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Q: Hey guys,

When I was in second grade, I got really sick and had to be put in the hospital. Since I wouldn't eat, they gave me streiods. When I got out of the hospital, I wouldn't stop eating and now I am chubby. I want to loose about 10 to 15 pounds and I am just so fed up with my weight! I have been trying to loose for about 3 years but I havn't really been able to stick with really anything. I want to loose some weight as soon as possible. Does anyone know any ways that would be fast and easy? Please help me!! I want to feel beatuiful and confident. I will rate a 10 if someone suggests something good. Please help!!
~Chubby~

you can try diet and exersise but because they put you on steriods it going to be harder . you might want to see a nutritionest to help you with a diet for your situation that will leave you feeling full and the meal will still be healthy .

Q: ok jus like 20 minutes ago me n my sister were play fighting...well she pinched me realli hard on my hand and now my vein is purple n sticking out is that ok or should i go see the doctor??

put ice on it for 20 minutes then take it off if the vein doesnt go down see a docter

Q: I'm 15 n I love my boyfriend with allll my heart n we've been together for a long time n we really want a baby. It might sound crazy but. Dont call me a slut or anything, cuz im not. I wouldnt just want a baby with any guy. I love my boyfriend n he loves me n we feel we're ready to take care of a kid. We'd be able to raise it no problem, we have money n stuff. I just dont kno what people would think. My boyfriend promises he'll never leave me, n I kno he will be there to support me in anything...what do you think..

your only 15 and its great that you want a baby but your too young . think about it , if you where to have a child your grades at school would drop , thats not a good thing if you want to do to college . your parents probably wount support the idea either . if you really want to have a baby you should get threw high school and college get a good paying job and makesure that your boyfriend still wants one if your together and be ready to become a father .

Q: ok I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 months and hes really sweet! and i like him alot but all we've done is makeout, he's tried to go down my pants but everytime he does he pulls his hand out and starts laughing so i dont know whats wrong. what should i do?

your boyfriend may just be nervous with you

Q: i want to wear a strapless bra do they hurt casue i havnt worn one b4 lol isnt this stupid but i wnat to no and do they feel the same?

i dont no where to put this but ya!

no strapless bras dont hurt there actually feel better than the normal bras , but if your size is over a small c then strapless bras arent the best thing for you .

Q: My computer has this virus but im not quite sure if it is a virus... What it does is put this site in our AIM profiles http://www.clicknewsnewnet.net/news/articles....
that is not the site because i didnt want any1 to click on it but anyways im not quite sure how to get rid of it....any help would be greatly appreciated..thanks

run a virus protection program threw your computer and put ad blockers in and a firewall .

Q: Okay..I'm not sure if anyone can awnser this question for me, but just incase someone can i'm gona ask. I recently did dxm..its also known as skittles. And i know thats really stupid. Now i'm regretting it. I'ts about a day after and I'm feeling really dizy still. Like i did when I was on it. I'm thinking i should probaly go see a docter but mabye everyone feels like this? I did it with my bf too and he doesnt feel it any more..so i'm starting to worry. I'm also on anti depresseants so i think that might have something to do with it. Plz dont delete this question. I need some opinons before i tell my friends or family. Plz help me! ..

-Scared

if the dizzyness doesnt go away in an hour you have no choice but to go to a docter because this is serious , the interaction with the dxm and the antideppresents may have made you feel worse afterwords than you should have and may lead to some serious problems .

Q: HI!
15/f california :)

ok well see i want to get a job cuz i dont like how i have to get my shitttt aproved by my parents b4 i get it with their money. But most importantly cuz i got my cell phone taken away and it has been said that i wont get another one under their pocket.so i want to get a job but i am only 15 and my birthday isnt untill february 6th. does anyone know of places wheir they know 15yr old can work.
thank you.

most super markets will hire you as a bagger or you can babysit

Q: ok lets see if i can get this right lol...

