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Hey! First off, i'm going to start by saying I came here on this site to give people advice. Some people actually don't know the real meaning of advice. They think its the answers they want to hear. But i'm not here for that. I'll give you advice, and it might be something you don't want to hear. But deal with it! You may take my advice or not, its completely up to you and you are not gaurnteed a correct solution.

Ok so now that's clear, I'll talk to you more about myself. Hence the username... I play volleyball. It is my passion and basically my life since I've played for about 7 years. Most of my friends say i'm 50/50 tomboy and girly girl. I LOVE sports!! I play volleyball all year round, and then I go to the park during free times to play some soccer, football, hockey, basketball or baseball with my friends. But then again, I could be inside trying on my new Sephora makeup i'd just gotten, or reading the latest Seventeen magazine or even arranging my clothes for school tomorrow.

You can ask me just about anything and i'll be happy to answer it. You can count on a full and detailed answer.

Oh and another thing... I love getting feedback! Even if its a negative comment. It tells me what I need to work on or even what I did correct.

-Volleyball2150



BODY EXERCISES AND WORKOUTS! my way or the highway

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ok so im in a speacial agriculture program and we have to go over the summer to our farm and take care of it. well i took my friends ipod because she lent it to me. it was a video ipod and to make long story short someone stole it.
i dont know how to tell my friend. my dad sed he wasnt gonna give me money to buy a new one. i feel so horrible. i feel like i have been scard for life. i cant stop crying. i was jsut so scared when i opened my bookbag and it wasnt there anymore. i can still feel what i felt at that moment. someone stole it becuase i know i had it in my bookbag and all they left was my earphones. also my wallet with my metrocard is gone. i told the police in the school and he said that another girl got stolen also and they will close the doors of the rooms. alittle to late for that. atleast noone else will get stolen. what do i do? any advice? i dnt have money and my dad sed he wasnt gonna give me 300.00 for a new ipod.

you could come up with 300 dollars by yourself. It's not that hard. Just open a garage sale, or car wash or babysit or housework. My friend gave a carwash (( 5 dollars per car)) and she raised over 800 dollars. You can also sell something valuable. My friend sold his xbox so he could buy something for my other friend.

that would be the best thing to do... if you can't raise enough money. you can always buy her a gift with money that you do have.

If you don't like that idea, then you should come clean with her and tell her the truth. She might be pretty pissed at you, but what would you expect for a stolen ipod??

I hope everything goes ok

-volleyball2150

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I have mono. I started by getting a horrid sore throat around June 25th. The sore throat only lasted a few days. Now the only symptoms I have are fatigue & I can feel that my spleen is enlarged & I have back pain, etc. When would it be okay to start kissing again?? Thanks!!

You're talking to a mono pro.. ha ha

well I had mono (I didn't get it from kissing... so I don't know how in the world I got it) and my family's history is based upon doctors and nurses etc.

Well, my dad found out from my uncle that mono doesn't completely go away after a few weeks... it stays in you longer... much much longer.

Sorry to break it to you, but mono isn't completely gone from your immune system until around 6 months. It's best if you don't kiss/share spit with others.

Main idea- REST!! even if you're not tired, rest because like my mom always says "extra rest gives extra strength "

and what she means by extra strength, is that it will go away faster.

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

PS: I know this is harsh, but kissing is not the only thing you cannot do. Don't even share a drink with your friends. Make sure you wash your hands a lot and if you with a lot of people, try to recognize your drink.

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Okay, so here's my problem:
I have a friend, and she copies everything I do. I know she's doing this because all of a sudden, she's into EVERYTHING I'm into...and she never used to like everything I liked. Now she's like a mini-me and it's annoying. She even tries to friend all the friends I have on my myspace, and she doesn't even know them! Also, sometimes I think she's trying to outdo me. If I go out and get a CD or something, she'll go out and get the same one plus another one I wanted the next day. I've tried confronting her about this, but all I get as a response is "whatever" or "that's not true!". I'm really fed up with this. I'm afraid to end our friendship though, because she doesn't have many friends anyway. What should I do?
14/f

just think of it as this way... she doesn't want to copy cat you, or perpously (sp?)trying to annoy you. She likes you and see's you as a role model and an inspiration. you're the only friend she has right now.

Don't get all mad at her and start yelling at her to stop. What you can do is the next time you 2 hang out... annoy her! if you buy a cd or something be like "oh i want that" then at the last second be like "nevermind"... then switch back and be like "agh god i want this" then swtich back again and say "oh nevermind"

ya know what i mean?? ha ha it will get on her nerves

or the next time she askes to hang out with you, just say you are busy. I think you 2 need a little seperation time.. maybe like 3-5 days. Then hang out with her again.

