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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.

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Here is my Recommended Columnist of the Decade for the 2020s:
Laura!

--Jack

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Hey! I wanna take a shower with my boyfriend before he leaves for college.. how can i hint him into it? i don't like being too straight forward.

If you're not forward, how is he going to know you want to do it?

Guys HATE when girls try to give them hints for things, because they could interpret it wrong.

But, if you say, "Want to take a shower with me?", there's really no question as to what you want to happen.

Communication is a part of relationships, and if you can't do it now, what makes you think you're going to be able to do it when you're in a more serious relationship?

--Jack
(17/m)

ok,so my brother finger me ...I'm not sure if he touched in penis..were he could have touch cum//I have missed my period i'm 2 weeks late.Is it just me stressing..Or my period has skipped this month///Or am i pregnet.. i do have a the flue..Does this have anything to do with it..I keep stresing to make sure my tummy isent growing please helpp

Chloe//
Austrlia

If you stop stressing out, then you might get your period.

But, as far as I'm concerned, that was incest, and I'm fairly certain it's illegal where you come from, but I could be mistaken.

Talk to your parents.

--Jack
(17/m)

I have kinda had finger sex with myself before but I haven't gotten my first period yet. will I still get it? I'm 13 years old

All girls have a period. You'll get it soon.

Fingering yourself has nothing to do with when it starts.

--Jack
(17/m)

how can you tell if a boy likes you

Laura (LOL_x0x) stole my list [it's ok, because I told her she could], but here's a basic rule:

If the guy takes the time to be around you, he probably likes you. And, if you're suspicious at that point, you're probably right, because you're probably seeing things he's doing that might make you think he likes you.

Talk to him, though, to be sure. He might be really forward and just admit it.

--Jack
(17/m)

I gave my boyfriend a handjob and he cummed and i wipped it off but i didnt wash it and about 40 minutes later i masterbated... can i be pregnant?

The chances are slim. If you wiped it off, it is probably all gone.

Next time, wash your hands.

Be smart.

--Jack
(17/m)

Why is it that this is turning into a site for just teenagers? All they know about is boys, and sex, and makeup, and periods, and discharge, and tampons,etc. Why aren't there more sensible people here?

Why aren't there more sensible people here?

THERE ARE. Open your eyes. There are plenty of people on this site who are very sensible and very mature. Check out the "Browse Columnists" page. At least half of those people are very respectable teenagers.

Why are there a lot of the crap questions on this site? I've been on here for three and a half years, and there's ALWAYS been the crap questions. But just because the questions are bad doesn't mean the columnists are. You can't judge the ENTIRE site based off of a few questions. That is ignorant and flat out stupid.

Do I know about sex? Heck no. Do I know about makeup? Uhm, no. Do I know about periods? No. Do I know about discharge? No. Do I know about tampons? No.

Mostly I don't know about them because I'm a guy, but my point is, that's not all teenagers know. I know a lot of things. Like Chemistry, Biology, Physics, Literature, Spanish, History, Religion, Technology, Calculus, Algebra, Trigonometry, Geometry, Journalism, and a whole array of other subjects that have nothing to do with these stereotypical topics you think teenagers know about, and nothing else.

You are ignorant. Rate me a 1. I don't care. If you took the time to actually explore the site, you would realize that there are meaningful questions asked ALL the time, there are many mature teenagers, and there are so many things other than your blurred view of the site.

--Jack
(17/m)

okay, me n my boyfriend were at the movies and i gave him a hand job and he came. then after he came, he went to the bathroom and washed off his hands and dried them, then he came back, it must've been about 4/5 minutes. then when he came back, he fingered me. is there a possibility that i could be pregnant?

If he washed his hands, then the chances are low.

WAIT A TICK.

You did this all at the... movies..?

Ew.

--Jack
(17/m)

is pot and weed the same thing?

Unfortunately, yes.

--Jack
(17/m)

Do guys like it when girls play hard yo get or a chick thats shy or a chick that is straight up with her feelings for you??

im so damn confussed... cause i like guys and im always looking for someone to be with...most of them have been jerks...
im asking this question cause theres this guy i really like and i dont know what to do any more...

PLEASE HELP!!!

im so confused..............

Guys hate when girls play hard to get. It's super annoying.

Don't do it.

--Jack
(17/m)

how do you get the breast bigger naturally,food,exercise

Nothing you say or do is going to make them grow more than they are supposed to, except surgery.

Your genetics determine how big they get. Unless you put a bunch of fat on your body, and some goes to your breasts, then it's not going to happen. And you probably don't want to put on weight throughout your body just to get bigger breasts.

--Jack
(17/m)

hi i am 17 and my boyfriend and i have been going out for 1 year and i really love him i know he is the one for me. i have never been so sure but there has been girls that he has been talking about and girls that work at the store that he goes out of his way to go get something there. i am a very jelous person and i have this incredible heavy gut feeling that he is cheating on me what do i do?

