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i meen i really want a boyfriend but i guess im can be picky about who i like , some of my friends will go out with sum 1 that they have very little feelings for but i want to go out with some i really lik e but i dont liek anyone in my shcool and theres jsut no one thats i liek yet i jsut wish i would find him is this ok should i look harder be less picky or will i find him

whenever your ready there will be that one guy that you will juss fall head over heals for trust me. Its not juss gonna happen but untill that day comes look around and explore you cant expect the BEST cuz no one is perfect. Give someone a chane im sure there is a cute sweet guy somewhere out there who you can give a chance to! good luck i hope i helped =]

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ok my bestfriends is always in trouble and i cant go see my boyfriend with out her like i can but shes like i dont want any1 meeting him cz their related..right but i was supposed to go see him friday but now she juss called and said she may be moving bcz she juss screwed up with her mom ONCE AGAIN!!..i rly need to see him tho...should i go without her or juss wait cz i kno shes totally grounded 4 halloween!

well..he is YOUR boyfriend, you should talk to her and say "since you cant go see him with me, im gonna havta go by my self beucase i want to see MY boyfrend". and if she has a problem with it juss say well i cant be waiting around for you to get out of trouble i need to see him! thats what i would do because its not your fault shes always in trouble so why should you be punished for what she did? i hope i helped=]

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okay, I didn't really think I'd get any more answers to my previous question, so I'm going to put my addition to my additional answer here.
Here is my question. When you cut yourself, which by the way I'm trying to stop, so I don't really need help there, I was wondering, will the scars ever go away? Because I cut first letter of my first name in my arm, and now I regret it, and it's not that deep. None of the cuts I made had actually bled, they jstu got scabs over them. So will the scars be there forever?

no they wont stay since they didnt bleed they werent deep enough to chagne the way your skin growns which is by the way why ppl have scars. You will juss have a tiny scar for a lil while but it will soon fade away. If its taking really long then try a scar removing cream like cocoa butter, that helps blend your skin together faster. hope i helped=]

x0x fatiima

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ok my boyfriend will leave me messages and at the end of them hell tell me he loves me...and then when i call him back or watever or in person he wont say it....like i wrote i love u on his hand one day cuz we wer messin around and he just smiled....im so confused why wont he say it to me in person or on the fone but hell say it in messages?

aww hes prolly really shyy...let him know that he doesnt have to be embarrassed around you and try to make him feel comfortable. He'll get over it soon enuff.

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See, i'm gay, and thats why i have a gurly user name, i am really a man! my boyfriend just broke up with me, and i am really depressed, i look so straight in gay bars no one aproaches me, what should I do!? please help!

try approaching ppl yourself so that they know that you arent straight. Try meeting new ppl, youll find someone soon enough. I hope I helped

x0x fatiima

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okay well today in sports studyhall i was sittin down next to this kid lets call him *CHRIS* well CHRIS and I were talkin n then he was lookin at my cellphone n i have verizon so u can change wut u want it to say n mine use to say lets call me *ASHLEY* and so it use to say ASHLEY loves you and then CHRIS changed it to say ASHLEY IS HOTT and i was lke um k then i had to go get someone from a teachers room and then i came bak n CHRIS goes i put my number in ur phone book i was like umm ok..but the problem is i dont like him and hes been going out w. a friend of mine and she happens to be on my soccer team too and they have been goin out for like a year..so my question is y wud he do that?

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maybe he does like you you should talk to him about it and if it turns out that he does like you than tell him that you could never do something like this to a frend. Otherwise he has to stop flirting cuz thats being unfaithful to his girlfriend.

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My last boyfriend and I used to call each other *all* the time. I really like my current boyfriend but I'm way to shy to call him! I'm always scared he'll be busy or something and that I will look stupid.

aww hunn i have had that same problem before. Try calling him with a frend on 3 way so that you dont feel lonely lol. Or tell him to call you like after school go up to him and say "call me after school or something so you dont feel like your doing everything lol.i hope i helped!

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my sister is a pain in the ass and i cant make it stop . she never listens to my mom or my dad and when ever you try to talk to her and she doesnt like what your sayin she likes to drown out the sound of people by repetin the word la over and over again . she calls me names like bitch and ass and other stuff like that . how do i make her stop being that way . oo yeah she also does bad stuff and blames it on me !!!!


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wow lol i had the same problem with my sister lol..its probably just a phase but while she gets through it you can juss pretend what she does to piss you off doesnt bother you in the least bitt pretend shes not even there no matter what she does, and when she blames bad stuff on you, prove to your parents that you wouldnt do those things or prove to them that shes the one doing the shit. I hope i helped..

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hey, well, about a year ago, this random guy IMed me, and he and I have become good friends after that. Well, his name is Will. And when we first started talking, he had a g/f.I started to like him a lot, and his g/f absolutely hated me. She kept thinking that I would take Will away from her.Ever since she started thinking that, I tried to stay away.(getting new s/n and never talking to them again)Well, he ended up finding my new sn, and I just let it go, and we started talking again. His g/f finally asked me my # so we could three way. So, I let in and gave it to her.We started talking all the time after that. And just recently they broke up. While they were going out, I had a b/f. And then he dumped me after about 3 months.(that was the 2 time we went out)Well,Will called me about a week ago, and told me that he was so happy that he and his g/f broke up.and then he told me that he really liked me.Well...i got anothe b/f, let's call him "JC", and he's my friends ex-b/f. now she's all pissed at me. one day i was talking to Will's friend. and now Will's friend keeps saying to dump JC and go out with him.so now, Will and his friend are mad at each other, and i feel like it's my fault. So, Will called me last night and said " what if i figured out your address?" and i got kinda scared. cause, i know how dangerous it could be.What am i supposed to do?! Will and his friend are mad at each other, and my friend is pissed at me,and Will has my address. Please help. And sorry it's so long.
-jena

wow thats pretty scary but i wouldnt worry to much because he didnt actually say he had it. It was sort of a threat or something. I think that you shouldnt talk to him anymore and ignore his calls beucase he could be dangerous. He could have planned this whole thing and he may be dangerous. So please be carefull. What ever you do dont post your adress on ANYTHING on the interenet cuz he could find it that way too. Just stay away from him and make sure your frends know what he said to you so they are aware and they dont give him your adress. All i can say is juss be careful and the next time you make an online frend, dont get too close.