Make sure that you are not rejecting her as a friend, that happened to me once and it totally hurt.

Wouldn't you rather have a friend who admires you always, then to have her as your complete enemy???

I hope all goes well!
-volleyball2150

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Okay, so today we had workout.
& I did way more then I did Wednesday.
I did more suicides.
But today we had to do "boxes"
where you have to do different techniques on boxes by jumping.
Well, when i was jumping i tripped and almost fell, so i sat down while everyone else was doing it. I sat down trying to catch my breath and regain myself. & then my coach told me to leave the weight lifting room.

I mean seriously, if I have to breathe, then damnit, i will sto whatever the hell im doing to do it.

This is my first yaer playing softball and
I have been trying to hard, and no one is noticing it. & its pissing me off.

I want to quit, but that just shows im a quitter.
but I dont want to feel like shit when im working out and everyone treats me different because I cant do as much as them.

& My coach with her fat ass self. Just sits around telling us to do shit, when all she does is sit and tells us were not doing it right, and i mean how would she know anyways? shes not the one doing it.


someone help.

oh man that must be hard for you.

Well dont worry.

Talk to your coach and tell her that you are honestly trying really hard and that one time when she told you to leave the weight lifting room, was because you had trouble breathing.

As for the noticing part... it's always like that on the first year of everything. Here's what you can do... stay AFTER AND BEFORE practices. That way people will notice you because you are by yourself. Come in about 30 minutes before practices and just work out or practice.... then stay after and practice more.

That's what i did for volleyball and it helped a ton. People started noticing my hard work and they looked at me as a leader.

Try also talking more. Talk to your teammates and encourage them to work harder. That shows to people that you are not only working harder at the sport, but also working harder getting people to work harder...yeah?

As your coach if there is anything else you can do to help you. Ask for extra help, extra weights etc.

I hope i helped!
-volleyball2150

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okay my freind,little brother, and little brother's friend and i are going to wisconsin dells next week so what are some fun stuff we can do for 3 hours in the car?

bring a portable dvd player and watch a movie, play fun games like I spy, or the alphabet game ((if you don't know what it is, look at the end)), you can listen to music, play card games on a flat surface, read your little brothers a book, play the picture game ((look at end for how to play)) bring a board game or an electronic game... or you can just sleep! ha ha. Bring a coloring book and crayons and draw

HOpe you have fun
-volleyball2150

ALPHABET GAME- when you're in the car, look outside and find something that starts with the letter A... then say it outloud and point at it, then do the same thing for B, etc. ((for this there is no turns, you just go on until the 1st person is finished with the alphabet))

PICTURE GAME- bring a digital camera and have them close their eyes, then you take a picture of something and they have to guess what it is. ha ha. me and my friends did this for 1 hour and it was really fun.

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I want to use my alarm clock in my iPod. I set it to the time I want it and click a playlist I want it. However, it doesn't work! I read that you need it to be plugged in headphones or a stereo like an iHome (I have that). If you want it to...
What am I doing wrong?

thats all you have to do. Check to make sure that your ihome has battery's or is plugged in... make sure the volume is turned up, make sure your headphones are all the way in..

then just set the alarm clock time... go to the playlist you want and push play ((wait until the first song starts playing, then push pause))

I think the reason why it's not working is because you don't have the playlist set up to play. make sure that it has the first song on pause... then it automatically plays it. however if you just have the screen on the menu... it doesn't know what to play and therefore makes it not work.

I hope i helped!
-volleyball2150

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My aunt was planning to get a dog and I was helping her find one online. But my uncle doesn't like dogs or any kind of animals (and they already had cats).And my aunt really wants a dog.Which she hope she gets. But I need a list of convincing ways to get my uncle to say yes to get the dog. I already told her to tell him,"This is my dog and I got it for myself."

Anyone wants to help my aunt get a dog! :)

the "this is my dog and i got it for myself" is really good.

your aunt can tell the uncle that it is her pet and he doesn't even have to pay any attention to it.

She should just buy the dog and trust me.... he will fall in love with the dog.

If it makes you feel better, have your aunt take your uncle on a surprise car ride and take him to an animal shelter or a pet store. Have him look at the dogs and tell him that not only would your aunt appriciate it... but so would the dogs!

Tell your aunt that she should tell him that she will take care of it and now it's her turn to have some fun. ((since he had the cats, she now deserves the dogs))

Wish you the best
-volleyball2150

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Hello, My name is Picket and my question to you all is..
Well ill let you guys know about the story first..
On mothers day morning my father was in an accident.. he was driving home on the highway and fell asleep.. he had smashed his chest on the steering wheel and killed hmself.. m family has been grieving about this for 3 years now and i cant take it anymore the pain that goes through me everyday is scary i feel numb and i feel like im in a bad bad bad bad dream.. andto make things worse my sister is a druggie now and had moved out of our house, she is all i have close to my father and i need her more then anything rght now and she wont come home.. what if she OD's and im the only one left really.. except for my mom. What sould i do to stop feeling this way and to he;p her stop?!

ok relax. i will break this down into 2 parts.