Ask him. Sure, he might lie to you, but going off of what other people say or "instinct" isn't 100% effective.

Communication with your boyfriend is the only way you're going to figure it out.

--Jack
(17/m)

and im in love with him, like madly in love with him. we dated for 5 months and he broke up with me. i had problems between him and my dad, my dad couldnt stand him and all that crap. and he said we needed a break. so i cryed and yeah, i was at my friends house when it happened. and the next day i hooked up with his bestfriend, i was not thinking at all. i totally ruined the chances with him again. he waas so upset and i felt terrible.

he had a bestfriend, and it was a girl, and they were bestfriends for a long time, i mean i didnt even have a big problem with her going over hhis house and stuff cuz i trusted both of them. a few weeks later.. they hooked up and "knew it was love." they started going out and hiding it from me and ugh i found out and i cryed so hard. and i still do ! the problem is .. I CANT GET OVER HIM ! its been months ! ive had boyfriends after him but no one is good like him, and i just wanna be with him ! me and her are not cool AT ALL. and always saying shit back and forth. they have a breaking up and getting back together thing going on right now. and i still talk to him, and everytime we hang out he cheats on her with me, i cant help it, and he tells me he loves me, and its just.. i wanna know if hes using me, and how to get over him, and just i cant take this pain anymore. pplease help me !?

He's using you. He doesn't love you. If he really loved you, he wouldn't be with the other girl.

Stay away from him, and maybe just stay away from guys for the time being. Focus on school and getting good grades, and your friends.

Guys are sporadic, to say the least, at your age, and it's not worth it sometimes to even worry about them.

Basically, this guy is trouble, and is using both his girlfriend and you.

--Jack
(17/m)

All my life, I've had pretty clear skin. I never had severe acne or anything like that. However, I have an oily and pimple-prone T-zone: my forehead (between my eyebrows especially) and around my nose. I use an acne-control medicine (even though I just have the occasional zit) to keep that part of my face oil-free. Currently, it looks great and there are no pimples anywhere on my face. I'm really sorry this is gross, but although my face is oil-free and pimple-free now, there are these little bumps (NOT pimples or pimples to be) on my forehead. They don't hurt and they're just skin color (not red / pink / white). It's not necessary for me to go to the doctor, so please do not suggest that, but does anyone know why this is happening and / or how to make the skin on my forehead flat and smooth without being oily?

It's probably acne caused by your hair touching your forehead. Perfectly normal.

Here's a link to a question I've answered before about acne that might really help you out; I'd rather not copy the entire answer, but just know that it's from Advicenators:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=507367

--Jack
(17/m)

When I'm on my computer at night, all I do is msn and facebook. I've been getting quite bored with it. Is there anything else I can do? I've been playing solitaire and stuff like that, but that's about the only game I like. I like playing the sims though (hoping for the sims 3 any time soon!) So has anyone got any suggestions? :/

I agree with Omegle.com. SO MUCH FUN.

fmylife.com, too.

textsfromlastnight.com is funny. Especially when you realize that they are real, and you find the ones from your zip code.

Get StumbleUpon. It's so much fun. Stumbleupon.com. When you hit the "Stumble" button, it takes you to a random page, and it's hours of endless fun.

--Jack
(17/m)

what are popular songs nowadays that you can dance to
(slow dancing or fast, upbeat works)
any ideas would be great (:

Day and Night- whoever that's by.
I Gotta Feeling- Black Eyed Peas

That's all I really know, because I don't listen to "popular" songs.

--Jack
(17/m)

How do you take LSD?

Sorry, no one can give you this advice.

--Jack
(17/m)

Well my question is nice and simple.....I have so many pimples on my face and I wanna know how do I get rid of them fast and easy?

Hey. I know this sounds weird, odd, strange, etc., but what I'm about to say to you ACTUALLY works:

Get some lemon juice. You got the lemon juice? Alright- now take the lemon juice- and take a Q-tip and dab some lemon juice onto your zit with the lemon juice. Just a thin layer- not the whole bottle, silly! =D

Alright- so doing this at night is the best thing to do- it will really reduce the size and shape of the zit- and you won't know it was there in a few days.

Make sure not to touch it with your fingers after you put on the lemon juice- the oils from your fingers will stop the effect.

Relax- everyone gets zits- so you're only normal =D.

And here's a forum discussion from one of my friends on here that talks a lot about acne:

http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutmetopic.php?t=368&userboard_id=35415

From there:

Acne pretty much sucks ass and we all hate them.
I'll pretty much share what I know and my experiences.

