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My friend is on drugs
**OK my friends name is Nancy.(changed to be confidential)Her idea of fun is drugs. Any time she can get a hold of a drug she takes advantage of it. The drugs "I KNOW OF" that she has tried is coke, aderal, and defently weed! Chronic is what she lives for, everyday after school she smokes with her sister. Any other drug she usually doesnt tell me bout. She also drinks. I dont think she does alot. Whats the problem your asking? my friend just turned 13 4 months ago!! Yea...so everytime i try to tell her "Nancy you're so much better than that and you kno it!" she just goes "Dude its nothing it cant hurt me" Nancy is a smart girl, she could do much with her life! I never kno if an ingrediant in any of the drugs she takes she could be allergic to. I need help, what do I do?!
**Anoynomous**
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continue being her friend. keep trying to convised her that she better off drug. u should try to talk to one of her other friends or close teachers or parents so theyu can help her. for the reason she too young to be on drug that can cause her her life. please stay off drugs . be her friend but keep a distance and just try to talk to her that drugs aren't good for her health. good luck!
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im gonna be unlike the rest of the people here... dont tell any adult at first.. be really really straightforward.. tell her if she doesnt stop you dont think you can go on being friends with her.. and if she says i have no reason to stop you can fire back with.. i want you to stop because i care about you and that should be good enough for you.. if that doesnt work then go ahead and tell her parents because some of the hardest lessons in life are learned while your grounded for a really really long time.. if it was just weed she was on then this would be a lot easier but cocaine is hardcore shit.. thats not good you get addicted to that stuff way too easy... i wish you the best of luck.. much love bye bye
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ok i know that you probably dont wanna hear this but you have to tell her parents, a teacher, or the guidance consuler at your school. Think about it what if your friend overdosed or something horrible like that wouldnt you feel awful knowing that you could have maybe stopped it... something has to be done... this is a serious problem i hoped that i helped you a little.
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tell nacy's parents or try to convice her
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the fact or the matter is that you need to go to your school counsler and tell her !!! she's handel it with the parents from there . you might even try and have her read a book called " Go Ask Alice " in the book alice thinks drugs aren't a big deal and thinksshe can get off them anytime she wants . in the end she dies of a overdose . This is a true story . This might scare your friend alittle bit . When you go to the counsler ask that remain nameless . if you choose not to go to the guidence counsler at your school your friend may just continue with drugs and knowone will ever know about it untill the drugs just get to her . The other thing is if you tell about her sister that will take away some of her resorces to get drugs . dont let your friend become another statistic !!!
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weed cannot hurt you so dont worry about that aderol is an a.d.h.d medicine that people who are hyperactive take to be more concentrted in school. it cant hurt her if she only takes one a day and coke is a serious drug that a 13 yr old should not even think about doing. im 15 ive done weed aderol somas concerta zanbars and others. but i have never tried coke. you should really talk to her and be serious because yes u can die off of coke and it takes control of ur life just like tabs (extacy), crack, herion and others cacn do. i have had a friend who had to get checked into rehab for doing coke. he constanly started getting 3-4 nosebleeds a day and all the nmoney he got went to it. i have had several of my friends get checked into rehab for extacy. their addictions have gotten so bad that they really do think that they cannot live without it. i know ur worried about ur friend and u have evry right to be but just to make u feel a little bit better i will assure you that aderol and weed cannot hrt you but 13 yr olds should deffinatly not be messing around that. it doesnt seem like ur firend has an addiction it just seems like she is experimenting at to0 younf of an age and her sister has had a big influence on her. u need to talk to her older sister and tell her that she shouldnt let her sister do coke and the toher stuff. but coke is deffinatly something you should worry about. and if u find out about anyother drugs she is taking then let me know and i can tell you some things about them. i hang out with alot of people who do them (even tho i shoudnt) and i know alot of things about drugs. so feel free to talk to me anytime and i hope ur friend can get away from that stuff.
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Hi hun.
Wow, that's a hard situation!! Your friend doesn't seem to realize or care that not only is she hurting herself, but she's hurting her friends.
All drugs stay in your system for a long time (there are some drug tests that can find drug traces from 5-7 years prior!)
If she's smoking with her SiSTER... could you tell her parents, or would that make a difference? If none of that helps, talk to your parents or someone as school.