Dad- I know it's hard to get over a loss. for most people, looking at the members pictures or hearing stories about them makes them feel better. go on a scavenger hunt and look for memories of him that make you feel better. it might sound a little scary or sad... but you'll feel even closer to him because you'll know more about him.

This may sound weird... but what you can also do is talk to him. Even though he's not here in person, he's still here in spirit and soul. Talk to him! He want's you to be happy.

as for your sister-- do you have any contact information about her??? well if you do, contact her and tell her EXACTLY how you feel. don't miss anything out. if she tries to hang up, stop her and tell her to just listen to you.

tell her that you love her sooo much and that this is hard for you. Tell her that it would make you soo much more comfortable if she was there with you. tell her that you are family and family alway s stick together through the tough times and are always there to help. tell her that she's not making anything better. Tell her that your dad want's her to be happy, and ask her if she really is happy the way she is living?

If you don't have any contact info of her... call a guidance counsolur (sp?) or call some kind of help. look in the phone book for your sister and get help! maybe you can't help... but someone else can.

I wish you and your family good luck and the best.
God bless you

-volleyball2150

R.I.P- Picket's father

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how can i get over my fear of big open spaces? im terrified of them unless im holding onto someone

go somewhere where there really is a big open space... like a soccer field or a park. Bring someone with but make sure they arn't close by you.

Open your eyes and think of something that makes you really happy. Don't even think about the fact that you are scared of big open spaces... just remember something that makes you laugh and smile.

If it helps, bring something of your favorite. (fav. stuffed animal.... fav song etc.)

in case you do feel scared, go and tell that person and make them come a little bit closer. If you do get super duper scared, then bring your cell phone and maybe call someone and talk to your best friend.

friends always help when you're down.

main key-- start off small and work your way up

good luck!
-volleyball2150

PS: good for you for trying to get over your fears. Not many people have that ambition and courage. be brave and be proud for you.

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Help! I feel completely torn between my best friend and my girlfriend.

Okay, this is really gonna sound confusing, I think... Well, they basically hate each other. My girlfriend hates my best friend because my best friend likes me, I think... Because she even told me recently that she liked me.

Anyway, my girlfriend hates her because she flirts with me a lot and stuff right in front of her... and my best friend hates my girlfriend because she doesn't think she's right for me.

I thought I could have both my girlfriend and my best friend, but everytime I am even nice to my friend, my girlfriend ends up thinking something completely different.

Well my girlfriend was all quiet one day and when I asked her what was wrong she told me that she thought I was gonna break up with her because of my best friend, which I would never do.

Everything's okay between us now, but now my best friend thinks we aren't that good of friends anymore...

I really want both of them... I want my girlfriend and my best friend. PLEASE help. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks in advance.

the other advicenator is right... she knows what she's talking about.

Tell your best friend that you don't like her in that way, but you would still like to be best friends with her.

As for your girlfriend, tell her you love her and that you will not break up with her (if thats true...) and tell her that you don't have strong feelings for your best friend... but she does for you. Just tell your gf that your bf is only friends and you will not break up with her.

-volleyball2150

PS: if my advice doesn't work for you, just tell them what you told us. the same exact story and they will get the picture.

good luck!!!

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whats the song that raven loves to dance to..i think its beyonce?

ooh... I love that song

its called

Crazy in love- beyonce

or just

Crazy- beyonce

-volleyball2150

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hey I like to try different hairstyles. does anyone have any pics of Emily Osment hairstyles or how to do them. by the way, I'm looking for pics from hannah montana since Emily always wears cool, different hairstyles on that show.

you can try her website... celebrities always have something like that

www.emilyosment.org

or you can always do a google search
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=emily+osment&btnG=Search

there a bunch of websites about her

-volleyball2150

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GUYS ONLY TAKE THIS PLEASE

Hello,

I am 13 and I am curious. What do guys look for in a girl? Is it personallity, attraction, looks,??? please tell me


all guys are different... if they liked 1 specific type of girl, then life would be super super duper boring!!

some guys like tomboy girls, some like girly-girls... just be you and they will like you for who you are.

just be yourself

-volleyball2150

PS: if you rate me a 1, i honestly don't care...... its the truth and you have to face it

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Where can you get those thin sequin headbands I see softball players wearing these days?

i want one like taryne Mowatt Has here but in black or orange

http://images.sportsline.com/u/photos/img10216454.jpg


its a headband that wraps all the way around her head and I would say its about an inch thick!

