Q: I am a mother of 5, with the two youngest being my step children, ages 14 and 12. My husband and I have the children full time with the exception of every other weekend, they spend with their mom. Ok this is the situation. I have been their step mom for ten years.I have watched them grow, have attended school functions, teacher parent conferences, school trips, all althletic functions, etc... The birth mom, we will call suzy, treats the two different. The oldest gets everything she askes for.. from clothes, shopping, weekend trips, etc.. The youngest gets an occasional shirt or small item. She is very angry at her mom and says things like I hate my mom, I hate my sister, my mom loves her more than me, my mom promises me things and never keeps her promises, etc.. I am becoming very concerned with her anger. I have done very well at keeping my mouth shut when it involves their mother. And I want the youngest to have her lime lit, to feel special, etc..However, I do not want to stoop to the level of their mother and include one in something special and not the other... We always include all 5 of our kids, no matter what we do..we always have..I just dont understand how a mother can put one child so much higher than the other...And she is hurting...I always insure her that she is loved just as equal and all the other children we have...But she always poses the question, "why does my mom love ____ more than me." I dont have an answer for her..My advide has always been, I can't answer for your mom, thats something you will have to ask her. Is there any suggestions to help me out in this situation? What more can I do? Am I giving her the wrong advice? Please help....Desperate step mom....

Q: ok this weekend i was with a guy i really like!
and we got drunk and ended up sleeping together but didnt have sex but the next morning he acted like he was mad at me and didnt even say bye but he has wrote me on myspace so idk know!! is he mad cause i didnt sleep with him or what HELP and im a female

Q: My mom and I have not had a good relationship my whole life. I've always lived with my grandparents exept for sometimes my mom wated me to stay with her and I did but it never lasted long. Now she lives in the basement at my grandparents house but stays at her boyfriends apartment a lot of the time. I thought we have been getting along for the last few months but lately she has been getting really mad really easy. I don't see her hardly ever anymore and when I do see her she thinks of a way to make me seem like I did something wrong and I'm such a bad kid and I'm honestly not, my grandma always tells me how good I am for being a 16 year old girl. We fight everyday that we see eachother and its always about 5 minutes after saysing hi to eachother. Every time we get done fighting I end up crying when she leaves. She is getting her own house soon with her boyfriend but its going to be about 30 minutes away from my school and all my friends. (My 1/2 sister lives 45 mins away and she wants to be closer to her) She said I could stay at my school just tell them I live with my grandparents. I've told her I don't want to drive to school for 30 mins everyday especally with gas prices risin. And I don't want to be that far away from my friends. I've tried talking her into moving closer but she wont so there is no use in bringing that up. I'm trying to convince her to let me live with my grandparents during the school year so I can get to school but she still says no. I can never defend myself against her because she will find a way to turn it around and make me feel even worse. Another thing is that I feel she can never accept me for who I am. Im about 200 lbs and she is constantly trying to get me to lose weight but I'm happy the way I am. I'm looking for advice on how to get our relationship to be good.

Q: Ok I'm 13 so this is pretty typical... There's this guy named Josh. I like him a lot, but he's dating my best friend, Angela. Today he just told me that he likes me but he just realized this. Angela is getting tired of him and I only know this because she told me. Josh really understands me, and I feel like I can really open up to him which makes this even tougher! I don't want Angela to be mad, but I really want to be with Josh! What do I do???

Q: I want to make this prom night special and memorable for both my boyfriend and I. He doesn't know that I have a hotel room for that night, what can I do to spice up everything with only 20 dollars to spare. Thanks

Q: okay i have this friend..we'll call her A. so me and A have been friends for 5 years now and 2 years ago she got really mad and turned all my friends against me for about 6 months. well last year my life was starting to come back together..i got my friends back and it just seemed alot better. well apparently she wasn't done with trying ruin my life. for spring break..which was april 11th for me i took A to myrtle beaCH WITH me adn my family..she was a bitch to me wihle we were there. she treated me like i was absolute shit and it was annoying but since she was the guest i had to be nice..we got home after that week an d we didnt talk as much and then we were working together in spanish class and shes really really dumb in spanish..like always asks me for answers and we have a regents this yr that its mandatory yoou pass. so we were working together and she goes how do you spell bicicleta i go sound it out and she like threw her paper and got so mad at me i was like uh..okay. well this happened last thursday and shes still mad! like ik its the dumbest reason but AGAIN shes trying to turn people against me. she commented me on myspace nd goes not trying to start anything but keep ym name out of your mouth..i didnt asnwer cause im sick of her shit and she told my friend that if i didnt answer she would text me and if i didnt answer the text she woulod come up to me and bitch me out and beat my ass..i think its pathetic to be honest. but ik soon she will want to be my friend again but she does this to me so much im just gonna tell her im done with her bc she considered me her best friend and thats not how you treat a best friend. idk what im really asking i guess i just need help on this whole situation..

