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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.

I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.

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13/f

ok is it un normal to still be a virgin or not hooked up yet for my age?

It's perfectly NORMAL if you're 13 and still a virgin or have hooked up. I personaly think that is way to young anyways and it's a very good thing that you're waiting until you're older. Some girls just do it for the hell of it or because their friends are.

15/m

I really do need to have any help from anybody willing to answer, anything will do.

A few years ago, i left my old school to go onto Secondary school. Now, at my old school, i had lots of friends and i was really, really happy and nothing was wrong. But when i changed schools, my social life just...collapsed. I've just been finding myself on my own and I guess it was from that point onwards that i began to talk to myself, creating realties in my head and situations and i would act them out (literally), speaking to people who weren't there and i would respond when they replied or asked or even spoke. I'd only recently began to notice this and it's scared me, i mean really. I don't know how to stop and try and erase this 'world' which has formed in my head. It only happened when i am alone.

What's even worse is that i've forgotten how to socilise with my peers and I've wanted to sit with them at luch time and dinner (I board at school), but i can't.

So basically, my question is: how can i get my life back together and have the social life i used to have?

Moving to a different school gave you an excuse to let yourself go. From personal expirience, I kind of know what you're going through. I had to swich schools a lot when I was younger and it was tough but you can't let that bring you down. You need to be yourself again and don't worry so much. Be outgoing, have fun. Life is WAY too short. When you're at school, go up to some people that you might go or not and just talk to them. Get to know one another and get your life back on track. Start doing the things that made you happy. Just because you don't have your old school and old friends does not mean that things won't get better for you. Trust me, they will. You have to be willing to help yourself and start to change. Don't be so down anymore, it's not worth it. As for the talking to yourself, try to keep busy. Listen to an iPod or something but I don't think it's that big of a deal. I hope everything works out for you.

hey
my bf and i have been together now for about 9 days
my parents dont know and theyre really over protective
but i dont know how to tell them!
they wont understand and my bf rly wants me to go to his house and stuff.
how can i tell them thats the least harmful as possible?

Some parents aren't cool with their kids dating at a young age, but how old are you? You should sit down and talk to them about it. Let them know that you are mature enough to handle the relationship and that you'll be smart about it. Maybe they will understand, maybe not but you have to tell them the truth. You don't want them to find out and be all angry with you so just tell them. They just want what's best for you and that's all. Good luck with everything!

Did you get your layout?

Is it working?

I don't think you ever sent it? :(

how much do u pay?

It's $10 but someone payed for my account. I didn't. It lasts for about a year.

how did u change ur name on here?

I have a payed account.

Yesterday i sat right next to my huge crush...he is a senior 18 and im 15...but anyways, everytime i would say something he would look me dead in the eye...

Then if he were to say something to me, he would touch his leg to mine or swing his torso over towards me to where he hit me on the shoulder...

Then he would tease me kinda...he kept on looking at my paper and said open blonde loud person...(the assignment was things people might not like about you)...but he would giggle and smile at me a lot...

And the whole class he was sitting there with his hand holdin his head up, with his elbow on the desk, but like his arm was touching me the whole time..he was sort of like leaning on me...if you know what im saying..

And i tried to tell my friend sittin on the other side of him, a joke but everytime i would lean back and forth he would lean in the same direction where i couldnt see her...

after you tell me if its flirting, which i did back after he made the first move, can you go into detail with like what he might be trying to tell me or trying to do?? (like my friend said him leaning back and forth mean that he was trying to get in my way so i would see him and pay attention to him, like that you know)

Thank you and sorry its so long... :)

He was defenetly flirting with you and joking around. I don't know if it really means much but it's probably because he's attracted to you which is good (: If you guys have that class, start talking to him more and keep flirting. Then you'll find out if he's into you or not and if he's going to keep flirting.

Okay, I have two questions.
I just turned 14 on Valentine's Day. Happy Birthday to me, I know haha!
Anyway. My boyfriend just turned 16 on January 25.
Only a two year difference. That's not bad right?
Well how young is too young?
To go on a "date"?
My mother says it's a matter of responsibility and maturity.
Everyone I know goes out at 14.
Even if their parents drop and pick them upand such.
So is it okay for me?
And how can I prove I am responsible and old and mature enough to go on a "date" with T.J.? My stepmom has met him and he's a really nice, responsible, mature, and respectful young man.
He really is.
Ask my stepmom lol!
Any help is GREATLY appreciated!

Two years isn't that big of a difference but I defenetly agree with your mom. If you can handle a relationship and go out on dates at 14, then do so. I don't think that you are too young to date or to have a boyfriend. Maturity is a big part of it and your boyfriend seems like a good guy. I don't see anything wrong with you two & good luck! :)

ok so first prob

1.last year was my first year at the middle skool i go to. my 2 best friends(they are in 8th i was in 6th) went with me to the first dance of the year.we do this thing where we look around for ramdom hot guys and whoever is picke dfor us we "have to" like. well they picked out this guy in my homeroom and almost all of my classes.so for the rest of the night i pretended to like him. then about halfway through the year i started to accually like him. we had become really good friends and he was always flirting with me so i thought he liked me. So at the end of the year i told him that i liked him and he was like...i dont really like you but we are REALLY good friends.for the rest of the summer i wad depressed and i just recently gto over him.(i think)so we are in the same science class and yesterday we were talking and it seemed like he liked me. im so confused. help me understand him please!