-does he like me or does he like herr???
---is it me or is it her...or am i really her?
(sry i know this is long)

ok ..im 14/f and one of my best friends is 14/m..he doesnt go to my school...although lives in the district and i seem him here and there...hes been askin me how to ask a girl out..and i kept telling him to be himself..he just wont listen to me on that part advice...

he kepts telling me to put myself in that position..
- i said "no"
- he said "well its not hard 4 u ur a girl"
- i said "its hard 4 us as well..bc we have to turn down guys we dont like"..

i dk how to tell just to be himself..bc he doesnt want to listen to listen when he knows its true...

and he a few days ago he asked me "how do i ask a girl out and not get turned down??"..and im like idk its not something predictable...

-he goes to a private school..and i go to public school..so i have no clue who this girl is..if i did ..i would have asked her if she liked him..but i dk ....so im pointless at this point...-thx

P.S. i asked him way be4 that.."what would you say if i said i liked you" and he said "i dunno" and said well what would your 1st response be if i said i did and he said "u do?" and i said oooo..then he said something or w/e and i said you scare me sometimes and he didnt say anything for 2 mins and i said..."do you care that you do sometimes" and he said "yea"..and i said "how much?" and he said "______________________________________________________________________________"
and i said "ooohh"..then later on the other night on-line what this girls name is and
he said "marissa"

--- when we got into an little argument over what is harder being a girl or being a guy...and he said we have it easier..and when i said "no we dont bc we have to turn down guys who ask us out, i had to do it 5 times" and he said "w/ whoooo?"..like if he was affaird i was taken or something..ahh it drives me insane..-thx again

- i think i already hinted that i liked him...im just not suree if he is affaird to ask me out bc i said i rejected 5 guys-

the way you told him to ask out a girl is a good way and if he cant except your advice than tell him that you cant give advice to him . i cant really tell if he likes you . "marissa " may be like his code name for you and it may not be . he may really like a girl named marrissa and he may just be playing with you to see your reaction to it all . if you realy want to know i would just straight out ask him . if he's all imature about it then just drop the subject because then you know what type of a guy he is and mostlikely he does like you if he dosent give you an answer because he's too shy to tell you.

Q: **OK my friends name is Nancy.(changed to be confidential)Her idea of fun is drugs. Any time she can get a hold of a drug she takes advantage of it. The drugs "I KNOW OF" that she has tried is coke, aderal, and defently weed! Chronic is what she lives for, everyday after school she smokes with her sister. Any other drug she usually doesnt tell me bout. She also drinks. I dont think she does alot. Whats the problem your asking? my friend just turned 13 4 months ago!! Yea...so everytime i try to tell her "Nancy you're so much better than that and you kno it!" she just goes "Dude its nothing it cant hurt me" Nancy is a smart girl, she could do much with her life! I never kno if an ingrediant in any of the drugs she takes she could be allergic to. I need help, what do I do?!
**Anoynomous**

the fact or the matter is that you need to go to your school counsler and tell her !!! she's handel it with the parents from there . you might even try and have her read a book called " Go Ask Alice " in the book alice thinks drugs aren't a big deal and thinksshe can get off them anytime she wants . in the end she dies of a overdose . This is a true story . This might scare your friend alittle bit . When you go to the counsler ask that remain nameless . if you choose not to go to the guidence counsler at your school your friend may just continue with drugs and knowone will ever know about it untill the drugs just get to her . The other thing is if you tell about her sister that will take away some of her resorces to get drugs . dont let your friend become another statistic !!!

