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what are some ways to break up with a boyfriend without it hurting to much?
(i know it will always hurt a bit but whatever)
please dont say i should say its not you its me lol i already know that
um im planning to do it by myself, and not through a friend, so anything i can say that will "reduce the sting" a bit?
thanks..:)
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When you break up with somebody, there really isn't any way in making it easy. Some people understand and take it well. Others don't.
My only advice which i can give you is to break it gently to him, and gradually. That way, he won't take it as a big shock and won't react at first and it will wash over him as he takes it in as to what you said.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Just tell him that you've really enjoyed the time you've been together, that you've had a lot of good times with him... but you just don't have the same feelings for him that you did in the beginning... and for that reason, you think it's best for both of you if you break up. You don't have to give him a lot of reasons or make up a lot of excuses about WHY your feelings have changed... just the fact that they have is all he really needs (and wants) to hear.
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Do it at a time when you are both alone. The less public, the better. You dont want him to have to walk away with everyone staring at him, knowing he just got dumped. Dont tell him you "Need to talk" the day before because if you do, it will have him going insane until you do talk to him. Absuloutly so NOT break up on valentines day, or anything like that. Think about the person. Rejection is easier to take if you dont have to look them in the eye. So it would probably be easier to break up through email. But think about what you would like, and knowing him what you think would sting the least.
Tell him exactly why your breaking up. Honesty will make it easier for him to move on. Do NOT laugh or smile or anything, it will just make him feel worse. Make sure he understands that you know how much its hurting him. If you want you can say you still want to be friends, or you dont have to. Try to give him some space to get over you, and then you could be friends. Hanging out right after might just kill him. Dont call/text/IM at all for at least two weeks.
If he wants to talk about it, talk about it. But onl there at the moment. If you talk about your realtionship afterwards it will probably lead to you getting back together, or at least him getting his hopes up. When the conversation ends, case closed. No more going back.
Try to wait a couple of weeks before dating someone else. Dont flaunt your new boyfriend in front of him. Dont hold hands with other boys when hes around. At least for the first few weeks.
Dont do this at your house because asking him to leave will be so awkward. His place might be the best, because when its over you can just get up and leave. And if hes going to cry, hell already be in his room.
Goodluck!!
Xoxo,
~L
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Don't try to come up with a good excuse for breaking up because there really is no way to break up with someone nicely. If you want to break up with your boyfriend, be honest with him and tell him exactly why you want to split. I understand that you don't want to hurt his feelings or anything but lieng about it doesn't help eather. But like I said, be honest and tell him the truth. He might be hurt, but he'll understand.
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Honestly, in my opinion, there's really no nice way to break up. Sure, you can sugarcoat it and beat around the bush but breaking up is breaking up. You can't control how the other person will react. Since you are concerned about his feelings, you might start off by telling him you care about how he feels but don't see a future in staying together because... (insert your own verbiage here). It may rationalize things to him and that'll help if he understands and maybe he'll get the picture too and come to the conclusion that you guys are not working out.
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