Q: i've had my period on april 17th, it started april 17th and now i have some discharge, well it the discharge is usually clear liquid or kind of brown but now sometimes when i wipe myself there is some blood.....sometimes not a lot though only on the toilet paper....is that normal cuz i've never noticed blood it's usually just clear or kind of brown....it's kind of freaking me out....i am married i do have sex i know i am not pregnant for sure......is that normal or is something else going on....please answer as soon as possible any advice is appreciated. Thank you !!!

Q: Okay so, me and this guy like eachother. But then there's this one girl, and she seems like she's perfect for him but she already has a guy who shes apparently in love with and he's in love with her too. But they don't seem to talk anymore. Me and her NEVER talk, but she knows that me and this one guy like eachother, a lot. But we don't talk as much as that one guy and her. Now she invited him over for a movie night. Should I be mad? I feel like I can't do anything though, because it shouldn't be that big of a deal, but i feel like she's trying to steal him because she doesn't like me that much.
So I can't go to her house, NO WAY. I want to let it go, but whenever I think about it, I think of her putting moves on him. She's also done this to my bestfriend's boyfriend like twice. What should I do? Nothing? I don't want to be annoying or anything, but like I don't know. ):

Q: so i got a small tattoo and now its raised up and scabbing in one place. what do i do? i mean i know not to pick it but once the scab falls off will the color come off too? help me out!
thankyou!

Q: So, this guy really likes me, and I really like him a lot. He's amazing, and instead of him calling me "hot", He tells me I'm beautiful, incredible, amazing ect. And I love it, he makes me SO happy.(: But, he always asks "Wanna hang out?(:" and I always say yes becuase I really do, but then at the last minuet, I find myself making up things to get out of it. I still don't know why. My friend asked me the same thing! And I just realized, I have no idea. She thinks it has something to do with my dad leaving when I was like two, and I never got to know him. But I have no idea. Help?

Q: I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 16, we've been together 4 months or so but i've known him for almost a year. My bff whos known hm 10 years says he's probably one in a million; meaning he isn't the type of guy after sex like most idiots....and he really is one in a million.
He's trustworthy, sweet, but if he even sees a guy hit a girl.....that guy needs to RUN!
ESPECIALLY if it was me.But....a lot of guys say that but some dude at his school talked bad about me and well.....it was not good for the guy-good thing about it was that theguy threw the first punch.so it was like self defense.
ANYWAYS. He told me he loved me and i freaked because my ex said that and i said it back but neither one of us meant it....with TJ(BF) though....its different.... get butterflies in my stomach even when i think about him....i'm going crazy even now cuz i can't see him today and i saw him yesterday! I know he means it cuz he really won't say that to anyone....he never has i'm the only one....and even his DAD said he was IN LOVE with me....even his sister and brothers....you know its true but i don't know if I AM! I've never been in love but it's different feeling with TJ! Ive NEVER felt like this.....HELP!?!?!?!?!

Q: Okay, so my friend and I were ranting about stretchmarks to each other, and how we both have them on our theighs/she has them on her knees, as well. We were both wondering a few things:
Why do we have these, are they normal, and how can we get rid of them?

Also, we're going to the beach with some guy friends in June/July. So, we're both at average weights for our sizes, but we each have what you could call a 'muffin top', or whatever. We've each got muscle under that from doing crunches, so we're not sure what else to do to really help? We'd like to lose the lower belly fat by June or July, so what's something we could quickly do?


Thanks for any help, guys!