Q: Hi its Lissa...okay i well i got my progress report in the mail today and iim failing 3 classes and passing 3 (those aint that great either) and i told my mom and now shes all pissed like REALLY pissed she calls every 2 minutes n yells at me and she's like 'WHAT THE HELL!' n we have to go to my aunts funeral tomorrow at 11 am and now she's saying i can't go because of my grades, isn't that gay? shes my AUNT! and she's also like your not going into drivers ed and never getting a car EVER if u dont get all good grades and blah blah blah its really pissing me off i even started crying. im doing better now, i turn in most of my work im just not that smart and she expects me to be all smart and shit when im not...she keeps bugging me about it and im so annoyed...and thats just on the phone what the hell am i gonna do when she gets home from work!? she knows my 'situation' or she should cuz when school started i was really depressed and suicidal and everything was messed up, now im on anti depression medicine so im doing better and trying harder in school. my counselor even told me not to be so hard on myself i have a lot goin on and idk what to do about this...sorry this is long but ah..what do i do? thanks so much!!!

your mom expects you to be the best you can be and she may feel that your not . failing 3 classes isn't very good and your mom just wants the best for you . if your realy trying your best in school and you feel you cant do any better you may want to get a tudor or have a friend comeover who is good at whatever subjects you are failing in and have her help you . the reason your mom is saying you can go to the funeral is probably because she's mad right now and will probably let you go . remember if your mom really didnt love you and care about you she wouldnt be mad at your grades cause otherwise she just wouldnt care .

Q: Pleez tell me what you think!!!!??? Should you go a party of a girl you hardly know rlly with your whole school or should you go hang with your best friend because its her birthday that day???? pleez help and say what you would do or think.....??!! xo

i personnaly would habg out with my best friend for her birthday cause you know her , and you know you'll have fun . the other girls party might not turn out so good anyway but in the end its your own choice of what you want to do .

Q: well my mom was tellin me we would have to go to the gyno really soon.whats an normal age to go to the gyno.sry i dont know much about this

when you start to get ur period or at age 14-15

Q: ok i got this bacterial infection in my throat adn i was prescribed pills but i dont care much for them. i took them how i was suposed to for a week and i have like a bunch left but i feel fine, should i continue taking them even tho i feel fine?

yes ... if you start takeing medicine and dont follow threw there is a chance that the bacterial infection in your throat will comeback twice as strong .

Q: i need help, there's this guy i met online and he keeps stalking me and im getting scared. it all started out when he asked me to invite him to my webcam and im like sorry no bye, then hes like im gonna hack into ur computer, and hes sending me messages saying i know where u live, ill send ppl to ur house and thell rape u, well get it on tape and im starting to get scared. is that possible? could he have hacked into my computer from yahoo messenger? can someone help please

tell someone ... you should even call the police . you can have him arrested for threatening you . you should also make a new screename and stay offline for a while . if posible you should block his screename !!! you may even want to call up yahoo and report him .

Q: when should it be okay to have sex?

when you feel its apropriate and when your ready and your really in love .

Q: here is my ? kinda stupid i know lol but i have a black dress and shoes for homecomin and i was wonderin what color nail polish i should wear? cuz i don't wanna wear black cuz that is 2 much. thanks for ne help i will rate u

clear nail polish or red .

Q: i have problems sleeping at night...i always imagine that somethings in my room or someones trying to break in and i feel really uncomfortable. also, when i blow dry my hair, sometimes i freak out because i think of someone on the news that went missing or was murdered and i feel like theyre standing right behind me haunting me..also at midnight, or late, when im walking down the hall, i always run just in case someone is follwing me...whats wrong with me and what should i do

you have a active imagination and thats ok .... but if your scared at night thats not a good thing . you should feel safe in your house . You should do something that relaxes you before you go to bed like reading or having a glass of milk . I used to be scared of things like that and do the same exact thing your doing .

Q: ok this is kinda wierd but it pisses me off...when ever i lay on my stomach in my bed or like i lay in the grass or get hit wit sumthin, even if it dont hurt i get huge welts and they are wicked itchy...i dont kno wat the fuck they are, i mean i could b sitten there and get an itch adn 5 minutes later theres a welt....wat could it be,,,please help

honesty i dont know but if you got to a dermatologist you'll find out what it is and get medicine for it .

Q: im 13 yrs old and school just started....over the summer all my friends were goin shoppin but i had no money....whats a good job for me? please help im flat broke lol... :)

you could have a car wash service or baby sitting . if you want to babysit you should take some emergency health classes like if someones chokes or something so you look like you really know what your doing .