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I am 14 and my boyfriend is 18 but we are madly in love ...so we had sex about a month ago and i havnt had my period....we were also protected with a comdom but you know they are only 85 % protective...so i have been looking online about signs of pregnacny and i seem to have none of the signs except of a late period...i told my boyfriend about it and he said to wait till the end of october and see if you get your period..so im gonna wait and then take a pregancy test....but theres a 50 50 chance i might be and if i am...im not shure wut to ..is there any way i can get by this with out my parents knowing ?? is there any way i can kill the baby before its nooticeable...?? ...can i i have an abortion with havniing my parents know and can i have it before it get noticeable? or is there any pill i can take that can kill ??...i know its wrong but i dont know wut to do so plz tell me...thanks!!
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WHATEVER YOU DO DONT HAVE AN ABORTION!!! Thats the most horrible thing you could possibly think of and that shouldnt have even crossed your mind! You and your boyfrend should take responisibilty for what you did. You should either put it up for adoption or keep it, but dont kill an innocent life. You should of thought before going off and having sex with your boyfrend if you werent ready for the consequences. You should of thought first. But all i can say is take resposiblity for what YOU did. Good luck!

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Fatiima

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**OK my friends name is Nancy.(changed to be confidential)Her idea of fun is drugs. Any time she can get a hold of a drug she takes advantage of it. The drugs "I KNOW OF" that she has tried is coke, aderal, and defently weed! Chronic is what she lives for, everyday after school she smokes with her sister. Any other drug she usually doesnt tell me bout. She also drinks. I dont think she does alot. Whats the problem your asking? my friend just turned 13 4 months ago!! Yea...so everytime i try to tell her "Nancy you're so much better than that and you kno it!" she just goes "Dude its nothing it cant hurt me" Nancy is a smart girl, she could do much with her life! I never kno if an ingrediant in any of the drugs she takes she could be allergic to. I need help, what do I do?!
**Anoynomous**

Your friend obviously has self confidence problems and she needs someone to show her that the people around her care about her. If your the only that can show her that than show her it, you need to get her professional help and if you think hse will hate you for it...juss think...one day she'll thank you cuz you saved her life..all i can say is juss be there for her ALWAYS encourage her and tell her the consequences of what shes doing. I hope this helps!!

x0x fatiima

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Hello!! I never wear makeup!! Should I?? I have medium brown hair, brown eyes and white skin (not very tanned) what colors should i use, and fiunally how do I put it on?? PLEASE answer as much as possible!@!! !Thanks so much!! I'll rate you

ok i have pretty much the same features as you cept im tan. For your eyes use a brown or blue color and a tan blush since your not tan. try using natural colors to bring out your eyes. greens work too. for you its all about the eyes.

x0x fatiima

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I don't know where to put this. Anyway, when I wash my hair I just use normal shampoo, whatever is in the shower. But my hair is sensitive, I have this scalp...thing and it makes my hair look really dirty really easily. If I use too much moose, gel, or spray, it looks oily and dirty and makes my scalp flake. Nasty, I know. But I was wondering if there are any shampoos or products I could use that aren't that strong, but would give my hair a really straight, sleek, shiny look without making my hair look greasy? Thanks for any help.

Try Garnier Fructis: Sleek and Smooth or For Oily Hair. Also try not using so much conditioner and try a hair mask to help make it less oily. Wash your hair everyday and dont put too much hair products in it. If you need to use mousse, gell or spray try using the same kind as your shampoo and conditioner and use as lil as possible. I hope i helped =]

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well i have this friends and she is 13 like me and shes had sex already and might even get married already because her parents dont give a crap about her im really worried about her and i dont want this guy to be with her..wut should i tlel her

wow...you need to talk to her and let her know that at least SOMEONE cares about her. Maybe that will make her realize that she needs to change her ways because she knows that someone actually gives a shit. Let her know how much you care and how you would feel if something happened to her. Tell her that she is only hurting herself and that she needs to get away from that guy cuz he is trouble. Maybe talk to a counsler and ask them to talk to her. She needs MAJOR help and you really need to be here for her.

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OK on Friday I'm going to my boyfriends away game. His mom is driving me there with her and I know im going to be so nervous. I dont want to say anything thats going to make me look stupid, but I know im going to end up doing that.. I always do. I was just wondering if you guys had any adivce on what I should do to be less nervous or not say anything dumb that I'll regret. Thanks SO much!!

Try to sound calm, just be yourself and act like nothing is bothering you. If you say anything dumb try to cover it up but laughing or something and when you talk to her look her straight in the eyes so she knows your not scared.

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okay here it goes... my friend is goin out with this guy that she really likes and he just is devoted to her (so she tells me). i've heard from his best friend that he is just goin out with her for the looks and poularity that comes along with her. I dont want to hurt her feelings by asking her but i dont want her to get hurt eaither. I dont like him mutch, i mean hes really mean to me and i think she deserves better. What do i do? HELP!!!!

you really need to talk to her about what you heard. Try to put it in a nice way and if you cant you juss have to remind yourself that your doing it for her and if you dont say anything than she mite find out the hard way. Its best if you juss let her know what you heard. She defineltley deserves someone better.
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