So, I used to have really bad acne for like 2 freaking years. It sucked and I hated it. But now I'm better and here are my views on stuff:

Dermatologists are hard to get an appointment with and very pricey. They don't do much except look at you once, then they have their assistants take care of you after the dermatologist her/himself prescribes you acne medicine. It's usually Differin [sp?] and Benzaclin [sp?].

OTC Medicine:
Not all medication work effectively on all people. I've learn that it doesn't work for me or for anyone with sensitive skin. It may work for some people but as soon as they stop the use, acne comes back. Whether it's a cream, gel, or oral medication, they all suck! They dry out your skin, irritate it, increase sunburns/tans, and enlarge your pores. Not your dream skin, huh? And ironically, they sometimes make it worse. And you know what the 'best' part is? They're freakishly expensive! And once you stop the medication, acne comes back and parties like there's not tomorrow. Oral medication also makes your insides bad =/

Acne Products:
Acne face wash, gel, cream, whatever. Proactive seems to be a big one, too. Anywhos, as I've mentioned above, some work for some people while it makes everything worse for other people. It all depends. But most of the time, all those products dry your skin out, irritate it, and/or makes your acne worse. And it enlarges your pores too. Again, not very dreamy. And if they do work, as soon as you stop using them, they come back. Same line second verse.

So what the hell are you suppose to do?
Go the natural, cheap way.

Washing your face:
Wash your face gently only twice a day. Once is okay, I guess. But washing your face when you get up and before you go to bed is a good idea. More than twice a day could irritate your skin. Also, do not scrub your face, wash it gently as if you were washing a baby. Use face friendly products, too. I recommend a brand called Cetaphile. It's gentle on your skin and softens it. PAT your face dry with a clean towel.

Towels and pillow cases:
Try and change them as much as you can. Every day would be PERFECT but hard to do sometimes.

Squeezing:
Not only does that sound disgusting, it is. And it leaves nasty scars. Don't touch your face at all unless you have a slight itch. Don't rest your chin/cheeks in your hands or your arm. Just leave it alone as if it was a $10,000,000 mask that if you touch, you'll get arrested for. Oh, and try to keep your hair out of your face.

Sleeping:
Sleeping plays a big, huge role. Your body starts to renew its skin starting around 10PM and ending around 2AM. So be sure to be sleeping somewhere in between or the entire time. Sleeping early helps, and getting adequate sleep improves your skin and its tone.

Eating:
Milk makes acne worse. It's scientifically proven. Junk foods, sweet, sugars. ALL BAD FOR YOU PERIOD. Avoid/limit them along with sodas even if they're diet. Sports drink contain loads of sugar. Juices, too. Instead, eat healthy foods like veggies and fruits! I've noticed that my skin improve immensely when I turned vegetarian. So maybe give a shot to eating lots of veggies and fruits and other healthy stuff and cut down on meat? Also try and drink green tea [tea bag with no added sugar] or green tea with aloe [again, tea bag with no added sugar].

Masks:
Home made masks are probably the best. Here are few that work and softens your skin:

1. Red ginseng syrupy liquid thing mixed with warm water and a bit of all purpose flour. Make a mask thing with that.

2. Green tea [tea bag] cooled down to room temperature. Splash it on your face for 5min or so. I know it sounds weird but it helps. Or mix it with a little bit of all purpose flour and make a mask.

3. Mix warm milk, honey, and all purpose flour. Make a mask with that.

Only do the mask right after you washed your face. Make sure you don't put on any lotion and what not. Do not leave it on for more than 10-15min because bacteria will become attracted to the mask. Do not laugh, squint, whatever. Just keep your face neutral or you'll get wrinklies. Do not peel the mask off. Slowly wash it off GENTLY with LUKEWARM water. Keyword: GENTLY.

Lotions and make ups and what not:
Lotions/Sunblocks have products that won't clog pores, are fragrance and oil free. I suggest you buy from either Neutrogena or...some other renown company. I use Neutrogena's Oil Free Moisturizing Face Lotion and Neutrogena's Oil Free 55 SPF Sunblock. And Aveeno's 50 SPF Sunblcok [oil free] sometimes.

Make up should be limited to only eye and lip make up. No foundation, no concealer, not blush, no powder. Get my drift? Good. If you MUST wear make up, limit it down to special occasions [School does NOT count] and take it off as soon as you can. Whatever you do, do NOT go to bed with make up on!

--Jack
(17/m)

I really like this guy and he says he likes me too, I 've been with him a couple times before, but havent gone all the way. He asked me if I could help him out, I said how, He wants to nut, what does that mean? How can I help him?

He wants you to help him jack off, or masturbate.

Don't do it if you're not comfortable with that.

--Jack
(17/m)

How do I give good head?

No one on this site can give you that advice. You have to use google.

--Jack
(17/m)

When someone says they got folded, what does that mean?

Look at urbandictionary.com next time you need a slang term defined.

But it means drunk.

--Jack
(17/m)

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