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older guy at work likes me
im a female andd i turn 17 in two weeks.this guy from my work whos 22 recently told me how much he likes me. which happens to be alot. since i started working with him weve always flirted alot and i just thought of it as flirting and am always constantly reminding myself he doesnt like me im too young etc. but now its much more complicated and my mom would not approve of us dating. he also says i remind him soo much of the first and only girl hes been in love with wouldnt that cause problems for us since im definatly not her?
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I agree that it's too big of an age difference---but wait: tell him you would like to take it slow for a while until your a little older, and you are mature enough to have such an age difference. Tell him that you feel the same way, so you'll be an unofficial couple for a little while. If this doesn't work, tell him that your mom wouldn't be happy if you dated someone that much older than you. Be open to possibilities of younger guys liking you, and that you want to take it slow in your teens. Relationships are big sacrifices that sometimes you should date younger guys, that can relate to you more. Don't pick the first guy that says he has a crush on you. There's plenty of fish in the sea..if he gets mad at you for speaking your mind in a gentle way, then he's not understanding enough to be the one for you. Good Luck! I hope this helps. rate me if you want:)
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I think the age difference is not the biggest problem.You should be worried that he says you remind him of his ex. That's a bit creepy and tells me that he doesn't see you as YOU... he sees you as a representation of someone else who was important in his life. I don't think he is TRYING to be creepy about it, but in the end, it can't work when the other person is always comparing you to someone else. You'll never live up to her and that's even more worrying than the age difference. That being said, there IS a big difference between 17 and 22, even though its only 5 years. So just keep that in mind as well. I think you should just keep this relationship right where it is - a flirtation. Anything else is going to get messy, and you don't need that in your life right now.
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