I can't say if he likes you again or not but don't jump to conclusions right away and think that he might like you. Before, he told you that he likes you as a friend and that you guys were close but if you guys haven't really talked much since then, who knows if he might have feelings for you. When you guys are talking, try to see if he gives you any signals but don't assume anything right away. See how he continues to talk to you and sooner you'll find out if he's into you or not.

I need a good quote. Right now i am talking to this kid, and i'm not sure if i like him or not... any ideas? the quote can be broad

Go to this website. There are a lot of good quotes and I'm sure you'll find more than one that you will like.

http://qm.your-memory.net/

Heyyy , i come to you for advice all the time and its like great :) so thankssss. i was just wondering how can you tell someones being faithful, and honest with you. if they made a mistake and you give them a second chance is that being dumb to trust them again ?

Thank you, (:

In order for you to know that someone is being faithful and honest is to trust them. You never know what really is going on but you should always go with your gut feeling. See if that person's daily ruitines are changing and if they're being different in general but don't always assume things. You should trust that the person is being honest. It's not dumb to give people a second chance. Everyone deserves one and most people really do learn from their mistakes. It's also not dumb to trust them again but it does take a lot. Be more careful and don't fall for everything they say.

Hopefully that answered your question.

15\f i like this boy ALOT and hes 16. he flirts wih me all the time online but i never really see him anymore in person because he used to be on my bus but he moved a couple streets away. he wants to hangout with me and be "make out buddies" but i never kissed a boy before and its really imberrising so im not telling him that !
but i want to with him, i just dont want to suck. do you have any tips ? oh & i feel like im kinda boring when i talk to him online cuz i dont know what to say to be kinda flirting so yeahh. hes kinda flirts with alot of girls so i want him to really like me. help pleasee ! (sorry its long)

First of all, make sure hes not using you only to be "makeout buddies". If you really want some tips and such, here is a website that will probaly help you out more than I can.

http://www.theromantic.com/kissing/frenchkiss.htm

Just be yourself around him and be more outgoing. Ask to hangout because he'll get to know how you really are and maybe even start to like you.

Hi, I've never asked a question here before, but here goes nothing. I'm a really thin girl or I always thought I was but lately I hate my body, everything about it. I started birth control and gained 10 pounds, to me thats discusting I hate gaining weight. Sometimes I think in my head oh if I skip this meal.. but i just I get such bad cravings and end up eating more. I'm not saying I have an eating disorder I dont believe I do. But anyways, I hate the way my body looks I use to love my abs, and now I don't, I feel like I have cellulite on the back of my legs. Skinny people can get cellulite too? How do you get rid of it? Ive been running alot I know it takes time but am I doing the right thing?

We all hate how we look sometimes but instead of picking out all the bad things you hate about your body, find things that you like. You're only going to make yourself feel worse. Skipping meals will only make you gain more weight and your matabolism slows down and you won't have enough energy. Instead of skipping meals, eat 6 small meals a day including breakfast which really is important. Everyone has a little bit of cellulite on the back of their legs and it's normal. Anyone can get it. Here is a website on how to get rid of it.

http://www.getridofthings.com/get-rid-of-cellulite.htm

If you're not happy with how you look, change it in a healthy way. Continue exercising and you'll see the results that you want. Just be patient and be healthy.

alright! so all freshman year i liked this kid! and my friends and I (i didnt really want to) went to his house and put a cute note on the door telling him how i liked him but i guess it scared him bcz for the rest of the year we barely talked!! so THIS year we didnt have any classes together but we started to really like eachother, he'd walk me to my classes and we'd hug and i'd come watch his games and sometimes he would call me:) lol it sounds stupid but we've both never gone out with anyone, well one day i was just kidding and called him BORING, i guess he got really mad? and stopped talking to me and walking with me. so i tried to apologize twice and said "just tell me, if you dont like me anymore its fine" he just said he was busy. and he's still made barely any effort. and he's been telling everyone we're just friends :( so then over xmas break, i was really upset/mad bcz i've liked him for so long, me and my bff TPed him, and im sure he knows that it was me. and now this semester we have a class together and he sits right by me, we;re talking again and joking around and smiling. do you think after EVERYTHING he could still like me and maybe ask me out?? after knowing i've liked him forever??
I'M REALLY sorry its so long! but i thought you would need all of the information! lol and pretty picture :))

After everything that happened, I defenetly think that there is a chance that you guys can still be close again. He shouldn't of taken your sarcasm so seriously and things like that shouldn't ruin the friendship. If you continue talking to him as friends and start hanging out, there might be some left over feelings and he could start to like you again. You guys should talk about everything that happened and how things like that shouldn't stand in the way. Don't worry about how long your question is lol and thank you for the compliment :)

Hey! Your hair is really pretty, and I am just wondering what you use to make it so full, and curly.
Products, techniques?
-Woahtherebabe

Thank you. I honestly don't use any products. I use a volumizing shampoo and conditioner but that's pretty much just it. When I curl my hair I just wrap it around the curling iron and put hairspray and when I'm dont, I brush it out with my fingers and it gets like that. Sorry if I'm not a bigger help.