Good luck, let me know how it goes!!
Emily
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Your friend obviously has self confidence problems and she needs someone to show her that the people around her care about her. If your the only that can show her that than show her it, you need to get her professional help and if you think hse will hate you for it...juss think...one day she'll thank you cuz you saved her life..all i can say is juss be there for her ALWAYS encourage her and tell her the consequences of what shes doing. I hope this helps!!
x0x fatiima
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Ok... You say that 'Nancy' is a smart girl... And I'm not doubting you... She obviously doesn't know how harmful drugs really are... You need to try to talk to her... Let her know exactly what you know... I mean if she doesn't stop now... then she could eventually ruin her life... Ok... I know this sounds mean and crucial... But, If you're talk doesn't help then there is e really nothing you can do... I mean you can't really make her stop... You could convince her but you can't make her... Either have a talk with her and try to convince her as much as possible OR tell someone... Like her mom or dad... I hope I helped....
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shes not very smart if she thinks drugs can't hurt her!!
All I can say is....TELl your guidence conselour or some adult
or tell nancy shes killing herself, slowly and in a really gross way, and that if she wants to live, she needs to stop!! NOW!!! Beacause its true!!
thanks for your time
happy.advice
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Well you can't make her stop doing drugs because that's her decision! You could tell a responsible adult about this but you probably won't! "Nancy" is wrong because drugs can hurt you at anytime! On True Life on MTV, one of the episode is called "I'm on Aderal" and I think "Nancy" should watch it so she will know what it can do to you! I think you should tell her parents about how she is doing drugs but tell them that they didn't found it out from you so your friend won't be mad at you! Wouldn't "Nancy"'s parents already know that their daughters do drugs since their clothes smell? All you gotta do is talk to "Nancy" by writing a note to her or talking to person to person and tell her that she should stop and that it can hurt her! Research some info online about what drugs can do to her and write an essay type in the note explaining what drugs can do to her. Once she reads it, she will then know that it's time to stop. Your friend will eventually stop doing drugs when she finds out that it doesn't make you be in the "cool crowd" and it is really dumb doing it. I really hope I helped you with this because I haven't been in this situation before so I'm just trying to give you my honest advice on this because this is a serious matter! Good luck :)
-Karen
Don't forget to write back to tell me what happens in the end!!
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You say she's smart, yet she believes that these things can't hurt her? Evidently she's unaware of the number of deaths caused by cocaine from first-time users. She's clearly living life as if she's immortal and untouchable. One day it'll kick her ass, and at least you seem to know it. Allergies are the least of the concerns here - adverse reactions to a drug are not always an allergic response, some are just side effects or a person's body's inability to handle the drug.<br>
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In all honesty, this is not something you should be left to deal with. Tell her parents. If that won't work, tell some other adult you can trust - particularly teachers or the like that have some sort of authority and legal obligation to protect your friend. But please don't think there is anything you can or should do directly - that's not your job, nor should it be. Your duty is only to try to get her the help she likely needs - and that has to come from someone of authority.<br>
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I wish you luck.
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weLL yOu shOuld advise yOur friend On the bad thinqsz that can happen experimentinq with thEse druqsz...she may think they dOn`t hurt her but that`sz nOt even clOse...teLL her abOut the future she can have disreqardinq the druqsz...gOod Luck-Tiffany
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Support her and give her positive encouragement. Sometimes, there is very little we can do when a person is slipping, but to allow them to make their mistakes and learn from them.
Also, you can always report it to a guidance counsellor. IT may seem like she will hate you, but perhaps they may be able to provide her with the proper assistance. Her health is more important.
She'll thank you when she learns better.
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If you think she is a smart girl and she can do alot with her life then you should tell her that. Tell her that she can get in alot of trouble and she has a great future ahead of her and drugs are interfearing with that. You sound like a good friend and I think she should listen to you! If shes really smart.. she will stop doing drugs!
I hope I helped!! Rate me!! <3 Juliet <3
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you REALLY need to talk to her about it and u needa find out more about these drugs and tell her bout it and prove ot her that she will not be okay so many ppl say it wont happen to me and shit like that bt 70% of those that say that are the ones that it does happen to so u need to be there for u and really try to help her nd if it doesnt work get her some serious help
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