Q: Okay I aready wrote this question, but im giving more infomation, and needing more advice and sorry its so long. So im a freshman in high school, and over the summer i met a Junior that goes to my school. We had a thing over the summer (2007), and well into the school year. We would hang out and hook up and everything seemed great. Before him i was in very serious relationship for about a year 1/2. When i met this other guy he was about the only one who i let myself open up to. Well at homecoming everything changed and he told me he didn't want to fool around anymore and that since we wern't even dating it wasn't like we were breaking up. I got really hurt and cryed all night. After that night me and him never talked, and eventually never talked... ever and would occasionally would see each other in the hallways. Well its been that way for about 3 or 4 months. I eventually became really good friends with his best friend, and he likes me and i kinda like him, but i dont have all the feelings im looking for. He asked me to prom, and we went 2 days ago. Well my "he" was there, and we all danced and everything, i had a lot of fun and we talked a WHOLE lot. We have been texting a lot and he told me that my hair looked good, and we should go shopping, and today a bunch of our friends went to lunch including me and him, and he said that being in the car with me and everyone and how nice it was today that it reminded him of summer and how we all hung out. Last saturday me and a bunch of mine and his friends went and played this game late at night where you have a few people hide, and some drive and the people who are driving look and if you are seen by the people driving you have to get in and help them by looking for the people who are still hiding, well anyways we had like a group of people hiding and all of them got caught except me and him, so we start out hiding and its just me and him, and we are just talking more and more and actually looking at each other, and than he becomes really thoughtful, like when we have to run and hop fenses he askes me if im okay, and he i need help, and he grabs my hands to help me a lot. Well we finally get back to where were all suposta meet, and he follows me around, and when were in the car we take a big corner and he grabed my hand, but i pulled away too fast to see if it was ment like that. Now we text all the time, talk at lunch and are going to play the game this coming saturday.... I dont know really what to say, but i mean it kinda seems like he likes me again, but im not sure. i feel blindsided cause i like him so much that i might not be seeing the signs of how much he does or does not like me. Its complicated. and i REALLY REALLY REALLY need advice. i need someone to tell me the truth cause im nervous and dont want false hope. so if anyone can help me understand this, please help me cause your my last hope.
Thanks :]

Q: i was daing this girl and she siad that she did not have time for me that we just had to put this on hold and i told her that i didn't have time for her 2 but i was going to make time for her bec. i liked her so much.
But i do not know i like this girl so much i did not want to let her GO! I don't know what to do? Im so lost!?

Q: lauren and i have been best friends since 6th grade, now were freshman. we always have had major fights over stupid things that last a while or not long at all. well weve been good for a while now, not much fighting but shes like never satisfied with her froup of friends, like we have one group thats like our normal friends that she has over her house. then in school, she has to be the center of attention and is like friends with like everyone and now people are talking i think. shes gone from britt in 6th grade, to me, (big fight, during the fight) mel, then me, then now sarah and nicole and now back to me. as best friends. i feel hurt because i dont know why she does that and i dont want to leave her because when we are at our best its awesome. so ive been good friends with britt for a long time and shes kind of person who doesnt care what people think and is a bitch at times. well she talks a lot of shit but is really funny. lauren hates her, well maybe not hate, i guess doesnt like/trust and i dont trust her either but we went to the mall tonight and were talking over coffee and she started talking about all ^ (and laurens boyfriend problems, they break up a million times a month) so thinking id be a good friend, i texted lauren to tell her all of what britt told me and now lauren is mad at me, she said "ashlee wanna know the truth, now i dont trust you because your hanging out with britney so i gotta go bye." like omg i dont have a big group of friends like she does, i need britt because im not good at making friends (i can talk easily to people but like getting to the hanging out point im awful at) so with britt shes normally around. i just dont know what to say (lauren gets defensive and can turn the whole conversation around and make it my fault) i dont think she takes the truth well. i dont know what to do so that i can be her best friend i understand high school changes people and i accept her new ways i just wanna stop the fighting and be back to normal and have her stop leaving me for sarah. also i need to find a hanging out group of friends...

HELP PLEASEEE

Q: ok So a guy I have major feelings for he just wants to be friends..which I know that cold change with time. It just sucks because he leaves for the army next week but I still want him to know how I feel about him. My friends say leave it be cuz we are just friends and thats better than nothing then maybe after he gets done with training things could change. But how come when I went to his friends today his friend was like dude theres for girl and he smiled and hit him? hes 26 whats up with that?

Q: Dear Adavicenators
my friend whose a girl likes this boy I told her how I could help her what should she do


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Q: Does anyone know any cute hairstyles for short hair? My hair is up to my shoulders. thanks

Q: Ok so last night mine and my sister's best friend spent the night and we decided we would write down all of our deepest darkest secrets that we havent even told each other or anyone about then we would read each others and when my friend read my list i felt so incredibly releived like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulder and now i feel like i can tell her anything and talk to her about anything but that scares me alot for some reason just knowing that if something happened she'd know and i guess just the fact that she knows pretty much everything about me now it kind of scares me ok well it scares me to death but i thought doing the whole read each others deepest darkest secerts would bring us closer i thought it'd be good for us knowing that we dotn have to hide things and keep things to ourselves why am i so scared? i mean shouldnt i be relieved and happy that we can share anything with each other?

Q: my boy friend is living in louisiana right now with his family.. he cant work because he was born with a fatal heart condition but they keep denying disbaility to him. they are on food stamps. they just got a forclosure notice today from their laywer. are they going to be homeless? they cant really stay with family they all live out of the country, all his friends have families and are stuggeling anyways.. are there any organizations or anything to help? im scared he will be homeless and i cant get him home right now.. or anytime soon because my dad wont let him stay with me (even though im 18). so anything anybody is there anything they can do??? thanks so much

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