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Coping with a death.
Hello, My name is Picket and my question to you all is..
Well ill let you guys know about the story first..
On mothers day morning my father was in an accident.. he was driving home on the highway and fell asleep.. he had smashed his chest on the steering wheel and killed hmself.. m family has been grieving about this for 3 years now and i cant take it anymore the pain that goes through me everyday is scary i feel numb and i feel like im in a bad bad bad bad dream.. andto make things worse my sister is a druggie now and had moved out of our house, she is all i have close to my father and i need her more then anything rght now and she wont come home.. what if she OD's and im the only one left really.. except for my mom. What sould i do to stop feeling this way and to he;p her stop?!
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You are dealing with a lot right now. I think you really should look into getting some counseling. If you are in school, you can start there, by asking the school counselor for some guidance on dealing with the loss of your father.
The situation with your sister is a bit tougher because you can't make someone get help for an addiction. You can try guiding and supporting her and telling her how much you need her, but she has to be willing and ready to make the change.
Meanwhile, try to take as best care of YOURSELF as you can. Don't let all of this overtake you. You still have to life and enjoy your life as well. I know that's hard, I can tell that you are in pain. Please get some counseling and hang in there. Things won't always be this hard.
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ok relax. i will break this down into 2 parts.
Dad- I know it's hard to get over a loss. for most people, looking at the members pictures or hearing stories about them makes them feel better. go on a scavenger hunt and look for memories of him that make you feel better. it might sound a little scary or sad... but you'll feel even closer to him because you'll know more about him.
This may sound weird... but what you can also do is talk to him. Even though he's not here in person, he's still here in spirit and soul. Talk to him! He want's you to be happy.
as for your sister-- do you have any contact information about her??? well if you do, contact her and tell her EXACTLY how you feel. don't miss anything out. if she tries to hang up, stop her and tell her to just listen to you.
tell her that you love her sooo much and that this is hard for you. Tell her that it would make you soo much more comfortable if she was there with you. tell her that you are family and family alway s stick together through the tough times and are always there to help. tell her that she's not making anything better. Tell her that your dad want's her to be happy, and ask her if she really is happy the way she is living?
If you don't have any contact info of her... call a guidance counsolur (sp?) or call some kind of help. look in the phone book for your sister and get help! maybe you can't help... but someone else can.
I wish you and your family good luck and the best.
God bless you
-volleyball2150
R.I.P- Picket's father
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