Nothing fancy, but its binding if you sign it and send it through the mail. Then honor it. You'll also have to add in the boarding expenses. The other thing you need to do is have the horse appraised. So make arrangements (it IS your expense, they are right about that) and find out how much it is worth. Once you know, you can see if you can make an exchange for it on your debt, at least to pay down part of it, if not all of it. The real point is, even though you fell on hard times, you still had an obligation to meet the promises you made to your friends. Their attitudes make me wonder if you maybe left them with the impression that you were taking advantage of their kindness. Since they were the ones who helped you in the first place, it is your responsibility to set this right. I think a nice note or phone call explaining that to them and apologizing for anything you've done to lose their trust would go a long way to easing their minds and giving you a little time to get it together. Its hard times for everyone. They may seem like they are doing fine, financially, but they may actually be making it month to month like everyone else, and the help they offered you may now be a burden to them. If things get worse, find a lawyer, but I do believe you can take care of this yourself with a little hard work and self-awareness. Good luck.
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So, I had this band teacher in jr high. Everyone thought something was going on between us but I was 13, 14, 15 when I had him and he was 22, 23, 24 so it was an unlikely thought. People thought this because he would bail me out of classes that I didn't want to go to. He would also bail me out of the class before the class I had a test in so he would help me study in his office, he would always call me my first and last name, never just my first. He would also let me call him by his first name but when someone else did, he told them it wasn't okay. One time I had gotten a musical part down that I have been practicing a while and in lessons, it was me, the teacher and my friend, my teacher and I sat next to eachother while my friend sat 3 seats away, so when I got this part down I had accidentally smacked his thigh and he didn't make my move my hand. Now, I am 16, a junior in high school and I visited this teacher today who is now 25. He was by far my favorite teacher, I always felt so close to him and I relate to him so well. My friend walked into his office and said she had a late christmas present for him and a few minutes later she asked how he liked his present and he said "I love my fantastic present." When we talked, we looked into eachother's eyes, he took my phone out of my hand and when our hands touched, he lingered there for a minute. He also didn't pay much attention to my friend who was in there with me. We hugged when I left, he asked how I got to see him and when I told him I walked he said he felt very honored that I walked through the cold for him. He said he missed me a lot and he said his door is always open, I can visit whenever I want. I told him I will come back and my friend said his face brightened up so much. I wouldn't mind being with him.. I mean, he's cute haha but I won't pursue it. I just wrote this to see if we're attracted to eachother and to see if we are maybe over the student teacher boundary. Please don't answer and tell me I'm wrong or a bad person, just tell me what you think of the boundries. Thanks. (link)
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I'm with Raz on this one. Your questions are starting to look creepy and I don't know if you're just young, or if its something more serious. Regardless, back off from this ASAP. Not only can you get yourself in a lot of trouble, you can get HIM in SERIOUS trouble. Give up the fantasy of the two of you and don't spend any more time alone with him, before something you never saw coming happens.
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