I really like this guy at my school; we have a lot in common, we like the same movies and stuff, he's cute and smart and funny, but there is a problem: i'm a year older and like a foot taller than him. he says he doesn't care that i'm older but that it would be too weird dating a girl who's so taller. Everyone says he likes me and i'm graduating this year (it's a middle school) and i don't have time to wait for his growth spurt. I want him to ask me out (preferably before valentine's day). i've promised never to wear high heels, please help!!

I know that it might be a bit weird dating a guy shorter and younger then you, but try not to let that bother you. You don't want to miss a chance with an awesome guy just because of his height and you might regret it later if you don't give him a chance. He'll eventually grow but you don't want to miss out. Just give him a chance and see what happens.

Does anyone know what stores or websites I can order ugg boots? I know most are sold out, but if not anybody know somewhere i can order emu boots?

You can order them at a couple of stores.

http://www.uggaustralia.com/

http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2792101?Category=&Search=True&SearchType=keywordsearch&keyword=ugg+in+All+Categories&origin=searchresults

And I know that you can get them at Journeys but I couldn't find it on the website. Sorry.

ok so there is this guy who is my best friend!! and i am starting to like him a lot!! and my best friend mandy likes him 2 and now they are going out,and she knew i liked him. and now my best friend(who is the guy i like) is being really mean to me and it feels that i lost my best friend who i tell everything to! and to add on more lost the guy i like. i just dont know what to do should i tell the guy should i jsut see how long it last???
plz help!
should i tell mandy that i like

Be honest with your guy best friend and tell him that how he's been treating you is hurting your feelings. It's not fair that he woould act that way towards you just because he has a new girlfriend. I'm sure Mandy knew that you liked him but you can't be mad at her for going out with him because she also likes him. Talk to him about it and see what he says. You could also tell Mandy that you still like him but I don't know if that will change things between them because they like each other. Good luck and I hope everything works out!

what are some ways to break up with a boyfriend without it hurting to much?
(i know it will always hurt a bit but whatever)
please dont say i should say its not you its me lol i already know that
um im planning to do it by myself, and not through a friend, so anything i can say that will "reduce the sting" a bit?
thanks..:)

Don't try to come up with a good excuse for breaking up because there really is no way to break up with someone nicely. If you want to break up with your boyfriend, be honest with him and tell him exactly why you want to split. I understand that you don't want to hurt his feelings or anything but lieng about it doesn't help eather. But like I said, be honest and tell him the truth. He might be hurt, but he'll understand.

So I'm pretty much the most good goody you have ever seen. I'm 16/f. I have a 4.0 GPA. I am chosen to be in senior classes even though I am a shophmore. I do everything when I am suppose to do it and how I am supposed to do it. I have never drank, did drugs, or had sex. But I am so sick of being the same old boring me. All of my friends believe in no sex before marrige. Well now I'm starting to think sex before marrige isn't so bad as long as it's with someone you care about. Well I really want to change into someone who has a little more fun. No drugs though. But will I ruin my reputation? Is it worth the risk to ruin something like that? I am really tore. But I know I'm not one of those who wants to go out every night and get wasted. I just want to live some of my high school years in fun. It's not like I'm a dork either. I was prom queen my freshman year. I was homecoming attendant our first year. I'm "popular" I guess you would say. But anyways should I try it? Or should I just stick to the goody goody I am?

Drinking does not make you have more fun. Doing drugs does not make you have more fun. There is nothing wrong with being a good student and having good grades. Having fun comes from people's personalitites and it's up to you on how you chose to enjoy yourself. Why would you want to do any of those things just because you don't want to be "safe" all the time. Who are you trying to impress? I'm not trying to seem rude but I honestly think it's patehtic how you're trying to change who you are to be doing what everyone else is. There are plenty of other things you can do to have fun. You have to think about what you're doing before it's too late. I'm sure that you don't want to ruin things while it's going good for you. Sex before marriage is totally up to you. If you are okay with it as long as you're with someone you care about, then fine but don't listen to other people's outputs on it. I personaly don't think it's worth risking everything you've worked hard on just to have some fun drinking. It may seem fun or cool because your friends or people around you do it, but you don't have to put yourself in that situation.. ya know? Keep being how you are and don't change for the worse. You're only sixteen and there will be PLENTY of time for you to grow up and expirience alcohol. Just be more outgoing and enjoy life as you can. Don't ruin it by doing something stupid or you might regret it.

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