I'm not sure if this is what you're looking for...

http://www.amazon.com/The-Head-Band-shop-Square/dp/B000RKPEDQ/ref=sr_1_4/105-2439116-0665210?ie=UTF8&s=apparel&qid=1184536466&sr=1-4

but just search in your local stores for

sequin headband

and maybe you'll come up with something

-volleyball2150

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i cleaned out my closet, i have a bunch of cloths that i wont ever fit in again.

does anyone know where i can sell my designer cloths to make some money off of it in michigan. their in good condition.
thank you!

if they are preppy type clothes (abercromie, american eagle, forever 21 etc.) then you can sell them at Platos Closet.

http://www.platoscloset.com/

just find stores near michigan.

or what you can also do is give them away to charity.

That's what we did to all of my younger clothes... there are many kids in need of care items, you'll feel amazing after you give your old things away because you'll know that you're helping out people.

if you don't want to do that idea, you can always contact a local store and sell them... maybe off ebay or amazon???

just make sure your clothes are in good condition

-volleyball2150

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I met this boy online about a year and a hlaf ago. I really like him. I know that I will never see him, but I still want to go out with him. He dates online also. I want to ask him out. But, I dont know how. I want to do something sweet. But remember, I dont know him in real life. Any Ideas?

I totally agree with the other advicenator. Don't risk it!! just stick with boys that you actually know... not just some random person you met on the internet. There are a lot of bad people in this world, and a lot of them are pretending to be nice. You've never met this person and now you are just going to risk your life just to meet some guy???

BAD DECISION!

who says online dating is the only way to get guys???

hope you make the right choice
-volleyball2150

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I was playing volleyball and when i jumped to spike, i came back down on my ankle and it gave out. I fell to the ground and i could barely walk. That was last night, and today it still hurts and i was walking on it a lot. Which i know i shouldnt be. But, I have vacation in excatly 7 days. Will it be better by then?

RICE!!!

ha ha... don't eat rice, but DO rice.

R- Rest
I- Ice
C- Compression
E- Elevation

do those things and it will get better. Try putting heat on it for 20 min. then cold 20 min. then nothing for 20 min. and repeat.

I hope you feel better!!

-volleyball2150

PS: when you play volleyball, i HIGHLY recommend using Active Ankles.

http://www.activeankle.com/

it's very good for any sport so that you don't twist your ankles. But make sure that you do ankle exercises too because this can make your ankles weaker.

Here are some ankle exercises
http://www.haemophilia.org.za/HemAnk-1.htm
http://www.aofas.org/i4a/pages/index.cfm?pageid=3330

also try doing balance exercises. just try standing on 1 foot for 1 min. then switch.

or try standing on one foot and bend over and stick your arms out.

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how can girls have a crush on angelina jolie and not be lesbian/bi

they don't really have a 'crush' on her... they just look at her as a role model or an inspiration. That's why many girls admire many women.

-volleyball2150

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okay well i have been having a problem lately. so its summer and you know how the whole fling thing goes and all. well there has been a few guys here and there but nothing major. now i tell my bff about them and she listens but now it seems like she is getting mad about it. cause i will have this one guy and then another comes along so i get to now him a little bit better and then end up liking him. this has happened a few times and now i dont know what to do, i have finally found the guy that i like but she doesnt believe me because she thinks that he is like all the others but he isnt!!! and i know that you probably think that now too but i promise you.......i really like this guy. so how do i get my friend to believe me? i have tryed talking to her but that isnt working out so well. i just want her to accept that i really like him and be there for me. pleeze help!!

just give her some time... she'll come around and realize how much you like him. For now, give her some attention. The reason why she is mad is because you are always with boys. So spend some special time with her and just keep reminding her that he is the one.

-volleyball2150

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I have mono. I have to make an appointment with my family doctor soon, but until then I have a few questions.

Are you able to exercise with mono?? I heard it depends on how you feel, but some people said it could really make me sick. My spleen isn't enlarged yet though.

Would swimming/going out in the sun be a bad idea?? It is very hot out, but I'm not sure how much it would affect me.

Since my spleen isn't enlarged yet & I haven't had the urge to sleep a lot, I don't think my mono is in full swing, but I was diagnosed with it. I did try some google articles, but they weren't really helpful.

Thanks!

Hey,

I can help you. I've had mono and it really sucked because since I play volleyball, my doctor specifically told me NOT TO EXERCISE!! If you are being active while having mono, it could rupture your spleen and can make you die. REST REST REST REST REST!!! that's the only thing you can do while you have mono.

Swimming would be bad, but if you're just in the sun.. that's not bad. The only thing you have to be aware of is that you cannot move around too much.

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

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